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Joyce Won't Kick Brandi While She's Down

Even after last week's drama, Joyce refused to be cruel to Brandi -- but she won't be compared to her.

Hola Mis Amores! First and foremost I have to say that I'm very thankful to God because through this experience he has lead me to all of you. Your love and support means the world to me and I'm very thankful and humbled. Reading all your sweet tweets gave me huge smiles and sometimes huge snorts. LOL.

I know you all want to hear about tonight's episode so lets get straight to it. . .

If I looked bored for the remainder of the dinner its because I was. I was so over the bickering and bantering. I was so over listening to women say they are "girl's girls," while they beat the rest so much they make them cry while at the same time trying to act as if they are superior to the world. Between Brandi's stupidity and Yolanda's arrogance I just wanted the dinner to be over.

It was nice to get in the water with Kyle -- on my terms! I don't do things because I'm pressured into it, as you've already seen and as I told all the girls. . .I do swim but I swim like a puppy (not cute LOL). As I clearly said to Kyle, I wouldn't tolerate Brandi's disrespect but I chose to be a lady and be a good host. I am new to this group and was still figuring out the women's true characters. Even though they were extremely rude and disrespectful, I still wanted to make things work with them.

My friends say I give too many people the benefit of the doubt and that sometimes I'm too nice. Guess what? I have a very happy life. I'm not miserable, and I don't like to spread misery around the world. I don't like to bring people down, I like to lift them up. That's just me! Some people might not like it but at the end of the day when I go to sleep I have to know that I am remaining true to myself.

The one thing I am very happy about is that through this entire journey I did remain true to myself. I know a lot of people have asked me why I didn't smack Brandi or kick her out of the dinner table and why was I so nice to her the day after?

That night at the dinner table, after I said I don't like being called "hoice" because it brought back bad memories she said she didn't want to be a bully and she apologized for it. I always accept peoples apologizes, even if they've hurt me, because I think as humans we all make mistakes.

That being said, after watching tonight's episode, I'm mad at myself for being so lenient towards her and for giving her the benefit of the doubt so many times. In tonight's episode, I do agree with my friends! In hindsight, I should have politely asked her to pack her bags and leave the remainder of the trip.

Watching this week's episode made me very upset because now I see Brandi's true colors. I didn't know Brandi was faking being nice, as she said in her confessional. I was just thinking the poor girl probably has a drinking problem and how can you be rational with someone who is wasted out of their mind?

I now see that it wasn't the alcohol making her a bully. It was just her true character. Watching her tell Yolanda that she didn't want to ruin "Hoycita's" trip showed me what a conniving and hypocrite person she is.

Brandi saying she can be fake like me is ridiculous! I was nothing but nice to her!!! Brandi. . .You and I have nothing in common! You are a miserable person that wants to make everyone around you miserable. Stop saying I do things to get attention. Stop reflecting yourself in me! You DO EVERYTHING for attention as you've clearly said. . .You want to get a reaction out of people and provoke them. You are a master at trying to spin things the way you want. I should have known better and known not to trust you when you were faking to be "nice."

It's really crazy to me because there are moments in this group where we really have fun (or so I thought).

I still believe we all had a good time in the tram (even though I was petrified of the height). My husband always makes me go in the ski lift with him and I hate it because I always feel like I'm falling. I just don't like heights.

Palm Springs is beautiful and that was nature at its best. Simply stunning. I felt like it was finally the harmony and the trip I had wanted. I loved how Carlton and Kim played with the squirrels. I think its great when people can be so in tune with nature. . .It's beautiful. I know everyone says squirrels have rabies, but they are so darn cute.

At lunch, Yolanda invited us to dinner and I thought it was a great idea since the group was finally getting along. (I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT I WAS IN FOR AT HER DINNER, YET AGAIN. You can see that in next week's episode, as you've seen in the teaser.)

After lunch, while we waited for the tram, Kim decided to pray in the corner next to a bin, which I think is OK. It's OK for Kim to pray wherever and whenever she wants. Kim has been through a lot in the last year and I'm proud of her for staying strong.

Brandi wanted to cook dinner, not because the other ladies and I can't cook, but because she wanted to. She said she had a great taco recipe, which truly was delicious. We all cooked together and as we were eating the drama-free tacos, Brandi got a call form her assistant saying her house had been broken into and her doggie, Chica, was missing.

Honestly it broke my heart to see her so devastated. Our animals are part of our families and losing one is something I don't wish upon my worst enemy. Carlton was saying she lost a cat and it was horrible. I wanted to tell Brandi that I lost a doggie and found her to give her hope and sympathize with her but as you saw. . .she didn't let me finish. She just interrupted and said: "Joyce, its not a competition." Seriously?!? How is that a competition? I don't know why Brandi feels the need to compete with me or anyone. As you saw me say, I just told her "I'm not doing this right now. Right now I just want to give you a hug because I feel for you." She's so negative that she can't see when people genuinely have good intentions or are genuinely feeling for her.

I do believe when someone is down you don't kick them. Her heart was broken with the loss of her doggie, and I didn't want to fuel any further pain. I wanted to help her find Chica. . .After she left I texted her to see how I could help. I wanted to have my friends go put signs up with a reward so the signs would be up by the time she drove back from Palm Springs. According to Brandi, it was already in process. As you all know by now, Brandi never found beautiful Chica. I just pray that she is OK and maybe another family took her.

Next week should be interesting as you see Yolanda's dinner. . .

I send you all a big kiss and don't forget: Life is too short to worry about stupid things. Have fun. Fall in love. Regret nothing and don't let people bring you down.


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Brandi: You Can't Confirm What Didn't Happen

Brandi questions some of the ladies' motives, plus gives an interesting update on her relationship with LeAnn. 

Hey, My Bravoistas!

I’m in my American Airlines' seat 36 hours later, flying back home from NYC, thankful to be on a safe path home. My prayers go out to the families and loved ones of the downed German airliner in the French Alps this morning. I cannot imagine the pain being experienced by these families at this moment, which shockingly has led me to add a new person into my flight prayer children’s stepmom. Don’t get me wrong--not everything is yet copasetic, but my children love her, so she is now in the “flight prayer,” differences aside. Now on a happier RHOBH note, last night’s WWHL with Andy was sooooo fun! No drama for once!

NEWS FLASH! Please watch for my new Sonoma County Chardonnay “Unfiltered Blonde,” to launch in April!

As I look over this past season, all I can say is it’s been an odd one. There were so many fun moments that got lost in the drama and so many weeks of fun you never saw at all. I wish you had, but I'm not in control of everything we get to see. I’d like to remember having fun with Kim “stalking” my now boyfriend J.R. That was such a crazy fun girls' night, Lisa R. being chased by killer bees, Yolanda and her Facetime confusion and meeting her family for the second time this--time in Holland, the Foster Foundation Extravaganza, “singing” at Lisa V.’s birthday party, and Kyle pretending to be a caring sister and owning yachts and planes…haha.
Ok, I’ll behave.

Here we are at the last episode of the season, yet, it seems most are still stuck in the beginning. I wish we weren’t, and I would dearly like to leave “Poker Night” behind. However, one person continues to make it the focal point of every interaction from when it happened and far into the three-part reunion.

This episode opens with Rinna tearing down a swing set, but her home interviews are still about what she perceives as Kim’s issues to be, not the actual touching moment of what the swing set tear-down symbolizes or her own family (I can't wait for her daughters to write their Brooke Shields-style memoir when they are age appropriate). LR says she feels sorry for Kim and cares about Kim and wishes Kim well. The truth is a lot less pretty. Some people have been attacking Kim’s sobriety online this week, but we won’t name names. BTW, Kim is sober and not online. She is busy caring for serious ill family members and driving back and forth to doctors and hospitals and being strong for her family.

Next we see Nicky Hilton’s book signing--sister Paris and mom Kathy Hilton are there. Looks like a great party and congrats to Nicky on her style book. Camille looks gorgeous as usual. Kyle angrily flips her hair, because Kim was wearing a shirt that she carries at “her” shop, but didn’t buy it there...whatever. Then Kyle whispers about her sister Kim to Lisa V. and Camille.
Kyle then tells them she is confused and impatient that Kim hasn’t confronted me over her third-hand Lisa R. gossip. She states Kim WILL be hurt and broken hearted over what “I” said… Kyle seems way too overy excited about that happening, which I find kind creepy. Why would anyone WANT their sister to be hurt or in pain?!

The preparations for Adrienne’s party are in full swing next. Lisa V. is fretting it, Kim is casually discussing the intervention GOSSIP with her makeup artist before the party, I’m getting ready and waiting for my friends and my date.

Adrienne’s party is the big finale of our journey this year. Everyone is there, and Adrienne always excels at events. So here we go. First off, my mind was not on the party at all. My father was recently hospitalized, and I didn’t leave his side for two weeks. It was very serious, but I had to return home to my boys. He was still not conscious, but I needed to get home to run my household--a party was the last place I wanted to be, but I had promised. That’s why I decided to bring the few people that I felt I could depend on in that moment. My friends and J.R. have been there for me during my father’s health scare and over more then a month of hospitalization--that was and is what remains what’s important to me.

The party seems like it was fun for a lot of people who weren’t involved in Kyle and Lisa. R.’s drama. I wish I were one of them, but in a way I was. As much as Kyle relished telling Kim the hurtful gossip she heard from LR, what she wanted to happen didn’t happen. There was no argument between Kim and I. We were happy to see each other. We spoke easily. I was busy worrying about my Dad; she was busy with her family.

What we saw on the finale was an efficient Kim quietly confronting Lisa R., then leaving Lisa R.'s table somewhat amused. Lisa R. couldn’t confirm the veracity of her gossip, because I DIDN’T SAY IT. Thanks again to Bravo for showing the truth in a flashback last week.

So, Kim knew who was who and what was what. The entertainment of the night was provided by Lisa R. going radio silent while Kyle begged for corroboration on her dramatic intervention gossip. Watching Yolanda, Eileen, and Lisa V. urge Lisa R. to support Kyle and verify her hurtful gossip was almost amusing. You can't confirm what didn't happen, can you?

In the end, I left the party early. Why? Not because of a past friendship with Lisa V. It's not her that made me cry--I was crying for my father, my dad! I was in no place to be at a superficial party, discussing a superficial incident with a person who was clearly not a friend, not that night. I said I would show up, and I did. After that, I wanted to be with my real close friends and family. Since this party my dad came out of the ICU and after 2 entire months and after a long stressful time I want to thank Dr. Allen Morris and all the doctors and nurses at Mercy General Hospital of Sacramento for saving my dad's life yet agin for the second time in 15 years. He is doing much better and continuing his hope of a full recovery. I am so thankful to all the people who were there for me and continue to be here for my family and I.

THAT is what life’s about, being with the people who truly love and care about you and the feelings are reciprocated.

As you hear, at the end of the finale, I am wistful, yet, wiser, and I think in a stronger place. I love and loved being there for Kim and being Kim’s friend, and I love that she was, is, and has been here for me. Even more so, I'm grateful and blessed to have Yolanda in my life; she is no bullsh--. Even when suffering herself, she is still so selfless. Yo is very special to me, I love her, she gets me, we have fun together, and I value every moment we spend together. I always will. As for the rest, I hope to share laughs and fun again, maybe tears, but hopefully only joy.

Peace Out. (deuces MFs--JK)



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