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Lisa: It's Irritating to Justify Myself

Lisa clarifies once again why she wasn't at Kimberly's graduation party and where she stood on Joyce and Brandi's talk.

Oh goodness this week has been hectic, but good and productive. Yet here we are again. . .

It was lovely to see Kimberley at her graduation and to see how she has matured into a beautiful young woman. I hope she achieves all of her dreams as she certainly deserves them.

It's hard to understand why somebody would search for a problem when really there isn't one. I had made everyone well aware in advance that I had committed that weekend to National Alopecia Areata Foundation in St Louis.

As many of you know I support various charities, speaking on their behalf, turning up at events where help is needed -- the American Humane Association, GLAAD in support of the LGBT community, and feeding the homeless every Monday for the last six years. But that's me.

Now Giggy is a personality in his own right, so I needed a charity that would fit his profile -- and children with alopecia was a perfect match. Now can I compare Giggy's hair loss with that of a child's? Of course not, but I knew that Giggy could make a difference, bring some levity to what otherwise can be a somber affair. When Giggy appears and we talk with the children and teenagers -- many of whom watch him every week, many had just seen him on Dancing With the Stars -- the message is clear. Should alopecia stop you being the very best you can be? We asked the children if they thought he would be cuter with his fur. They unanimously answered no he was perfect, so then I gently remind them that is the way people feel about them.

So he has been invited to events, and because I speak on his behalf we were asked to support that weekend. It was a long way for two days, but they wanted me to draw awareness to NAAF and film a PSA and wondered if we would lead the march. I am not sitting at Beverly Hills lunches, but being proactive. I have little time and I admit I rarely go to things I am invited to socially as we have businesses that are open in the evening and it's hard to juggle everything. However, I find it irritating that I have to justify myself, but clearly I do.

I arrived back after leaving St. Louis that afternoon and stopped off rather late to check on SUR my business -- which on a Saturday night is at its busiest. We had something to eat and went home exhausted from marching and traveling

So later that week I spoke with a young lady who needed help with dresses for girls in foster care, a situation close to my heart as I explained we adopted our son Max from foster care 22 years ago. So I invited the ladies over and asked them to bring whatever they had. As I rooted through my closet with Rosia, who is the same size and normally lucks out, it struck me just how much superfluous stuff we all have that would be appreciated by others.

Then suddenly I am questioned by Kim. It was a few days later and it took me by surprise.

Apparently Kim's hairdresser told Kim she saw me and that's what transpired. I had said we were out of town, and I sent her a Tiffany pen as a gift, of which we never even had an acknowledgement, let alone a thank you letter almost as if were penalized for not being present.

Doesn't social etiquette allow you to politely refuse an invitation and inform the host that you have prior plans? Without being confronted and accused of lying? I don't know I give up I really do. Ken then said there many events Kim hadn't shown up for, true, I have heard an endless litany of excuses over the years -- even having an empty seat at my daughters wedding where she was a no show. But that's not really the point, if anybody informs me prior that they can't attend, then that's good enough for me.

I was astounded that Kyle brought her dog that had recently eaten Portia's rabbit!

Anyway I encouraged Kyle not to get involved with Joyce and Brandi, I actually preferred not to even listen at that point. It had all been too complicated, and it was preferable to give this conversation a wide berth. I cannot even fathom how another woman can use the terminology "I would knock your f---in teeth out," but there you have it.

I bid you a good week and as always remember my mantra, love, and laughter supersede all.

Lisa

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Lisa R.: It Was Just as Classy as I Anticipated

Lisa R. dishes on her first reunion experience and why she isn't bothered by the Depends jokes.

What did you think about part one of The Hunger Games? I mean, part one of the reunion. I’m actually in a different country on vacation with my family, and there is nowhere else I’d rather be. This is where I am the happiest!

As you can probably guess, from the time we finished taping, I had not seen a few of the girls and needless to say, I could have gone another few months, or really, another few lifetimes without seeing them. But here we were, locked and loaded on two couches sitting across from each other. It seems some came in ready to toss out passive aggressive insults about how much better they were than the rest of us, and others came in with a more direct approach, shooting out insults the whole way through. Just as classy as I had anticipated it to be.

One thing that I want to touch on, which I also did in an earlier blog this season, was the amazing charity that Kimberly-Clark (Depend) donated nearly a quarter of a million dollars to when I did their commercial. The fact that I got paid handsomely and Dress For Success did as well is worth any teasing or taunting I may get. If "not taking pride" in the jobs I choose means this worthy charity gets a hearty six figure check and some recognition, then so be it!

About Dress For Success:
Dress for Success is a global not-for-profit organization that promotes the economic independence of disadvantaged women by providing professional attire, a network of support, and the career development tools to help women thrive in work and in life.

You know, at one point, we see Brandi mention how she wishes I was more honest and not only hold the honesty for my interviews. How quickly she forgets about the lunch we had where I sat down and addressed how I wanted to talk about her and her crazy behavior. I asked why she says such mean things and acts out with the others. Maybe to Brandi this doesn’t count as honesty because she took our conversation and spun it, so we landed on the topic of Kim and not her. I don’t know. Just a thought.

How stunning does Kyle look in red? I knew how stressful it was for her to be in this situation. Having to see her sister for the first time in months with cameras around can’t be easy, but of course, she remained strong, and I’m proud of her for that.


I think Lisa V. said it perfectly when she spoke of Brandi’s drinking. She’s absolutely right to point out that that when Brandi drinks, it may not be a problem in her life, but it certainly becomes our group’s problem when she does it around us. Lisa was completely spot on with this one. And I know Pump loves the color pink, but that purple was fabulous on her! I love the royal purple, because let’s face it, Lisa V. is the Queen!


Eileen was also right to point out that she only commented on Brandi’s negative behaviors that happened while in her presence. One of those times happening in her own home! Eileen is always fair, she’s compassionate and she is direct. Such a class act and a gorgeous one to boot! I feel so grateful to have gone through this with Eileen as the other newbie. I can’t imagine this experience without her. Thank you, Eileen!

Many prayers and well wishes go out to Yolanda. What a trooper to even come to the reunion at all! I can only handle so much crazy and yelling even on my best days, so I can’t even begin to imagine how difficult it was for her to sit on the couch for the short time she was there. I also commend her for being able to take the high road when discussing what was said about Bella. I’m not so sure I could have done the same if something similar was said to me about one of my girls!

Thank you for all of your very beautiful well wishes and words of encouragement for my parents. My dad successfully made it through three bouts of pneumonia in the past year and is out of the hospital and doing OK. Both he and my mom are hanging in there but best of all have each other at almost 87 and 93.

This is just the beginning, so sit tight and keep your seat belts safety fastened. I have a lot more to say about a lot of things. Just you wait!

Until next week…

XO,

LR

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