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I Love Deanie, But Marriage Is Work
Marisa doesn't blame Brandi for her comments about her marriage, but she knows that she and Dean love each other equally.
Jan 29Our first night was a blast as we all laughed with and at each other at dinner. I swear Kyle's theatrics always cracks me up, and it was hilarious when she was peer pressured into trying the oyster! I couldn't have done it!
Of course, it wasn't all fun and games, as Brandi brought up my relationship with Dean. I adore Brandi and her snap judgement that Dean was "more in love with me than I am with him" was based off an impression I obviously gave her or she wouldn't have said it. That said, I've never thought this was the case. I'd always thought we loved each other the same. I asked Dean and, typical of him, he said he had never thought about it. Brandi was absolutely right to point out how lucky I am. Deanie and I are blessed to have each other. I love him very much. But it doesn't matter if you live in Beverly Hills and are married to a film producer or if you live in Pennsylvania and are married to a coal miner, all marriages take work and it isn't always a bed of roses.
Now I'm all for empowering women and I'm glad Brandi has gained strength and independence working the pole, but it's clearly not something for me. So if it looks like I was in a mood when we
arrived at the class it's because I probably was. The last thing I wanted to do was swing around a pole, which would not make me feel sexy at all. What makes me feel confident and sexy is creating success for myself as a businesswoman which allows me to take care of myself financially!
I look forward to chatting with you next week!
xx,
Marisa
you are great.. i like you.. and Yolanda, and Lisa and Brandi .. the rest like to have drama .. Adrienne is not an honest person .. over the years i thought she was when the show first started and as each year ends i like her less and less. and the fact that she is going after someone who has no money who is just trying to get by and raise her sons.. and she has to deal with a bully.. its rude.. but you are cool right on with you.. :)
Your kind of parties sounds like fun. We would love to see you throw one of your let your hair down, wear your sweats girl nights. Your blogs make me laugh and they're true!! I like your personality!
It's difficult when you are thrown into a group of women who have known one another for a while....they have their baggage. I think it's smart of you to sit back a little and gage it....You have a beautiful face and I'm excited to learn more about you....(we all have the same mothers in one way or another -- yours is a character...)
YOU are sexy Marisa! You one of my new favorites! Your strong and beautiful! Loosen up and enjoy, xo Sherri
I like your kind of dinner parties!!!! Kyle lets some friends badger others & that's not cool no matter what kind of fancy dress you have on or what fancy meal you have prepared. Brandi felt badly I think for Dean more so because she loved Eddie more than Eddie loved her & what you said at dinner about Dean not being your normal type, etc. made her think you were putting him down when you really weren't. Truth is truth & you said nothing ugly. Goodness gracious does it always have to be some kind of drama with those women? Stay sweet & you are right marriage is work. To me love is like a flower, you have to feed it, take care of it &water it or it will dry up & die. But when you do all the work, it turns into something beautiful!
I enjoy your presence on the show, you seem smart and well mannered. The only thing I can say is WATCH OUT! You just broadast to the world that you don't find your husband attrativve and that you wish you had waited to marry him!. Silly girl! Your cutie pie husband is essentially Hollywood royalty and there are probably hundreds of girls in LA right now that are going to do their best to show him what a loving a devoted woman really is! Don't forget Yolanda's words... men love beautiful women and women wil do your husband for a Chanel purse.You publically disrspected a loving loyal man, thats so NOT cool. How would you fell if he said those things about you?
At first you seemed so sweet but you clearly have a bit of a bite, I like it!
Welcome to my living room Marisa. You seem like a lovely, kind lady. I feel you'll make your own judgements about the other housewives and not pay attn to some of the mean spirited fans on here. I'm glad to see that you're already friends with Kyle. I only have one piece of mild advise....don't tell Brandi anything you don't want anyone else to know. Best wishes to you.
I am glad to see you seem to be liking Lisa now. It seemed you had let whatever nasty things kyle had to say about her taint your judgement. And I'm glad you are taking Brandi's comments as they were intended & not "pulling a Taylor" & skewing what she meant. You seem to keep an open mind & be smart enough to figure things out. Many of these dames aren't that clever (adrienne, kyle, kim, camille).
Marisa, You seem great. I like that you are giving Brandi a fair chance. I like that you are not a mean girl like Kyle. I am glad you stood up to Faye regarding her bashing Brandi. Just dont get involved in the petty crap that Lisa, Adrienne, Kim and Taylor stir up. Stick with Lisa and Brandi
I love that you are so true to yourself and principles. I love you as the new cast member, finally a real business woman representing the rest of us working moms! Your mother is hilarious! Even though she wears on you a bit, cherish the moments. I lost my mom back in 2006 to breast cancer and miss her every day. You are lucky to have film footage that will immortalize her! As a Pennsylvanian, you are correct, every marriage is work! Sometimes forever seems like a long f'ing time and yea, there are days when he loves you more than you love him. Anyone that says differently is lying! However, your husband seems like a lovely person and I am happy that he has someone of your caliber. He's a hotty too! Sometimes we just need someone else to tell us that to rekindle our inner sexy! A pole can't really speak to you! Stay real in BH.
.....Im going to wait until I see the whole episode with you and the stripper pole....but, you may not be a good fit with these ladies...you say you like to have fun , yet you feels comfortable with spinning on a pole with your clothes on....really.
@airtonya ... She stated in her blog that the pole "is clearly not something for me" and that "it would not make me feel sexy at all". Not sure what you read, dear.
AndreaDiamond airtonya My apologies.....I meant "You feel UNCOMFORTABLE with spinning on a pole with your clothes on" but thanks for pointing out my typo....hopefully I can return the favor in a future post.
You are a great addition. I appreciate your honesty. Also, seeing you with your Mom seemed so real and genuine. Thank you.
Sometimes people sound like they are "name dropping," but it is who they roll with. Hard to tell at this point because Yolanda is a newbie like you.:)
I like your Mom. Funny how things can aggravate you about your own parents and everyone else, like me, is clueless. Mom and daughter is a deep bond.
Marriage takes a lot of energy, but to make a connection with another human being that treats you kind is a benefit-- friend, family and *especially* your life partner, eh?
If it makes someone happy to be on a stripping pole and dance go for it. Otherwise, I share your sentiments.:)
Take it easy. See ya on the TV Monday night! I really enjoy RHOBH.
Your mom is hilarious! I hope Bravo shows more of her. Her criticisms are harmless and funny (if you're not sensitive and can take it). She kind of reminds me of my mom....who is also entertaining.
You are so entertaining! I love the candor you have in sharing your perspectives (and the hilarious phrasing!!) And, I love seeing your scenes. The one with your mother was priceless! I seriously laughed out loud because parts could have just as easily been my mother and me! Hope you stick around...Brandi, Lisa and you are consistently the realest real housewives around!
If you felt more sexy you might like you hubby a little bit more.
And I saw the previews~ besides your solemn face, you look hot!! Don't be so hard on yourself. You are a sexy woman. Maybe you *should* embrace your inner sexy...
Marisa, love the fact your down to earth. Now if we were all loaded like Yolanda, maybe we spend time making lemons, and dinners. I do love her though. I have been married 30 years and there r days, i send him to his tv, and me to mine, but at the core a friendship is required to make it threw the roller coaster of life. Dean obviously loves you, he seems quiet, a watcher! Nothing wrong with that. I to am a natural girl, I would have a garden party at YOs place! This way no clean up! Keep being you, Bravos going to pick what they want! So go w the flow!, a Canadian fan!
Deanie, with an ie? He's really an adorable man, and you make a very sweet couple, I just can't imagine he's a Deanie.
@BlingDong...Unless that is his legal name or a term of endearment by Marissa, I cannot imagine calling a 40ish man Deanie.
I really like your personality. You are beautifully wonderfully real, fun and honest. Your husband is hot and marriage IS a lot of work. Glad to watch you on the show.
So far so good! Instead of taking Brandi's comment about your marriage too personally, you sidestepped the usual Housewife behavior and addressed your miscommunication like an adult! Looks like between you and Yolanda we can cancel out wives with the emotional maturity of children in the show (Taylor and Camille)
You seem like a nice lady that is down to earth. Please don't listen to the gossipers like Kyle. Form your own opinions. Thus far you have done just that. Bravo!
Marisa,
You are just WONDERFUL!!! What a fresh take for the show!
Marisa,
Just really like you on the show...(Bravo to Bravo)
You could/should easily replace shana/taylor at the very least!!!
Loved the packing scene with your Mom...Loved her critiquing YOUR
style, while giving her self props for all the compliments she still gets
from the ladies for her sense of style & her fab Jackie O. hair!!!
Where were THE Sun glasses??????? Pretty funny...........
I was hoping you would agree to let her go provided she would be the
1st one willing to follow Brandi on the pole....1960's HW shedding her
while polyester pant suit to show case her "Inner Sexy"....Work it Girl!!
Show those BH wives how to move it! Mom's Fab, (I did NOT say FLABBY)
Spinning Twirling Torso, Legs & A** high in the air....
Breathlessly, Whispering & Grunting her way thru the splits
Before you know who BORES us all with her attempt...
YUCK!!!! Think you get the picture....
Would love to see more of your Mom's interactions with you..Just too Funny!
Ok, hope you chuckled more then you vomited!!
Have a Great day!!!!!
Marisa, you are a hoot! Really enjoy your (sometimes overflowing) honesty, i.e. Yolanda does some name-dropping and expertly directs her staff...lol
I, too, enjoy Yolanda.
But I'm not sure she's solely responsible for martha stewartish dinners on any regular basis...(harken back to aforementioned well-directed staff).. I wasn't blessed with the cuisine gene, so it's self-serve at our house.
Anyway, I like that you do not delight in jumping into other people's drama (like Faye Persnickitty does), and that your Mom and you have a funny dynamic together. You don't storm off crying -- you just sigh, smile, and move on. Love that.
It's clear that you love Dean - and he loves you.
Keep on telling it like it is!
"Fortunately, Dean just like to eat PowerBars." You're hilarious. Love you on the show!
I really like you on the show and I hope Bravo keeps you on! You seem real and honest and I think you would be a great addition.
Marisa,
I find it very odd that you spoke ill of Lisa in an interview. Now you are saying you like Lisa. You seem to get very upset when people don't pay to much attention to you when they first meet you. You need to give people a chance to know you. No everyone is the same way. You are not being fair to Lisa. I am not surprise as you seem to be manipulated by Kyle. Be careful of Kyle. Kyle is no one's friend. She doesn't have even her own sister Kim's back. JUST BE CAREFUL OF KYLE. I know with time you will learn to like and respect Lisa.
Geovana I must have missed an episode. I have never seen Marisa manipulated by anyone! It's extremely obvious that she has her own mind and isn't a follower.
katdi0717 Geovana Marisa, you seem like you are your own woman and can handle yourself. I like your sense of humor and your response to the discussion on your marriage. I am glad you set the record straight on your feelings, I think you are great and I am glad you are on the show. I have to laugh to myself on all the drama others make of your comments about Dean, I have a feeling that you two are also able to laugh about this together also. Keep going girl!!!
@katdi0717 @Geovana ,,,, I didn't see her manipulated by anyone either, especially Kyle. As a matter of fact, they appear to be long time friends. But her comments... "Manipulated by Kyle", "be careful of Kyle", "Kyle is no one's friend", etc.... makes her bias transparent. I catch myself blaming Brandi for many negative things too.
Great addition to the show! You're so real! Can't wait to see more of u!
I'm glad you are starting to like Lisa.
You looked super cool in this episode, the scene with your mother was super funny.
I am also glad that you took Brandi's comments the right way. She clearly didn't meant to offend you. She just wishes she had an amazing man in her life, like you have Dean.
The fact that you took it the right way shows you have a great personality. I was scared that it was going to be like Taylour's drama over the "Everyone has slept with everyone in BH", but you aren't that kind of person.
PeterStKing I like that you are able to be strong and not let others comments (Brandi) bring you down. You took a potential hot situation and diffused it beautifully. You and Dean look well suited...not that my opinion really matters... and I feel others can relate to your feelings on relationships.
So far so good. I like you. I'll keep watching though. Kyle had me fooled, used to like her, not no more.
Since you read your comments I feel compelled to leave one. I am a fan, you had me when you opened your mouth to stand up for what was right. I am not in Bevery Hills, however I go through similar situations in social circles and amongst friends and friends of my husbands, their wives and so-on. People are nuts! I can relate to you in that I keep it real. Do I love my husband, undoubtedly so. But we banter back in forth and trash each other all the time, that's just the way we are. No excuses needed, take it or leave it. Everyone is different, just stay around those that accept you for who you are and they way you talk, etc... who cares about opinions and perceptions? That is for those who live in glass houses. I hope you become a regular.
So, did the inevitable cringe when Brandi made the comment about your marriage. Love that in your blog you saw what she sees from the outside looking in and took it as her opinion, not that she was attacking you. While I don't think she should have gone there at all, I give her credit for saying it in front of you, instead of behind your back with the other women or in one of the talking head interviews. I feel like you are giving her a chance to hopefully think before she speaks and give a shot to what could be an honest, genuine friendship.
Watching you and your mom makes me think this is where you get the ability to think things through thoughtfully and not overreact. I have a mom who, well, is challenging. I love her all the same, even when she makes it difficult.
Yolanda and the name dropping .... slippery slope. When your neighbors, friends and co-workers go by the names of Streisand and such, you probably have less Fred's and Carols to chat about. I think all of us would be a bit starstruck at times, no matter how "ordinary" that is for your life. I think it's equal parts showing off and those are the only people you hang out with!
Like your blogs, like you and hope you avoid the Bravo 15 minutes of fame make-over. You're just fine just the way you are.
skizzy79
It's unfortunate but true (unless the editing is off) that Brandi DID say that about Marissa and Dean's relationship in her talking heads interview before she said it to Marissa's face. And I think that she probably did finally dislose it to Marissa, because she thought it would be shown before she said it to her face.
Brandi unfortunastely is very cunning and manipulative. There is so much gile to this woman (and I was a staunch advocate for her....until she really spoke out of turn re: Adrienne who I was never an advocate for), that for those of you blinded by her (asI was), try and remember the first episode this year when she admitted to competing for Lisa's friendship, as she is very competitive and wanted to be number one with her.
It's sad but true. Brandi is an extremely insecure, immature girl trying to become a woman. I hope she makes it by growing into her age and station in life much more gracefully than is now apparentt.
I have found that anyone as sarcastic as she has so much anger below the surface that I avoid people like her as I would the plague. And do not ever confuse sarcasm with wit (as Lisa has). When Brandi so often says: "Just joking" after saying something supposed to be funny, she displays her transparency as a tortured passive-aggressive personality verging on a clinical disorder.
I wish for Brandi what you, Marissa, have which is a realistic, happy, loving relationship in which the two of you can both laugh at and with yourselves. Without that, no one makes it through this life anywhere near content and fulfilled.
I do love having you in the show. In many ways, you are the voice of REALISTIC reason (as opposed to Yolanda who I also like but do not think her ideas are applicable to the average woman today) and I am so sorry for your husband's loss.I wish him freedom from the sadness of losing his father and peace to replace it.
Stay YOU, please. You add alot of common sense, honesty, fun and intelligence to the show. Somehing new and very inteesting. xxoo
@BonBon1948 @skizzy79 You are Spot On with this post....just what many of us feel about Brandi on the show...I had no problem with her on the show either, until the episode that bleeppppped....the whole thing was corny how it went down, but it made us realize...everything you just said...who doesn't get it by now?? I hope that bravo does not assume that because people talk about her on here, that it means she needs to keep coming back, season after season...when the viewers say they find someone offensive, they mean it...we dvr the program and fast forward when they come on, or we turn it to the home shopping channels when they are on...but we really do get disinterested...the way we got with Jill on NY hw's...I missed most of her last season on the show...and only watched NY when she left...I don't think they realize that as much as we might enjoy their programming, there really are other things to watch if we have to have to have our tv's on...the one thing that i disagree with though is that Lisas sarcasm is wit...maybe a smidge, but Lisa has been pretty pamperd in her life, and i think has lost touch with mundane things that makeup most of our lives...so she shows up at a restaurant everyday, dressed in designer clothes and shoes...thats not work...she pays people to work so she doesn't have to...we can all relate to a job where the boss was a pain in the butt...i don't care how bravo glamorizes SUR, it is still a job where people are smucking off food half eaten, and dealing with the dirty dishes...i think Lisa should stay on hw's, because so far, the only thing she has done obnoxious is side with a angry, hate filled bully of an immature woman...
FlutterBy BonBon1948 skizzy79
I see ur mean comments all the time about Brandi,she is fun and honest and she said what she saw from Marissa ,Marissa didn't mean so why do u? Cause ur a bully just like Kyle! Love Brandi and LIsa andu FlutterBy can fly off.
@fablady101 @BonBon1948 @skizzy79 fatlady surely you are not talking about Brandis blog...this is a tv show....not real life...the blogs are entertainment, and our responses and comments are just a part of that...no one should assume a lot from these comments as we are commenting on a tv show where we are only seeing 25 % if not less of any actual footage....i certainly hold no malice for anyone i view on television....but i have strong opinions of what i see....just like politically motivated or even comedy channels so its all good.....or should be.....
fablady101 FlutterBy BonBon1948 skizzy79 oh come on fab, is that the best you can do?
@FlutterBy .... Fab is one of the Brandi lovers I was referring to that seem to take our opinions about Brandi personally and then throws around the bully word. There's another avid Brandi lover on here who's really over the top. It's just a TV show and only our opinions Fab & friends. PEACE.
@BonBon1948 @skizzy79 ... I really enjoyed your reply. I have made a 180 on Brandi myself. I have often said people mix up terminal sarcasm for wit. Also, those who blurt out rude statements and then say "just kidding" often are either passive-aggressive, insecure or both. My advise to Marisa was to not confide anything to Brandi that she doesn't want anyone to know. There's a couple of Brandi lovers (they actually claim to love her - odd) that take our opinions of Brandi as personal attacks - have you experienced their venom yet?
AndreaDiamond BonBon1948 skizzy79 Completely agree with Andrea and BonBon, which I wouldn't have been able to say 2 months ago. I am actually a bit stunned at how my feelings for Brandi have begun to shift, as I use to really enjoy her. Note, they've not changed as quickly or over one incident as happened to many Brandi fans about Mauricio, who they had previously liked for 3 years, but decided based on one argument, that he was pretty much the biggest loser ever to be on the show. My shift in opinion has come slowly over several episodes that I feel are revealing something dark and troubling in her personality. I no longer trust her motives when I look back at the way she set up Adrienne, then purposely revealed private information which was guaranteed to ramp up the drama and give her a huge story line. It is all beginning to fit when you read the initial tidbits coming from her book. No information is sacred to her - not when it comes to personal information about the person responsible for bringing her on the show and giving her this current "fame", and not when it comes to protecting her children from information that will certainly be harmful for them to learn as such a young age. No wonder she had no issues with the fact that the information she revealed about Adrienne might hurt A&P's kids; she is not even worried about how private information might impact her own kids. Very revealing indeed.
Hi Marissa, first i dont remember seeing you at Kyles daughters party. And YES they have beaten this Brandi,Paul ad Adrienne horse to death!!! I love how confident you are, like when Brandi made the comment aboutyou and Dean and who loves who more. Your not out suing Brandi, you admitted you gave her that impression. I adore you and your a breathe of fresh air and a clas act!!!! MWAAA have a great weeked. P.s. you can reply to me anytime you want lol
You so crack me up...I love your take on things and your self-assuredness...you are so right, you DON'T need that pole! I, on the other hand, am not sure what I need...maybe it is a pole. Anyway, you hit the nail on the head in so many ways. You are capable of doing it so casually and hilariously, I'm not sure anyone saw, much less felt it coming. You should have your own syndicated column!
Thanks so much Marisa! Please, please, please, keep it up.
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