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Yolanda on the Brandi-Adrienne Feud

Yolanda reflects on cleansing with Kyle, catching up with Kim, and the big show-down at the Moroccan restaurant.

Hi everyone! I hope you had a great week and are getting back into the swing of things and ready to tackle 2013 head-on.

Thanks for all your well wishes; I am on day 40 of my IV antibiotic treatments with hopefully only 30 more to go. I am starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel and hoping to get back to my normal life sooner than later. I have a new respect and sympathy for any of you out there battling a chronic and/or debilitating disease.

I have been enjoying the blog process because I am fascinated with the different perspectives on our stories. Like I say every week, I am just giving my view, but, as my husband pointed out, a point of view by definition can often seem judgmental. But in my heart, I'm always trying to help, not hurt. I am also learning that since English is not my first language I sometimes don't use the correct words and some things definitely get lost in translation.  It was so much easier to do my Dutch show where I got to think and speak in my own language. However, I will continue to try and do better.

I wasn't going to spend any more time and energy on the Scheana-Eddie story. Of course, there are so many cheaters in this town -- well in this world to be exact! It just infuriates me to think he cheated on Brandi while she was pregnant with his child. It's just even more unconscionable and really shows that this man has no moral compass either. Again, Brandi is so lucky to be far away from him and his dysfunctional ways. . .Seeing Lisa and Brandi is emotional and very endearing. That's what our relationships with girlfriends should be like, shouldn't it?  Lisa has been a great support system for Brandi and she is lucky to have her as a friend. Hopefully viewers realize that even here in Beverly Hills, where our lives seem so perfect and glamorous from the outside (with the big houses, champagne and red carpets), in reality, we are all dealing with similar life problems. Trust me, at the end of the day, we all put our pants on one leg at a time.

I was happy to see Kyle and finally get some one-on-one time with her. We were able to connect and I could share the best side of me. . .The bee hives, lemon trees, and gardens, which is where I feel most comfortable. It's always hard to get to know new friends intimately within a big group and I appreciated her coming all the way to Malibu. I rarely go to Beverly Hills to have lunch or shop with the girls, so I am not a great girlfriend that way but I do enjoy sharing health, fitness, and life experiences with them. Even though the Master Cleanse is not for everyone (please consult your doctor first) it made such a big impact in my life so I am always so excited to share this with others.

I really pushed for Kim to come over, but unfortunately that never happened. I have no idea why she doesn't remember planning our day together, but hopefully we can still do it some other time when she is ready to commit.  Commitment seems to be a reoccurring problem with Kim. I felt Kyle to be very sincere when talking about Kim being her hero growing up and how magic she was. You can tell there is a lot of love but also a lot of pain there. Ultimately though, everyone is responsible for their own actions.

I agree with the life coach: Kim looks amazing and I am pulling for her. There is some deep-rooted stuff going on that we on the outside world will never truly understand. I wish Kim and Kyle would choose to go to therapy together to try to heal these wounds and move on to a relationship their mom would have been proud of. It is time to look forward and forget about the past. With every sunrise there is a promise of a new and better day!I love watching Lisa at work. She truly is a solid business woman with a fabulous sense of style. 

OK, let's talk about Ken.  How adorable is he? It's nice to see him wanting to reconnect with Lisa in such a special way. . .A pink swing with ribbons and a heart shaped flower garden planted with his own bare hands! Now that's romance at its best! You know I am all about romance, so Ken is a man after my own heart. I say, "Get wise, keep your romance alive." I loved seeing Lisa on the swing; it's great to see the playful little girl in her.

Dinner at the Moroccan restaurant was another public drama. Kim has a knack for bringing up ultra-sensitive issues at inappropriate times. I do think that the conversation is extremely important for them to have, but not so sure a Moroccan restaurant amongst belly dancers is the best venue.  I wish Kim would have just phoned me to say it is not a good time for her to do a cleanse, rather than act as if we never made a plan.  I did not have any expectations from her, other than her showing up! I was only trying to offer her friendship and support.

Being at the Moroccan restaurant and the belly dancers brought back happy memories in my past because they were present at many family celebrations during my previous life when I was married to Mohamed. The Arab culture, like so many other cultures, is rich in traditions and I'm so thankful that I got to experience it.Taylor. . .really?  Please stop drinking -- it makes you aggressive and it's so unattractive.  I am concerned that she has not taken enough time to properly mourn the death of her husband.  The alcohol only adds poison to her open wounds. Maybe being home with her beautiful little angel is a better and safer place to get through this tough and unthinkable time of her life.

We keep going back and forth on this whole lawyer situation, here is the deal; Adrienne is using her money to intimidate Brandi with a lawsuit because she does not have the chops or communication skills to work this out like normal people do.  As we have previously discussed, and Mauricio tries to point out, Brandi hit below the belt. She was wrong and an apology is in order to Adrienne -- but if she doesn't acknowledge Brandi's phone calls, and surrounds herself with a barrier of lawyers, then this will never get resolved because Brandi does not have the money to defend herself.

Ken makes an valid point; Brandi does not have the support of a man at her side, and she is fairly defenseless, other than cussing like a sailor when backed into a corner and provoked. But I can tell you one thing: she is honest, she speaks without a filter and she does not stab people in the back so for that I love and support her!!!

Until next week, be happy and enjoy your health!

Much love and a big hug,
Yo

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Lisa R.: I Am Horrified By the Way Kim Treats Kyle

Lisa R. talks about what drove her to throw the glass.

Have you ever put a bunch of ingredients in the blender, hit power on only to realize that you forgot to put the lid on, so it sprays everywhere? This is exactly how my brain feels after this episode. There has been so much going on and so much building up that finally everything has just exploded into a million pieces.

What a relief it was to see Eileen and Lisa V. arrive in Amsterdam. It was only a tiny calm before the storm, though, because sh-- hit the fan almost immediately. As I watch the show today, there are so many little details and nuances that I'd forgotten in the months since the trip.

As soon as we sat down for dinner, you can see how aggressive and extremely discontent Kim Richards was sitting among us, waiting for the slightest thing to provoke her anger. She looked at whoever was speaking with disdain, just waiting to challenge them. Yolanda was a gracious hostess, though, and tried to make the best of what appeared to be a rocky beginning to the night. I, for one, found Yolanda's suggestion that we each discuss something in our lives that has moved us deeply to be heartfelt and touching.

As I spoke of my own sister dying at age 21 of a sleeping pill and alcohol overdose when I was six years old, I really allowed myself to become vulnerable among these women. I trusted each of them to let me tell my story and perhaps allow my words to be a bonding experience, so I took the opportunity to once again apologize to Kim for overstepping a boundary of hers. Had I known that sharing a story so deeply rooted inside of me would cause Kim to lash out at Eileen, Kyle, and myself, I would have never opened my mouth and allowed us to be left open to her uncontrollable anger and spiteful words.

The insults she continued to hurl at Eileen were terribly disgusting and hurtful. To sit there and insult her physical appearance, call her a “beast,” and tell her to shut her f---ing mouth was just beyond. I mean, even to this day, all I can do is stare in wide-eyed horror and shake my head in disgust. As for Kyle, I wouldn’t presume to get in the middle of family matters, but I am horrified by the way Kim treats her. I can only hope they find a way to settle their differences because this is just so NOT OK.

I'm just glad that I didn't strangle her on the spot, mainly because I hear the food in jail sucks and orange is not my best color! 

Lisa Rinna

Again it was Yolanda who tried to bring a little dignity and class back into the conversation. Unfortunately, Kim twisted what Yolanda was trying to do into a deflection away from her own behavior and onto my husband and me. Where on earth did that come from? I am fiercely protective of my marriage and my family, and I'll be damned if I let someone as disturbed as she create false rumors about my husband. I think it's plain to see that Kim crossed the line. That was my "DO NOT F--- WITH ME" moment. You have just met my inner gangster! I'm just glad that I didn't strangle her on the spot, mainly because I hear the food in jail sucks and orange is not my best color! The crazy part is Kim has met HH once. One time. And that was the night of the poker party when she had taken one or two or 20 of Monty’s pain pills, so who knows what on earth was going through her mind when she met him or during that car ride from hell.

Look, I own the fact that I allowed myself to be provoked, and it was uncool to break a glass in the restaurant. It was not one of my finest moments, but there's only so much my inner gangster can take before she goes postal. It was all very draining, and by the time we got to our conversation the next morning, I was really over it and not looking for another fight. Besides, we were in Amsterdam for God's sake, and it was beautiful and I wasn't about to let Kim, of all people, ruin my short time there, so I stopped reminding Kim that I had, in fact, come directly to her with my concerns and just took the high road.

Chaos and anger aside, I really loved being in Amsterdam, especially with such a wonderful and generous tour guide as Yolanda. Riding bikes through her quaint village to the windmills was refreshing, cathartic, and good for the soul. The cake eating was pretty funny and then, of course, more drama ensued, which I couldn't get away from fast enough. I was in survival mode already just trying to get through the evening, let alone another five days.

More from Amsterdam next week...

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