Cast Blog: #RHOBH

How Dare Brandi Put Black People in a Box

Yolanda: These Are Teaching Moments

Kim: My Heart Felt So Big

Kyle: Kim and Monty's Relationship Is Unique

Lisa V.: I Needed an Uncomplicated Friendship

Brandi: Kim Is a Survivor

Eileen: Brooke Was a Gorgeous Bride

Lisa R.: I Couldn't Be More in My Element

Brandi: I Felt Like a Grown Up

Yolanda: I Was Doubting My Parenting Skills

Lisa V.: A Scare Can Be the Ultimate Lesson

Eileen: Yeah, Vincent and I Bicker Sometimes

Lisa R.: My Heart Ached for Yolanda

Kim: The Call No Parent Wants to Get

3 Clues to Next Week's Episode

Brandi: Not a Good Time for My Phone to Die

Lisa V.: Hindsight Is 20/20

Kim: The Words You Never Want to Hear

Yolanda: 50 Is the New 30

Eileen: A Long Career Is the True Award

Kyle: An Invite to a Party Isn't the Answer

Lisa R.: God Bless Michael Bolton!

Quiz: How Well Do You Remember Episode 3?

11 #RHOBH Reactions That Sum up Our Lives

Kyle: I Would Take A Road Trip Over a Plane

Lisa: When You Reach Out, You Are Rewarded

Kim: Brandi and I Always Seem to Have Fun

Yolanda: A Homemade Meal Goes a Long Way

Brandi: I Was Surprised Adrienne Was So Receptive

The Real Story Behind Lisa R.'s Depends Ad

3 Clues to Next Week's Episode

Quiz: How Well Do You Remember Episode 2?

3 Times the 'Wives Were Just Like Us

Quiz: How Well Do You Remember Episode 1?

Kyle: Brandi Was Looking for Trouble

Brandi: Lisa Made Up With Everyone But Me

Lisa's First Impression of the Ladies

Yolanda: Fasten Your Seat Belts

Q&A: How Are Camille, Adrienne, and Taylor Now?

Lisa: Kyle and I Have Always Had a Bond

3 GIFs You Have to See From Next Week's Ep

How Dare Brandi Put Black People in a Box

Joyce can't believe Brandi's bullying or Yolanda's bad behavior in Palm Springs.

Hola Mis Amores! This week we lost an amazing human being and one of my idols: Nelson Mandela! He will forever live in our hearts and in the history of our world as someone who showed us that if we persevere, no dream is too big to achieve and that it's NEVER about color! We should NEVER EVER judge or segregate anyone because of the color of his or her skin, which leads me to this week's episode. . .

This episode was really tough to watch but even tougher to live. Kyle was right when she said in the previous episode that I didn't know what I was in for with this group. Call me sweet, innocent, or simply naive, but when I invited the girls to Palm Springs I really thought we could move past all the silly drama and have a great girls' trip. It's usually hard for me to leave my beautiful babies, so if I plan a small getaway, I'm hoping to relax and have a great time. Otherwise, I'd much rather be home with my little munchkins.

At the beginning of the episode you met my beautiful friends Kinga and Kim. We all love fashion and playing dress up. Usually my closet is our meeting point LOL. Kinga is very sweet and has amazing style. Kim is one of my dearest friends, and I LOVE HER! I've known her for more than 10 years, and she's always been the same. She is cool, bad ass, yet classy at the same time. She is the Number 1 female bodyguard in the world, and I'm extremely proud of her!

When I picked Kim and Kyle up I thought the trip was going to be amazing. We were off to a great start as we had fun and were able to bond on our long ride. Kim told us about Kimberly leaving for school and how proud she is of her. We all shared some tears. I love Kim's relationship with her daughters and her son.

I was feeling very relaxed and happy as we arrived at the gorgeous Colony 29 in Palm Springs, which is very artsy with amazing landscapes. Michael (my hubby) and the owner of Colony 29 were kind enough to organize everything for us.

When the rest of the ladies arrived, I greeted them all with a beautiful Wildfox bag and sunglasses in case any of them forgot theirs. I wanted to be a good host and for them all to enjoy the weekend, which is why it's so hard to see all the bickering and negativity.

After the ladies picked their rooms (which were all beautiful and not "maids' quarters" like Brandi said), I offered them to share my room if they preferred to be in the main house, but they all seemed content in their rooms. Yolanda and Lisa were sharing a room and Carlton and Brandi decided to sleep together.

Once that was settled, we all decided to go to the pool. After getting drinks for the ladies, I wanted to work on my tan and simply enjoy the beautiful nature when Brandi decided that her "mission" was to get me in the pool. I took off my dress just to support her, because she said she didn't want to be the only one in a bikini. Then she started calling me Jacqueline, which as I said, is a beautiful name -- but it's not my name. I thought it was an honest mistake from her as by then I've known her for a while and she's always called me by my name. That's why I corrected her nicely and didn't take it personal.

She then continued with her peer pressure in her pursuit of getting me into the pool. I was quite shocked when Yolanda joined her as she always tries to act and proclaim that she is a "girl's girl." With all due respect, in my book that is NOT the behavior of a girl's girl. And FYI Yolanda, I don't know about you, but I've never heard that etiquette states that you must do everything your guests want you to do in order to be a good host. I've never heard that if you don't jump into a pool you are considered a bad host, and no, I am not afraid of being without makeup -- as we clearly saw in the previous episode.

However, none of the peer pressure was as bad as Brandi's racial remarks. How dare she put black people in a box!

Puerto Ricans are a mix of African, Spanish, and Indian. My great grandmother was black. So yes, I'm proud to say I'm a mix and very proud of my African lineage as well! But even if I didn't have it in my blood I would still not tolerate her racial remarks. She stereotypes and labels because I tell her I can't swim (which I do swim but like a puppy). And FYI, one of the best swimmers in the world is black! He is a gold medalist and his name is Cullen Jones.

It was extremely difficult for me to keep my cool, so I retreated to my room, took a bath and tried to get zen as I was not going to attack Brandi in a place where I invited her. After a bit of meditation I was feeling positive and thought maybe it was just a bad start and that things would look up after the delicious meal the chef was preparing.

One thing I HAVE to clarify is that when Carlton was talking about her Wiccan beliefs in the pool, I was very respectful and supportive because I firmly believe that we must all respect every religion and that we can all be happy and believe in whatever we want to believe as long as we respect each other. When I said, "That's silly, I have a God that is more powerful than any witch in the world," I was referring to Kim saying she was scared of the Wiccan and Witchcraft stuff, so I thought it was silly for her to be scared. That being said, I can proudly say that I am a Christian, and I believe in Jesus Christ! And I can yell it out to the world! My God is so powerful that he will protect me against any negativity!

Before dinner we all had cocktails outside, and I thought things were better. Brandi was talking about very private things that I won’t mention here because you should hear them from her the first time. Since she was being so open with such private matters, I thought we could move forward and have a beautiful dinner until Brandi decided to start calling me Jacqueline again, and it all went downhill from there. She was simply disrespectful!

"Joyce is a big fat pig". . .Seriously? Brandi decides I should be Jacqueline because "Joyce is an ugly name that should only be for old or fat pigs." Her behavior is so childish that I don't even know how to comment on that.

Then, when I'm sharing with the ladies a project I worked on and am very proud of (which is what a girls' dinner should be about), they began to act dismissive, like horrible, jealous girls. What happened to Carlton's saying that women should be supportive of each other? I believe at girls' dinner that girls should talk about the things going on in their lives and have fun and lift each other up. We should not attack one another or be vicious just for the hell of it. I guess in this group, if it's not negative, it's not important.

Thank God I had a nice and sane girl next to me that defended me. This was the moment when I really thought Kyle was a good friend to me because that's what friends do; they stand up for you and have your back when everyone else is trying to push you down, which is exactly why I tried to interfere when Brandi and Yolanda were ganging up on her. Kyle was almost crying, and Yolanda would NOT let go! Come on! If you are a "girl's girl," learn to agree to disagree. You DON'T need to beat someone until you make her cry! And FYI, it is BAD ETIQUETTE to tell your host to shut up.

My only intention was to bring everybody together and for all of them to have a great, fun time without any exclusions. Whenever I invite somebody I make sure they are taken care of, and I will not attack them or bring them down because THAT would be being a bad host. On the flip side, the only thing I would like to expect is that you don’t come to a beautiful weekend with a clear mission to create a fight; after all, nobody forced anyone to accept the invitation. The right thing to do would've been to politely decline the invite versus ruining a few days of rest from our busy lives.

I don't want you all to lose hope and think that it's all negative. I still tried to make it work for the remainder of our trip. I know a lot of people might think I give too many passes and maybe too often give others "the benefit of the doubt," but that's just me.

Thanks for supporting the show and thank you for all your love!

xo
Joyce

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Kim: My Heart Felt So Big

Kim discusses her daughter's wedding and her special relationship with Monty.

The countdown...Less than 10 days before Christmas! I hope you are almost ready for the holiday!

This is an exciting episode for me as I share with you all a peek into one of the most important days of our lives: The day my Brookie married the man of her dreams. Brooke and Thayer have known each other since birth, it's fate...God...love... I am truly blessed!


Kyle and Maurice's trip to Mallorca looked absolutely amazing! It looked like everybody had a great time. Yolanda always keeps her high. These situations put things into perspective for us. We love our children so much! We give me them everything inside us to make them strong young people, and at the end of the day, we can only hope that they are going to make the right choices.

It was cute watching Eileen go over her dialogue with her niece. It reminded me of my sisters and me. I was very happy to see that Lisa V. got her star on the Palm Springs Walk of Fame! How exciting to see all her fans dressed in pink! She looked so pretty, and Ken couldn't have looked prouder. Congrats to Lisa V., Ken and Giggy!

One of my favorites couples is David and Yolanda. Listening to the two of them, well I just love them together and the team that they make! They support and balance each other so perfectly, and that is also what makes them such great parents!
Oh Brandi and her podcast! Filtered and unfiltered, she's so damn funny! All day long!

I had no idea he would end up giving me one of the most wonderful gifts of my entire life, our daughter Brooke, or that he would be my best friend from that day forward.

Kim Richards

You all officially get to meet Monty! I met Monty when I was 19, on a blind date. Go figure! I had no idea he would end up giving me one of the most wonderful gifts of my entire life, our daughter Brooke, or that he would be my best friend from that day forward.

We were married for a brief time, but our hearts never parted! Giving birth to our daughter, we shared a bond, but our friendship has always been so deep. We have always made being parents to our daughter a priority. Monty has always been kind of a wanderer but has stayed at my home on and off over the last 15 years. In June, Monty was diagnosed with lung cancer, and I decided it was time for Monty to move in for good. He moved in full time with me, and I fixed a room where he is very comfortable and we all feel very good knowing Monty is where he needs to be and he is in good, loving hands! As you can see, Monty and I have a great friendship! We really do enjoy each other's company, and I can't imagine my life without him. So we are not thinking that way! Positive thoughts only!

Brooke and Thayer got engaged Christmas morning 2013. One of the most exciting phone calls and Christmases ever! Their plan was a destination beach wedding in 2015, however, our plans took a shift when we found out about Monty. Of course the most important thing right then was that Brooke could have her father walk her down the aisle, and that Monty would be strong enough! Brooke knew exactly what she wanted. She and I worked non-stop with an amazing team of people! From Mark Zunino designing the most amazing dress, Petals by David flying in the most Gorgeous Flowers, Glen our caterer, and our fantastic coordinator Vanessa, we were able to do just that.


Brooke and Thayer wed on August 2, 2014. It was only our family. A very intimate, private ceremony! The most magical and special evening . I wish I could tell you what I was thinking, the flashbacks to so many memories. Brooke was radiating with joy! More joy than I had ever seen come from that little face! She looked stunning! I, too, was overwhelmed with joy. I was so grateful to see her arm and arm with her dad, walking down the aisle, to join her soon-to-be husband. When she got to Thayer, each second became more and more intense! Then she looked over and at me and mouthed the words, "I love you." I thought I was going to fall out of my chair! My heart felt so big! 


The vows, the kiss, and then they were married!

Thank you for sharing this amazing, magical, and special moment with us!

xo,
Kim

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