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Kyle: Some People Came With an Agenda

Kyle wonders if she has to be an animal to woo Carlton and if some people came to Palm Springs with an agenda.

This week we all headed to Palm Springs, which is known as the place to relax. However, "relaxed" is not the word I would use to describe how we were feeling on this getaway.

I'll start out with shopping with Carlton. When she told me I had done something she didn't like, I thought, "Oh, no. What did I do?" But by the time she got to the second thing and then the third, I thought, "You must be kidding me!"

The faces she was making when the girl Wendy in the store was trying to be nice and compliment me were flat out mean. Then, at the end, Wendy called my name right BEFORE Carlton started to speak so I had just stepped away and didn't hear her. Again with the faces. Carlton is always speaking about how she cares about nature and animals. I guess I'd have to be an animal in order for her to be nice to me.

I have never met someone like Carlton that was so quick to judge and easy to anger. I had heard the Mexican expression, "looking for tits on an ant" from my father-in-law, Eduardo, years ago. I had never used the expression until I met Carlton. She just wants so badly to dislike me. In watching the show, I feel foolish for even making an effort with her.

In spite of things being uncomfortable lately, I was determined to try and have fun on our getaway. Palm Springs is beautiful and Kim, Joyce, and I had fun driving down. We laughed, danced, and sang the whole way.

As soon as the others arrived, we quickly changed and went to the pool. From here on, I am actually speechless watching. At the time, I remember how much anxiety I had been having when we were all together. Seeing it brings back all those feelings.

The women chastising Joyce for not getting in the pool was completely absurd.

Why would women at this age care who wants to swim or not? I stayed quiet for a bit, but finally had to say that we are too old for peer pressure. I don't understand why they wouldn't leave Joyce alone. Carlton was, of course, quick to scold me that I shouldn't say peer pressure. I wasn't quite sure WHAT to call it. It was disgusting. That's what I was REALLY thinking.

Yolanda kept saying that she should lead her party and get in the pool. . . Then she said in her interview that she thought Joyce was worried about getting her hair wet or having her makeup run. It seems to me that’s exactly what Yolanda wanted.

When Brandi said to Joyce, "You can't swim? Oh, you’re a black person?" my mouth dropped. Why does she say these things? I do not believe Brandi is a racist. I do think that was a really insensitive thing to say though. She was trying to get a rise out of Joyce by calling her in the wrong name over and over. The other women seemed to find humor in it, which fueled it even more.

Not quite sure what to make out of Brandi and Carlton's makeout session. 

The dinner started out OK, but didn't take long to turn into a disaster. You could cut the tension with a knife. There are so many strange dynamics happening here I don't know where to begin. I will say that it was very obvious these four were a team and that they had no desire to have a fun getaway. There was an agenda there.

I felt like "Brandi, Lisa, Yolanda and Carlton" versus "Kim, Kyle, and Joyce." Lisa trying to reprimand Joyce for telling Brandi she was bullied in school made no sense. Joyce didn't say she was bullied by THEM. She said she was bullied in school. Lisa wanted to distance herself from Brandi's behavior, but continued to encourage her by laughing. Lisa was clearly agitated with us and wanted to dismiss everything we were saying.

When I shook my head at the behavior I was witnessing, Yolanda and Carlton were quick to jump on me. I didn't want to fuel the fire by getting into my issues with Yolanda. This was not the time or the place. This was a conversation to have one-on-one. I'm sure Yolanda wanted to bring it up then, so she would have the back up from her "team."

Of course when Joyce wanted to chime in, Yolanda snapped at her. Saying "Joyce sweetheart, don't get involved" was beyond rude. Joyce was our host. How Yolanda can sit there and say she's a "girl's girl" is ridiculous with the way she is treating some of the girls here. Yolanda thinks she is better than everyone and likes to speak to everyone in a condescending tone. I felt bad for Joyce and could see this night was only getting worse. . . 

Until next week. . .Thanks for watching.

XO,
KYLE

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Kyle: Kim and I Will Never Agree on This Matter

Kyle clarifies the Kingsley issue and responds to Brandi's most recent accusation. 

I don't want to write this blog. I didn't even want to watch this reunion, to be honest. There. I said it. But here I go....
Let's just dive right into the text message from Lisa Rinna to Kim.
I was very shocked to hear about that text. There is no excuse for that. I believe Lisa R. knows that. I can understand Kim being upset about that. I am sure she was taken aback, as we all were when we heard it. However, I don't think Lisa Rinna is a dangerous person. She just made a really bad choice.


Now onto Amsterdam and the space cake talk. Brandi went after me in Amsterdam regarding the space cake, because she doesn't like me and wanted to deflect from her own behavior once again. This was her big chance to say something about me, calling me a hypocrite for not partaking in the space cake. I have said it before, and I will say it again: I NEVER said I haven't smoked pot. I HAVE. It's just not my thing. I have a lot more fun having a few margaritas. Kim knows that. I would have appreciated her chiming in there. Also, I have NOT eaten a pot brownie or a space cake ever, and my husband had warned me that it would not suit me well, knowing my personality. You cannot gauge exactly what you're ingesting, and it wouldn't be smart. I didn't want to have a bad experience and "freak out," so to speak. Brandi herself wasn't partaking, because of her own reasons (which had to do with her divorce, as she explained), so wouldn't that make her a hypocrite then? WHY did she care if I did or did not choose to? Because she wanted to jump at the chance to make me look bad, since her behavior and her drinking had been front and center. Her drinking was out there, because she puts it out there, and she has nobody to blame but herself. If I HAD chosen to eat a space cake, she would have jumped on that, too. Anything to divert from her own actions which she was comparing to ours. All of us may have a few drinks, but NONE of us behave like her when we drink.
I only address this because it was on television. Her opinion of me is completely irrelevant to me. I only cared, because I am a mother, and her trying to make me out to be something I am not is reckless, as is everything else she does.
Ok. Enough of that. She beat that non-event to death. I think we can move on now.

Now this is the hard part...Kim and I had not spoken since Nov 1st. We both knew the situation with my daughter, Alexia, and Kim's dog, Kingsley, was bound to come up at the reunion. We don't get to pick and choose what we want to talk about.
Alexia had spent the night at Kim's house on Halloween. The next morning, Kingsley bit her. While scary, at first it didn't seem that serious. However, what the first doctor failed to notice was that the tooth had pierced the bone and also broken it. Five days later, we found out that her bone was infected and she needed surgery to clean out the bone. Kim was upset, because I had posted pictures from the hospital. Like I said at the reunion, I NEVER said her dog bit Alexia. Never mentioned her OR her dog. TMZ ended up finding out that it was Kim's dog, and she blamed me, because I posted the pictures from the hospital. I did not do that to hurt my sister in any way or to "get Instagram followers," like she suggested. With all of my family coming and going at the hospital, people were bound to find out and talk.


We were all with Alexia at the hospital trying to distract her and have fun. As any mother would do. We were all trying to make the best out of a bad situation. We invited family and friends to visit and tried to keep her spirits up. In hindsight, I wish I hadn't posted that picture, but I certainly didn't mean to hurt Kim. She posted a picture when she was in the hospital this year. Yolanda and Camille have done so regularly. And where is her responsibility in all of this? However, I do feel bad about what it has led to. And I've told her that. I also felt terrible because I know she loves Kingsley, but I also love my child. It was a difficult time for all involved. I didn't blame Kim personally regarding the dog and was willing to drop it and move forward, yet she was too angry with me regarding the Instagram post to be able to do that.
I wish that since I was willing to let go of my anger regarding my daughter being bit and what she had to go through that she could have let go of being upset about the Instagram post. I HAVE to believe she knows I did NOT do that to hurt her.
For Kim to throw out that she would say something about Alexia ( like she did to Lisa R. regarding Harry ) nearly took my breath away. But her dog is off limits?
So there you have it.
I don't even know what to say or do anymore. Clearly, we will never agree on this matter. And now we have more issues to work through, like my hurt and anger over Kim threatening to say something about my child. I know she loves Alexia, and it was just her being angry and "in the moment," but it's going to take me some time to get past that. All I know is I am glad I don't have to relive all of this again on TV. Now I need to take a step back .
Hopefully, time will heal my relationship with Kim. Time and having an open and honest relationship.
It's been a very difficult season. That's for sure. Thank you all for watching.
XO,
Kyle

P.S
Some things I would like to clear up:

A) I NEVER asked for Kingsley to be put down. I love all animals and know how much Kim loves Kingsley. That was never part of our argument.

B) Brooke's wedding : Brooke did a small ceremony at my sister Kathy's house (part of it aired this season), so that Monty would be well enough to walk her down the aisle. The wedding we were referring to at the reunion is her actual "big wedding " coming up. And NO, I did not do anything "unspeakable" or "unforgivable" at the wedding at Kathy's house like Brandi has (once again) put out there. It was a beautiful, perfect day that Brandi Glanville is now trying to throw negativity on. She was NOT EVEN THERE. On top of everything else Brandi has done, she now wants to turn that beautiful day that my family celebrated into something to lie and gossip about. Shame on her.

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