Cast Blog: #RHOBH

So High School

Yolanda shares who she wanted to bunk with and what she thought of all the rehashed drama in Ojai.

Hi everyone,

I hope you had a great week! Thank you all so much for your kind words and, for those of you who weren't too kind, please take a minute to go to Yolanda.com and read my "About" section. It would be nice for you to know a little bit about my background, which is probably very similar to yours, rather than just judging me based on an episode of RHOBH, which just seems so shallow.

Also, please remember, this is all very new to me. I have never been involved with any social media. I understand it goes with my choice of getting on the Bravo train and becoming a Real Housewife, but, in all honesty, I did not get an iPhone, Instagram or Twitter until this past august when David and i went on vacation to Europe. Of course, I have seen our children become pros, but I am an electronically challenged idiot when it comes to that stuff.

Once I got completely stopped in my tracks with a brain virus this past September, I spent most of my days home in bed without any stimulation, so I had all the time in the world to play with my social media outlets and write a blog, which I really learned to enjoy.

Anyway, on to the important stuff: I am glad to finally see Adrienne and Lisa face-to-face. Lisa has rightfully stood her ground. It was so important for them to open their heart, tell each other how they really feel, be acknowledged, accept the apology and move on. You might not be able to be best friends with everyone, but I don’t believe in enemies and I hate leaving unresolved issues floating around in the universe that can poison our lives.

It's easy to say I don't care -- but we all care and function best when we are in harmony. I had reached out to Kim a couple of times and made previous attempts to see her for a coffee, so I wa happy she was finally here. The mom in me really wanted to be a strong source of support for her because I feel in my heart that her recovery is a really lonely road to travel.

I was actually excited to go to Ojai. It's the perfect place and I was really hoping to connect with all of the women on a deeper level. So far, it has been filled with very shallow conversation because they always end up rehashing the past -- but I am hopeful that that will soon change.

Congrats to beautiful Alexia! I think she will be better off asking the driving school for lessons -- Kyle seems a bit uneasy in the passenger seat.

I am really excited to see opportunities come Brandi's way. She is a beautiful woman and deserves it. I can't wait to read her book because I am sure it's going to be in true Brandi form. We come from similar backgrounds (just different cultures) and we make different choices in communication skills. I just really appreciate her directness and honesty. I also respect the fact that she is not sitting on the couch weeping, but working her butt off to make a life for herself while supporting her boys.

It's endearing to see Lisa care for and support Brandi. I love it!

I felt such sadness when Brandi made a comment about the wrinkles on her thumb because she really means it. Infidelity leaves such a brutal mark on a woman's psyche and self worth. I know because I was there many summers ago, but it still hits home. You will see our bonding process in the coming episodes.

I can't help but feel bad for Kelsey Grammar having a bunch of girls discussing his private parts. So disrespectful. . .so high school. . .

I came from Washington, D.C., because David had a show at the Kennedy Center. Even though he was so kind to drop me off close to Ojai, I still got there late and the girls had already settled in and were having cocktails. I love how Lisa thinks I should have gotten the cupboard. Haha. Honestly, the house is so stunningly beautiful that I would have been fine bunking up with three girls if i had to. I did not come to Ojai for a luxurious vacation but for the camaraderie with the girls.

I love Kim's speech at the dinner table. It's so appropriate for this group of women. Unfortunately, they did not hear a word she said because they went straight into rehashing the past and the drama begins there. . .Unfortunately I got off of the plane with a terrible migraine and had a hard time focusing on any of it. All I remember thinking is why do these woman talk to each other this way -- which all of you know the answer to better then me.

Have a great week, talk soon,

xoxo

yo

p.s. (to me): my husband is the most extraordinary human being i have ever met and his kindness, dedication and commitment to philantrophy far exceeds the grammys on the piano and for that i’am honored and thankful to be in his company everyday! and yes in my household, he is king!

Kyle: Kim and I Will Never Agree on This Matter

Kyle clarifies the Kingsley issue and responds to Brandi's most recent accusation. 

I don't want to write this blog. I didn't even want to watch this reunion, to be honest. There. I said it. But here I go....
Let's just dive right into the text message from Lisa Rinna to Kim.
I was very shocked to hear about that text. There is no excuse for that. I believe Lisa R. knows that. I can understand Kim being upset about that. I am sure she was taken aback, as we all were when we heard it. However, I don't think Lisa Rinna is a dangerous person. She just made a really bad choice.


Now onto Amsterdam and the space cake talk. Brandi went after me in Amsterdam regarding the space cake, because she doesn't like me and wanted to deflect from her own behavior once again. This was her big chance to say something about me, calling me a hypocrite for not partaking in the space cake. I have said it before, and I will say it again: I NEVER said I haven't smoked pot. I HAVE. It's just not my thing. I have a lot more fun having a few margaritas. Kim knows that. I would have appreciated her chiming in there. Also, I have NOT eaten a pot brownie or a space cake ever, and my husband had warned me that it would not suit me well, knowing my personality. You cannot gauge exactly what you're ingesting, and it wouldn't be smart. I didn't want to have a bad experience and "freak out," so to speak. Brandi herself wasn't partaking, because of her own reasons (which had to do with her divorce, as she explained), so wouldn't that make her a hypocrite then? WHY did she care if I did or did not choose to? Because she wanted to jump at the chance to make me look bad, since her behavior and her drinking had been front and center. Her drinking was out there, because she puts it out there, and she has nobody to blame but herself. If I HAD chosen to eat a space cake, she would have jumped on that, too. Anything to divert from her own actions which she was comparing to ours. All of us may have a few drinks, but NONE of us behave like her when we drink.
I only address this because it was on television. Her opinion of me is completely irrelevant to me. I only cared, because I am a mother, and her trying to make me out to be something I am not is reckless, as is everything else she does.
Ok. Enough of that. She beat that non-event to death. I think we can move on now.

Now this is the hard part...Kim and I had not spoken since Nov 1st. We both knew the situation with my daughter, Alexia, and Kim's dog, Kingsley, was bound to come up at the reunion. We don't get to pick and choose what we want to talk about.
Alexia had spent the night at Kim's house on Halloween. The next morning, Kingsley bit her. While scary, at first it didn't seem that serious. However, what the first doctor failed to notice was that the tooth had pierced the bone and also broken it. Five days later, we found out that her bone was infected and she needed surgery to clean out the bone. Kim was upset, because I had posted pictures from the hospital. Like I said at the reunion, I NEVER said her dog bit Alexia. Never mentioned her OR her dog. TMZ ended up finding out that it was Kim's dog, and she blamed me, because I posted the pictures from the hospital. I did not do that to hurt my sister in any way or to "get Instagram followers," like she suggested. With all of my family coming and going at the hospital, people were bound to find out and talk.


We were all with Alexia at the hospital trying to distract her and have fun. As any mother would do. We were all trying to make the best out of a bad situation. We invited family and friends to visit and tried to keep her spirits up. In hindsight, I wish I hadn't posted that picture, but I certainly didn't mean to hurt Kim. She posted a picture when she was in the hospital this year. Yolanda and Camille have done so regularly. And where is her responsibility in all of this? However, I do feel bad about what it has led to. And I've told her that. I also felt terrible because I know she loves Kingsley, but I also love my child. It was a difficult time for all involved. I didn't blame Kim personally regarding the dog and was willing to drop it and move forward, yet she was too angry with me regarding the Instagram post to be able to do that.
I wish that since I was willing to let go of my anger regarding my daughter being bit and what she had to go through that she could have let go of being upset about the Instagram post. I HAVE to believe she knows I did NOT do that to hurt her.
For Kim to throw out that she would say something about Alexia ( like she did to Lisa R. regarding Harry ) nearly took my breath away. But her dog is off limits?
So there you have it.
I don't even know what to say or do anymore. Clearly, we will never agree on this matter. And now we have more issues to work through, like my hurt and anger over Kim threatening to say something about my child. I know she loves Alexia, and it was just her being angry and "in the moment," but it's going to take me some time to get past that. All I know is I am glad I don't have to relive all of this again on TV. Now I need to take a step back .
Hopefully, time will heal my relationship with Kim. Time and having an open and honest relationship.
It's been a very difficult season. That's for sure. Thank you all for watching.
XO,
Kyle

P.S
Some things I would like to clear up:

A) I NEVER asked for Kingsley to be put down. I love all animals and know how much Kim loves Kingsley. That was never part of our argument.

B) Brooke's wedding : Brooke did a small ceremony at my sister Kathy's house (part of it aired this season), so that Monty would be well enough to walk her down the aisle. The wedding we were referring to at the reunion is her actual "big wedding " coming up. And NO, I did not do anything "unspeakable" or "unforgivable" at the wedding at Kathy's house like Brandi has (once again) put out there. It was a beautiful, perfect day that Brandi Glanville is now trying to throw negativity on. She was NOT EVEN THERE. On top of everything else Brandi has done, she now wants to turn that beautiful day that my family celebrated into something to lie and gossip about. Shame on her.

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