Lisa Vanderpump

Lisa explains why she asked Kim about the sleeping pill and where she and Kyle's friendship is now.

on Mar 5, 20130

So greetings once again to you all as you join is for the second half of our French trip. We reconvene in the heart of the most exquisite city in the world.

I had suggested that maybe it would be fun and a unique experience to take a cooking class with the girls. Oh how wrong could I be? It wasn't exactly the gastronomic pleasure I had envisaged. . .

We had arranged to meet at about 6:30 pm, outside of the hotel. I had spent the morning with Kim, separated before lunch and then spent the afternoon with Yolanda at the Notre Dame. We were all acutely aware that there was a significant change in Kim's behavior, but couldn't quite understand what exactly was responsible for the shift. I knew she wasn't drinking, for sure, and I support her a 1000 percent in her struggle with sobriety. But she seemed sleepy, lethargic, rambling, and almost incoherent at times. We waited for her for a substantial amount of time,which in the past had been a bit of a ritual and finally she joined us.

She still seemed not herself so I asked her in my naïveté, as there is such a difficult time change of nine hours, if she had taken a sleeping pill. I am ignorant of the fact, and have since been educated, that if you struggle with one sort of addiction, it is almost as if you slipped if you indulge in some sort of sleep aid. I didn't realize the two were synonymous.

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wonetah.einfeldt
wonetah.einfeldt

your undoing will be trying to pit everyone against kyle your jealousy and anger makes you look like an old salem subject.

the2regina
the2regina

You had this weird smirk on your face during the reunion (2nd).  

RozM
RozM

Lisa, Although I think you mean well about Kim and her sobriety..you did not help her at the duck dinner by talking with Maurico and telling him about her..and it was so obvious you were talking about her..and Yolanda called you out about that..I have noticed that you do this all the time..talk about Kim to other people, calling out the fact that she is not behaving normally.  This is normal for you to notice this..but how would you feel if you were trying to be straigt and no appear drunk, if someone kept talking about you in front of you, and you could hear them!  It is not nice. I know that you do have a "soft heart"..but sometimes it is best just not to say things to others..you have always called attention to the fact that Kim doesn't "show up", and how long you have to wait for her..so in a way, you are her "worst enemy.."...people like that need support, they don't need people calling attention to them..at least if you want to discuss it with someone, call them aside and have a private conversation, so that Kim doesn't see and hear what you are doing..It doesn't help!

housewifefan2012
housewifefan2012

Honestly Lisa, get off that sleepy "train reck " Kim and Kyle" . They are the best calculating tag team yet. Kyle ask the million dollar questions and Kim tells the response to the wrong person. Almost a repeat of when Camille started the show. You have much better friends than that to hang with. Also, Adrienne's appearance was for show. She did not seek you out when she first got there to say congratulations to you or your husband. She came in there crying ... what an act. I will bet you that Paul would not bark up that tree again. Kyle yet again failed you as a friend. She did not back you up and she did not tell Faye she was out of line with you in your face at your party. On the other hand, I am so glad that Brandy Kicked Your Ass (LOL) and made you get out there to renew your vows. It was truly lovely and memorable. Ken's words were fantastic. He said he was PROUD to call you his wife. It is so wonderful to see a man respect his wife and be respectful of women. What a man! What a man! What a mighty good man!

lawgirl2sassy
lawgirl2sassy

Lisa....do NOT give up your friendship with Kyle for a fake Brandi, you are a smart woman, look how you were used with your certain "house guest" you were so sure he loved you was loyal to you, so even tough Kyle has some minor friendship flaws, she truly loves you, is truly loyal to you.  Brandi is fake, and WILL throw you under a buss when she gets paid to do it.   Please listen.

Pia110
Pia110

Lisa,

 

During Season 2 I was falling out of “love” with you due to some Brandi related issues then I recalled you were not there for the Game Night(mare) where Vyle and Dim (I borrowed this nickname from another commentator) had tagged teamed her without provocation. Had you been there you would have understood why Brandi was soo upset at the Adrienne’s Spa Party and left tear eyed and upset. By the end of Part 1 of Season 2’s reunion, I was back to loving you again. I just needed to get that out of the way.

 

My heart went out to you last night. Why would Adrienne bring her drama to your special day? Classless and passive aggressive. I completely understood how you felt. It was like someone intentionally raining on your parade. I was like “how dare this vile creature?” Even if the crowd was concerned about Adrianne should have excused herself and greeted the host/hostess extended her apologies for not being able to stay. Quite frankly SHE SHOULD HAVE STAYED HOME!!!!  Period Pointblank.

 

Brandi – the BFF she is – rallied you back into the right state of mind. I’m happy you ladies are friends. Your influence on her has been great. And for the record I don’t mean you manipulate her – I’m not sure where that BS came from – but guiding her through some very difficult times. And through that her being able to open up and make friends; she needed more strong female support (positive support period) and if she had not met you well I think the journey would be harder and longer.

 

Lastly, I would have asked Kim to leave after she pushed your head. How old is she? Completely uncalled for and immature. Another passive/aggressive move. For the record, Kyle was mortified. She really looked like “what did this idiot just do?” Additionally, Yolanda did not bad mouth you. While at the “DIY restaurant” Parisian dinner she was saying you were “stirring the pot” by bringing it up what occurred- which I felt too. I don’t think you did it to be hurtful.

 

Anyway, I was happy to see you and Ken renew your vows. You two are an exemplary couple. What love?!

LVANFAN,

Pia

DC430
DC430

Lisa, I love you! I love how adorable you are and that you don't put up with the BS on the show. It's sad how Kyle threw you under the bus. Keep going! :)

Remy11
Remy11

Lisa,

I enjoy your wit and humor, and I love your loyalty to your friends.

 

All thebest on Dancing with the Stars ... ignore that old goat of a judge, whoever he is.

LilyGrace
LilyGrace

Kim's struggle is far from over. I've always thought her bigger problem was and is prescription medications. The alcohol on top of misusing pills makes it all worse for sure. But if your problem is pills, just quitting drinking isn't what would be called recovery.

 

I don't think you did anything wrong by asking Kim if she'd taken a sleeping pill. It was a valid question, given how high and out of it Kim was.

YeahRight
YeahRight

I love you, Lisa!  I love your family...I love your other show....I love your sense of style and sophistication!  You have a great sense of humour!  I can go on and on.  I'll be dining and drinking at your establishments when I make it to So. Cali someday.  They're gorgeous and the menu sounds delish!  (May I make a request to add a duck breast dish?)  Thanks for being on the show because without you there, I wouldn't know about Sur and Villa Blanca!!!  (My bucket list has grown)  I'm not a celeb groupie....but I'm for sure a foodie!  Maybe I'm a foodie groupie? Can't wait to enjoy your establishments!   (this is not a paid endorsement LOL)

All the best to you and yours! xo

mysadie
mysadie

You are my favorite housewife,what a class act.they all need to take some serious lessons on how to act like a lady.And Faye Reznik needs to go home,who invitied her anyway!Hope they didng ruin your day.

 

Fan10940
Fan10940

Once my favorite Lisa is now one I could do without on this show.not genuine and manipulative. Not innocent or naive in any sense of those words.

binisme
binisme

Lisa is needy and passive aggressive.  She wants everyone in battle and on her side.  Pretending to be mature and classy but is not.  Kyle spends too much time trying to please Lisa.  If it's that much work maybe it's time to put the 'friendship' to rest.  Brandi is a troublemaker

skwilliams65
skwilliams65

Lisa, give it up! The viewer's agree that Kyle is a snake in the grass, trouble-maker, attention seeker, wanna-be - it's time to move on! She's boring, fake, and viewer's are soooo tired of her! And you are right, she has been a lousy friend to you - but let's be honest here - so have you - you do hold grudges - you also play people - you believe yourself to be above others - and with the group you run with, I get that - but Brandi? I really liked you before this move - you were my favorite up until then - you are too classy to be involved with or around someone as classless as she is - it's plan to see that you have your own agenda for being friends with Brandi - but do you really need her to accomplish these things?

crene7363
crene7363

Update to my blog below!  It is not your place to address anything to her reguarding her recovery. Just make your time with Kim fun and loving .... Your concern was not sincere!

 

Cathy7363  Today is 3-16 and I'm watching the Paris show where the girls are waiting on Kim to go to the French cooking class. Lisa I have loved for a long time, however tonight was to much. Your prying and continuous commits directly to Kim and to everyone in front of Kim about her recovery is out of line. You just woud not stop pushing her. Leave her alone! It is up to her family and close friends to support and if needed to question her. Just stay out of it. Its not you place to question her on this subject. It's not about you!!!!!!

5 MINUTES AGO

 

 

Lundi
Lundi

Did Kyle completely forget how in season one, SHE initiated the change in your friendship?How can we forget her childish behavior when she was around  her then new friend, Taylor? And that was just the begining. She consistently backstabbed you throughout all of last season, all the while pretending to still be your good friend.  Oh well, at least you're no longer fooled by her. Cant wait to see your upcoming vow renewal! 

lisadove42
lisadove42

Love you Lisa! I have to say this season is the best In simply showing the best of love, authenticity And hard work by the life you and ken live. We all have the Ability to enjoy life and be good people. What trips women up Is the lust for fame, grandeur and fortune by any means necessary The conversation between Taylor and Dana is very revealing to this And its no wonder radar online has her as a writer...and no wonder why So Many viewers are so over Kyle and her mean girl crew" Hypocrisy will never be the new relevant Can't wait for the reunion!

lucyluho
lucyluho

LOVE YOU!!!!

You can do no wrong in my book!  You are a great influence on Brandi!!!

joy.chaney.3
joy.chaney.3

Kyle is right about Brandi. You seem to have given your friendship  all over to Brandi. The truth is Adrienne did defend her a lot last season. Kyle has defended you many times. She doesn't run around saying F-you to everyone like your new best fiend Brandi does but she does'nt have a trash mouth. Don't be a child because you can't forgive Adrienne about the story. I watched the show, you didn't always say "lovely" things about Adrienne either. Everone of you were a tad cheeky. Get over it!!! Brandi as nasty to everyone, she said F-u to all of them and I guess you figure they should lap it up like good little jiggy's to stay in your good graces. Adrienne and all of them should not have to put up with such a nasty mouth, I wouldn't. You ABSOLUTELY HOLD Grudges. Adrienne apologized to you and you said you accepted it.  Kyle is  entitled to have friends just as you are entitled to Miss. Trash Mouth. But Kyle has been a true friend to you despite what you think. She has her own family and I understand has been friends with you a long time.  You need to look at what you do and expect, not hold grudges and appreciate the true friend you do have in Kyle.

Tinsel
Tinsel

Hello Lisa, Love you and dear Ken on the show.  Its nice to see someone from my homeland with that good British/ Irish straight forward talk.  Regarding Kim, It must be so difficult for the poor woman as she has tried to stay sober for so many years. My heart goes out to her as I see so much pain in her eyes and face. I do agree with Yolanda though that the dinner table was not a place to discuss Kim's behavior that day, especially while she sat there.  It was so obvious that she was after taking something. She looked totally out of it and her speech was also slurred.  Obviously, It is very difficult for her to stay sober and she needs support and friendship and understanding and not to be talked about, especially while she is sitting across the table from you. Her sister should have been more loyal to you... i totally agree with you there. I also believe what she said about you playing chess with the friendship on the reunion show was uncalled for. She plays a very good game of chess herself with her own friendships. Why does she lick Adrianne and Paul's backside? She almost goes out of her way to be super nice to them. That Faye person is "wan a be"  Will cause whatever drama to be on the show and get some air time. I see she is on to Yolanda next week about something. She need to go mind her own business and stop being so judgmental of others.

jenmcn
jenmcn

I do think you are absolutely correct in saying that all actions have consequences.  I think it is difficult for Kyle because her entire life she has gotten away with being less than kind or loyal to friends.  Now she is shocked that people no longer wish to treat her like the queen bee.  Being on tv really exposes her personality, particularly for those who were close to her and never witnessed first hand how she stirs the pot and often makes things worse for others.  You are smart enough to see that and strong enough to not give in.  Good job by you!

SouthEast
SouthEast

I think Kyle is all for Kyle and no one else.  If you get too close you get burned.  You don't need her, Lisa.  You have a great family and a wonderful husband, who adores you.  I hope you and Yolanda will become better friends.  I hope I'm wrong, but I don't trust her husband and one day he will kick her to the curb in favor of some flavor of the month.  That seems to be his style.  Can't wait to see you and Ken's housewarming party.

pyin
pyin

I believe that what you are doing is to be cautious about your relationship with Kyle. SHE changed the dynamics by making that horrible comment on the last reunion "You are like playing chess with Bobby Fisher - every move you make is calculated"!!!! Seriously what a horrible thing to say to someone who is supposed to be close to you. Maybe Kyle was at that "meeting" with Adrienne to take you down at the reunion. Kyle constantly says to EVERY conflict: " Let's just move on". You can't just "move on" if no one takes responsibility for what they have done. Kyles idea of "moving on" means just forget I did anything to stab you in the back and trust me now. SHE changed the dynamics of her relationship with Lisa. Lisa is just being wise not to trust her or give her a place in her heart because Kyle is not a safe person! Not at all!!!

CalleyCreed9
CalleyCreed9

Leexa darling it is rude to talk about Kim in front of others such as you did with Mauricio. Thankfully Yolanda addressed the issue in a classy manner.

gbearc
gbearc

 

Wow, so much for your claims that you don't hold a grudge. Wow, you're a HUGE grudge holder. You say that you accept Kyle's apology but then treat her horribly, ignoring her and punishing her and talk about how the friendship has changed. If it's changed, it's because you want it to and definitive proof that you are holding a grudge. Kyle did nothing to warrant this. She said she didn't believe you sold stories to the tabloids. What did you want her to do? Tackle Adrienne? Throw punches? Especially given it was after you had been nasty to Kyle yourself at the reunion. If you accept an apology, that means you accept it, not that you seek revenge, which is what you're doing. She is right, you're calculating and controlling. You actually tried to dictate to her what she should say to you!

jemm
jemm

love you and brandi! are the Richard sister's for real?

 

Buckeyefan
Buckeyefan

Lisa,

I have been a big fan of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills since it was first aired.  I am a fan of all the Housewives shows, and you are by far, my favorite person out of them all!  I love your loyalty to your family and friends.  I appreciate the way that you are able to stand your ground when others have less than civil to you.  You have character, and that is rarely seen these days.  And, of course, I adore Jiggy!  

RHWvwr
RHWvwr

Lisa, I think Kyle is so mad at you she can't see straight. And it's because she has come out the villan, and you the star. She has said on numerous occasions (WWHL) things like "Oh, Lisa is just loving these poll results" and other snide comments in "jest." But she's actully fuming and I believe, thinks her demise is your fault because you are the one the fans love. What she doesn't get is that she is the reason she's in the spot she's in. She wants you to announce to the world that the Kyle we're seeing isn't the real Kyle. But you would be lying,,and she knows it, that's why all the anger is displaced on you. Everytime you have kudos sung for you, I imagine her fuming,,that's not what friends do. And all of this goes unsaid,,but it's there.

DixieDarling
DixieDarling

DixieDarling Talk about "dang if you do, danged if you don't!" You are awful if you ask Kim how she is. Then awful if you haven't asked how she is. Crap can't win with people who always looking for someone to blame. Love u Lisa!

Hulali
Hulali

The whole duck beheading scene was ridiculous!!!  Please... everyone at that dinner eats chicken and beef... do you think these animals were raised without heads?  The duck was dead and already plucked, so I can understand not wanting to watch the beheading, but why all the commotion and "I'll never eat duck..." just because you saw it being prepared? 

Judy777
Judy777

Lisa,

 

Just enjoy the trip with your wonderful husband and 'forgit about it" as far as the rest of these housewives.  You are a lovely and brilliant lady and Ken and you have something really special, Brandi can be a nice gal but she gets alot more from the relationship with you and Ken then she will Ever give back,  Kyle is only about Kyle and her husband and kids she doesn't give too bits about anyone else,  Adrienne is one big puffy fish, Camille can be a snake, Kim is a mess, Taylor is unstable,  and Yolanda, a very nice lady,  is trying to fit in to all of this by playing all sides.  We won't even get into the Resnick woman, ugh!   

 

All the best as you manuver through the shark infested waters, may you be protected and safe and I hope will come out on top as you have so far.  Stay neutral and stay your lovely self.

MaryUK
MaryUK

@RozM Brandi called out Kim on S2 as a "meth head" and it was ignored as a gawd awful LIE!!! Ignoring Kims incoherent ramblings help her HOW??

MaryUK
MaryUK

@lawgirl2sassy I would say I have lost all respect for lisa if she rebuilds her friendships with any of these "women"!!

sharrief
sharrief

I AGREE kYLE IS A REAL LADY UNLIKE BRANDI THE PIG BUT LISA WILL LEARN THE HARD WAY

LisaB24
LisaB24

 @joy.chaney.3 How would you like it if someone bashed you and accused you of something that can wreck your reputation and business in front of millions of people,  I wouldn't be over it that quickly.   Adrienne just apologized because nobody was defending what she said and did it to save her own face because the viewers were really starting to or already hating her.  Lisa could read her like a book.  Plus Adrienne only introduced Brandy to the show because she was friends with Cedric and she thought Brandy would cause more trouble with Lisa.  A few cheeky comments about shoes does not justify what Adrienne said and did!

 

One more thing you said about Kyle being a true friend.........OMG, you are confused!

Ceci2468
Ceci2468

 @joy.chaney.3 Lisa's not holding grudges. She just figured out who her true friends are and the dynamics of her relationship with Kyle has permanently changed. Lisa's moved on and Kyle needs to do the same.  And Adrienne's "apology" was so fake and obvious. Who needs friends like these???

piperbeau
piperbeau

 @joy.chaney.3  Name one time that Kyle has had Lisa's back?!  Can't name one, can you? And by the way, I would much rather  hang out with an honest, cool chic (Brandi)who drops a lot of "f" bombs, then a disloyal liar (Adrienne) that has the personality of a snail...

bagthelady
bagthelady

I agree with you wholeheartedly, Lisa and Ken are snobs as well as know-it-alls.  What can I say about foul mouth Brandi, you are a disgrace.

piperbeau
piperbeau

 @pyin  Kyle has done nothing in my book to make amends with Lisa! She still is very catty to both Ken and Lisa! Nothing has changed there... She hasn't showed one ounce of loyalty when it comes to Lisa!

jenmcn
jenmcn

 @pyin I totally agree.  It's hard to be friends with someone who is playing a game with you, particularly when you are not.  Kyle is totally projecting her own behavior "calculated like Bobby Fisher" on to Lisa.

LisaB24
LisaB24

 @gbearc Lisa was nasty to Kyle at the reunion?  It was quite the other way around.  Lisa was lambasted that night.

bravo-tv-viewer
bravo-tv-viewer

 @gbearc Kyle sobbed because Lisa didn't say she loved her...and made her say she loved her. So I guess that makes Kyle controlling and calculating by trying to make people feel bad for her because all she ever does is cry to get her way when her words don't work. That's sound quite manipulative to me.

MomLeader
MomLeader

 @gbearc

 Bull, that's silly.Of course the friendship changed after Kyle said Lisa calculates every move. She'd have to get a lobotomy to forget that. But holding a "grudge" would be not forgiving her, and not staying friends with her, which clearly,Lisa has,,,,,,wow.

Ceci2468
Ceci2468

I thought that was a little silly and over the top also especially since Lisa's in the restaurant business.

RHWvwr
RHWvwr

 @Judy777

 

Good blog. I agree with your synopsis on everyone and everything except Brandi. I think Brandi has a lot to give in a friendship as she's very loyal, and sees the big picture of people's "escence" pretty quickly. Right now Lisa 's is giving more to the friendship because that's what friends do--they give to the one who emotionally needs it at the time, but I imagine when Brandi finds her whole self again, she'll give as good as she gets. I think Taylor is a mess, but I also think there's no one better deserving of being one--- knowing her history.

skwilliams65
skwilliams65

@piperbeau @joy.chaney.3 So, what show do you watch?Because the Brandi on this show is far far far from being a honest - cool - chick! PLEASE - she does a lot more than just dropping the F-bomb! Lisa is only friends with her because she knows Brandi will do and say all those classless things against Adrienne, that Lisa, being in the income bracket that's she's in - can not be caught doing! - she has too many friends and obligations at stake - not to mention her Better-Than-You reputation! 

imarelic100
imarelic100

 @bravo-tv-viewer  @gbearc

Yet Kyle could not accommodate Lisa witha few short words herself - like "i'm sorry I didn't mean to offend YOU or not have YOUR back" - meanwhile defending Adrienne at every turn thereafter!

Remember - it's the world according to Kyle... just sayin'!