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Carlton on Why Kyle's Words Affected Her

Carlton explains why she broke down to Lisa about Kyle's accusation and on why she can't see Lisa as the enemy.

I am so proud of my incredible husband and for my family to celebrate their businesses, StockCross, along with Gebbia Custom Estates, Rival Sports, and Park Wilshire Insurance having such a positive presence in Beverly Hills. Celebrating 40 years is huge, especially for a family run company. Shockingly they still love one another after working so close together. Although I have chased both my brothers-in-law around the office, they truly are like my real brothers, as my mother-in-law and father-in-law are like family. My father-in-law is such an amazing man and one whom I truly have such respect for.

Here's a little history about David's father: His mother and father were Sicilian Immigrants who came over on the Saturina in 1949 and arrived at Ellis Island. They wanted a better life for their two children. My father-in-law started with nothing and had a vision. My hubby David and his two brothers Richie and John were first generation Sicilian Americans born in Brooklyn New York. In 1992 the family bought their first Beverly Hills business and David moved to Beverly Hills. Now, as a family, they have all provided an incredible legacy for their children and grandchildren. Because of their unity and hearts, the business is the success it is today. Now we are present in 14 cities nationwide, and some employees have been with us for 20 and 30 years. It's a huge testament to what an incredible family they are. They've always made it about their employees and their clients. There is so much to be said for family hands on businesses especially in such a corporate world.

It was important for us to celebrate this huge milestone. Having such a great presence in Beverly Hills for the last 20 years we wanted to say "thank you" to our clients. Alex Stettinski from the Beverly Hills Chamber of Commerce was so supportive and instrumental in helping make this amazing celebration materialize into the successful night that it was with over 1000 clients, business owners, celebrities, friends, and family turning out! Unfortunately you did not get to see the gorgeous exotic cars. I had my eye on the new Lamborghini! We had restaurants such as Crustaceans, Bouchon, Nicks Martini Bar, Calavera Tequila, and Deep Eddie Vodka set up their fantastic areas. It looked spectacular. Plus the amazing live band London Cries performed. It truly was an amazing and successful night.

I love working with my husband we have such great chemistry. Helping my family orchestrate this huge affair was soooo fun. Eric Tassel who is not our event coordinator but is our corporate service director did a phenomenal job too. We all work really well together and got really silly in the process.

I will admit it was really hard to watch myself get emotional and remember my own personal experience with prejudice and hate. Some may not think that being called anti-Semitic is not devastating to hear -- but I was fourteen years old when I moved to South Africa. I understand hate. I had friends before I left England who were black so when I moved to this land foreign to me at such a pinnacle age of my life it was a major culture shock. I couldn't have black friends and it made no sense whatsoever to me. I didn't understand apartheid and nor did I adhere to it. I was really harassed for that. I was at an all white public school, and when I was 14 and I had to do a paper on Evil World leaders. My paper was on the Holocaust and the evil horrific atrocities, the systematic extermination and ethnic cleansing of millions of Jewish people and the millions who were not Caucasian. I spent days in the library doing the research, and I will never ever forget the gruesome photos of the ovens, the rulers to measure nose size, the trucks with the gas sprinklers, and all the death and pure evil I read about still to this day. That's pure hate. So to be called such a hateful name by someone who is so reckless with a word that should have meaning to her but who obviously has no respect and understanding for her adopted faith is shocking and gut wrenching. That's why it affected me so deeply.

Speaking with Lisa about the whole Kyle ordeal was painful again, but after explaining I knew she saw my point of view. I definitely think Lisa was absolutely right about Kyle after watching the flashbacks from last year. And now Kyle keeps speaking negatively about Lisa behind her back at every opportunity she has, then smiles to her face. But Lisa consistently defends Kyle to me.  As if I didn't have enough reasons to dislike her. I personally know Lisa to be a wonderful soul, certainly not mean or manipulating, and she always seems to be the voice of reason. I don't like watching some of the women starting to talk negatively about her. That has not been my experience with her at all.

Just to be very clear here Kyle you were "never" invited to my husband and family's business celebration. Reality check.

I adore Brandi but with all due respect she called it wrong. Brandi wasn't actually there when she hurled the defamatory anti-Semitic lie. So, no I strongly disagree with that. Also she has had first hand experience and repercussions with false accusations being called a racist. There has to be consequences for people that just throw out dangerous and baseless lies and then pathetically apologize like it's no big deal.

Lisa looked stunning for her magazine cover shoot, and congratulations to Yolanda on becoming an American citizen. It's the best feeling especially when we do consider America home.

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Brandi: You Can't Confirm What Didn't Happen

Brandi questions some of the ladies' motives, plus gives an interesting update on her relationship with LeAnn. 

Hey, My Bravoistas!

I’m in my American Airlines' seat 36 hours later, flying back home from NYC, thankful to be on a safe path home. My prayers go out to the families and loved ones of the downed German airliner in the French Alps this morning. I cannot imagine the pain being experienced by these families at this moment, which shockingly has led me to add a new person into my flight prayer today...my children’s stepmom. Don’t get me wrong--not everything is yet copasetic, but my children love her, so she is now in the “flight prayer,” differences aside. Now on a happier RHOBH note, last night’s WWHL with Andy was sooooo fun! No drama for once!

NEWS FLASH! Please watch for my new Sonoma County Chardonnay “Unfiltered Blonde,” to launch in April!

As I look over this past season, all I can say is it’s been an odd one. There were so many fun moments that got lost in the drama and so many weeks of fun you never saw at all. I wish you had, but I'm not in control of everything we get to see. I’d like to remember having fun with Kim “stalking” my now boyfriend J.R. That was such a crazy fun girls' night, Lisa R. being chased by killer bees, Yolanda and her Facetime confusion and meeting her family for the second time this--time in Holland, the Foster Foundation Extravaganza, “singing” at Lisa V.’s birthday party, and Kyle pretending to be a caring sister and owning yachts and planes…haha.
Ok, I’ll behave.

Here we are at the last episode of the season, yet, it seems most are still stuck in the beginning. I wish we weren’t, and I would dearly like to leave “Poker Night” behind. However, one person continues to make it the focal point of every interaction from when it happened and far into the three-part reunion.

This episode opens with Rinna tearing down a swing set, but her home interviews are still about what she perceives as Kim’s issues to be, not the actual touching moment of what the swing set tear-down symbolizes or her own family (I can't wait for her daughters to write their Brooke Shields-style memoir when they are age appropriate). LR says she feels sorry for Kim and cares about Kim and wishes Kim well. The truth is a lot less pretty. Some people have been attacking Kim’s sobriety online this week, but we won’t name names. BTW, Kim is sober and not online. She is busy caring for serious ill family members and driving back and forth to doctors and hospitals and being strong for her family.

Next we see Nicky Hilton’s book signing--sister Paris and mom Kathy Hilton are there. Looks like a great party and congrats to Nicky on her style book. Camille looks gorgeous as usual. Kyle angrily flips her hair, because Kim was wearing a shirt that she carries at “her” shop, but didn’t buy it there...whatever. Then Kyle whispers about her sister Kim to Lisa V. and Camille.
Kyle then tells them she is confused and impatient that Kim hasn’t confronted me over her third-hand Lisa R. gossip. She states Kim WILL be hurt and broken hearted over what “I” said… Kyle seems way too overy excited about that happening, which I find kind creepy. Why would anyone WANT their sister to be hurt or in pain?!

The preparations for Adrienne’s party are in full swing next. Lisa V. is fretting it, Kim is casually discussing the intervention GOSSIP with her makeup artist before the party, I’m getting ready and waiting for my friends and my date.

Adrienne’s party is the big finale of our journey this year. Everyone is there, and Adrienne always excels at events. So here we go. First off, my mind was not on the party at all. My father was recently hospitalized, and I didn’t leave his side for two weeks. It was very serious, but I had to return home to my boys. He was still not conscious, but I needed to get home to run my household--a party was the last place I wanted to be, but I had promised. That’s why I decided to bring the few people that I felt I could depend on in that moment. My friends and J.R. have been there for me during my father’s health scare and over more then a month of hospitalization--that was and is what remains what’s important to me.

The party seems like it was fun for a lot of people who weren’t involved in Kyle and Lisa. R.’s drama. I wish I were one of them, but in a way I was. As much as Kyle relished telling Kim the hurtful gossip she heard from LR, what she wanted to happen didn’t happen. There was no argument between Kim and I. We were happy to see each other. We spoke easily. I was busy worrying about my Dad; she was busy with her family.

What we saw on the finale was an efficient Kim quietly confronting Lisa R., then leaving Lisa R.'s table somewhat amused. Lisa R. couldn’t confirm the veracity of her gossip, because I DIDN’T SAY IT. Thanks again to Bravo for showing the truth in a flashback last week.

So, Kim knew who was who and what was what. The entertainment of the night was provided by Lisa R. going radio silent while Kyle begged for corroboration on her dramatic intervention gossip. Watching Yolanda, Eileen, and Lisa V. urge Lisa R. to support Kyle and verify her hurtful gossip was almost amusing. You can't confirm what didn't happen, can you?

In the end, I left the party early. Why? Not because of a past friendship with Lisa V. It's not her that made me cry--I was crying for my father, my dad! I was in no place to be at a superficial party, discussing a superficial incident with a person who was clearly not a friend, not that night. I said I would show up, and I did. After that, I wanted to be with my real close friends and family. Since this party my dad came out of the ICU and after 2 entire months and after a long stressful time I want to thank Dr. Allen Morris and all the doctors and nurses at Mercy General Hospital of Sacramento for saving my dad's life yet agin for the second time in 15 years. He is doing much better and continuing his hope of a full recovery. I am so thankful to all the people who were there for me and continue to be here for my family and I.

THAT is what life’s about, being with the people who truly love and care about you and the feelings are reciprocated.

As you hear, at the end of the finale, I am wistful, yet, wiser, and I think in a stronger place. I love and loved being there for Kim and being Kim’s friend, and I love that she was, is, and has been here for me. Even more so, I'm grateful and blessed to have Yolanda in my life; she is no bullsh--. Even when suffering herself, she is still so selfless. Yo is very special to me, I love her, she gets me, we have fun together, and I value every moment we spend together. I always will. As for the rest, I hope to share laughs and fun again, maybe tears, but hopefully only joy.

Peace Out. (deuces MFs--JK)

XOXO,

B

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