Now on to the dinner with Brandi, my brother, Dean, and I. I really enjoy Brandi, but at that point we didn't know each other well and she still doesn't totally get me. So when I said that Dean wasn't my type she felt it was a insult to my husband. Brandi is right, it was disrespectful. Sometimes my mouth speaks before my brain thinks but that's me. Dean actually finds this to be an endearing, amusing and bemusing quality of mine. But you would have to know us to to know this. Brandi went on to make further assessments about my relationship with Dean which I would suggest in the future she keep to herself. In this instance though, I gave her the ammunition to fire and she did! Lesson learned.
I was excited to go to the art gallery with the girls and thought it would be a great way to get to know them all better. It turned out to be our first low key night together which was nice for a change. Taylor and I spoke about life and marriage. I explained to her that I feel a woman doesn't really know what she wants out of life or who she really is until she's about 30-something. I also feel that I did get married too young. While I'm sure these statements will be misconstrued, I do feel they are valid points about myself. I married and had kids at an early age because that's all I wanted at the time. Dean, Jack, and Darryl will always be my priority but my happiness I realized was not complete without a measure of independence and success that only I was responsible for.
Thank you for reading this and thanks again for all of your kind words and support, it means more to me than you know.
I have enjoyed you on the show for the most part, but Brandi was right in the fact that you have been terribly disrespectful of you husband. He is adorable and to speak of your marriage this way is not flattering to you. You should be careful because you may really miss him if he gets fed up with you. Trust me, a good man is hard to find. Even if you're beautiful. Maybe especially when you're beautiful. Just sayin. But seriously, I hope you stay on the show and redeem yourself.
Marisa.....First I want to apologize for misspelling your name. I really appreciate your candor and I understand how difficult it must be for you, coming into the show after all the other cast members have established their own personal dynamics, with each other and the viewers. I think you are so nervous and a little fearful of saying something that may upset or be misconstrued. And.....Of course, the first one to throw the personal stone at you was, the ever so trashy, Brandi. Nice going Brandi!!!!!!
terry.klemmmatthews Your comment was extremely rude and judgmental. Is it necessary for the producers to check with you before adding or changing the program?? Sounds kind of snobby to me, but who am I?
Marisa you are a darling. I sort of agree with your mother on your wardrobe, but if you hang around this bunch you will catch up. I hope you do,I LIKE YOU ALREADY. Am so glad you didn't get angry at Brandy's assessment, but happier that it was wrong. I really think Brandy needed a break form making a new enemy.
Hi Marissa - I totally understand what you're saying about marriage and for that very same reason I actually chose NOT to marry my great love at a young age - and we ended up parting ways. Looking back, this was the right choice for me. It's different for each one of us but I appreciate that you bring a nuanced point of view to the discussion - nothing is exactly black or white. It's that depth of understanding that I enjoy in my girllfriends. So thank you for sharing with the rest of us. Be well.
I hear ya, Marisa. I too hooked up with my husband when I was young (I was 18 and he was 27 with 2 kids). He was THE ONE and I knew it almost instantly. He felt the same way and so we wasted no time meshing our two lives together. I am now 30 and while I love my husband and stepkids and do NOT want a life without any of them, I agree with you; I am just now starting to get to know myself.
I think it is great that you are honest and aren't taking any sides based on the experiences of others. I get what you are saying about marriage. I think one reason that the divorce rates are so high are because people are marrying before they mature, which inevitably means that a couple may grow in two different directions. I know that if I married when I was 20, I would be divorced right now. Unfortunately, many people need to learn from quite a few dating mistakes and reflect internally before they find the right spouse for a lasting fulfilling relationship.
I like that you are honest about everything -- as one who had a big career then married and had kids late I am envious of my friends who are grandparents NOW while I am trying to keep my kids from having babies before finishing high school! You will be fine and your husband is a good sport --I cracked up when he asked, Brandi if she wanted dessert during the Ken v Maurice argument. That's exactly what I would have done!!!
Please do not turn on Brandi! She is very gun shy and over sensitive when it comes to marriage issues.... I will have to say that she didn't say anything that we, the viewers, weren't already getting an impression of by some of the things you have said. Again, your husband knows your heart but from the outside, the impression is that he loves you more than you do him. I have to say that I love having you on the show.... just be very careful being buddies with Kyle for it will cloud your judgement when it comes to Lisa and Brandi.
SOCIProfessor I think that Marissa is a great addition. I don't understand why Brandi felt she even had a right to address Marissa and her husbands marriage. If Brandi is so SENSITIVE and SHY about marriage issues, she needs to keep her mouth shut and just listen. Which is something she has never been good at. I know where Marissa is coming from, she just didn't explain it very well. As a viewer I am wanting to know Marissa better. You shouldn't judge a persons heart by a couple of sentences, and do you speak for all the viewers? I'm a viewer and the only impression I got was that Marissa was really nervous, and was having a really hard time getting her point across. Give her a break, I married a man, that to my surprise, was the opposite of the type of man I am usually drawn to, (In looks only) which does not mean I love him any less than anyone else loves their husband. I just surprised myself......
There you go........Is that maybe what she was trying to say? Brandi was still out of line, as usual, by barging into someone else person life. Brandi would have gone BALLISTIC if someone had dared to say that about her!!!! I think that would be my definition of a giant HYPOCRITE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
BeeReel4U SOCIProfessor BeeReel4U, i agree with you on this. brandi needs to mind her own business. there is nothing endearing about a loud mouth, in everyone business, and pity me look at what my husband did to me fool.
You would be a great fixture on the show. But if you want a permanent spot, you're gonna have to get meaner, and fast! Instead of taking aim at your husband (nice touch, by the way) take aim at the other women. Taylor would be a great frienemy for you!
Marisa I like you, but you did seem a bit rude when you talked about your husband in that manner. I do get what you meant to say. I have always been attracted to tall/blue eye men. I married just the opposite. I use to tell people this, thought it was funny, but it wasn't. Some people thought I was being rude to my husband. I don't believe for a minute Brandi said what she said with malicious intentions. She did probably felt bad for your husband. It doen't help matters that your husband has a sad puppy eye look about him.
marcela910 I agree with you, and I also understood Marisa and what she meant. However, I disagree about Brandi not meaning to be malicious about what she said. Malicious is exactly how she meant it. She didn't make that comment until days later after she had thought about it plenty! It's easy for Brandi to say snotty, hurtful things, it just comes natural. Why didn't she ask Marisa to explain what she had said, because it sounded kind of bad for her husband. There were a lot of ways Brandi could have handled that, but she chose to go in for throat! Brandi is a big girl and I, personally, am tired of hearing people sticking up for her like she is some kind of a tortured child!! We are all responsible for our actions and our choices, and we are all held accountable for the reactions our choices invoke. Brandi needs to grow up and quit playing the pity card, since she won't stand for others getting a polite pass even for personal reasons..... Brandi has enough in her life to deal with, she needs to keep her business in her own backyard and stay out of other!!!!!
You are so fantastic! Your candor in clarifying aspects of your relationship with Dean that may have been misconstrued (and not just by Brandi) was refreshing and clear. Not only do I 'get you' better now, your character points climbed even higher in my book! It's hard to not get defensive when criticism comes our way, but you showed that you can respond to it objectively without taking jabs and diminishing your own integrity. WELL DONE. Last week you were fast becoming my favorite....think you have landed that spot after I read your blog. Hope you remain on the cast!! :)
I absolutely adore Brandi, but I was disappointed by her comments about you. Hopefully you two are friends now because I think you would be good as friends (Lisa too). You seem like a perceptive person, surely you know Kyle is a rotten person. I personally would distance myself from her and Mauricio. Welcome to the show.
Motorcitywife gbearc ReasonIsMyFriend
LOL - true. I vividly recall Marisa saying to Kyle "back in the days when we hung out" and that she had never met Kim (and Kyle didn't know that). Doesn't sound like friends of the caliber that is subject to solid loyalty.
Motorcitywife gbearc ReasonIsMyFriend You just said this same thing on Kyle's blog. We have not claimed to know these people, we are saying what we 'see'....but you certainly think you know everyone and everything and every thought any of the ladies can have or do. Also, you are doing the same thing you claim we are doing, giving an opinion.
I don't think you said anything out of line, you appear to be lovely and totally in love with Dean, why listen to people that have anything negative to say. It's nice you seem to get along with Brandi, she could use someone around her own age to hang with that doesn't have a stick up her arse like Camille.
I think you are a great addition to the show, I only hope you and Brandi don't have a falling out. I love Lisa and Brandi together and I think you fit in better with them. Please sty away from Kyle....
I understand what you mean about marrying too young--did the same thing myself. My opinion is that your hubby is handsome in an intelligent way; intelligence, sweetness, & humor are in his eyes. Very clean cut, almost sporty Midwestern features. Some swoon over Mauricio for some reason, but actually Dean is the best looking of the RHOBH husbands. Eddie Cibrian is certainly the handsomest ex, but infidelity is unattractive.
I to married young. I was younger than you, but waited 5 years to have kids. My husband wasn't my type either and I joke about it all the time to. My husband knows I'm teasing, that I love him. I'm sure Dean (my pops name) knows this to.Men aren't sensitive like we girls .I know if the situation was reversed and my husband said the same about me not being his type,I'd be none to pleased. But men take things in jest.
Marisa,if you come back next season, and I hope you do.You really should keep Brandi at an arms length. You have everything Brandi wants. A faithful husband who adores you. You didn't give Brandi ammunition to make the comments she made about you" throwing your husband under the bus." Those were fighting words. She knows nothing about you and if I were you, Id keep it that way. Most importantly, I'd keep her away from your husband. Brandi is a very bitter woman who's husband left her for another. She wants revenge. Women who's husbands left them for another, often turn around and do the very same thing. I'm not making this up, it's a fact and studies have proven this to be true. Misery loves company, The fact that she's already making assessments of your marriage after only meeting your husband a few times makes me suspicious. Why is she talking about your marriage? Why is she portraying you to be this awful wife who throws her husband under the bus? What business was it of hers? Brandi needs to take a close look at her own issues and leave everyone else's issues alone. I'm getting tired of the excuse "filter." It's not a filter Brandi lacks. It mannerisms and class.
You stood up for Brandi the first time you met her, and look at the way she repays you. She repays you by making two separate comments about how horrible you are to your husband.
socialbutterfly908 Excellent point about how she stood up for Brandi and she repaid her by being nasty. That's Brandi, tacky, rude and ruthless. Remember what she said about being Lisa's friend? It's a race and she wants to win. She's only sucking up to Lisa for status and popularity.
gbearc socialbutterfly908 I thought it was pretty ironic too that Brandi went after Marisa after she stuck up for her, but then again we shouldn't be surprised at anything Brandie does. She doesn't seem to care who she hurts. Although she does (at least for now) seem to be able to filter what she about her meal ticket Lisa.
I think you are amazingly beautiful to start with! I enjoy you very much on the show and I had hoped that you and Brandi did click . I'm not sure she meant any harm in what she said so I hope it doesn't effect your future relationship with her!
You are a breath of fresh air on this show!! Welcome aboard!
I cringed when Brandi talked about you. I like you both and I hope that you two are still building a friendship together.
I appreciate you explaining what you meant, but it did sound kind of disrespectful when I first saw the clip. I have been with my husband since age 17. We married when I was 21. We had all our kids by the time I was 26. We have been together more than 40 years now. By us marrying younger, we were still somewhat young when the kids grew up and went on to college and careers of their own. We can enjoy time spent together now and still be able to get out and go places before we get too old to do it. You can always go back to school if you want or have a new career later in life. I have heard of people in their 80's going to college because that was their dream. You're never too old to accomplish your dreams. Your husband is very handsome and seems like a wonderful man who genuinely loves you. Love radiates from within...it's not the outward appearance. One thing I do like about you is that you really try and stay out of the other women's conflicts.
texasviewer Marisa had stated she married young and never went through the partying stage. So many women marry young, have children, and still have wild party nights. The fact that Marisa made those sacrifices tells me she is committed to being a good mom and wife. The sacrifice is well worth it. It's a cruel world out there, protecting a child's innocence for as long as possible is key to their upbringing.
Theirs a huge bonus to having children in your 20's, When the kids are old enough to party. Marisa and Dean will still be young enough to party with their adult children. They'll be young enough to enjoy an empty nest. If their kids follow in their parents footsteps and have children in their 20's. Marisa and Dean will still be young and will have several years to enjoy their grand kids.
Brandi knows very little about Marisa and Dean, and is grasping at straws to stir up trouble. Miserable people tend to do that. I stay away from people like Brandi, she's trouble.
I read that Bravo has made Faye a HW full time but not you. Made me sick at my stomach!
@ChiTownShark read it on FB and Twitter. Following TweetMaxine. I honestly am hoping she's wrong. Does Bravo really believe we want to watch such awful meanness? From the comments if seems 90% of us are screaming PLEASE SHOW US the wonderful life and the way people who have more can use it to bless others. I just don't get it??
@BlingDong, Making comments AS A viewer on what I've seen. Not personal attacks against fellow viewers. If you've been offended you have my sincere apology. I'm not alone in my opinion and I have every right to post it. It has to do with the show nothing more.
@DixieDarling...If they do actually make Faye a full time HW, they will lose a ton of viewers. She is one nasty piece of work! On another blog, someone said that once Paris Hilton came on the show, they were not watching anymore. Bravo needs to listen to their viewers or they won't have any.
I was disgusted to see Paris, even though her screen time was a couple minutes. I hope she won't be back again.
DixieDarlingI didn't read anything about Faye becoming a H/W. That doesn't sound legit. Say it ain't so.
@gracielibra , I hope it's NOT true!!! I CAN'T STAND FLAKY,FAKE,FAYEAAAA! Meanness isn't entertaing to me.. I'll pass
DixieDarling Seriously??? Yeck.....doesn't Bravo read the blogs??? Very few like Faye...time to find another show if this is true.
@DixieDarling If that is true .....sorry, I won't be watching RHOBH......I won't support it!
Your mom is HILARIOUS... and she's right those clothes required an immediate burning
Also, congrats to you, you've got what EVERY woman wants; a man who loves her more than she loves him! This is rare and to be treasured
I really like your personality, you're perfectly imperfect