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Yolanda on the Brandi-Adrienne Feud

Yolanda reflects on cleansing with Kyle, catching up with Kim, and the big show-down at the Moroccan restaurant.

Hi everyone! I hope you had a great week and are getting back into the swing of things and ready to tackle 2013 head-on.

Thanks for all your well wishes; I am on day 40 of my IV antibiotic treatments with hopefully only 30 more to go. I am starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel and hoping to get back to my normal life sooner than later. I have a new respect and sympathy for any of you out there battling a chronic and/or debilitating disease.

I have been enjoying the blog process because I am fascinated with the different perspectives on our stories. Like I say every week, I am just giving my view, but, as my husband pointed out, a point of view by definition can often seem judgmental. But in my heart, I'm always trying to help, not hurt. I am also learning that since English is not my first language I sometimes don't use the correct words and some things definitely get lost in translation.  It was so much easier to do my Dutch show where I got to think and speak in my own language. However, I will continue to try and do better.

I wasn't going to spend any more time and energy on the Scheana-Eddie story. Of course, there are so many cheaters in this town -- well in this world to be exact! It just infuriates me to think he cheated on Brandi while she was pregnant with his child. It's just even more unconscionable and really shows that this man has no moral compass either. Again, Brandi is so lucky to be far away from him and his dysfunctional ways. . .Seeing Lisa and Brandi is emotional and very endearing. That's what our relationships with girlfriends should be like, shouldn't it?  Lisa has been a great support system for Brandi and she is lucky to have her as a friend. Hopefully viewers realize that even here in Beverly Hills, where our lives seem so perfect and glamorous from the outside (with the big houses, champagne and red carpets), in reality, we are all dealing with similar life problems. Trust me, at the end of the day, we all put our pants on one leg at a time.

I was happy to see Kyle and finally get some one-on-one time with her. We were able to connect and I could share the best side of me. . .The bee hives, lemon trees, and gardens, which is where I feel most comfortable. It's always hard to get to know new friends intimately within a big group and I appreciated her coming all the way to Malibu. I rarely go to Beverly Hills to have lunch or shop with the girls, so I am not a great girlfriend that way but I do enjoy sharing health, fitness, and life experiences with them. Even though the Master Cleanse is not for everyone (please consult your doctor first) it made such a big impact in my life so I am always so excited to share this with others.

I really pushed for Kim to come over, but unfortunately that never happened. I have no idea why she doesn't remember planning our day together, but hopefully we can still do it some other time when she is ready to commit.  Commitment seems to be a reoccurring problem with Kim. I felt Kyle to be very sincere when talking about Kim being her hero growing up and how magic she was. You can tell there is a lot of love but also a lot of pain there. Ultimately though, everyone is responsible for their own actions.

I agree with the life coach: Kim looks amazing and I am pulling for her. There is some deep-rooted stuff going on that we on the outside world will never truly understand. I wish Kim and Kyle would choose to go to therapy together to try to heal these wounds and move on to a relationship their mom would have been proud of. It is time to look forward and forget about the past. With every sunrise there is a promise of a new and better day!I love watching Lisa at work. She truly is a solid business woman with a fabulous sense of style. 

OK, let's talk about Ken.  How adorable is he? It's nice to see him wanting to reconnect with Lisa in such a special way. . .A pink swing with ribbons and a heart shaped flower garden planted with his own bare hands! Now that's romance at its best! You know I am all about romance, so Ken is a man after my own heart. I say, "Get wise, keep your romance alive." I loved seeing Lisa on the swing; it's great to see the playful little girl in her.

Dinner at the Moroccan restaurant was another public drama. Kim has a knack for bringing up ultra-sensitive issues at inappropriate times. I do think that the conversation is extremely important for them to have, but not so sure a Moroccan restaurant amongst belly dancers is the best venue.  I wish Kim would have just phoned me to say it is not a good time for her to do a cleanse, rather than act as if we never made a plan.  I did not have any expectations from her, other than her showing up! I was only trying to offer her friendship and support.

Being at the Moroccan restaurant and the belly dancers brought back happy memories in my past because they were present at many family celebrations during my previous life when I was married to Mohamed. The Arab culture, like so many other cultures, is rich in traditions and I'm so thankful that I got to experience it.Taylor. . .really?  Please stop drinking -- it makes you aggressive and it's so unattractive.  I am concerned that she has not taken enough time to properly mourn the death of her husband.  The alcohol only adds poison to her open wounds. Maybe being home with her beautiful little angel is a better and safer place to get through this tough and unthinkable time of her life.

We keep going back and forth on this whole lawyer situation, here is the deal; Adrienne is using her money to intimidate Brandi with a lawsuit because she does not have the chops or communication skills to work this out like normal people do.  As we have previously discussed, and Mauricio tries to point out, Brandi hit below the belt. She was wrong and an apology is in order to Adrienne -- but if she doesn't acknowledge Brandi's phone calls, and surrounds herself with a barrier of lawyers, then this will never get resolved because Brandi does not have the money to defend herself.

Ken makes an valid point; Brandi does not have the support of a man at her side, and she is fairly defenseless, other than cussing like a sailor when backed into a corner and provoked. But I can tell you one thing: she is honest, she speaks without a filter and she does not stab people in the back so for that I love and support her!!!

Until next week, be happy and enjoy your health!

Much love and a big hug,
Yo

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Kyle: Kim and I Will Never Agree on This Matter

Kyle clarifies the Kingsley issue and responds to Brandi's most recent accusation. 

I don't want to write this blog. I didn't even want to watch this reunion, to be honest. There. I said it. But here I go....
Let's just dive right into the text message from Lisa Rinna to Kim.
I was very shocked to hear about that text. There is no excuse for that. I believe Lisa R. knows that. I can understand Kim being upset about that. I am sure she was taken aback, as we all were when we heard it. However, I don't think Lisa Rinna is a dangerous person. She just made a really bad choice.


Now onto Amsterdam and the space cake talk. Brandi went after me in Amsterdam regarding the space cake, because she doesn't like me and wanted to deflect from her own behavior once again. This was her big chance to say something about me, calling me a hypocrite for not partaking in the space cake. I have said it before, and I will say it again: I NEVER said I haven't smoked pot. I HAVE. It's just not my thing. I have a lot more fun having a few margaritas. Kim knows that. I would have appreciated her chiming in there. Also, I have NOT eaten a pot brownie or a space cake ever, and my husband had warned me that it would not suit me well, knowing my personality. You cannot gauge exactly what you're ingesting, and it wouldn't be smart. I didn't want to have a bad experience and "freak out," so to speak. Brandi herself wasn't partaking, because of her own reasons (which had to do with her divorce, as she explained), so wouldn't that make her a hypocrite then? WHY did she care if I did or did not choose to? Because she wanted to jump at the chance to make me look bad, since her behavior and her drinking had been front and center. Her drinking was out there, because she puts it out there, and she has nobody to blame but herself. If I HAD chosen to eat a space cake, she would have jumped on that, too. Anything to divert from her own actions which she was comparing to ours. All of us may have a few drinks, but NONE of us behave like her when we drink.
I only address this because it was on television. Her opinion of me is completely irrelevant to me. I only cared, because I am a mother, and her trying to make me out to be something I am not is reckless, as is everything else she does.
Ok. Enough of that. She beat that non-event to death. I think we can move on now.

Now this is the hard part...Kim and I had not spoken since Nov 1st. We both knew the situation with my daughter, Alexia, and Kim's dog, Kingsley, was bound to come up at the reunion. We don't get to pick and choose what we want to talk about.
Alexia had spent the night at Kim's house on Halloween. The next morning, Kingsley bit her. While scary, at first it didn't seem that serious. However, what the first doctor failed to notice was that the tooth had pierced the bone and also broken it. Five days later, we found out that her bone was infected and she needed surgery to clean out the bone. Kim was upset, because I had posted pictures from the hospital. Like I said at the reunion, I NEVER said her dog bit Alexia. Never mentioned her OR her dog. TMZ ended up finding out that it was Kim's dog, and she blamed me, because I posted the pictures from the hospital. I did not do that to hurt my sister in any way or to "get Instagram followers," like she suggested. With all of my family coming and going at the hospital, people were bound to find out and talk.


We were all with Alexia at the hospital trying to distract her and have fun. As any mother would do. We were all trying to make the best out of a bad situation. We invited family and friends to visit and tried to keep her spirits up. In hindsight, I wish I hadn't posted that picture, but I certainly didn't mean to hurt Kim. She posted a picture when she was in the hospital this year. Yolanda and Camille have done so regularly. And where is her responsibility in all of this? However, I do feel bad about what it has led to. And I've told her that. I also felt terrible because I know she loves Kingsley, but I also love my child. It was a difficult time for all involved. I didn't blame Kim personally regarding the dog and was willing to drop it and move forward, yet she was too angry with me regarding the Instagram post to be able to do that.
I wish that since I was willing to let go of my anger regarding my daughter being bit and what she had to go through that she could have let go of being upset about the Instagram post. I HAVE to believe she knows I did NOT do that to hurt her.
For Kim to throw out that she would say something about Alexia ( like she did to Lisa R. regarding Harry ) nearly took my breath away. But her dog is off limits?
So there you have it.
I don't even know what to say or do anymore. Clearly, we will never agree on this matter. And now we have more issues to work through, like my hurt and anger over Kim threatening to say something about my child. I know she loves Alexia, and it was just her being angry and "in the moment," but it's going to take me some time to get past that. All I know is I am glad I don't have to relive all of this again on TV. Now I need to take a step back .
Hopefully, time will heal my relationship with Kim. Time and having an open and honest relationship.
It's been a very difficult season. That's for sure. Thank you all for watching.
XO,
Kyle

P.S
Some things I would like to clear up:

A) I NEVER asked for Kingsley to be put down. I love all animals and know how much Kim loves Kingsley. That was never part of our argument.

B) Brooke's wedding : Brooke did a small ceremony at my sister Kathy's house (part of it aired this season), so that Monty would be well enough to walk her down the aisle. The wedding we were referring to at the reunion is her actual "big wedding " coming up. And NO, I did not do anything "unspeakable" or "unforgivable" at the wedding at Kathy's house like Brandi has (once again) put out there. It was a beautiful, perfect day that Brandi Glanville is now trying to throw negativity on. She was NOT EVEN THERE. On top of everything else Brandi has done, she now wants to turn that beautiful day that my family celebrated into something to lie and gossip about. Shame on her.

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