I Love Deanie, But Marriage Is Work

Marisa doesn't blame Brandi for her comments about her marriage, but she knows that she and Dean love each other equally.

Hey there, hope you all had a nice weekend! Mine was spent cleaning out the garage.

Before I get into this week's blog I want to thank you for taking the time to comment. I read every post and really enjoy this connection we have. I appreciate your words of advice, encouragement, and even your constructive criticism. I know you won't always have positive things to say but I appreciate your honesty and participation.

Now on to this week's episode. I was really excited and grateful that Brandi invited me to come to Vegas with her. . .but first a few of the girls spent some quality time at Yolanda's.

I laughed out loud when Lisa asked, "Who is Chrissy Snow?" I really like Lisa's personality and she always looks effortlessly beautiful. I dig Yolanda but she could be facing some serious littering fines with all the names she's dropping. Putting that aside, Yolanda is an wonderful homemaker, host,and expert at directing her staff. I am nothing like that. Between work and the kids, I'm usually exhausted by the time I get home and either throw something basic together or order in. Fortunately, Dean just likes to eat PowerBars.

Then we are off to another dinner gathering at Kyle's. I have never been one to produce lavish dinner parties. With me, it's usually girlfriends over, sweats, no make up, sitting in the living room with a bottle of wine and Chinese. Kyle, however, has always been quite the entertainer and she is great at it! Adrienne and Paul arrive upbeat, but their mood quickly fades as the broken record of the infamous Brandi and Adrienne debacle begins to play. This horse has been beaten to death, hasn't it?

Moving on. . .Having recently lost my father-in-law (a truly incredible man), it was very hard for me to watch Kyle break down about her missing her late mom and dad.

Speaking of family, my mom comes over to help me pack for Vegas. I shouldn't have asked, as she ends up criticizing half my wardrobe, my hair, etc. . .and then tries to glom on and invite herself on the trip. I'll give her credit, my mom has tremendous chutzpah for the good and the bad! I hope you find her as galling and entertaining as the rest of the clan does. Love you mom!

And we're off to Vegas for some fun with just the girls. . .

Our first night was a blast as we all laughed with and at each other at dinner. I swear Kyle's theatrics always cracks me up, and it was hilarious when she was peer pressured into trying the oyster! I couldn't have done it!

Of course, it wasn't all fun and games, as Brandi brought up my relationship with Dean. I adore Brandi and her snap judgement that Dean was "more in love with me than I am with him" was based off an impression I obviously gave her or she wouldn't have said it. That said, I've never thought this was the case. I'd always thought we loved each other the same. I asked Dean and, typical of him, he said he had never thought about it. Brandi was absolutely right to point out how lucky I am. Deanie and I are blessed to have each other. I love him very much. But it doesn't matter if you live in Beverly Hills and are married to a film producer or if you live in Pennsylvania and are married to a coal miner, all marriages take work and it isn't always a bed of roses.

Now I'm all for empowering women and I'm glad Brandi has gained strength and independence working the pole, but it's clearly not something for me. So if it looks like I was in a mood when we arrived at the class it's because I probably was. The last thing I wanted to do was swing around a pole, which would not make me feel sexy at all. What makes me feel confident and sexy is creating success for myself as a businesswoman which allows me to take care of myself financially!

I look forward to chatting with you next week!

xx,
Marisa

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