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Joyce Didn't Want a Pity Party

Joyce comments on her father's passing and why she wishes Kyle had kept it to herself.

Hola Mis Amores! As this week we celebrated Valentines Day; I want to thank you all for the cyber friendship and the support you've given me through this journey called Housewives.

I also want to take advantage of this platform to answer something lots of you have been asking. For those who've asked me on social media how I feel about the fact that Brandi uses every chance she can to try to disrespect me, all I can say is that she is a classless person who thinks everything she says is OK and funny. Apparently she has no friends to tell her that making racial remarks, backstabing all her fellow Housewives, making horrible remarks about other woman (Joanna Krupa and Kenya Moore), and talking crap in all the interviews that are meant to be about her book are not OK. . .Sorry Brandi! Your card is overplayed and you have zero comedic timing! You are not funny and since I learned to take things from the source. . .Knock yourself out and keep proving me right.

This week we begin with Carlton talking to Yolanda about how much she hates labeling and judging. Slightly crazy, since she's the first one to label everyone, and she's the first one to judge others simply for asking her questions. I don't know what she has been through in life, but at this point I feel sorry for her paranoia.

Kyle came to my house to tell me about the disaster dinner at Lisa's. Then she showed me something that mysteriously showed up in her computer and was slightly freaky. She was concerned about Carlton's negativity so I told Kyle she should talk to Carlton about it. I gave her some holy oil my mother sends me all the time so she could put it on and feel blessed.

At that point Brandi and I had no problems (or so I thought). That's why when Kyle told me she had invited her on my Puerto Rico trip I was fine with it. Had I known what she was planning and all the crap she was talking behind my back, I would've told her she was NOT invited.

Watching Brandi talk to Kim, yet again, was a bit frustrating. If she had such a strong, negative feelings about Lisa, and if she was so scared of her she should've spoken directly to her face instead of telling everyone over and over except the person in question -- especially considering the fact that she prides herself in being "honest." But we all know by now that's just her perception of herself, but that there is nothing honest about her.

Moving on to Gigi's goodbye party. . .It was such a beautiful party! I cried watching Gigi give her toast. I know she will do great in New York and I'm looking forward to seeing her bloom. Mohamed and Yolanda are rightfully proud of her, and I pray that when my two young boys reach her age they will be as well educated and gracious as Gigi.

During that time, I unfortunately had to cancel many events, but this one in particular I was very sad to cancel, as I really like Mohamed and Gigi is a total sweetheart.

But as you all now know; the reason I have been so MIA in the past few episodes is because I was going through a very difficult family moment. I was flying back and forth from Puerto Rico to be with my father in his final days, to be able to say goodbye and to grieve with my family.

The only person in our group that knew what was going on was Kyle, as she was the one I was closest to. I must say I was very upset and disappointed when she decided to tell the other girls, as I had asked her to not say anything to any of them.

I DID NOT want my father's death and my grieving to be a topic and I for sure didn't want a pity party from the other girls.

Initially I wanted to cancel the trip, but I won't go into further details as you will all see it in next week's episode.

Until then,
XO

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Lisa V.: Lisa R. Took the Bait

Lisa V. talks about the explosive dinner in Amsterdam and why she understands where Brandi is coming from with the hypocrisy comment.

Hello again. How crazy was this one?
So as we join the ladies in Amsterdam, I meet Lisa and Eileen for some tea in the lounge. I was reticent to be involved in this potential confrontation. I had voiced my concerns gently to Lisa, expressing my thoughts on discussing sobriety with Kim--it was a land mine that I wanted to avoid. Anyway, we go to dinner...I actually cringed as I objected to Yolanda's stance on prostitution, my caustic remark in interview, but that, in the grand scale of things, flew under the radar. However, I am sure in situations where there is no choice, maybe prostitution is understandable, but in a cosmopolitan city like Amsterdam where there are a plethora of choices--maybe even menial--but choices nonetheless, whilst preserving our dignity, they would be mine.
So the dinner progresses. I once again don't agree that we have superficial conversations in Beverly Hills as Yolanda said. Maybe some do, but I am sure my character is the same as when I was in the heart of the English countryside, or wherever I lived.

Lisa took the bait, and therefore became somewhat culpable in this whole scenario.

Lisa Vanderpump

So things start to heat up...Lisa categorically says, "I apologize for getting in your business." That should have been the end of it, but no, Kim was gunning for her and was not going to back down. She was on a mission. I adore Lisa, and I don't stand in front of her and condone her actions (any physicality does not sit well with me), however, there comes a time when one might just snap, especially when you are defending the good name of your family, their integrity in a public arena against the aggressor, being Kim, who is hinting at insidious rumors. I urge Lisa to challenge her later over the spiteful intimation regarding Harry. I was absolutely of the mind that it was empty rhetoric, designed to incite Lisa. But Lisa reacted to it. Lisa took the bait, and therefore became somewhat culpable in this whole scenario.


Once again Kim lambasts Kyle for not defending her. How could Kyle defend her mean-spirited remarks? Calling Eileen a beast? I mean, have you all met Eileen? Really?
Lisa absolutely apologized to Kim in her attempt to intervene in regard to her sobriety. As she emotionally conveyed that her sister had died from some sort of abuse, either alcohol or drugs--I am not sure, it didn't even resonate with Kim. Lisa also stated she had witnessed alcoholism in Harry's family where loved ones were lost. Kim ignored Lisa's point that there was no mal intent, that it was coming from a place of concern. Yes, a place that was public, but we all understand that if we sign up to do a reality show, then our reality is displayed. If we have something to hide (skeletons in a closet), be sure they will come jumping out like a frigging jack in the box.
The enormity of the situation was pretty emotional. Each and every one of us astounded as to what we had witnessed. The most fascinating part when watching this is the fact that in the aftermath of the emotional explosion, one conversation between Lisa and Kim, which we obviously did not witness, all feelings were buried. A band-aid was put on the wound, and we were supposed to pretend as if it never ever existed. I think It was a double-edged sword: One side wonderful that everything was buried under a little Dutch rug, and we could enjoy the sights of Amsterdam; the other side being there was obvious feelings that were festering. My attitude was that I would've rather enjoyed the trip and dealt with whatever residual feelings upon our return.
I have to say it was pretty hilarious that out of all the men and all the windmills, we found one of Yolanda's ex-boyfriends. What a gift that we giggled over, enjoying the playful banter as we teased her.


All was sailing along pretty smoothly until the pot shop. I make no pretenses of anything whatsoever. We are in a public forum, we are all aware of that. My children are grown, and I understand the reticence to partake in whatever was on offer, but then let's not go there in the first place. Let us not sit in the middle of this bar and start hurling accusations designed to embarrass.
I do understand to some extent what Brandi is saying regarding hypocrisy. If you do it, own it, but in all the years I have known Kyle, I don't ever recall seeing her smoking. Brandi persisted, but the caveat here is we are all too often the victims of her behavior. When she drinks, things often become aggressive...as you will see next week.
I know this is only a blog, and in my attempt to further explain the complicated dynamics, it could well turn into a book, so I will leave you here and hope you all have a fruitful week.

I am leaving NY after speaking at the United Nations--an overwhelming experience. It was snowing, so East Coast, stay warm! As always...Love, Lisa.

 

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