Lisa: It's Easy to Plan an Attack in Numbers
Lisa laments the way Yolanda handled the argument with Ken and is pleased to find herself no longer a part of the "Dream Team."
Hello to you all, and now we conclude this season. . .
So as the curtain falls on this final episode, I wish I could call it a comedy of errors -- but it's not. It has been a challenging experience. Week after week, I have viewed the vicious conversations between people I had believed to be friends.
When I remember the innocence of the show four years ago, I would never have anticipated the level of cattiness and the bitchy, pack-like mentality that this experience has deteriorated into. The backstabbing of certain Housewives took it to a whole different level. It felt like I was drowning in a sea of negativity. I tried my best to swim against the tide, but the current pulled me under. I succumbed to a depressed state and vociferously threw myself into work.
So, seeing the other women over the last five months in interviews, all repeatedly stating that this would be my downfall, has been an experience to say the least. What they are accusing me of in retrospect is trivial. It's just the ripple effect and what they are trying to achieve is so vindictive. I see that clearly.
It is easy to plan an attack when you are in numbers, but not so easy to plan a defense when you have no idea what is coming at you. I compensated by focusing on what was important -- my family and my business. I have come to the conclusion, in the aftermath of the hurt and confusion. I was angry -- but then I realized the best revenge was to get over it. Nothing pleases your opponents more than to see you suffer.
There has been kindness from Joyce and Carlton that is for sure, but I wasn't as invested in them as our relationship was just developing. But I have so much respect for Joyce repeatedly standing up for what is right and not being afraid to hold her ground. I recall how she looked me in the eyes and told me how she tried to warn me at the beginning, about the nastiness behind my back from people I naively adored.
Brandi was so eager to be part of our group, to immerse herself in my world and she was well aware that Scheana was in Vanderpump Rules, its first season, and that Scheana had worked for me for five years. Nothing could change that. Sometimes planets collide and that's what happened in this instance. Of course paths would cross.
I can't attack. Of course, there are many things on all of them I could call out -- secrets that have been shared, scenarios I have witnessed. Some would be an easy target, but that's not who I am nor who I want to be. So, there we have it.
In reference to Brandi's comments saying David works for a living -- inferring Ken doesn't is so disrespectful. Regardless of what he has done for her, my husband has diligently worked his whole life, starting with nothing, digging ditches, taking risks with his savings to create a business. He even bought his parents a house before he bought his own. He has loved and cared for us, and I resent that coming from somebody like her. I was a huge supporter as she relayed her story to me -- a divorcee, struggling, desperate to join this group for all the opportunities that would accompany it. I was her biggest advocate. That was my first mistake -- defending her, often to my detriment. That will never be resolved. That train has well and truly left the station.
In all my years as a mother, a wife, an advocate for equal rights, and a business woman, my integrity has been of utmost importance. Although when you put yourself in this arena you are, of course, likely to be criticized. However I know most of you have been extremely supportive, but even if it is one percent who doubt my integrity -- that is one percent too many.
After an arduous two-and-a-half hours at the final party, half-an-hour of trying to reason with Brandi (much you didn't see, including her yelling "I checkmated you bitch."), it was all too much. Yolanda's relentless pursuance of me, telling Ken how "David would never associate with the likes of you." It finally came to a climax and we left.
I then heard how Yolanda was brushing away tears, shaking, saying a man should never put his hands on a woman. I thank god that you can see the innocuous interaction. What actually transpired was the most disappointing of all, as the mean spirited actions tried to incriminate my dear husband. I was there and mystified as to the level that they would stoop to, trying to malign his character. I then understood as I looked at the two of them together, that this dream team -- one orchestrated by Yolanda -- (one that I had not wanted to be part of) had fulfilled their agenda.
When I look at these episode I have asked myself however hurtful it has been, would I rather be me in this scenario? Or one of them? I know the answer because I prefer to sleep at night, and never would I ever join in a bunch of mean girls with a calculated attack.
So there we have it. We can throw accusations out there, bankruptcy, deportation, lying, abuse, and unfortunately because of the cyber world we live in today, some of it sticks. But I know the truth.
I thank you for your incredible support through this tough experience. Trust the fact that without it, I would have floundered. It has been distressing-- that's for sure. I am thankful it is over, and I will live to fight another day. I am deeply involved in the many fruitful aspects of my life, work, family, and charities, and am perfectly happy that this experience is behind me. I always remember my mantra -- love and laughter supersedes all.
Thank you for watching.