Carlton Gebbia

Carlton wonders why Kyle speaks about her religion  differently than others and dissects Brandi's use of the "c word."

on Nov 18, 20130

Hello! OK before I start I'm going to get a little deep here. . .Like a lot of people out there I didn't experience the most positive childhood. There were definite times of darkness surrounding me, and I dealt with mine the way I knew how. But that was a long time ago, and that, part although dark, is sacred to me. What I believe and practice now is only Light. I honestly believe that if you can survive darkness of any kind and still emerge pure of heart, then there is truly no one who can bring you down. Only you yourself have the power to do that because whatever is thrown at you pales in comparison to what you've already survived. You will still have those scars, but unconditional love of oneself and self-forgiveness are our spiritual healers.

Alright then moving on. . .I invited all of the girls over for lunch thinking it was a great way to get to know them. It was at least a relaxed environment, not a stiff business setting. And, yes even with Kyle, I thought let's give this another shot. We'd be siting inside with no signs of bees, that was a good start in my book.

Elizy, my bfff and nanny to my son, was going to help me setup -- but with her and I, not much would get accomplished. She truly brings out the naughtiness and silliness in me. She says the most inappropriate things, and I love her. Carmina, a wonderful lady, would take care of my son, and my hubby would pick up our girls from school. I also had some of my girlfriends helping me out, which would be fun. They're incredible and there is nothing more beautiful than a secure, smart girl who embraces other women and isn't bloody insecure or jealous. When you have girlfriends, it is about empowering each other and wanting the best for them. For me, the beauty of a person is of course relative, and what I find beautiful, someone may not. But it has to start from within. I love me a good soul!

Yolanda arrived first gliding in like the stunning model she is. We had a good amount of time to chat and giggle before everyone got there. She looked f---ing stunning! I really connected with Yolanda the first time we met at the BHCC cocktail party. She completely went out of her way to make me feel welcomed there. First impressions always resonate with me -- it's something I always pay heed to. We sat at the bar for awhile and spoke about our children, of course, and how edible babies are. I'm sure there a few out there that may think I eat my young! I promise I don't. . .at least not lately! She has a wicked sense of humor and is quite spiritual, which was also a pleasant surprise. Initially I wasn't familiar with Lyme Disease, but what this woman has been through and endures daily truly shows her warrior spirit. It's inspiring.

632 comments
RedHotChiliEpper
RedHotChiliEpper

The ignoramus is one who cannot answer simple questions. She didn't have a nasty tone. While you are loving all of nature's creatures, please, remember humans are creatures, too. 

housewifefan2012
housewifefan2012

Carlton is interesting. There seems to be a lot of innuendo about her sexuality, but time will tell where she is headed with that one, lol. Too funny the way she was looking at Brandy and seeing her run from Brandy when Brandy was drunk in her room makes you wonder what that was all about. lol

Reallifewife
Reallifewife

Carlton you are so rude and such a hypocrite. You have a problem with Kyle and Joyce no matter what they say or do. Brandi can make all of the ignorant comments she wants and use disgusting foul language and you think it's adorable. Just admit that you decided that you weren't going to like Kyle before you even came on the show. You said that women could rule the world if we could just get out of each other's way. Why don't you try practicing what you preach. You were sooo jealous when you went shopping with Kyle and the sales clerk complimented Kyle on her figure, you were rolling your eyes and you made some nasty comment. You are way to old to behave that way.

KT75
KT75

whoooaaa, Carlton, you need to calm down about Kyle.  Yes, she's a little flippant and asks whatever ? pops into her head without thinking but she did NOT appear to have malintent.  I think you're looking for a reason to not like her.... that seems very obvious. 

 

CapeCoddess
CapeCoddess

Ms. C. have you ever heard you get what you give?

jewelofthenorth
jewelofthenorth

Too bad the STUPID comment Carlton made:  "and POOF" comment didn't mean:  "AND WITH THAT, POOF!  CARLTON WAS GONE!!"

JessPikey
JessPikey

I'm a Carlton fan through and through. She won me over when she said that she loves women, they could rule the world if they could just get over themselves. I hope they get over themselves this season! I'm addicted to the Housewives shows but they are just so anti women! I really hope they come together for the greater good and get over their egos this season. Carlton is a breath of fresh air! I'm rooting for her.

Atrain
Atrain

I am thoroughly enjoying the addition of Carlton. She's such a different type of women than all of these other cookie-cutter California girls. She's very interesting (and completely right about Kyle's BS and Joyce's horrid comments).

MsChocolate220
MsChocolate220

A lot of you guys missed it..... She LOVES blind women... And not impressed with brunettes..... She was immediately attracted to yolanda and Brandi... Even though she has a brunette in her house during the luncheon but mostly blondes.... But I like carlton....

frustratedwithangryhousewives
frustratedwithangryhousewives

I do not have a problem with your faith. My 21 year old daughter is fascinated by many faiths including Wica, she is trying to find her way and her place. I am christian I always have been and always will be so it is hard for me to watch her explore. However she is my child I love her an I respect her right to find what works for her so long as she is not doing anything evil.   I say this because I have seen her in the company of new people and people she barely knows and when someone asks her about her belief's she gladly talks about what she is learning. She is not defensive and she is not rude. I witnessed her explain herself to pastor on thanksgiving. He is lovely man but he is 80 and firm in his beliefs, not judgemental but firm. Now I know he was thinking my poor child was lost and hoped she will someday find her way to Jesus by his gentle responses to her. Perhaps she is young and nieve and she was just happy to share, BUT clearly she was not insulted by the entire groups inquistive looks with  a few eye rolls. 

  I did not find Kyle to be rude, I found her curious. As much as we have evolved to a more accepting society some religions are still new to many, some behaviors also.  You have to know that most people's homes do not have confession booths, they do not look so gothic. It is fine you like those things but you have to know someone will ask. Kyle most likely asked the questions everyone was thinking.

You want tolerance but yet you only have tolerence for whom you see as acceptable in your eyes, when their questions are acceptable in your eyes. When was Kyle suppose to ask the questions? After she left your house, should she have called you on the phone..and said Carlton I see you have a dark house with more crosses I have ever seen and a confessional booth...were you raised catholic? Or how about those Withces Balls all over your yard, have you ever practiced witch craft???  In your eyes that woudl ahve been wrong too.

  Perhaps if you did not like her questions you could have said...I know my relgion is different than yours and if you would like to meet for lunch sometime I would be happy to tell you all about it and answer any questions you may have.

  If I were those ladies I would never ask about your beliefs even though I am curious because you clearly are very defensive and who wants to fight about religion.

Sorry this is so long, but Yolanda is very health consious, very natural, it is who she is, just as you are who you are and your home is who you are. However  when you go to her home she has no problem of you asking about her healthy life style and her cleansing drinks, she is so happy to share that part of herself. Perhaps you shoudl be happy to share yourself also when asked.

TK810
TK810

why do u hate?

BLenore
BLenore

With Carlton, it's not about what's said, it's about who says it. What a joke. She has officially earned the title "Queen of the Double Standard". Get over yourself Carlton. 

Tea_For_Two
Tea_For_Two

 @RoseWilde  If Carlton changes herself first,  and become goody two shoes doesn't mean everyone else will ! The other women will stay  same catty back stabbing selves and then Carlton will be just an easy pray for all of them. She is just playing by the rules of the jungle,like everyone else. I don't think she is a mean person at heart.

Tea_For_Two
Tea_For_Two

Bravo, thank you for new and different character on this show -Carlton. She stays !

Carlton, you looked beautiful in a lingerie store and at the lunch. Confident,calm...Good for you !

Send you my love.

Cheers :)

RHONYC
RHONYC

what's up with the 'BLACK' BABY'S CRIB in her bedroom?????  8-o

 i'm sure it has some significance to her faith, but on screen it read 'HEL-LO ROSEMARY'S BABY!'  

 LoL ;-D

 

pamgbrl
pamgbrl

Can't stand you - ohhh also you are not pretty at all infact you are pretty ugly!

Kathleen422
Kathleen422

I say this with love, young pretty girls like Miley have used foul language to shock people with the disparity between their pretty faces and their trash language for 100 years. Nothing new or shocking there. You however, do not have the sweet young face to pull it off. You look cheap.

elizabeth.fisher.589
elizabeth.fisher.589

Carlton, I. Adore. You.  I love how you are true to yourself, and not phony like Kyle and Kim, who have long outlived their usefulness on this show.

JstHappy
JstHappy

could somebody please get this "tales from the crypt" character off this show!!! I am begging!!!

Sara.Bellum.1
Sara.Bellum.1

When just meeting people, you don't ask such weird, judgmental and personal questions. Obviously, Kyle comes off as judgmental (watch her when someone is talking to her, she looks them up and down). My case and point, Kyle asked Carlton about her religion. Carlton is very intuitive and knew what place Kyle was coming from. It was just moments later that Kyle was with Kim and Joyce looking at dolls in Carlton's home behind (Carlton's) back, passing judgment on the gifts she had received (dolls). Carlton has Kyle figured out and isn't going to be a part of it.

Beacon22
Beacon22

You are sad and a ridiculous example of a woman. You are so jealous of Kyle it's make me throw up a little. Hehe

brnbetty
brnbetty

You annoy me! You are whiny and you think you're better than everyone else.  I am hoping this will be your first and last season women like you that judge other women ALL the time have deeper issues they need to deal with.  Please get a life and a sense of humor soon. 

Ashleysama
Ashleysama

You have done the impossible...you have made me care for Kyle...

Doghouse
Doghouse

Oh for God's sake, this woman is a blast so far. Everything is stated tongue in cheek, can't you all see that? She's bringing some fun instead of the tears of the foolish Richards sisters.

SharonElayne
SharonElayne

You are Evil, Mean Vicious Evil, Evil, Evil

Tea_For_Two
Tea_For_Two

Carlton's "Women can rule the world if we got the f*ck out  the way of ourselves..."  is a very good but wishful thinking.

After reading some of the blogs, It will happen when hell freezes over.

graeclark2001
graeclark2001

For someone who doesn't want negativity in her life..... you have only negative remarks in your blog......hmmmm, perhaps you profess too much!!!

 

CarmenS
CarmenS

You are extremely hypocritical. You ridiculed one women for dropping how big her husband is and then turn around and do it yourself. You say you hate the c word and claim that women should be empowering each other and not tearing each other down and then you give Brandi a pass for calling you the c word. Um how is that empowering women? Then to top it off you lambasted Klye in your blog for being ignorant about you religion, but you don't take that as an opportunity to teach her about your Faith. The best way to fight prejudice is education, not by being stanoffish and superior. When Kyle made her comment about witches and brooms you should of turned around and said no we don't ride around on brooms we believe in blah blah blah. It would have been the perfect educational monument for both Kyle and the viewers. Instead you were cold and judgemental. Your choice but like it or not you are currently the public face for Wicca for a lot of people who don't know what it is or what it stands for, and you are not giving it a first good impression.

mermaidbch
mermaidbch

Instead of you getting offended and judgmental, you could have enlighten and educate everyone about your beliefs. You have a Gothic home, with crosses, and a confessional, yet you have this attitude where you get so defensive. You missed an opportunity to be open and inviting. 

katiedidmomsaid
katiedidmomsaid

you know, I wonder that this wasn't all planned! we see your fave girl, brandi, make nicey with kyle when she gets in a fight with lisa so where does that leave you? doing a 180 and liking kyle?

katiedidmomsaid
katiedidmomsaid

wow. just wow. you have hung out with kyle and joyce three times, in social settings, at this point, yet you feel you know them well enough to judge them so meanly,,so harshly.

man! I have disliked kyle for a long time now but you're actually making me like her now. dude, you are behaving  beyond the beyond of hypocritical and I only hope its for shock value. it seems pretty apparent that kyle was just being friendly towards you but you appear to have a preconceived notion or vendetta against her because there is no way a reasonable person could make these judgments after such a short period of time stemmed from a few very un-intimate encounters.

CapeCoddess
CapeCoddess

 @JessPikey  If you ever meet her, would you ask her if women should rule the world, how she plans to treat those needed to further the female dynasty she desires?

CapeCoddess
CapeCoddess

 @TK810 Perhaps her beliefs do not include love. Or perhaps she hates herself.

CapeCoddess
CapeCoddess

 @Tea_For_Two  @RoseWilde  Her dour face & choice to be on this show says otherwise-just like she says her money doesn't talk it....swears! She is a controversy waiting for a reason.

JessPikey
JessPikey

 @Tea_For_Two  @RoseWilde

 Yep. I agree she is playing by the rules of the jungle but you can tell she has a good heart when she speaks.

zocola
zocola

 @Sara.Bellum.1

 There were crosses all over the walls! Crosses signify death. Kyle was just thinking that it was religious. She was being nice.  Listen, Kyle might be a snooty BH girl but she's not evil. How does one get to know a person if they don't ask questions. It is POLITE to show interest in someone else and FRIENDLY to ask questions to show your interest. Carlton hates Kyle because of Kyle's beauty and Kyle's  being so straight. Open your eyes, Carlton is nasty.

 

Tea_For_Two
Tea_For_Two

 @Beacon22 WHY would she be jealous of Kyle ??? It's a mystery to me why women think she is jealous of ANYBODY :-/

Reallifewife
Reallifewife

@Doghouse There is no tongue in cheek where Carlton is concerned. She is a hypocritical, judgmental, mean and nasty person who needs to lighten up. Carlton takes herself way to seriously. Anyone would be curious about her faith after visiting her home. If she isn't ashamed of it then it shouldn't bother her to be asked a few questions, and those dolls were creepy, in fact the whole house was creepy.

CapeCoddess
CapeCoddess

 @Doghouse  Is that so? Alrighty then,  She should get real and give the same sum of money she must have spent to do her tongue & cheek gag using a castle as a home complete with decor that was the entire eBay category of Gothical Wicka Confliction, to those people without a home, or food.  She probably save enough to also buy a true sense of humor, some self depreciation, and a ladder. Not to get off her high horse, but to climb out of a dank hole her lack of humor has landed her in.  Wanna rethink that tongue in cheek comment? I'm sure she's all that when it comes to tongue in cheek, down throat...yep. But tongue in cheek, as in ha, ha? Nope, I don't think that's the case.

texasviewer
texasviewer

 @Doghouse Carlton's a little edgy, but I do believe she cares very much about her family.  She certainly is not going to take any BS off anyone.  What you see is what you get.  She's as Lisa said, "very direct."    She seems to be hard to get to know, but she also comes across as one who is not going to take just anyone's word about something without getting to know them in return.  That takes time.  I think maybe the reason she was offended by Kyle's line of questioning is maybe because of the tone Kyle had, more than the question itself.  You can usually tell if someone is actually interested in getting the answer to what they are asking you or is just making small talk.

Tea_For_Two
Tea_For_Two

 @Doghouse Love your post :) I am totally with you - Carlton is a blast so far :) but not all see that, not even majority. Oh well...

RoseWilde
RoseWilde

 @Tea_For_Two The fact that she's even entertaining the idea of 'ruling the world' is a red flag. Gender should have nothing to do with. Righteousness, regardless of sex, should be the determining factor in the people that are to lead. Which she isn't. We don't need another Napoleon, male OR female. Thanks but no thanks.

JessPikey
JessPikey

 @zocola  @Sara.Bellum.1

 I agree with half of what you said about Kyle and I completely disagree that Carlton is "nasty". I think the two are very much alike and they are mirrors of one another. Remember when Kyle brought the Zohar on the airplane so it wouldn't crash? They are BOTH spiritual people who want to be queen bee. Kyle's ego has grown significantly in the past few years where Carlton is new to the show. I want to see to see the two of them become friends. I'm a Kyle fan and I like Carlton. I would love to see an alliance form between Carlton, the Richards, and Brandi. That leaves Yolanda, Joyce, and Lisa (yuck).

Tea_For_Two
Tea_For_Two

 @RoseWilde I think Carlton came from a good place making that statement. She stated women in general are capable of a lot of things as much as men....if we ever stop being catty,gossipy, name calling, jealous of each other's success and accept each other as we are without judgement...which will never happen and the posts on this blog are a living prove to it.