Kyle's Words Show What an Ignoramus She Is
Carlton wonders why Kyle speaks about her religion differently than others and dissects Brandi's use of the "c word."
Hello! OK before I start I'm going to get a little deep here. . .Like a lot of people out there I didn't experience the most positive childhood. There were definite times of darkness surrounding me, and I dealt with mine the way I knew how. But that was a long time ago, and that, part although dark, is sacred to me. What I believe and practice now is only Light. I honestly believe that if you can survive darkness of any kind and still emerge pure of heart, then there is truly no one who can bring you down. Only you yourself have the power to do that because whatever is thrown at you pales in comparison to what you've already survived. You will still have those scars, but unconditional love of oneself and self-forgiveness are our spiritual healers.
Alright then moving on. . .I invited all of the girls over for lunch thinking it was a great way to get to know them. It was at least a relaxed environment, not a stiff business setting. And, yes even with Kyle, I thought let's give this another shot. We'd be siting inside with no signs of bees, that was a good start in my book.
Elizy, my bfff and nanny to my son, was going to help me setup -- but with her and I, not much would get accomplished. She truly brings out the naughtiness and silliness in me. She says the most inappropriate things, and I love her. Carmina, a wonderful lady, would take care of my son, and my hubby would pick up our girls from school. I also had some of my girlfriends helping me out, which would be fun. They're incredible and there is nothing more beautiful than a secure, smart girl who embraces other women and isn't bloody insecure or jealous. When you have girlfriends, it is about empowering each other and wanting the best for them. For me, the beauty of a person is of course relative, and what I find beautiful, someone may not. But it has to start from within. I love me a good soul!
Yolanda arrived first gliding in like the stunning model she is. We had a good amount of time to chat and giggle before everyone got there. She looked f---ing stunning! I really connected with Yolanda the first time we met at the BHCC cocktail party. She completely went out of her way to make me feel welcomed there. First impressions always resonate with me -- it's something I always pay heed to. We sat at the bar for awhile and spoke about our children, of course, and how edible babies are. I'm sure there a few out there that may think I eat my young! I promise I don't. . .at least not lately! She has a wicked sense of humor and is quite spiritual, which was also a pleasant surprise. Initially I wasn't familiar with Lyme Disease, but what this woman has been through and endures daily truly shows her warrior spirit. It's inspiring.
I met Brandi, Kim, Joyce and Kyle with smiles honestly hoping that we (Kyle, Joyce, and I) had just got off to an unfortunate start. I was happy to see Brandi, as she was another I immediately clicked with. She's completely uncensored, and I appreciated her humor when we first met at the BHCC. But what's impressive is how after divorce she has been able to take care of herself financially.
Anyway we barely had walked into the barroom when immediately Kyle asks if I was raised Catholic?Oh bloody hell here we go! Maybe it's me, but when I'm welcomed into the home of someone I'm relatively new to meeting, religion is not usually the first question I lead with. At least my girlfriend AC and I got a giggle. But it was a probable indication as to how the rest of the day would go with this one. . .Oh joy.
Then Lisa arrives looking glamorous in pink with beautiful roses, which made me smile. As we enter the barroom Kyle, Kim, and Joyce scurry off to check out my "killer dolls" (I'm still smiling). My husband started buying porcelain dolls for me when we first started going out and each one serves as a beautiful memory.
No shock here but Kyle, Kim, and Joyce got creeped out by my gorgeous collection of dolls. . . that did make me laugh. Hey girls two words for you "Puppet Master!"
In the barroom I guess there was some debate about Lisa's faint on Dancing With the Stars. I didn't see it at the time, but recently got a chance to watch her dance and thought she did a fantastic job! I'd say six weeks is pretty impressive to be on DWTS, but to take the piss out of her fainting is pretty sad considering the ones who questioned it the one I most thought was her friend. . .But you know what they say "who needs enemies"? Of course, understandably Lisa looked hurt.
We joined Lisa outside, and Kim asks about what she refers to as the "magic balls." Throughout my house and garden I have witches' balls, gazing balls, glass reflective spheres and crystal balls, which have been around since the 13th century. (Well not these actual ones, but they are absolutely fascinating and equally is their story.)
A witch ball is made from brightly colored glass with strands of glass inside, it's believed to entrap any negative energy enticed by its colors. It's also used for protection to ward off evil spells, sickness, and ill fortune -- plus any negative energy threatening a home's tranquility. Witch balls traditionally were hung in an east window, but I think you can decide where you prefer to place it. Gazing balls are usually mirrored and are predominately solid in color. They were used to scare away negative spirits caused by forcing the spirits to see their own reflections.
And then Kyle out of the blue, actually probably on cue for her, asks "Have you ever explored with witchcraft?" Oh for f--- sakes! I honestly have no problem answering any questions about my faith as long as I feel comfortable that you are coming from a genuine place of interest. But when it's obvious you're intending to ask for shock value only, amongst a group of girls that I'm just getting to know, and that you actually dont give a toss. . .Um bite me.
I'm really not surprised with Kyle's primitive and disparaging remarks about witchcraft, brooms, and spells etc. What's surprising is that she wasn't sucked into one of the witch balls. But alas they are probably not big enough for that kind of dense energy (still smiling). Seriously what's disheartening is considering how far we have evolved as a society with respect to religion, sexual preference, and ethnicity with all this progress made -- when did it suddenly become OK to have such an overt prejudice against someone's non-traditional religion? If she made those type of offensive remarks about any other traditional religion she would be in hot bloody water! And I'm not talking a cauldron!
Shockingly, there were one or two moments where Kyle and I did laugh for a second, which was a shred of encouragement -- until we commenced on a house tour. We enter my bedroom and just when I think there may be a glimmer of hope for us she speaks "Do you feel guilty having sex with a cross above your bed?" And, "this house makes me want to get the Ouija board out." And poof. . .there goes the hope.
We are all having lunch and unfiltered Brandi compliments me with the "c word." I didn't find it offensive because I have friends that use that word. I'm not a huge fan of it, but it's nothing I haven't heard. I'm bloody English. It's not that unusual. It just depends on the way it's intended. So why wasn't I up in arms by what she said? Well it's quite simple, I like Brandi. Kyle, on the other hand, feels the need to consistently and blatantly throw insults combined with her show of utter-disrespect and obvious prejudice for my faith. It's just a constant indicator of what an ignoramus she is, so it is rather simple.
All seems to be well with Joyce, we are all having a giggle about vajayjays and then she happily tells us all how "proud" she is of her "baby" because he's so "big!" No, she does not mean, her cute little three-year-old child, as one would assume. Nope her "baby" man and his "big" pee pee! OMG! I thought we had made progress here. No more seared retinas. Ewww again! Side note: Kim didn't seem to relish in the baby comment either.
Suddenly it gets heavy at the table when Brandi asks Kyle about the tabloid rumors of her husbands cheating. But Kyle isn't comfortable being put on the spot in front of everyone regarding such a personal subject. . .Interesting I muse, double standard me thinks. Lisa subsequently gives kyle great advice about letting it go when it comes to negative publicity or rumors. I personally think if there's negativity out there about you, of course it's hard not to be hurt and affected. But don't give it any energy. Just focus on what's truly important, your loving and supportive family. There will always be people out there wishing you ill. Just don't feed it.
Believe it or not I have made allowances for Kyle's negative behavior towards me, as I know she's obviously going through a hard time with the alleged cheating rumors, and I'm sure its taken a toll on her in many ways.