Yolanda H. Foster

And she wonders why a few of the ladies couldn't abstain (Kyle particularly) for Kim's sake.

on Dec 3, 20120

Even though Adrienne's remarks are so annoying, I wish B could have chosen a different way to address her.

Kyle and Lisa's debate is clearly showing the separation in this group. Lisa does not agree with Brandi's language, however she is still protective of her. And Lisa has every right to do so, especially considering Kyle is always defending Adrienne.

I am so happy for Brandi's book deal and finding a way to support her kids. I honestly don't understand why Kyle, Taylor, and Adrienne are so rude and unsupportive for someone else's success. It just seems so catty and mean -- it's all very disheartening to me.

I am not surprised to hear Kyle say that no one is listening to me. . .I try my best to measure my words carefully. . .God gives you two ears and one mouth so I think we're supposed to listen twice as much as we speak. I don't think she got that memo because she only likes the sound of her own voice.

I woke up very early this morning because I was excited to have a sporty day outdoors. Trying to get everyone to go on a hike was a big challenge, the hair, the make-up, the jewelry. . .it was like a fashion show! Luckily, we did end up having a really great walk, talking and connecting like women should.

The golf cart ride was really the first time we were all laughing and having a great time. I really enjoyed the little race between Lisa and me. We were being competitive but all in good fun, of course. It still makes me giggle. It's too bad that as we get older, we stop being silly in that way.

Our badminton game was just a crack-up. I thought Lisa looked absolutely adorable. At least she was wearing sneakers. Kyle thinks she looks like a beekeeper? I was thinking, "Look in the mirror, girl. You are wearing 8-inch heels, a see-through mini dress, and a Chanel purse on the badminton field. . .ugh, really?"

By the time we got to the spa, we were in a goofy mood, cracking jokes and what not. It is really hard to calm down and meditate with the mud treatment after all that. Lisa and I were on a roll so a little fun seemed in place.

I was also looking forward to the camaraderie of cooking our own dinner but instead we were spoiled with this amazing spread of healthy foods by chef Chad.

524 comments
shapi888
shapi888

Yolanda,I guess not everyone can be as perfect as you and your judging way s about everyone around you

carol.a.boyd.9
carol.a.boyd.9

Yolanda, I think you are a class act, and I think that Brandi needs more friends like you and Lisa.  friends help friends and with you two in her corner I think she will, learn and grow. I adore Brandy, she says what she means and to hell with everyone , shes real, she just has to learn to do it gracefully, ;] I have just begun getting into the holistic , at fifty unfortunately I have caused my self lots of damage, you are a ray of sunshine and hope , and hope you share more on what u do to stay healthy and beautiful. I agree on you views with Kyle and Kim, but I will say that Kims' celebration should have been totally alcohol free, that is how you support a friend. you don't do drugs around a recovering drug addict????  

Margaret2430
Margaret2430

Love love love this woman. She is indeed a breath of fresh air. She was right on w/ every HW .

sue.saal
sue.saal

I agree with Yolanda, I too think it should have been at least a much less drinking weekend. Maybe a wine here or there but not a full out drunk. Kim deserves more. Just saying,,,,

 

unomas66
unomas66

pretentious much? out of ALL the Real Housewife franchises... I think you take the cake.  It's fun to step back and take in all that these shows offer insofar as seeing how the women carry themselves with and without money (let's be real.... it's no secret that many of these woman have or or on the brink of declaring bankruptcy).... but obviously marrying into $$$$ via Mr. Foster... how lucky you are to not be in that position.  How refreshing it would have been to see someone like you who obviously has married "up"  to be gracious and humble.... NOT!!!  All the money in the world wouldn't endear me to you... I find you fake, obnoxious and quite full of yourself.  And just so you know... many woman in the world get up early and work out... there is nothing remarkable about you doing that.  Stop it with your constant reminders to your co-stars that you get up early and work out: so what!!!  I find you even more annoying then Teresa from NJ, the religious one from Orange County with all the plastic surgery....and the wig woman from Atlanta.  It takes a lot to beat them!!! You put yourself on this show... hope you are willing to hear what people have to say!!

 

jms82
jms82

I think Kyle is not attempting to reconnect with Kim for a reason....a reason that is common in recovering addict's families...the fact that this is not Kim's first post-rehab attempt to live a sober life. I DO commend Kim and I very much enjoy her sober....but I understand Kyle's reluctance to accept that this time might actually be it, and her sister will live a sober life from now on. 

RealHousewifeFromNY
RealHousewifeFromNY

Yolanda, I found you to be a little uptight at first, but after reading your blog today I find that I am agreeing with much of what you said.  Now I will admit that I enjoy a cocktail (of three!) with friends now and again. ;)  But I do agree with you, that this girls weekend was not the best time to be partying and acting out.  Especially out of respect for Kim, who organized and hosted this trip. I would have no problem at all putting aside the drinks to support a friend that had just gone through what she has, and most definitely a sister should have done that.  She really should have realized that on her own.

Brandi means well.  She is not as polished as some of you ladies, but her heart is in a good place.  I cannot say the same for Adrienne, Kyle or Taylor of late.  Blurting out the F-word in frustration after Adrienne continued to draw attention to Kim's crying was nothing compared to the spectacle Taylor has made of herself this season.  She has allowed herself to behave in a very sloppy fashion on camera this season.  Perhaps Taylor should consider giving up the booze...she clearly cannot handle it and conduct herself in a respectable way.

Good grief, I hope the rest of these ladies take some cues from you, Lisa and even Kim...and clean up their acts a bit.  Will look forward to tuning into you next week too.  Best!

ralph0106
ralph0106

Yolanda why can't bravo find more women like you & Lisa.  You are so much more interesting to watch.  Such a refreshing change!

caroline88
caroline88

Yolanda, 

 

I don't know your entire story or your medical history at all, but you mentioned that you have ME-CFS and are passionate about a more holistic approach to health. I'm not sure if sharing this will help you, but for about five years, I felt as if I wasn't in control of my body. I was experiencing some very strange symptoms ranging from my hair falling out in certain places to extreme fatigue (I could barely make it through the day sometimes), which were quite strange for an active and otherwise healthy 20-something woman. Doctors kept telling me that either I had chronic fatigue syndrome or that there really wasn't any problem. This past January, I learned that I was highly gluten intolerant, and I began feeling better almost the moment I changed my eating habits. If you haven't looked into gluten intolerance, perhaps it might be something for you to consider. I, too, am interested in a mind-body approach towards health, and I'd recommend some books if you like reading about it (I have no connection to these authors other than just an interest in their writings): Andrew Weil's Spontaneous Healing: How to Discover and Embrace Your Body's Natural Ability to Maintain and Heal Itself & William Davis' book, Wheat Belly.

 

By the way, I completely agree with you that the women should have been more considerate towards Kim and considered abstaining. You seem considerate and empathetic, two traits I never see on TV. I also appreciate that you don't have to be in 6-inch heels on a hiking trip.

dgf1128
dgf1128

I agree with Yolanda. The ladies shoul abstain from drinking when Kim is around. That is not showing Kim any respect or in her decision not to drink anymore.She's trying to get her head and heart into a better place she can enjoy without booze. That uneducated, insulting, filthy-mouthed tramp, Brandi, needs to take a trip off the show. In her words," she is what she is". No wonder that Lisa keeps such close tabs on her. She's always trying to get into Ken's pants!

salsa56
salsa56

I am in total agreement with everything you said. I am also really glad you were there to be that little extra support Kim deserves after her brave battle with alcohol. I agree Kyle should of given her sister more emotional support. Your observations were right on the money regarding all the girls and you're quite astute. So glad you're on the show.

tjjpt
tjjpt

Yolanda, you are not preachy and certainly not judgemental. Those ladies behave badly at your dinner party at your house. They tried to act chummy singing while they , as first time guests there, should maintain a certain degree of decorum. They acted like Karant in Miami housewives when she was too eager to be part of it all which drove some other Miami housewives crazy. The difference was that Karant was a buffoon but not these Bev. pros.The trios, especially Taylor, exhibited a similar behavior, though more sly. Once told to shut up and listen, she was onery and defiant telling us who cares.... this is not a recording studio. So you were not wrong statiing the opinion that they should be honored to be with the like of those artists. But these women are so jaded and ignorant. To be fair, Kyle acted well being a good guest, showing interest in the host's accomplishment. But Taylor was hopeless. Now, move on to the drinking, again you were not judgemental. You did not want to be around drunks so you said it. The minor particular of whether you should say drunken people instead of drunken women is besides the point. We get what you want to say and I agree with you. It is good to see honest and brave characters like you for a change instead of tiptoeiing and keep quiet for fear of being offensive to peopple with different viewpoints. Keep being yourself. It helps refreshing the RHOBH air.

lindsay.annw
lindsay.annw

You a breath of fresh air!  So nice to see a classy and thoughtful woman, who is also a great wife!  I would have to say you're my favorite on the show.  Then I would choose Lisa, and so on.. :)

MiaK
MiaK

You are classy and charming! So nice that you are on the show.

Bebelyn1986
Bebelyn1986

Honestly, this trip disappointed me, I really believe what Yolanda has said about everyone staying sober for this one. I mean especially Kyle. They could of done so many more activities even at night to reconnect and celebrate Kim's Sobriety. The spiritual aspect was missing :(.

jbey
jbey

Hi Yolanda, I like you so far and dont think you are judging. I think you have been introduced to a new group of women and are in the stage where are forming relationships and opinions and you are sharing them with the viewers, which is of course, what we want! Also, I think your point about Brandi is great - she may need to learn better ways of handling situations - especially when it comes to her language, but she is quick to apologize and try to reconcile and she gets over it and moves on. I also agree that Kyle looked sillier than Lisa did, she is pretty and has all the right to look hot, but there is an appropriate way at her age!

mrLeBeef
mrLeBeef

You are the most beautiful and classiest, and will be the most envied. Sorry you are friends with these crazy people! Makes for good entertainment though!

ak_gal
ak_gal

Thank you for bringing up the alcohol issue - this was downplayed on the show but really, it should have taken center stage. These women (including family!), should have known better than to drink, and especially drink excessively, around someone who is newly sober. This for me is tragic and shows a lack of concern and love. Yikes folks, addiction is a major issue, it needs to be treated seriously.

lizluvzandy
lizluvzandy

remember yolanda, 

they are young and NOT alcoholics! so drinking can be fun. its just past your time is all.

rhaynes18
rhaynes18

Yolanda, 

I just wanted to let you know that I truly enjoy you join the show. You are just a breath of fresh air. I love that you are such a classy lady.  You are my favorite. I enjoy all the great support you are giving Kim. I recently had a loved one seek help for drinking. If it wasn't for the support they received from friends and family, they wouldn't be where they are now. So, I have a lot of respect for you showing Kim a great support. Again, thank you for joining the show and can't wait to watch you in the future on this show. 

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

Yolanda isn't it interesting how other people react when someone discusses alternative medical procedures? I noticed your comment about your back treatments landed on the table with a thud....no one seemed the least interested, and that surprised me,  you might as well told them you were eating pygmy parts, their reaction seemed the same...had i been at the table, i would have said "really" tell me about it, the idea that someone would think outside the norms of medicine in order to treat peoples back problems is interesting to me. I got the same reaction once when i discussed accupuncture...why are people so conventional and clueless about the unconventional...these women are not interesting to me....about as deep as a thimble....

Bigwednesday
Bigwednesday

I agree. Of all the ladies in this group, Kyle should have been the one to enjoy the one on one time with her sister. I think Kyle will get jealous of the positive attention her older sister is now getting. It will probably remind her of their childhood...that Kim was famous and she wasn't. In fact, I never heard of a Kyle Richards before this show.

Anyway, Kyle stating that no one is listening to you just shows how childish she is and where her mind is. She has  not gotten past the age of 17 I guess.

Despina59
Despina59

I dont drink. It bores me. 

Ashkzari
Ashkzari

I also have backpains, and that's why It's impossible for me to jog. If u went all the way to Germany(which btw does not represent all Europe nor does Holland) you must be in severe pain, so how can you jog?

Ashkzari
Ashkzari

You always mention how ugly drunk women are, so that means that drunk men are very sexy?! Maybe you should say drunk people, Because in this century women are also allowed to be as drunk as men.

ChrissyCancilla
ChrissyCancilla

You my dear have a fan for life in me..I loved your Blog...You have such class and grace.

Ellen600
Ellen600

You are difficult for me to watch most of the time.  I commend you reaching out to Kim and being supportive, that is sweet and tender.  You also are clearly a devoted mother and wife, which I have nothing but the utmost respect for.  However, you seem so judgmental towards everyone else!  In you last blog, you mentioned that viewers who were quick to judge you 'seemed so shallow,' and should read your website to learn about your past.  Yet, in your one on one interviews, no one is as quick to pass judgment as you.  Very hypocritical.  Also, fun and silliness seems to be okay, only if it's on your terms.  It was great to see you let loose a little bit in the golf carts and the spa!  Then, you have nothing but negative things to say about the ladies having some fun doing gymnastics later in the night.  Just because it's past your bedtime does not mean it's wrong!  And these are all grown women, it is their prerogative to have a drink (or many) whenever they want.  You "seem so shallow."

dragonslayer
dragonslayer

I agree with you...this was a time best spent without alcohol.  We all know Camille is not a "big" drinker neither is Lisa...but one person in particular may have issues with alcohol - for sure.  A glass of wine at dinner should have been about the tops ....And I think if the ladies would have followewd your lead and taken advantage of the beautiful nature available - that would have been more healing for Kim.  Afterall, that was the idea behind the invite!

Hearing that you broke your back and have been able to turn around such - what must have been a tremendous scare in your life ...is inspiring.  I can see how this would be a constant motivator that keeps you focused on maintaining good health and mobility.   I have to say I was astounded that no one at that table pondered the idea of a broken back...it was dissappointing...It goes to show how self centered these women are...

Your observations of kyle are right on the money...She needs to get away from the mirror and start living her life. I hope that she understands the impact she can have on her sisters recovery...Kim needs Kyle to apologize to her. Kyle has belittled, yelled , critisized and been condesending to her for too long...Kim is not perfect and neither is Kyle ( that's what Kyle needs to face - that she has let Kim down.)  Kyle has been so self serving and self centered - Kyle makes it ALL about herself  ---- "Hello your sister needs you" step up to the plate.  Sometimes we are blind to things that really matter. I hope that Kyle will open her eyes Heart and wise up!!.

Glad you are on the show. I think you will be a wonderful addition to HWOBH.  Thank you for sharing your beautiful home (will we get a peek at Christmas there?)  - I loved your refrigerator!!  I thought it was great when you mentioned that you were OCD when it comes to organization - that is what I strive for but believe me - write that book and I will buy it.  LOL.  Take Care Yolanda - May you and you family Have a wonderful Christmas...Enjoy!

 

 

 

 

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LfromBAMA
LfromBAMA

I have to admit the comment to Kyle about Ladies getting drunk was very intimidating,(way cool,I loved it) she got defensive but maybe after thinking about it she,ll realize you were right and apologize to her sister.

Nacyd
Nacyd

Just love you on the show!!!!!

Nikkiyel
Nikkiyel

I think Yolanda is right. As a recovering alcoholic myself it is very uncomfortable to be in a party atmosphere with alcohol flowing. The ladies should have shown respect to Kim and especially Kyle . She is grating on my nerves more and more. Yolanda and Lisa bring class to this unclassy bunch.

greeneyesdontlie
greeneyesdontlie

Love ur style and view that this should not have been girls gone wild weekend. They should have limited their drinking and made it more about Kim. U are a great addition and add class along with Lisa. I love Brandi as well. She's just wild

Revell238
Revell238

 @shapi888

 I totally agree....Yolanda thinks she's above it all. She is one of the most  annoying women on reality tv.  She appears so desperate the way she interacts with her arrogant husband. I find it rude for them to invite guests and expect them not to sing along or talk while he plays the piano. Very ridiculous....I mean really.

Neszoe
Neszoe

@tjjpt lol lol lol Again it is surprising as to what people chose to see. Kyle was rude and condecending acting as if she didnt know what a grammy was or looked like. "it's her town" after all. As usual she was loud and wanting to be the center of attention. Yolanda I know we dont know you yet and I am sure that if you stay on this show we will see you at your Best as well as your Worst. It never fails with these shows, that's what makes them so popular. Yolanda is a class act as well as Lisa, but they dont take a lot os BS and stand their ground even if it means walking away for life. Maybe it's a European thing ??? Taylor is a joke....there is NOTHING about her that is real or classy and I believe Yolanda is astute enough to see all of these women for who they are. Catty and jealous of each other.

airtonya
airtonya

 @lizluvzandy I don't care how old or if your a man or woman. No one should get out of control when drinking....its not cool to be a drunk.....its okay to have a drink or too . However, you should have control of your behavior at all times....Kyle has Teenage daughters ....she wants them to get drunk like her when they go away on a trip with friends? These aren't college girls on spring break. These are grown women with impressionable children that are watching them. Yolanda is wise enough to know that.....

LauraK88
LauraK88

@lizluvzandy Go away, Taylor.

Revell238
Revell238

 @Despina59

 I agree with the drinking, although I may have a glass of wine maybe once or twice a year for special occasions, but for the most part a waste of time. I recently asked my best friend that her definition of fun is drinking, and mine did not include alcohol. at all!

airtonya
airtonya

 @Ashkzari I agree with Yolanda, drunk doesn't look good on anyone Male or Female. There is nothing sexy about a drunken lady doing flips and showing her butt to the world when you have teenage daughters. Then you go home and say...."When you go out with your friends , honey....don't drink to have fun"......and your on National TV.....getting wasted with your 40 something friends at  a spa retreat. Yolanda wasn't around "Drunken Men" she was around "Drunken Women with young children"

unomas66
unomas66

 @Ellen600 yup... couldn't agree more.  she put herself on this show.... why?  she clearly has nothing to offer but JUDGEMENT towards the others... and like I said above... based on what?  she get's up early and works out?  ha! welcome to the rest of America! she is nothing special.  and she is OCD about her house.... I would be too if I had all the $$ in the world to help me be OCD about my house! how easy it is to be that way if you are ordering people around to do the dirty work for you....  I find her extremely vapid and full of herself.  Eww, can't believe I'm on here wasting my time talking about this person.  Back to real life!

 

Kelly21
Kelly21

@Ellen600 I totally disagree with you....Yolanda is only stating her opinion. Lisa and Yolanda don't have a shallow bone in their whole body. Now Kyle, Adrienne and Taylor are very shallow and judgmental. They state their opinions and expect everyone to agree and if you don't watch out...just like what Kyle did to Lisa at the dinner table about the STFU, when she was defending Brandi. It's funny because the very one that had such a hard time with Brandi saying the f word at the dinner table had no problem saying it to Camille at the dinner table in NY.

unomas66
unomas66

 @mrLeBeef  @Ashkzari stupid, lack of knowledge comment Ashkzari.... you truly know nothing about back issues.  The last thing to do with spinal issues is to "push thru it'  WOW... get some knowledge before you post a comment like that!!

 

Ellen600
Ellen600

 @Kelly21  @Ellen600 Agree to disagree.  My comments and opinion have nothing to do with the STFU comment and ensuing drama.  I was referring to Yolanda's judgmental and haughty comments about all the ladies (Lisa included!) for drinking and staying up late.  You're right, they are her opinions that she's stating.  My point is I don't agree, or like her delivery. 

airtonya
airtonya

@unomas66 @Ellen600 @Kelly21 Nice comeback!

airtonya
airtonya

 @Ellen600  @Kelly21 They have young daughters....so when their Young Adult and Teenage daughters go on vacation with friends....the only way they are officially having a good time is if they get wasted....your opening the door for predators to take advantage of them. No one should be that drunk.