Cast Blog: #RHOBH

Giving Brandi Ammunition

Marisa clears up her statements about Dean and marriage.

Hey everyone! Hope you all had a great Monday. I am writing to you from London. Dean and I are here for a special memorial screening in honor of his late father Richard and it is really wonderful to see how beloved he was all over the world. It makes me remember those words of wisdom about the importance of not forgetting those who you love because when they are gone it is too late.

When tonight's episode opened with the dinner I had to cringe. I am over this fight and everyone needs to just let Brandi and Adrienne deal with it, enough already! When Adrienne and Paul went to Kyle and Maricio's home I knew we hadn't heard the last of it. Sadly, this is not the last you have heard of this fight.

I liked the scenes with Yolanda, she is fun and effortless and smart. She leads an amazing life and her take charge attitude suits her well. Bouncing from Yolanda to Kim with her psychic was a bit of an adjustment but as I said last week when Taylor had her spiritualist over, if that works for them great.

Now on to the dinner with Brandi, my brother, Dean, and I. I really enjoy Brandi, but at that point we didn't know each other well and she still doesn't totally get me. So when I said that Dean wasn't my type she felt it was a insult to my husband. Brandi is right, it was disrespectful. Sometimes my mouth speaks before my brain thinks but that's me. Dean actually finds this to be an endearing, amusing and bemusing quality of mine. But you would have to know us to to know this. Brandi went on to make further assessments about my relationship with Dean which I would suggest in the future she keep to herself. In this instance though, I gave her the ammunition to fire and she did! Lesson learned.

I was excited to go to the art gallery with the girls and thought it would be a great way to get to know them all better. It turned out to be our first low key night together which was nice for a change. Taylor and I spoke about life and marriage. I explained to her that I feel a woman doesn't really know what she wants out of life or who she really is until she's about 30-something. I also feel that I did get married too young. While I'm sure these statements will be misconstrued, I do feel they are valid points about myself. I married and had kids at an early age because that's all I wanted at the time. Dean, Jack, and Darryl will always be my priority but my happiness I realized was not complete without a measure of independence and success that only I was responsible for.

Thank you for reading this and thanks again for all of your kind words and support, it means more to me than you know.

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Lisa V.: Lisa R. Took the Bait

Lisa V. talks about the explosive dinner in Amsterdam and why she understands where Brandi is coming from with the hypocrisy comment.

Hello again. How crazy was this one?
So as we join the ladies in Amsterdam, I meet Lisa and Eileen for some tea in the lounge. I was reticent to be involved in this potential confrontation. I had voiced my concerns gently to Lisa, expressing my thoughts on discussing sobriety with Kim--it was a land mine that I wanted to avoid. Anyway, we go to dinner...I actually cringed as I objected to Yolanda's stance on prostitution, my caustic remark in interview, but that, in the grand scale of things, flew under the radar. However, I am sure in situations where there is no choice, maybe prostitution is understandable, but in a cosmopolitan city like Amsterdam where there are a plethora of choices--maybe even menial--but choices nonetheless, whilst preserving our dignity, they would be mine.
So the dinner progresses. I once again don't agree that we have superficial conversations in Beverly Hills as Yolanda said. Maybe some do, but I am sure my character is the same as when I was in the heart of the English countryside, or wherever I lived.

Lisa took the bait, and therefore became somewhat culpable in this whole scenario.

Lisa Vanderpump

So things start to heat up...Lisa categorically says, "I apologize for getting in your business." That should have been the end of it, but no, Kim was gunning for her and was not going to back down. She was on a mission. I adore Lisa, and I don't stand in front of her and condone her actions (any physicality does not sit well with me), however, there comes a time when one might just snap, especially when you are defending the good name of your family, their integrity in a public arena against the aggressor, being Kim, who is hinting at insidious rumors. I urge Lisa to challenge her later over the spiteful intimation regarding Harry. I was absolutely of the mind that it was empty rhetoric, designed to incite Lisa. But Lisa reacted to it. Lisa took the bait, and therefore became somewhat culpable in this whole scenario.


Once again Kim lambasts Kyle for not defending her. How could Kyle defend her mean-spirited remarks? Calling Eileen a beast? I mean, have you all met Eileen? Really?
Lisa absolutely apologized to Kim in her attempt to intervene in regard to her sobriety. As she emotionally conveyed that her sister had died from some sort of abuse, either alcohol or drugs--I am not sure, it didn't even resonate with Kim. Lisa also stated she had witnessed alcoholism in Harry's family where loved ones were lost. Kim ignored Lisa's point that there was no mal intent, that it was coming from a place of concern. Yes, a place that was public, but we all understand that if we sign up to do a reality show, then our reality is displayed. If we have something to hide (skeletons in a closet), be sure they will come jumping out like a frigging jack in the box.
The enormity of the situation was pretty emotional. Each and every one of us astounded as to what we had witnessed. The most fascinating part when watching this is the fact that in the aftermath of the emotional explosion, one conversation between Lisa and Kim, which we obviously did not witness, all feelings were buried. A band-aid was put on the wound, and we were supposed to pretend as if it never ever existed. I think It was a double-edged sword: One side wonderful that everything was buried under a little Dutch rug, and we could enjoy the sights of Amsterdam; the other side being there was obvious feelings that were festering. My attitude was that I would've rather enjoyed the trip and dealt with whatever residual feelings upon our return.
I have to say it was pretty hilarious that out of all the men and all the windmills, we found one of Yolanda's ex-boyfriends. What a gift that we giggled over, enjoying the playful banter as we teased her.


All was sailing along pretty smoothly until the pot shop. I make no pretenses of anything whatsoever. We are in a public forum, we are all aware of that. My children are grown, and I understand the reticence to partake in whatever was on offer, but then let's not go there in the first place. Let us not sit in the middle of this bar and start hurling accusations designed to embarrass.
I do understand to some extent what Brandi is saying regarding hypocrisy. If you do it, own it, but in all the years I have known Kyle, I don't ever recall seeing her smoking. Brandi persisted, but the caveat here is we are all too often the victims of her behavior. When she drinks, things often become aggressive...as you will see next week.
I know this is only a blog, and in my attempt to further explain the complicated dynamics, it could well turn into a book, so I will leave you here and hope you all have a fruitful week.

I am leaving NY after speaking at the United Nations--an overwhelming experience. It was snowing, so East Coast, stay warm! As always...Love, Lisa.

 

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