Cast Blog: #RHOBH

Mean Girl Remarks

Yolanda wishes she had spent more time doing research on all the history of the 'Wives fights before going to Vegas.

Hello everyone! Thank you so much for taking the time to read and write on this blog, I really enjoy your points of view as well as sharing mine. . .I'm continuing to try to get my point across without sounding too judgmental. It's a fine line to walk, but please know that I always come from a place of kindness.

Vegas, Woohoo! I am sure you had a good laugh watching us clowns. . .

As you can tell, I won't be able to get a job as a pole dancer anytime soon. But even though I felt and looked like a total amateur, I really enjoyed and had a lot of fun at Brandi's pole dancing event. She looked fantastic and thank god she did not need our expertise to get the job.

It seems Adrienne is creating a beautiful collection and is focused on her business. I wish her luck and success in all her ventures. That said, I believe she is giving Brandi way too much energy and wish she would just move on and stop blaming others for the increasing misery in her life.

You know, it's the way Adrienne says "I hope Brandi is having fun in Vegas, I have a business to run." Just rubs me the wrong way. . .

I don't know Adrienne very well because she never reached out to me, but I have observed her behavior and she comes off quite arrogant. Again she is belittling Brandi's business to empower herself, and I find it very unattractive and unproductive.

Even though they don't get along, they should not be dismissive of each other's success because at the end of the day we are all working for the same reason -- and that is to help support our children and family.

I took the same pride in my dishwashing job as a child as I take in running my company today. When done with heart, commitment, and integrity, every job is equally important.

Kim's phone call was a big surprise. I wished she had come to Vegas instead of having plastic surgery, because I was really worried that the anesthesia and medication would throw off the chemical balance in her brain and jeopardize her sobriety. It looks however, like she pulled it off, and, as always, I am rooting for her. If the nose job makes her feel better about herself, then how can we say it’s right or wrong?

All of us who have suffered from lost love can recognize the negative body language between Adrienne and Paul. It's sad when you get to that point where, for no valid reason, everything your partner does bothers you. I am sorry to see this and it's unfortunate for their children, but this looks like it might be the beginning of the end.

I find it hard to believe Paul would put a patient from Saudi Arabia and her surgery on hold to get his back lasered, but then again nothing in Beverly Hills surprises me these days.

Lisa and I spent a great afternoon at the sale of Dolce and Gabbana. Seeing us walk to dinner and giggling reminds me of the importance of girlfriend time. Unfortunately the fun did not last very long. . .

It's always a pleasure to have Jennifer around and listen to her great insights on addiction.

Marisa wasn't having a great day and the red wine spill did not make that any better. BTW girls, Barbra Streisand could without a doubt give you some laundry tips. She is one of the most meticulous homemakers I know and has many talents beyond her singing and acting.

We all have different friends in and outside this group so I am not dismissing Kyle and Camille's friendship with Adrienne but why are we ruining another dinner over this?

Like I said, the only thing constant in life is change. And even though friendships can take on different shapes and forms, they can still be of great value in our lives. Adrienne could have stayed engaged with the group regardless of her issues with Brandi -- but she chose not to.

I like Camille, but unfortunately there seems to be a different perception of her conversation with Brandi. I did find the SUR remark way below the belt and I don't know what Lisa did to deserve that. It's concerning though to see someone speak with such conviction about private business matters -- a textbook example of the seed of trash talk leading to gossip! If you are going to stand up and make a scene, you better get your facts straight.

I am really having a hard time figuring out who is loyal to whom. I believe it is totally OK not to be best friends with every person in the group. Naturally you have more chemistry with some than others but just be honest about it and fight fair.

Kyle using Brandi's "nose job" as a fact of credibility is such an immature and mean girl remark. . .My thoughts of Brandi are not more or less, with or without a nose job.

I am starting to really feel the hurt feelings from the last reunion that is fueling all this negativity. In the plane on our way home, I really pushed Kyle and Lisa to have a heart to heart so that I could better understand.

I listened to two women trying to justify their position. I saw a lot of pain and tears but also love between two souls that have lost their trust and friendship but are not really ready to give it all up and walk away.

The next day I have to admit I finally watched the reunion of RHOBH's Season 2 just to understand what really happened on that defining night that created so much damage in this group.

I finally realized that I had made a big mistake by not investing time in the history of these ladies.

To be honest with you, I really felt bad for Lisa and without knowing all the details. It seemed like a mean attack on a woman they once called their best friend.

So as we travel through this exciting Season 3 together, you will be seeing a lot more fun and drama from this dynamic group of women, as we share a part of our lives, as well as the making and breaking of relationships in all kinds of uncomfortable but real situations. I am certainly not drama-free in my life, and I used to be a lot more feisty, but I have arrived at a place where I really try to not sweat the small stuff anymore. Since losing my health I also feel strongly about making each new day worthwhile.

If I could share anything with my girlfriends and you, it would be this: Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future but concentrate the mind on the present moment.

With that said, have a great week,

Much love,
Y

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Kyle: Kim and I Will Never Agree on This Matter

Kyle clarifies the Kingsley issue and responds to Brandi's most recent accusation. 

I don't want to write this blog. I didn't even want to watch this reunion, to be honest. There. I said it. But here I go....
Let's just dive right into the text message from Lisa Rinna to Kim.
I was very shocked to hear about that text. There is no excuse for that. I believe Lisa R. knows that. I can understand Kim being upset about that. I am sure she was taken aback, as we all were when we heard it. However, I don't think Lisa Rinna is a dangerous person. She just made a really bad choice.


Now onto Amsterdam and the space cake talk. Brandi went after me in Amsterdam regarding the space cake, because she doesn't like me and wanted to deflect from her own behavior once again. This was her big chance to say something about me, calling me a hypocrite for not partaking in the space cake. I have said it before, and I will say it again: I NEVER said I haven't smoked pot. I HAVE. It's just not my thing. I have a lot more fun having a few margaritas. Kim knows that. I would have appreciated her chiming in there. Also, I have NOT eaten a pot brownie or a space cake ever, and my husband had warned me that it would not suit me well, knowing my personality. You cannot gauge exactly what you're ingesting, and it wouldn't be smart. I didn't want to have a bad experience and "freak out," so to speak. Brandi herself wasn't partaking, because of her own reasons (which had to do with her divorce, as she explained), so wouldn't that make her a hypocrite then? WHY did she care if I did or did not choose to? Because she wanted to jump at the chance to make me look bad, since her behavior and her drinking had been front and center. Her drinking was out there, because she puts it out there, and she has nobody to blame but herself. If I HAD chosen to eat a space cake, she would have jumped on that, too. Anything to divert from her own actions which she was comparing to ours. All of us may have a few drinks, but NONE of us behave like her when we drink.
I only address this because it was on television. Her opinion of me is completely irrelevant to me. I only cared, because I am a mother, and her trying to make me out to be something I am not is reckless, as is everything else she does.
Ok. Enough of that. She beat that non-event to death. I think we can move on now.

Now this is the hard part...Kim and I had not spoken since Nov 1st. We both knew the situation with my daughter, Alexia, and Kim's dog, Kingsley, was bound to come up at the reunion. We don't get to pick and choose what we want to talk about.
Alexia had spent the night at Kim's house on Halloween. The next morning, Kingsley bit her. While scary, at first it didn't seem that serious. However, what the first doctor failed to notice was that the tooth had pierced the bone and also broken it. Five days later, we found out that her bone was infected and she needed surgery to clean out the bone. Kim was upset, because I had posted pictures from the hospital. Like I said at the reunion, I NEVER said her dog bit Alexia. Never mentioned her OR her dog. TMZ ended up finding out that it was Kim's dog, and she blamed me, because I posted the pictures from the hospital. I did not do that to hurt my sister in any way or to "get Instagram followers," like she suggested. With all of my family coming and going at the hospital, people were bound to find out and talk.


We were all with Alexia at the hospital trying to distract her and have fun. As any mother would do. We were all trying to make the best out of a bad situation. We invited family and friends to visit and tried to keep her spirits up. In hindsight, I wish I hadn't posted that picture, but I certainly didn't mean to hurt Kim. She posted a picture when she was in the hospital this year. Yolanda and Camille have done so regularly. And where is her responsibility in all of this? However, I do feel bad about what it has led to. And I've told her that. I also felt terrible because I know she loves Kingsley, but I also love my child. It was a difficult time for all involved. I didn't blame Kim personally regarding the dog and was willing to drop it and move forward, yet she was too angry with me regarding the Instagram post to be able to do that.
I wish that since I was willing to let go of my anger regarding my daughter being bit and what she had to go through that she could have let go of being upset about the Instagram post. I HAVE to believe she knows I did NOT do that to hurt her.
For Kim to throw out that she would say something about Alexia ( like she did to Lisa R. regarding Harry ) nearly took my breath away. But her dog is off limits?
So there you have it.
I don't even know what to say or do anymore. Clearly, we will never agree on this matter. And now we have more issues to work through, like my hurt and anger over Kim threatening to say something about my child. I know she loves Alexia, and it was just her being angry and "in the moment," but it's going to take me some time to get past that. All I know is I am glad I don't have to relive all of this again on TV. Now I need to take a step back .
Hopefully, time will heal my relationship with Kim. Time and having an open and honest relationship.
It's been a very difficult season. That's for sure. Thank you all for watching.
XO,
Kyle

P.S
Some things I would like to clear up:

A) I NEVER asked for Kingsley to be put down. I love all animals and know how much Kim loves Kingsley. That was never part of our argument.

B) Brooke's wedding : Brooke did a small ceremony at my sister Kathy's house (part of it aired this season), so that Monty would be well enough to walk her down the aisle. The wedding we were referring to at the reunion is her actual "big wedding " coming up. And NO, I did not do anything "unspeakable" or "unforgivable" at the wedding at Kathy's house like Brandi has (once again) put out there. It was a beautiful, perfect day that Brandi Glanville is now trying to throw negativity on. She was NOT EVEN THERE. On top of everything else Brandi has done, she now wants to turn that beautiful day that my family celebrated into something to lie and gossip about. Shame on her.

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