Cast Blog: #RHOBH

Mean Girl Remarks

Yolanda wishes she had spent more time doing research on all the history of the 'Wives fights before going to Vegas.

Hello everyone! Thank you so much for taking the time to read and write on this blog, I really enjoy your points of view as well as sharing mine. . .I'm continuing to try to get my point across without sounding too judgmental. It's a fine line to walk, but please know that I always come from a place of kindness.

Vegas, Woohoo! I am sure you had a good laugh watching us clowns. . .

As you can tell, I won't be able to get a job as a pole dancer anytime soon. But even though I felt and looked like a total amateur, I really enjoyed and had a lot of fun at Brandi's pole dancing event. She looked fantastic and thank god she did not need our expertise to get the job.

It seems Adrienne is creating a beautiful collection and is focused on her business. I wish her luck and success in all her ventures. That said, I believe she is giving Brandi way too much energy and wish she would just move on and stop blaming others for the increasing misery in her life.

You know, it's the way Adrienne says "I hope Brandi is having fun in Vegas, I have a business to run." Just rubs me the wrong way. . .

I don't know Adrienne very well because she never reached out to me, but I have observed her behavior and she comes off quite arrogant. Again she is belittling Brandi's business to empower herself, and I find it very unattractive and unproductive.

Even though they don't get along, they should not be dismissive of each other's success because at the end of the day we are all working for the same reason -- and that is to help support our children and family.

I took the same pride in my dishwashing job as a child as I take in running my company today. When done with heart, commitment, and integrity, every job is equally important.

Kim's phone call was a big surprise. I wished she had come to Vegas instead of having plastic surgery, because I was really worried that the anesthesia and medication would throw off the chemical balance in her brain and jeopardize her sobriety. It looks however, like she pulled it off, and, as always, I am rooting for her. If the nose job makes her feel better about herself, then how can we say it’s right or wrong?

All of us who have suffered from lost love can recognize the negative body language between Adrienne and Paul. It's sad when you get to that point where, for no valid reason, everything your partner does bothers you. I am sorry to see this and it's unfortunate for their children, but this looks like it might be the beginning of the end.

I find it hard to believe Paul would put a patient from Saudi Arabia and her surgery on hold to get his back lasered, but then again nothing in Beverly Hills surprises me these days.

Lisa and I spent a great afternoon at the sale of Dolce and Gabbana. Seeing us walk to dinner and giggling reminds me of the importance of girlfriend time. Unfortunately the fun did not last very long. . .

It's always a pleasure to have Jennifer around and listen to her great insights on addiction.

Marisa wasn't having a great day and the red wine spill did not make that any better. BTW girls, Barbra Streisand could without a doubt give you some laundry tips. She is one of the most meticulous homemakers I know and has many talents beyond her singing and acting.

We all have different friends in and outside this group so I am not dismissing Kyle and Camille's friendship with Adrienne but why are we ruining another dinner over this?

Like I said, the only thing constant in life is change. And even though friendships can take on different shapes and forms, they can still be of great value in our lives. Adrienne could have stayed engaged with the group regardless of her issues with Brandi -- but she chose not to.

I like Camille, but unfortunately there seems to be a different perception of her conversation with Brandi. I did find the SUR remark way below the belt and I don't know what Lisa did to deserve that. It's concerning though to see someone speak with such conviction about private business matters -- a textbook example of the seed of trash talk leading to gossip! If you are going to stand up and make a scene, you better get your facts straight.

I am really having a hard time figuring out who is loyal to whom. I believe it is totally OK not to be best friends with every person in the group. Naturally you have more chemistry with some than others but just be honest about it and fight fair.

Kyle using Brandi's "nose job" as a fact of credibility is such an immature and mean girl remark. . .My thoughts of Brandi are not more or less, with or without a nose job.

I am starting to really feel the hurt feelings from the last reunion that is fueling all this negativity. In the plane on our way home, I really pushed Kyle and Lisa to have a heart to heart so that I could better understand.

I listened to two women trying to justify their position. I saw a lot of pain and tears but also love between two souls that have lost their trust and friendship but are not really ready to give it all up and walk away.

The next day I have to admit I finally watched the reunion of RHOBH's Season 2 just to understand what really happened on that defining night that created so much damage in this group.

I finally realized that I had made a big mistake by not investing time in the history of these ladies.

To be honest with you, I really felt bad for Lisa and without knowing all the details. It seemed like a mean attack on a woman they once called their best friend.

So as we travel through this exciting Season 3 together, you will be seeing a lot more fun and drama from this dynamic group of women, as we share a part of our lives, as well as the making and breaking of relationships in all kinds of uncomfortable but real situations. I am certainly not drama-free in my life, and I used to be a lot more feisty, but I have arrived at a place where I really try to not sweat the small stuff anymore. Since losing my health I also feel strongly about making each new day worthwhile.

If I could share anything with my girlfriends and you, it would be this: Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future but concentrate the mind on the present moment.

With that said, have a great week,

Much love,
Y

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Lisa R.: It Was Just as Classy as I Anticipated

Lisa R. dishes on her first reunion experience and why she isn't bothered by the Depends jokes.

What did you think about part one of The Hunger Games? I mean, part one of the reunion. I’m actually in a different country on vacation with my family, and there is nowhere else I’d rather be. This is where I am the happiest!

As you can probably guess, from the time we finished taping, I had not seen a few of the girls and needless to say, I could have gone another few months, or really, another few lifetimes without seeing them. But here we were, locked and loaded on two couches sitting across from each other. It seems some came in ready to toss out passive aggressive insults about how much better they were than the rest of us, and others came in with a more direct approach, shooting out insults the whole way through. Just as classy as I had anticipated it to be.

One thing that I want to touch on, which I also did in an earlier blog this season, was the amazing charity that Kimberly-Clark (Depend) donated nearly a quarter of a million dollars to when I did their commercial. The fact that I got paid handsomely and Dress For Success did as well is worth any teasing or taunting I may get. If "not taking pride" in the jobs I choose means this worthy charity gets a hearty six figure check and some recognition, then so be it!

About Dress For Success:
Dress for Success is a global not-for-profit organization that promotes the economic independence of disadvantaged women by providing professional attire, a network of support, and the career development tools to help women thrive in work and in life.

You know, at one point, we see Brandi mention how she wishes I was more honest and not only hold the honesty for my interviews. How quickly she forgets about the lunch we had where I sat down and addressed how I wanted to talk about her and her crazy behavior. I asked why she says such mean things and acts out with the others. Maybe to Brandi this doesn’t count as honesty because she took our conversation and spun it, so we landed on the topic of Kim and not her. I don’t know. Just a thought.

How stunning does Kyle look in red? I knew how stressful it was for her to be in this situation. Having to see her sister for the first time in months with cameras around can’t be easy, but of course, she remained strong, and I’m proud of her for that.


I think Lisa V. said it perfectly when she spoke of Brandi’s drinking. She’s absolutely right to point out that that when Brandi drinks, it may not be a problem in her life, but it certainly becomes our group’s problem when she does it around us. Lisa was completely spot on with this one. And I know Pump loves the color pink, but that purple was fabulous on her! I love the royal purple, because let’s face it, Lisa V. is the Queen!


Eileen was also right to point out that she only commented on Brandi’s negative behaviors that happened while in her presence. One of those times happening in her own home! Eileen is always fair, she’s compassionate and she is direct. Such a class act and a gorgeous one to boot! I feel so grateful to have gone through this with Eileen as the other newbie. I can’t imagine this experience without her. Thank you, Eileen!

Many prayers and well wishes go out to Yolanda. What a trooper to even come to the reunion at all! I can only handle so much crazy and yelling even on my best days, so I can’t even begin to imagine how difficult it was for her to sit on the couch for the short time she was there. I also commend her for being able to take the high road when discussing what was said about Bella. I’m not so sure I could have done the same if something similar was said to me about one of my girls!

Thank you for all of your very beautiful well wishes and words of encouragement for my parents. My dad successfully made it through three bouts of pneumonia in the past year and is out of the hospital and doing OK. Both he and my mom are hanging in there but best of all have each other at almost 87 and 93.

This is just the beginning, so sit tight and keep your seat belts safety fastened. I have a lot more to say about a lot of things. Just you wait!

Until next week…

XO,

LR

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