Seems that it is more important for you to be right than for you to be kind. Why would you want Lisa to hear if Yolanda said something that was not positive about Lisa. Why would you want so many to feel such empathy for what you have been through with your sisters illness.
Your place in your family of origin, and your physical appearance you did not earn but you get a great deal of mileage from. You have received much as a result of both. You could take that as a great gift and start to listen to what others need from you rather than what you need to give them. Your daughters are watching you and many of us know that our children do what they see not what they are told. Things may look different to you later on if you watch your daughters play out relationships the way you do whether with their sisters, friends, or their work colleagues. Your intentions may be good, in your own visions of yourself, but what does that matter if in the end when other are hurt by you. Your intentions only mean something to you.
You have a perception of yourself that does not always match what others are experiencing.
On secrets: they are never good and they always surface. The keeper of the secret is never happy. Kim and Adrienne are both in the same boat. Brandy is just the messenger. Kim and Adrienne would be wise to own their shame and put it behind them. Perhaps thanking Brandy as she forced them to deal with something they, on their own, were not willing to do.
When Lisa plays chess, she does it well. Lets admire her many skills. It seems as if you may admire Lisa, and try to imitate her in some ways, while at the same time resenting that very fact.
My mother always taught my sisters and myself to surround ourselves with people who would help us live our values not just talk about them. Seems to me that many of those you have recently chosen to surround yourself with, including yourself, are often bent on telling anyone who will listen how good you each are, what loyal friends you are, how much character you have, how each just has to defend the defenseless, rather than actually living that life as that would speak for itself without propaganda.
Authentic relationships always pay off in the long run. Be silly, make good tv, while at the same time being kind rather than right.
Team Lisa, Brandy, Yolanda. With a heavy dose of kindness towards Kim.
Youngest of three sisters who was blessed with good looks. I have chosen to work harder, and be kinder, in order to give back to all as I know I did not earn and easier walk in life than did some others.