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Lisa: It's Irritating to Justify Myself

Lisa clarifies once again why she wasn't at Kimberly's graduation party and where she stood on Joyce and Brandi's talk.

Oh goodness this week has been hectic, but good and productive. Yet here we are again. . .

It was lovely to see Kimberley at her graduation and to see how she has matured into a beautiful young woman. I hope she achieves all of her dreams as she certainly deserves them.

It's hard to understand why somebody would search for a problem when really there isn't one. I had made everyone well aware in advance that I had committed that weekend to National Alopecia Areata Foundation in St Louis.

As many of you know I support various charities, speaking on their behalf, turning up at events where help is needed -- the American Humane Association, GLAAD in support of the LGBT community, and feeding the homeless every Monday for the last six years. But that's me.

Now Giggy is a personality in his own right, so I needed a charity that would fit his profile -- and children with alopecia was a perfect match. Now can I compare Giggy's hair loss with that of a child's? Of course not, but I knew that Giggy could make a difference, bring some levity to what otherwise can be a somber affair. When Giggy appears and we talk with the children and teenagers -- many of whom watch him every week, many had just seen him on Dancing With the Stars -- the message is clear. Should alopecia stop you being the very best you can be? We asked the children if they thought he would be cuter with his fur. They unanimously answered no he was perfect, so then I gently remind them that is the way people feel about them.

So he has been invited to events, and because I speak on his behalf we were asked to support that weekend. It was a long way for two days, but they wanted me to draw awareness to NAAF and film a PSA and wondered if we would lead the march. I am not sitting at Beverly Hills lunches, but being proactive. I have little time and I admit I rarely go to things I am invited to socially as we have businesses that are open in the evening and it's hard to juggle everything. However, I find it irritating that I have to justify myself, but clearly I do.

I arrived back after leaving St. Louis that afternoon and stopped off rather late to check on SUR my business -- which on a Saturday night is at its busiest. We had something to eat and went home exhausted from marching and traveling

So later that week I spoke with a young lady who needed help with dresses for girls in foster care, a situation close to my heart as I explained we adopted our son Max from foster care 22 years ago. So I invited the ladies over and asked them to bring whatever they had. As I rooted through my closet with Rosia, who is the same size and normally lucks out, it struck me just how much superfluous stuff we all have that would be appreciated by others.

Then suddenly I am questioned by Kim. It was a few days later and it took me by surprise.

Apparently Kim's hairdresser told Kim she saw me and that's what transpired. I had said we were out of town, and I sent her a Tiffany pen as a gift, of which we never even had an acknowledgement, let alone a thank you letter almost as if were penalized for not being present.

Doesn't social etiquette allow you to politely refuse an invitation and inform the host that you have prior plans? Without being confronted and accused of lying? I don't know I give up I really do. Ken then said there many events Kim hadn't shown up for, true, I have heard an endless litany of excuses over the years -- even having an empty seat at my daughters wedding where she was a no show. But that's not really the point, if anybody informs me prior that they can't attend, then that's good enough for me.

I was astounded that Kyle brought her dog that had recently eaten Portia's rabbit!

Anyway I encouraged Kyle not to get involved with Joyce and Brandi, I actually preferred not to even listen at that point. It had all been too complicated, and it was preferable to give this conversation a wide berth. I cannot even fathom how another woman can use the terminology "I would knock your f---in teeth out," but there you have it.

I bid you a good week and as always remember my mantra, love, and laughter supersede all.

Lisa

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Kyle: Kim and I Will Never Agree on This Matter

Kyle clarifies the Kingsley issue and responds to Brandi's most recent accusation. 

I don't want to write this blog. I didn't even want to watch this reunion, to be honest. There. I said it. But here I go....
Let's just dive right into the text message from Lisa Rinna to Kim.
I was very shocked to hear about that text. There is no excuse for that. I believe Lisa R. knows that. I can understand Kim being upset about that. I am sure she was taken aback, as we all were when we heard it. However, I don't think Lisa Rinna is a dangerous person. She just made a really bad choice.


Now onto Amsterdam and the space cake talk. Brandi went after me in Amsterdam regarding the space cake, because she doesn't like me and wanted to deflect from her own behavior once again. This was her big chance to say something about me, calling me a hypocrite for not partaking in the space cake. I have said it before, and I will say it again: I NEVER said I haven't smoked pot. I HAVE. It's just not my thing. I have a lot more fun having a few margaritas. Kim knows that. I would have appreciated her chiming in there. Also, I have NOT eaten a pot brownie or a space cake ever, and my husband had warned me that it would not suit me well, knowing my personality. You cannot gauge exactly what you're ingesting, and it wouldn't be smart. I didn't want to have a bad experience and "freak out," so to speak. Brandi herself wasn't partaking, because of her own reasons (which had to do with her divorce, as she explained), so wouldn't that make her a hypocrite then? WHY did she care if I did or did not choose to? Because she wanted to jump at the chance to make me look bad, since her behavior and her drinking had been front and center. Her drinking was out there, because she puts it out there, and she has nobody to blame but herself. If I HAD chosen to eat a space cake, she would have jumped on that, too. Anything to divert from her own actions which she was comparing to ours. All of us may have a few drinks, but NONE of us behave like her when we drink.
I only address this because it was on television. Her opinion of me is completely irrelevant to me. I only cared, because I am a mother, and her trying to make me out to be something I am not is reckless, as is everything else she does.
Ok. Enough of that. She beat that non-event to death. I think we can move on now.

Now this is the hard part...Kim and I had not spoken since Nov 1st. We both knew the situation with my daughter, Alexia, and Kim's dog, Kingsley, was bound to come up at the reunion. We don't get to pick and choose what we want to talk about.
Alexia had spent the night at Kim's house on Halloween. The next morning, Kingsley bit her. While scary, at first it didn't seem that serious. However, what the first doctor failed to notice was that the tooth had pierced the bone and also broken it. Five days later, we found out that her bone was infected and she needed surgery to clean out the bone. Kim was upset, because I had posted pictures from the hospital. Like I said at the reunion, I NEVER said her dog bit Alexia. Never mentioned her OR her dog. TMZ ended up finding out that it was Kim's dog, and she blamed me, because I posted the pictures from the hospital. I did not do that to hurt my sister in any way or to "get Instagram followers," like she suggested. With all of my family coming and going at the hospital, people were bound to find out and talk.


We were all with Alexia at the hospital trying to distract her and have fun. As any mother would do. We were all trying to make the best out of a bad situation. We invited family and friends to visit and tried to keep her spirits up. In hindsight, I wish I hadn't posted that picture, but I certainly didn't mean to hurt Kim. She posted a picture when she was in the hospital this year. Yolanda and Camille have done so regularly. And where is her responsibility in all of this? However, I do feel bad about what it has led to. And I've told her that. I also felt terrible because I know she loves Kingsley, but I also love my child. It was a difficult time for all involved. I didn't blame Kim personally regarding the dog and was willing to drop it and move forward, yet she was too angry with me regarding the Instagram post to be able to do that.
I wish that since I was willing to let go of my anger regarding my daughter being bit and what she had to go through that she could have let go of being upset about the Instagram post. I HAVE to believe she knows I did NOT do that to hurt her.
For Kim to throw out that she would say something about Alexia ( like she did to Lisa R. regarding Harry ) nearly took my breath away. But her dog is off limits?
So there you have it.
I don't even know what to say or do anymore. Clearly, we will never agree on this matter. And now we have more issues to work through, like my hurt and anger over Kim threatening to say something about my child. I know she loves Alexia, and it was just her being angry and "in the moment," but it's going to take me some time to get past that. All I know is I am glad I don't have to relive all of this again on TV. Now I need to take a step back .
Hopefully, time will heal my relationship with Kim. Time and having an open and honest relationship.
It's been a very difficult season. That's for sure. Thank you all for watching.
XO,
Kyle

P.S
Some things I would like to clear up:

A) I NEVER asked for Kingsley to be put down. I love all animals and know how much Kim loves Kingsley. That was never part of our argument.

B) Brooke's wedding : Brooke did a small ceremony at my sister Kathy's house (part of it aired this season), so that Monty would be well enough to walk her down the aisle. The wedding we were referring to at the reunion is her actual "big wedding " coming up. And NO, I did not do anything "unspeakable" or "unforgivable" at the wedding at Kathy's house like Brandi has (once again) put out there. It was a beautiful, perfect day that Brandi Glanville is now trying to throw negativity on. She was NOT EVEN THERE. On top of everything else Brandi has done, she now wants to turn that beautiful day that my family celebrated into something to lie and gossip about. Shame on her.

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