Cast Blog: #RHOBH

I Love Deanie, But Marriage Is Work

Marisa doesn't blame Brandi for her comments about her marriage, but she knows that she and Dean love each other equally.

Hey there, hope you all had a nice weekend! Mine was spent cleaning out the garage.

Before I get into this week's blog I want to thank you for taking the time to comment. I read every post and really enjoy this connection we have. I appreciate your words of advice, encouragement, and even your constructive criticism. I know you won't always have positive things to say but I appreciate your honesty and participation.

Now on to this week's episode. I was really excited and grateful that Brandi invited me to come to Vegas with her. . .but first a few of the girls spent some quality time at Yolanda's.

I laughed out loud when Lisa asked, "Who is Chrissy Snow?" I really like Lisa's personality and she always looks effortlessly beautiful. I dig Yolanda but she could be facing some serious littering fines with all the names she's dropping. Putting that aside, Yolanda is an wonderful homemaker, host,and expert at directing her staff. I am nothing like that. Between work and the kids, I'm usually exhausted by the time I get home and either throw something basic together or order in. Fortunately, Dean just likes to eat PowerBars.

Then we are off to another dinner gathering at Kyle's. I have never been one to produce lavish dinner parties. With me, it's usually girlfriends over, sweats, no make up, sitting in the living room with a bottle of wine and Chinese. Kyle, however, has always been quite the entertainer and she is great at it! Adrienne and Paul arrive upbeat, but their mood quickly fades as the broken record of the infamous Brandi and Adrienne debacle begins to play. This horse has been beaten to death, hasn't it?

Moving on. . .Having recently lost my father-in-law (a truly incredible man), it was very hard for me to watch Kyle break down about her missing her late mom and dad.

Speaking of family, my mom comes over to help me pack for Vegas. I shouldn't have asked, as she ends up criticizing half my wardrobe, my hair, etc. . .and then tries to glom on and invite herself on the trip. I'll give her credit, my mom has tremendous chutzpah for the good and the bad! I hope you find her as galling and entertaining as the rest of the clan does. Love you mom!

And we're off to Vegas for some fun with just the girls. . .

Our first night was a blast as we all laughed with and at each other at dinner. I swear Kyle's theatrics always cracks me up, and it was hilarious when she was peer pressured into trying the oyster! I couldn't have done it!

Of course, it wasn't all fun and games, as Brandi brought up my relationship with Dean. I adore Brandi and her snap judgement that Dean was "more in love with me than I am with him" was based off an impression I obviously gave her or she wouldn't have said it. That said, I've never thought this was the case. I'd always thought we loved each other the same. I asked Dean and, typical of him, he said he had never thought about it. Brandi was absolutely right to point out how lucky I am. Deanie and I are blessed to have each other. I love him very much. But it doesn't matter if you live in Beverly Hills and are married to a film producer or if you live in Pennsylvania and are married to a coal miner, all marriages take work and it isn't always a bed of roses.

Now I'm all for empowering women and I'm glad Brandi has gained strength and independence working the pole, but it's clearly not something for me. So if it looks like I was in a mood when we arrived at the class it's because I probably was. The last thing I wanted to do was swing around a pole, which would not make me feel sexy at all. What makes me feel confident and sexy is creating success for myself as a businesswoman which allows me to take care of myself financially!

I look forward to chatting with you next week!

xx,
Marisa

Kyle: Kim and I Will Never Agree on This Matter

Kyle clarifies the Kingsley issue and responds to Brandi's most recent accusation. 

I don't want to write this blog. I didn't even want to watch this reunion, to be honest. There. I said it. But here I go....
Let's just dive right into the text message from Lisa Rinna to Kim.
I was very shocked to hear about that text. There is no excuse for that. I believe Lisa R. knows that. I can understand Kim being upset about that. I am sure she was taken aback, as we all were when we heard it. However, I don't think Lisa Rinna is a dangerous person. She just made a really bad choice.


Now onto Amsterdam and the space cake talk. Brandi went after me in Amsterdam regarding the space cake, because she doesn't like me and wanted to deflect from her own behavior once again. This was her big chance to say something about me, calling me a hypocrite for not partaking in the space cake. I have said it before, and I will say it again: I NEVER said I haven't smoked pot. I HAVE. It's just not my thing. I have a lot more fun having a few margaritas. Kim knows that. I would have appreciated her chiming in there. Also, I have NOT eaten a pot brownie or a space cake ever, and my husband had warned me that it would not suit me well, knowing my personality. You cannot gauge exactly what you're ingesting, and it wouldn't be smart. I didn't want to have a bad experience and "freak out," so to speak. Brandi herself wasn't partaking, because of her own reasons (which had to do with her divorce, as she explained), so wouldn't that make her a hypocrite then? WHY did she care if I did or did not choose to? Because she wanted to jump at the chance to make me look bad, since her behavior and her drinking had been front and center. Her drinking was out there, because she puts it out there, and she has nobody to blame but herself. If I HAD chosen to eat a space cake, she would have jumped on that, too. Anything to divert from her own actions which she was comparing to ours. All of us may have a few drinks, but NONE of us behave like her when we drink.
I only address this because it was on television. Her opinion of me is completely irrelevant to me. I only cared, because I am a mother, and her trying to make me out to be something I am not is reckless, as is everything else she does.
Ok. Enough of that. She beat that non-event to death. I think we can move on now.

Now this is the hard part...Kim and I had not spoken since Nov 1st. We both knew the situation with my daughter, Alexia, and Kim's dog, Kingsley, was bound to come up at the reunion. We don't get to pick and choose what we want to talk about.
Alexia had spent the night at Kim's house on Halloween. The next morning, Kingsley bit her. While scary, at first it didn't seem that serious. However, what the first doctor failed to notice was that the tooth had pierced the bone and also broken it. Five days later, we found out that her bone was infected and she needed surgery to clean out the bone. Kim was upset, because I had posted pictures from the hospital. Like I said at the reunion, I NEVER said her dog bit Alexia. Never mentioned her OR her dog. TMZ ended up finding out that it was Kim's dog, and she blamed me, because I posted the pictures from the hospital. I did not do that to hurt my sister in any way or to "get Instagram followers," like she suggested. With all of my family coming and going at the hospital, people were bound to find out and talk.


We were all with Alexia at the hospital trying to distract her and have fun. As any mother would do. We were all trying to make the best out of a bad situation. We invited family and friends to visit and tried to keep her spirits up. In hindsight, I wish I hadn't posted that picture, but I certainly didn't mean to hurt Kim. She posted a picture when she was in the hospital this year. Yolanda and Camille have done so regularly. And where is her responsibility in all of this? However, I do feel bad about what it has led to. And I've told her that. I also felt terrible because I know she loves Kingsley, but I also love my child. It was a difficult time for all involved. I didn't blame Kim personally regarding the dog and was willing to drop it and move forward, yet she was too angry with me regarding the Instagram post to be able to do that.
I wish that since I was willing to let go of my anger regarding my daughter being bit and what she had to go through that she could have let go of being upset about the Instagram post. I HAVE to believe she knows I did NOT do that to hurt her.
For Kim to throw out that she would say something about Alexia ( like she did to Lisa R. regarding Harry ) nearly took my breath away. But her dog is off limits?
So there you have it.
I don't even know what to say or do anymore. Clearly, we will never agree on this matter. And now we have more issues to work through, like my hurt and anger over Kim threatening to say something about my child. I know she loves Alexia, and it was just her being angry and "in the moment," but it's going to take me some time to get past that. All I know is I am glad I don't have to relive all of this again on TV. Now I need to take a step back .
Hopefully, time will heal my relationship with Kim. Time and having an open and honest relationship.
It's been a very difficult season. That's for sure. Thank you all for watching.
XO,
Kyle

P.S
Some things I would like to clear up:

A) I NEVER asked for Kingsley to be put down. I love all animals and know how much Kim loves Kingsley. That was never part of our argument.

B) Brooke's wedding : Brooke did a small ceremony at my sister Kathy's house (part of it aired this season), so that Monty would be well enough to walk her down the aisle. The wedding we were referring to at the reunion is her actual "big wedding " coming up. And NO, I did not do anything "unspeakable" or "unforgivable" at the wedding at Kathy's house like Brandi has (once again) put out there. It was a beautiful, perfect day that Brandi Glanville is now trying to throw negativity on. She was NOT EVEN THERE. On top of everything else Brandi has done, she now wants to turn that beautiful day that my family celebrated into something to lie and gossip about. Shame on her.

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