Cast Blog: #RHOBH

Lisa: This Is Where the Tide Turns

Lisa V.: I Won't Erase the Past

Brandi: I Don't Enjoy Anger or Grudges

Eileen: I Could Feel the Tension at Kyle's

Lisa R Reflects on That Bittersweet Episode

Yolanda: These Are Teaching Moments

Kim: My Heart Felt So Big

Kyle: Kim and Monty's Relationship Is Unique

Lisa V.: I Needed an Uncomplicated Friendship

Brandi: Kim Is a Survivor

Eileen: Brooke Was a Gorgeous Bride

Lisa R.: I Couldn't Be More in My Element

Brandi: I Felt Like a Grown Up

Yolanda: I Was Doubting My Parenting Skills

Lisa V.: A Scare Can Be the Ultimate Lesson

Eileen: Yeah, Vincent and I Bicker Sometimes

Lisa R.: My Heart Ached for Yolanda

Kim: The Call No Parent Wants to Get

3 Clues to Next Week's Episode

Brandi: Not a Good Time for My Phone to Die

Lisa V.: Hindsight Is 20/20

Kim: The Words You Never Want to Hear

Yolanda: 50 Is the New 30

Eileen: A Long Career Is the True Award

Kyle: An Invite to a Party Isn't the Answer

Lisa R.: God Bless Michael Bolton!

Quiz: How Well Do You Remember Episode 3?

11 #RHOBH Reactions That Sum up Our Lives

Kyle: I Would Take A Road Trip Over a Plane

Lisa: When You Reach Out, You Are Rewarded

Kim: Brandi and I Always Seem to Have Fun

Yolanda: A Homemade Meal Goes a Long Way

Brandi: I Was Surprised Adrienne Was So Receptive

The Real Story Behind Lisa R.'s Depends Ad

3 Clues to Next Week's Episode

Quiz: How Well Do You Remember Episode 2?

3 Times the 'Wives Were Just Like Us

Quiz: How Well Do You Remember Episode 1?

Kyle: Brandi Was Looking for Trouble

Lisa's First Impression of the Ladies

Yolanda: Fasten Your Seat Belts

Lisa: This Is Where the Tide Turns

Lisa explains how this is the moment that her feelings about Brandi and Yolanda started to change.

Oh dear! That is all I want to say really! Could we just leave it at that? How can I even begin to analyze or summarize this complicated web we are weaving?

We start with the degrading scene, talking about the various sexual antics these women get up to. I am not particularly interested in the two finger maneuver that will be explained in her book. After 31 years of marriage I probably have a few maneuvers of my own I could share.

It's hard to understand this constant need to shock. Her admission of indulging in cocaine, nudity, of being choked? Calling yourself a whore? What message does that send?

One must remember that what we see will forever be documented. Provocative statements. Like you, I am witnessing for the first time, as obviously we have no knowledge of what has been shot. But with all that I have seen since, being called a bully by paparazzi in front of my children would rate pretty low on the totem pole.

I understood when Carlton and Kyle went shopping that Carlton wanted to clear up a few points. It was done in a logical passive way. I believe Kyle wanted to be friends with Carlton at that time, but it turns out to be a clash of personalities that never really progresses -- in fact, it probably deteriorates. I have found Carlton to be a little eccentric but a kind,sweet girl with a love for spirituality. . .

When we arrived, it was well over 100 degrees, so when we collapsed onto the tiny bed after carrying heavy luggage, it was good enough. I knew from previous experience that I would be in the cupboard. It went without saying.

When Brandi made an idiotic remark at the pool, I was incredulous and embarrassed for her. Remarks like that are irresponsible. I do know she is not a racist, but I hope she cringes when she views it and learns to have a modicum of sense and sensitivity to other people's feelings. I tried to laugh it off, knowing a remark that was so provocative was downright rude to our hostess. It's particularly poignant this week, as we lay the iconic Nelson Mandela to rest -- somebody who paved the way to eradicate ignorance like this.

When watching this segment, I didn't understand the pressure from Yolanda for Joyce to get in the pool just because it was her party. Sometimes there are personal reasons why you would choose not to and who cares?

Brandi brings up the kiss. That again was a complete violation of an intimate moment that had no need to be shared. However when we enter this public domain, take heed. You do so at your own risk!

At the dinner we see a great example of the indomitable force of Yolanda and Brandi. Brandi incessantly calling Joyce "Jacqueline." It was fine as a joke once, but over and over again was taunting her. When the subject of bullying came up it was taking it to a darker place than we needed to go. Just call her Brenda in retaliation and shut her up.

I think it was obvious that Brandi was drunk and humor was the only way to diffuse it. But at some point when Yolanda kept on at Kyle, I urged Kyle to agree to disagree as there was no solution. It was six months ago and I was sick of hearing about it, and, to be honest, still didn't want to believe that Yolanda had been speaking of me so derogatorily.

Well this is where the tide turns. The slow realization that started to dawn on me, as I witnessed the nastiness that was transpiring in this group.

I believe I was wrong in not standing up to Brandi and her drunken rants against Joyce. Most of Brandi's barbs were, quite frankly, ridiculous. I don't think Joyce for one minute needs to worry about resembling "a big fat pig!" It was a tenuous situation as I said, with Yolanda and Kyle once again disagreeing over whether she had spoken negatively behind my back -- which you can decide as the viewer as we delve deeper into the relationships.

Joyce at that point was not somebody I was particularly fond of. I felt she had endeavored to create a problem over HairGate but as I explained in an earlier blog, what she was doing was trying to enlighten me that my friends were less than loyal. . .I chose to ignore her which was ultimately my downfall. Had I listened, I would've been more prepared for what was about to ensue in the upcoming weeks. I have since apologized to her, for sitting there and not coming to her defense.

Finally, I will leave you to be the judge, to draw your own conclusions remembering we are only a quarter of the way there. . .

Much love to you all on this incredibly cold week in Los Angeles and I will see you very soon.
Love always Lisa.

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Eileen: I Could Feel the Tension at Kyle's

Eileen weighs in on the tension at Kyle's and shares what she thought of the ladies right out of the gate.

Happy Holidays Everyone!

I really enjoyed seeing Lisa R at home with her girls. You gotta love teenagers, right? I totally related to her situation with her parents. My mom is 92 and was my best friend my entire life. It's been so hard to not have her as my parent anymore. I have become hers, as dementia has slowly crept into her mind. I never feel like I see her enough. Vincent and I would have her come live with us but our family decided the move away from her home 3 hours away would probably kill her. Thank God my brother is living with her. It helps to know that he's there but I still feel guilty and sad not to be able to see her more. It was nice to meet Lisa R's sister and parents. What an amazing artist her father was! I had no idea.

Yolanda is so down to earth and lovely. The real thing. I liked her immediately.

At Lisa V's, her swan attacked Ken. Hmmmmmmmm. I've been attacked by a swan before. I've got my eye on them! and their "feather diapered bottoms"! Hahaha.

It was so great to finally meet all the girls and their husbands. They are very interesting and dynamic people, right out of the gate. Kyle's home is beautiful and very warm and welcoming. I could tell that there was a lot of tension and lots of unresolved stuff going on. It was somewhat confusing because I didn't know all the backstory. Still, Vincent and I had fun sharing stories about "the business" with Kim, etc. And it was a great opportunity to have gotten to know the women better. Well, Brandi a little better than the others! LOL. I thought she was funny and definitely likes to lay it on the table. So to speak.

Merry Christmas and Joyous Holidays to you all!.

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