Cast Blog: #RHOBH

Mean Girl Remarks

Yolanda wishes she had spent more time doing research on all the history of the 'Wives fights before going to Vegas.

Hello everyone! Thank you so much for taking the time to read and write on this blog, I really enjoy your points of view as well as sharing mine. . .I'm continuing to try to get my point across without sounding too judgmental. It's a fine line to walk, but please know that I always come from a place of kindness.

Vegas, Woohoo! I am sure you had a good laugh watching us clowns. . .

As you can tell, I won't be able to get a job as a pole dancer anytime soon. But even though I felt and looked like a total amateur, I really enjoyed and had a lot of fun at Brandi's pole dancing event. She looked fantastic and thank god she did not need our expertise to get the job.

It seems Adrienne is creating a beautiful collection and is focused on her business. I wish her luck and success in all her ventures. That said, I believe she is giving Brandi way too much energy and wish she would just move on and stop blaming others for the increasing misery in her life.

You know, it's the way Adrienne says "I hope Brandi is having fun in Vegas, I have a business to run." Just rubs me the wrong way. . .

I don't know Adrienne very well because she never reached out to me, but I have observed her behavior and she comes off quite arrogant. Again she is belittling Brandi's business to empower herself, and I find it very unattractive and unproductive.

Even though they don't get along, they should not be dismissive of each other's success because at the end of the day we are all working for the same reason -- and that is to help support our children and family.

I took the same pride in my dishwashing job as a child as I take in running my company today. When done with heart, commitment, and integrity, every job is equally important.

Kim's phone call was a big surprise. I wished she had come to Vegas instead of having plastic surgery, because I was really worried that the anesthesia and medication would throw off the chemical balance in her brain and jeopardize her sobriety. It looks however, like she pulled it off, and, as always, I am rooting for her. If the nose job makes her feel better about herself, then how can we say it’s right or wrong?

All of us who have suffered from lost love can recognize the negative body language between Adrienne and Paul. It's sad when you get to that point where, for no valid reason, everything your partner does bothers you. I am sorry to see this and it's unfortunate for their children, but this looks like it might be the beginning of the end.

I find it hard to believe Paul would put a patient from Saudi Arabia and her surgery on hold to get his back lasered, but then again nothing in Beverly Hills surprises me these days.

Lisa and I spent a great afternoon at the sale of Dolce and Gabbana. Seeing us walk to dinner and giggling reminds me of the importance of girlfriend time. Unfortunately the fun did not last very long. . .

It's always a pleasure to have Jennifer around and listen to her great insights on addiction.

Marisa wasn't having a great day and the red wine spill did not make that any better. BTW girls, Barbra Streisand could without a doubt give you some laundry tips. She is one of the most meticulous homemakers I know and has many talents beyond her singing and acting.

We all have different friends in and outside this group so I am not dismissing Kyle and Camille's friendship with Adrienne but why are we ruining another dinner over this?

Like I said, the only thing constant in life is change. And even though friendships can take on different shapes and forms, they can still be of great value in our lives. Adrienne could have stayed engaged with the group regardless of her issues with Brandi -- but she chose not to.

I like Camille, but unfortunately there seems to be a different perception of her conversation with Brandi. I did find the SUR remark way below the belt and I don't know what Lisa did to deserve that. It's concerning though to see someone speak with such conviction about private business matters -- a textbook example of the seed of trash talk leading to gossip! If you are going to stand up and make a scene, you better get your facts straight.

I am really having a hard time figuring out who is loyal to whom. I believe it is totally OK not to be best friends with every person in the group. Naturally you have more chemistry with some than others but just be honest about it and fight fair.

Kyle using Brandi's "nose job" as a fact of credibility is such an immature and mean girl remark. . .My thoughts of Brandi are not more or less, with or without a nose job.

I am starting to really feel the hurt feelings from the last reunion that is fueling all this negativity. In the plane on our way home, I really pushed Kyle and Lisa to have a heart to heart so that I could better understand.

I listened to two women trying to justify their position. I saw a lot of pain and tears but also love between two souls that have lost their trust and friendship but are not really ready to give it all up and walk away.

The next day I have to admit I finally watched the reunion of RHOBH's Season 2 just to understand what really happened on that defining night that created so much damage in this group.

I finally realized that I had made a big mistake by not investing time in the history of these ladies.

To be honest with you, I really felt bad for Lisa and without knowing all the details. It seemed like a mean attack on a woman they once called their best friend.

So as we travel through this exciting Season 3 together, you will be seeing a lot more fun and drama from this dynamic group of women, as we share a part of our lives, as well as the making and breaking of relationships in all kinds of uncomfortable but real situations. I am certainly not drama-free in my life, and I used to be a lot more feisty, but I have arrived at a place where I really try to not sweat the small stuff anymore. Since losing my health I also feel strongly about making each new day worthwhile.

If I could share anything with my girlfriends and you, it would be this: Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future but concentrate the mind on the present moment.

With that said, have a great week,

Much love,
Y

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Lisa V.: How Many Scenarios Can We Excuse?

Lisa Vanderpump tries to make sense of what happened at the reunion and gives us an update on her life since. 

And here we have it...the final episode as the curtain drops on Season 5, the last part of this intriguing trilogy...

Firstly, it is almost too complicated to dissect, but let's try to have a better understanding of the complicated dynamic that materialized this season...

I think upon reflection, it has been pretty obvious after months of filming the intent of some to insert themselves into an already fractious situation. Kim obviously felt bolstered by BG, much to her detriment, as she became a victim of her own volatility. I doubt since filming has wrapped whether there has been much interaction between BG and Kim. It would surprise me greatly if this supposedly close relationship is still flourishing.

What concerned me this season was the manipulative attempt by BG to undermine Kyle and to validate any negativity that Kim was feeling.

Lisa Vanderpump

There's not a lot to say that hasn't been said, really, but what concerned me this season was the manipulative attempt by BG to undermine Kyle and to validate any negativity that Kim was feeling, salaciously stating what a wonderful friend she was and how totally unsupportive Kyle has been. I don't believe the years of dealing with a sibling struggling with alcoholism, supporting financially when needed, should be ignored--also the emotional toll it must have taken on the family. This is a family that has many offsprings who love each other dearly, and that should be paramount. BG has no idea of any history, just a few short months under the glare of reality television.

Also in this final segment, it baffles me once again as to the arrogance as to state what is off limits. How many scenarios can we excuse? Dogs? Children? House? Sobriety? Our business became your business when we entered into your living room. We should strive for transparency, and we should deal with consequences as we profit from the benefits.

I have grown close to Lisa and Eileen and enjoyed them immensely, not always understanding Lisa's actions, but always believing it came from a place of concern, even if sometimes, like in regard to the text she sent, it was a little impulsive. Her anger got the better of her, and for that, I believe she was sorry. I am not making excuses for her, but I am resolute in the belief that provocation sometimes creates a day of reckoning.

My suggestion of putting a band aid on a situation is one of experience. Sometimes we reach for the unreachable, especially when it comes to relationships. Furthermore, we have to accept that idyllic relationships are not always obtainable, but what we should not accept is that the whole family infrastructure, which can be so delicate, would possibly be fractured--weddings missed, birthdays ignored, and all of life's moments punctuated, documented with regret.

So that is what I hope for this season, that the devious trifling is never rewarded by the success in the breakdown of any relationship. Last year, as I sat on my own, aghast at what had transpired, I hoped for a clearer picture, and now I have one, as I think you all do.

Snippets of downtime that have been aired this reunion--cups of tea requests, diarrhea jokes, pussy to the bathroom jokes, didn't know a Flex but definitely knew a Ford--are a great way of also demonstrating that there are giggles in the face of adversity.

Lastly, I would like to say a huge thank you to all of you, who have sent messages of love and well wishes in what has proved to be a trying week. The surgery has been a reminder of how sometimes the indomitable support of those close to you is so valuable, and I appreciate it tremendously. My children by my side, friends, and family are the icing on the cake. Thank you to you all. Ken is doing much better and is well on the way to full recovery.

I have appreciated your comments and enjoyed interacting with you.

Much love as always, 

Lisa

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