Cast Blog: #RHOBH

Mean Girl Remarks

Yolanda wishes she had spent more time doing research on all the history of the 'Wives fights before going to Vegas.

Hello everyone! Thank you so much for taking the time to read and write on this blog, I really enjoy your points of view as well as sharing mine. . .I'm continuing to try to get my point across without sounding too judgmental. It's a fine line to walk, but please know that I always come from a place of kindness.

Vegas, Woohoo! I am sure you had a good laugh watching us clowns. . .

As you can tell, I won't be able to get a job as a pole dancer anytime soon. But even though I felt and looked like a total amateur, I really enjoyed and had a lot of fun at Brandi's pole dancing event. She looked fantastic and thank god she did not need our expertise to get the job.

It seems Adrienne is creating a beautiful collection and is focused on her business. I wish her luck and success in all her ventures. That said, I believe she is giving Brandi way too much energy and wish she would just move on and stop blaming others for the increasing misery in her life.

You know, it's the way Adrienne says "I hope Brandi is having fun in Vegas, I have a business to run." Just rubs me the wrong way. . .

I don't know Adrienne very well because she never reached out to me, but I have observed her behavior and she comes off quite arrogant. Again she is belittling Brandi's business to empower herself, and I find it very unattractive and unproductive.

Even though they don't get along, they should not be dismissive of each other's success because at the end of the day we are all working for the same reason -- and that is to help support our children and family.

I took the same pride in my dishwashing job as a child as I take in running my company today. When done with heart, commitment, and integrity, every job is equally important.

Kim's phone call was a big surprise. I wished she had come to Vegas instead of having plastic surgery, because I was really worried that the anesthesia and medication would throw off the chemical balance in her brain and jeopardize her sobriety. It looks however, like she pulled it off, and, as always, I am rooting for her. If the nose job makes her feel better about herself, then how can we say it’s right or wrong?

All of us who have suffered from lost love can recognize the negative body language between Adrienne and Paul. It's sad when you get to that point where, for no valid reason, everything your partner does bothers you. I am sorry to see this and it's unfortunate for their children, but this looks like it might be the beginning of the end.

I find it hard to believe Paul would put a patient from Saudi Arabia and her surgery on hold to get his back lasered, but then again nothing in Beverly Hills surprises me these days.

Lisa and I spent a great afternoon at the sale of Dolce and Gabbana. Seeing us walk to dinner and giggling reminds me of the importance of girlfriend time. Unfortunately the fun did not last very long. . .

It's always a pleasure to have Jennifer around and listen to her great insights on addiction.

Marisa wasn't having a great day and the red wine spill did not make that any better. BTW girls, Barbra Streisand could without a doubt give you some laundry tips. She is one of the most meticulous homemakers I know and has many talents beyond her singing and acting.

We all have different friends in and outside this group so I am not dismissing Kyle and Camille's friendship with Adrienne but why are we ruining another dinner over this?

Like I said, the only thing constant in life is change. And even though friendships can take on different shapes and forms, they can still be of great value in our lives. Adrienne could have stayed engaged with the group regardless of her issues with Brandi -- but she chose not to.

I like Camille, but unfortunately there seems to be a different perception of her conversation with Brandi. I did find the SUR remark way below the belt and I don't know what Lisa did to deserve that. It's concerning though to see someone speak with such conviction about private business matters -- a textbook example of the seed of trash talk leading to gossip! If you are going to stand up and make a scene, you better get your facts straight.

I am really having a hard time figuring out who is loyal to whom. I believe it is totally OK not to be best friends with every person in the group. Naturally you have more chemistry with some than others but just be honest about it and fight fair.

Kyle using Brandi's "nose job" as a fact of credibility is such an immature and mean girl remark. . .My thoughts of Brandi are not more or less, with or without a nose job.

I am starting to really feel the hurt feelings from the last reunion that is fueling all this negativity. In the plane on our way home, I really pushed Kyle and Lisa to have a heart to heart so that I could better understand.

I listened to two women trying to justify their position. I saw a lot of pain and tears but also love between two souls that have lost their trust and friendship but are not really ready to give it all up and walk away.

The next day I have to admit I finally watched the reunion of RHOBH's Season 2 just to understand what really happened on that defining night that created so much damage in this group.

I finally realized that I had made a big mistake by not investing time in the history of these ladies.

To be honest with you, I really felt bad for Lisa and without knowing all the details. It seemed like a mean attack on a woman they once called their best friend.

So as we travel through this exciting Season 3 together, you will be seeing a lot more fun and drama from this dynamic group of women, as we share a part of our lives, as well as the making and breaking of relationships in all kinds of uncomfortable but real situations. I am certainly not drama-free in my life, and I used to be a lot more feisty, but I have arrived at a place where I really try to not sweat the small stuff anymore. Since losing my health I also feel strongly about making each new day worthwhile.

If I could share anything with my girlfriends and you, it would be this: Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future but concentrate the mind on the present moment.

With that said, have a great week,

Much love,
Y

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Lisa R.: I Am Horrified By the Way Kim Treats Kyle

Lisa R. talks about what drove her to throw the glass.

Have you ever put a bunch of ingredients in the blender, hit power on only to realize that you forgot to put the lid on, so it sprays everywhere? This is exactly how my brain feels after this episode. There has been so much going on and so much building up that finally everything has just exploded into a million pieces.

What a relief it was to see Eileen and Lisa V. arrive in Amsterdam. It was only a tiny calm before the storm, though, because sh-- hit the fan almost immediately. As I watch the show today, there are so many little details and nuances that I'd forgotten in the months since the trip.

As soon as we sat down for dinner, you can see how aggressive and extremely discontent Kim Richards was sitting among us, waiting for the slightest thing to provoke her anger. She looked at whoever was speaking with disdain, just waiting to challenge them. Yolanda was a gracious hostess, though, and tried to make the best of what appeared to be a rocky beginning to the night. I, for one, found Yolanda's suggestion that we each discuss something in our lives that has moved us deeply to be heartfelt and touching.

As I spoke of my own sister dying at age 21 of a sleeping pill and alcohol overdose when I was six years old, I really allowed myself to become vulnerable among these women. I trusted each of them to let me tell my story and perhaps allow my words to be a bonding experience, so I took the opportunity to once again apologize to Kim for overstepping a boundary of hers. Had I known that sharing a story so deeply rooted inside of me would cause Kim to lash out at Eileen, Kyle, and myself, I would have never opened my mouth and allowed us to be left open to her uncontrollable anger and spiteful words.

The insults she continued to hurl at Eileen were terribly disgusting and hurtful. To sit there and insult her physical appearance, call her a “beast,” and tell her to shut her f---ing mouth was just beyond. I mean, even to this day, all I can do is stare in wide-eyed horror and shake my head in disgust. As for Kyle, I wouldn’t presume to get in the middle of family matters, but I am horrified by the way Kim treats her. I can only hope they find a way to settle their differences because this is just so NOT OK.

I'm just glad that I didn't strangle her on the spot, mainly because I hear the food in jail sucks and orange is not my best color! 

Lisa Rinna

Again it was Yolanda who tried to bring a little dignity and class back into the conversation. Unfortunately, Kim twisted what Yolanda was trying to do into a deflection away from her own behavior and onto my husband and me. Where on earth did that come from? I am fiercely protective of my marriage and my family, and I'll be damned if I let someone as disturbed as she create false rumors about my husband. I think it's plain to see that Kim crossed the line. That was my "DO NOT F--- WITH ME" moment. You have just met my inner gangster! I'm just glad that I didn't strangle her on the spot, mainly because I hear the food in jail sucks and orange is not my best color! The crazy part is Kim has met HH once. One time. And that was the night of the poker party when she had taken one or two or 20 of Monty’s pain pills, so who knows what on earth was going through her mind when she met him or during that car ride from hell.

Look, I own the fact that I allowed myself to be provoked, and it was uncool to break a glass in the restaurant. It was not one of my finest moments, but there's only so much my inner gangster can take before she goes postal. It was all very draining, and by the time we got to our conversation the next morning, I was really over it and not looking for another fight. Besides, we were in Amsterdam for God's sake, and it was beautiful and I wasn't about to let Kim, of all people, ruin my short time there, so I stopped reminding Kim that I had, in fact, come directly to her with my concerns and just took the high road.

Chaos and anger aside, I really loved being in Amsterdam, especially with such a wonderful and generous tour guide as Yolanda. Riding bikes through her quaint village to the windmills was refreshing, cathartic, and good for the soul. The cake eating was pretty funny and then, of course, more drama ensued, which I couldn't get away from fast enough. I was in survival mode already just trying to get through the evening, let alone another five days.

More from Amsterdam next week...

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