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Lisa on Kim's Logic, Or Lack Thereof

Lisa explains that her strategy was for Brandi to stop making an ass of herself and to save Kim some of her dignity.

Hello to you all. I value all your comments, so thank you for taking the time to write.

OK. . .So we resume the dinner party that was rapidly turning into a fiasco. Joyce had already taken some heat, and I now saw Brandi turning her attention to Kyle. Kyle was not in the frame of mind to defend herself, and I knew I had to say something with out antagonizing her.

I, through many years of owning bars and restaurants, am only too well aware that reasoning with somebody who is overly intoxicated is usually pretty redundant. However, as I sat there, I understood that laughing at her ridiculous comments was almost supporting her. So I urged her gently to cease her nonsense. "Brandi, that's enough. Stop." A gentle reprimanding tone of voice, telling her she had gone too far. The look I received across the table was far from encouraging. But nonetheless I wanted to convey to her that what she was doing was not OK.

Kyle was emotional that weekend, once again investing in another tabloid story that had reared its ugly head. This one I believed was even more ridiculous. However Kyle always gives them more credence than they deserve, almost engulfing herself in the negative emotion of it all. Ignore it and this too shall pass!

I remember preposterous stories in the same magazine about myself. I never received support from my fellow Housewives discrediting them. I didn't expect it, and, quite frankly believe that to comment on it almost perpetuates it. I have been known to refuse to speak to these particular sources on the red carpet -- and I don't believe it has helped my cause with them either.

I categorically remember Kyle and I having a conversation a couple of years earlier about this absurd allegation. It had been on the Internet. We had giggled over it. And now, after all this time, it had found its way to the trash mags. I didn't understand her overreaction to it, but wanted to comfort her. 

When I went to her bedroom my intention was to console her. When Kim started to pull off her underwear I closed the door, in attempt to preserve her dignity. I shouldn't have bothered. Suddenly this was about to deteriorate into something else. . .I left.

So after what had been a rather unpleasant dinner I was headed to our room for a brief respite. Yolanda and I were tired. I'd had my fill of the tension that had transpired and after a couple of glasses of wine, made my tea and was on my way to bed.

We were slightly worried that Brandi was possibly gaining momentum on her downward spiral and decided to check up on her. Seeing her with the bottle, I knew there was no way on earth I could stand by and watch. I grabbed it and didn't regret it for a second.

She glared at me, a look similar to the one at the table, resentful at the thought that I was chastising her and remarked that it was strategic. Yes my dear it was. It was a strategy that I have employed on numerous occasions to apprehend a friend making an even bigger ass of herself!

I would take a bottle out of a customers hand if they were drinking from it in my bar and especially a friend, regardless of the situation. But also being well aware that this was a scenario that would be documented ad infinitum, a moment that would be captured for the world to see. Because that's what a friend does, they step in when you are in a situation when you might not be using the best judgement.

When we were having tea the next morning (Yolanda, Brandi, and I), I tried to honestly convey to her that I felt protective of her. All the time we had a friendship I would do the utmost to look out for her. With hindsight. . . maybe I shouldn't have bothered. It begs the question do we react at risk of jeopardizing a friendship or do we stand by and laugh knowing they will be full of regret later? I felt that weekend was a defining moment in our relationship. I couldn't put my finger on it but I felt something shift.

Thankfully the next day we actually had a giggle and relationships improved. I pray. . .not on the weak. . .but I pray often. Still I cannot fathom the need to drop to your knees in public next to the trash, with a camera crew beside us in a public place, which always creates attention. It is a good example of why I have little understanding of Kim's logic. . .or lack thereof.

I had to leave the wonderful weekend early, as I was hosting an event for the magazine I write for. Honestly though, I hightailed it out of there -- thankful I had a prior commitment!

When I viewed the phone call about Chica, it tore at my heart. I had sent Brandi back in to her house to kiss them goodbye as she was leaving, having chastised them. She was thankful for that as it was the last time she would see Chica. It was so pertinent for me as I understood her love for her little furry friends. We never know what life holds for us..

So there we have it. Another week riddled with complications. I hope you all have a safe and productive week. I am still immersed in construction, but believing I can see light at the end of the tunnel. . .Until next week. . .

Love always Lisa.

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Kyle: Kim and I Will Never Agree on This Matter

Kyle clarifies the Kingsley issue and responds to Brandi's most recent accusation. 

I don't want to write this blog. I didn't even want to watch this reunion, to be honest. There. I said it. But here I go....
Let's just dive right into the text message from Lisa Rinna to Kim.
I was very shocked to hear about that text. There is no excuse for that. I believe Lisa R. knows that. I can understand Kim being upset about that. I am sure she was taken aback, as we all were when we heard it. However, I don't think Lisa Rinna is a dangerous person. She just made a really bad choice.


Now onto Amsterdam and the space cake talk. Brandi went after me in Amsterdam regarding the space cake, because she doesn't like me and wanted to deflect from her own behavior once again. This was her big chance to say something about me, calling me a hypocrite for not partaking in the space cake. I have said it before, and I will say it again: I NEVER said I haven't smoked pot. I HAVE. It's just not my thing. I have a lot more fun having a few margaritas. Kim knows that. I would have appreciated her chiming in there. Also, I have NOT eaten a pot brownie or a space cake ever, and my husband had warned me that it would not suit me well, knowing my personality. You cannot gauge exactly what you're ingesting, and it wouldn't be smart. I didn't want to have a bad experience and "freak out," so to speak. Brandi herself wasn't partaking, because of her own reasons (which had to do with her divorce, as she explained), so wouldn't that make her a hypocrite then? WHY did she care if I did or did not choose to? Because she wanted to jump at the chance to make me look bad, since her behavior and her drinking had been front and center. Her drinking was out there, because she puts it out there, and she has nobody to blame but herself. If I HAD chosen to eat a space cake, she would have jumped on that, too. Anything to divert from her own actions which she was comparing to ours. All of us may have a few drinks, but NONE of us behave like her when we drink.
I only address this because it was on television. Her opinion of me is completely irrelevant to me. I only cared, because I am a mother, and her trying to make me out to be something I am not is reckless, as is everything else she does.
Ok. Enough of that. She beat that non-event to death. I think we can move on now.

Now this is the hard part...Kim and I had not spoken since Nov 1st. We both knew the situation with my daughter, Alexia, and Kim's dog, Kingsley, was bound to come up at the reunion. We don't get to pick and choose what we want to talk about.
Alexia had spent the night at Kim's house on Halloween. The next morning, Kingsley bit her. While scary, at first it didn't seem that serious. However, what the first doctor failed to notice was that the tooth had pierced the bone and also broken it. Five days later, we found out that her bone was infected and she needed surgery to clean out the bone. Kim was upset, because I had posted pictures from the hospital. Like I said at the reunion, I NEVER said her dog bit Alexia. Never mentioned her OR her dog. TMZ ended up finding out that it was Kim's dog, and she blamed me, because I posted the pictures from the hospital. I did not do that to hurt my sister in any way or to "get Instagram followers," like she suggested. With all of my family coming and going at the hospital, people were bound to find out and talk.


We were all with Alexia at the hospital trying to distract her and have fun. As any mother would do. We were all trying to make the best out of a bad situation. We invited family and friends to visit and tried to keep her spirits up. In hindsight, I wish I hadn't posted that picture, but I certainly didn't mean to hurt Kim. She posted a picture when she was in the hospital this year. Yolanda and Camille have done so regularly. And where is her responsibility in all of this? However, I do feel bad about what it has led to. And I've told her that. I also felt terrible because I know she loves Kingsley, but I also love my child. It was a difficult time for all involved. I didn't blame Kim personally regarding the dog and was willing to drop it and move forward, yet she was too angry with me regarding the Instagram post to be able to do that.
I wish that since I was willing to let go of my anger regarding my daughter being bit and what she had to go through that she could have let go of being upset about the Instagram post. I HAVE to believe she knows I did NOT do that to hurt her.
For Kim to throw out that she would say something about Alexia ( like she did to Lisa R. regarding Harry ) nearly took my breath away. But her dog is off limits?
So there you have it.
I don't even know what to say or do anymore. Clearly, we will never agree on this matter. And now we have more issues to work through, like my hurt and anger over Kim threatening to say something about my child. I know she loves Alexia, and it was just her being angry and "in the moment," but it's going to take me some time to get past that. All I know is I am glad I don't have to relive all of this again on TV. Now I need to take a step back .
Hopefully, time will heal my relationship with Kim. Time and having an open and honest relationship.
It's been a very difficult season. That's for sure. Thank you all for watching.
XO,
Kyle

P.S
Some things I would like to clear up:

A) I NEVER asked for Kingsley to be put down. I love all animals and know how much Kim loves Kingsley. That was never part of our argument.

B) Brooke's wedding : Brooke did a small ceremony at my sister Kathy's house (part of it aired this season), so that Monty would be well enough to walk her down the aisle. The wedding we were referring to at the reunion is her actual "big wedding " coming up. And NO, I did not do anything "unspeakable" or "unforgivable" at the wedding at Kathy's house like Brandi has (once again) put out there. It was a beautiful, perfect day that Brandi Glanville is now trying to throw negativity on. She was NOT EVEN THERE. On top of everything else Brandi has done, she now wants to turn that beautiful day that my family celebrated into something to lie and gossip about. Shame on her.

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