be wise and don't alienate lisa...she was your friend when you had none. you know how it is when you are single...married women want nothing to do with you....lisa was not like that. I have a friend who is a few years older than I am and very affluent too...she can be bossy and likes to be in charge of being in charge. I know she loves me so what do I give a $hit if she wants to be the boss of everything? the way I see is...these ladies are busy and actually care enough to pipe in. be wise...lisa is not a "good time" friend...she is steady, reliable and loyal...don't mess it up. remember all of your behavior is going to be in reruns for your kids to see...and their friends...try not to do things that will make them horrified in front of their friends...it's not all about you anymore.