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Joyce Drank the Richards Sisters' Kool-Aid

Yolanda shares her thoughts on Joyce and Brandi's behavior in Palm Springs.

Hi everyone! WOW that was a pretty crazy episode, so let’s get right to it...

Brandi has been working really hard to support Jake and Mason as a single mom, and I am really happy she has a new book deal and other great opportunities coming her way. Her sex advice is to the point, and I believe she says out loud what most women think but do not dare say.

Kyle and Carlton have been like oil and water since the day they met. I would like to point out to you that Kyle is always referring to TEAMS and Carlton is just not buying it and trying to get a fresh start from a fresh start. The Lakers and the Clippers teams play against each other, friends shouldn't. Kyle has obviously burned her bridges with everyone in this group, and since Taylor and Faye Resnick left, she has made it her mission to enlist Joyce to be her next, new soldier.

I would like to take you back in time so you understand the circumstances of when this story took place. The first time I met Carlton and Joyce at Kyle's party, I gave them both my phone number and invited them to lunch, even though I was still spending most of my days in bed battling Lyme disease. I felt like I needed to make an effort and make them both feel welcome in the group. Carlton and I saw each other that same week, but Joyce and I never had one on one time before our Palm Springs trip. Seeing today’s episode, she clearly drank the Richards sisters’ Kool-Aid.

Nevertheless, her invitation was generous, but the whole concept of "who gets there first to get the best room" is high school antics. The room itself is symbolic. There were four bedrooms in the main house and we were seven women. We could have easily shared rooms and all stayed there together. Lisa and I ended up having a great time bunking up and enjoying girls' time we never had before.

Having been raised very disciplined, I had to iron for my mom every Friday afternoon after school. So to this day, I have a thing for sheets. Anyway, sleeping in the wrinkled sheets ended up being the least of our problems.

Instead of going back to high school, we should have gone all the way back to kindergarten and picked straws, which would have been much more fun and fair. I feel that when you take the responsibility to host something, it is your job to make sure that all your guests are taken care of equally.

Being in the desert where it’s 120 degrees in a bathing suit with nobody wanting to get wet was the most uncomfortable poolside experience I ever had. Kyle and Joyce were talking about skinny dipping that same night in the same pool, so the whole "I can't swim” excuse was an absolute lie.

Brandi's racial comment was uncalled for. The bigger picture here is that sadly nobody wanted to get in the pool because they are so critical of themselves and competing with each other. They don't want to mess up their hair and makeup and expose who and what they really are.

I found the conversation regarding Carton’s religion stimulating and informative. It’s because of people who seem to think their God is much more powerful than others that we have so many wars in this world. Being raised by a Catholic father, a Protestant mother, and marrying the Muslim father of my three children, I encourage people to respect and at least try to understand different religions.

The interaction between all seven of us at the dinner table was an absolute insult to the intelligence of women. Seeing a two-hour dinner condensed down to five minutes just makes things even worse. In my own defense, even if it did not look like it, I will and have always been supportive of celebrating women and their success. I definitely showed interest in Joyce’s new show Siberia and even tweeted about it.

Joyce is a gorgeous, smart, and bubbly beauty queen, but we have not had the opportunity to get to know each other. Prior to this trip, we met for a total of ten minutes, and I’ve never had an in-depth one-on-one conversation with her, so I was quite surprised to see her already so influenced by Kyle. I know we are living in Hollywood where relationships are built overnight, but it takes me personally more than ten minutes to get to know someone and trust their opinion. I might be old-fashioned (and according to Joyce an “old lady”) but in my heart, friendships and respect are earned over time.

Joyce and Carlton were not with us at the time of the incident Kyle keeps referring to, which happened one and a half years ago in Paris. As an “older lady” (LOL!), I am realizing that because of my cultural difference, I have very different values. My honesty and directness are not very diplomatic and my words are often taken with a different intention than how they were spoken. I would like to learn from my mistakes if I make one, so I would have loved to hear Kyle’s perception of our conversation in Paris rather than “agree to disagree,” but I guess it is the easier way out. To Kyle’s defense, she has bigger problems to deal with at this particular time, which I am very well aware of.

So, to stay true to myself, I have to express my feelings about Brandi. Her and I started out friendly. I always found her to be a brutally honest person that says what’s on her mind.

When I first joined this group of women, I soon realized that her sometimes painfully honest truth was a characteristic quite rare here, so I gravitated towards her, because I am a creature that needs clarity. I would rather hear the truth than people playing nice to my face and then turning around and trash talking me like some of the usual suspects. Probably also an explanation of why Lisa and Brandi had been best friends for so long; a different but inseparable friendship I often admired.

During the first year of my battle with Lyme disease, Brandi was the ONLY person in this group that consistently and genuinely checked up on me, which says a lot about who she is as a person. For that, I love her and will always be grateful. With that said, I cannot control what comes out of Brandi’s mouth and I absolutely in no way, shape or form, condone Brandi's behavior even though as a woman, I do have empathy for the heartbroken person that she is and feel it is my responsibility as a human being to stay engaged with her and to be a source of support. If I can only give her a glimmer of hope while she is going through her darkness, then that is enough for me. I might be ridiculed for being a friend to Brandi, but I honestly don't care about fan votes or hate regarding this particular subject on social media. I ONLY care about going to sleep at night knowing I have done good and that I made a difference in someone’s life.

I broke my back giving birth to my son Anwar, lost my husband to infidelities, and battled severe depression all at the same time in 1999, so I know what it is like to be broken and down in a deep, dark hole while trying to keep it together to be a mother and raise children. Life did not give me that experience to now look down on Brandi and judge her for falling in a hole that I was once in.

Did I behave like her? NO, I didn't because I choose to live an isolated life with my three children until I weathered the storm. I was a financially independent woman before I got married to Mohamed, so I had the power and freedom to pick up my children and move away from my life in Beverly Hills to the quiet, little town of Montecito.

I am only sharing this information with you because I want you to think twice before using social media to violently judge my friend who's fighting a battle you know nothing about. It’s so easy to push the send button with your nasty comments, but please take into account how much damage your words can do to someone so fragile. NONE of this is an excuse for Brandi's behavior, but it is an explanation that needs to be taken into consideration.

I am having a very hard time watching her myself, but I am trying to remember the woman that drove all the way to Malibu just to sit by my bedside and give me a cup of coffee during my battle with Lyme disease this year… So at this point, I am giving her a pass hoping we have seen her at rock bottom and that she is getting the help she needs to work through all the demons that are haunting her. Remember, the way people treat others is a true reflection of how they feel about themselves.

By the way, none of this is news to Brandi. I have had plenty of conversations with her regarding her behavior, which you will see in the upcoming episodes.

I am not just going to drop my friend because she is not making me look very good in front of all of you right now. I will support Brandi to the best of my ability until she comes out of this very difficult time in her life. At this time, I only wish her love, light, and the ability to heal her broken heart.

In the beginning of my horrendous health journey, it was really hard to accept withdrawing from the world after being so immersed in it my whole life. But I must say that being forced to deal with half my brainpower has slowed me down and given me the ability to step back and assess situations in a clear way that I never have before. I am learning to manage my expectations of people and to try to accept everyone for who they are knowing we all do the best we can.

Have a great week.

Much love,
Yolanda

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Kyle: Kim and I Will Never Agree on This Matter

Kyle clarifies the Kingsley issue and responds to Brandi's most recent accusation. 

I don't want to write this blog. I didn't even want to watch this reunion, to be honest. There. I said it. But here I go....
Let's just dive right into the text message from Lisa Rinna to Kim.
I was very shocked to hear about that text. There is no excuse for that. I believe Lisa R. knows that. I can understand Kim being upset about that. I am sure she was taken aback, as we all were when we heard it. However, I don't think Lisa Rinna is a dangerous person. She just made a really bad choice.


Now onto Amsterdam and the space cake talk. Brandi went after me in Amsterdam regarding the space cake, because she doesn't like me and wanted to deflect from her own behavior once again. This was her big chance to say something about me, calling me a hypocrite for not partaking in the space cake. I have said it before, and I will say it again: I NEVER said I haven't smoked pot. I HAVE. It's just not my thing. I have a lot more fun having a few margaritas. Kim knows that. I would have appreciated her chiming in there. Also, I have NOT eaten a pot brownie or a space cake ever, and my husband had warned me that it would not suit me well, knowing my personality. You cannot gauge exactly what you're ingesting, and it wouldn't be smart. I didn't want to have a bad experience and "freak out," so to speak. Brandi herself wasn't partaking, because of her own reasons (which had to do with her divorce, as she explained), so wouldn't that make her a hypocrite then? WHY did she care if I did or did not choose to? Because she wanted to jump at the chance to make me look bad, since her behavior and her drinking had been front and center. Her drinking was out there, because she puts it out there, and she has nobody to blame but herself. If I HAD chosen to eat a space cake, she would have jumped on that, too. Anything to divert from her own actions which she was comparing to ours. All of us may have a few drinks, but NONE of us behave like her when we drink.
I only address this because it was on television. Her opinion of me is completely irrelevant to me. I only cared, because I am a mother, and her trying to make me out to be something I am not is reckless, as is everything else she does.
Ok. Enough of that. She beat that non-event to death. I think we can move on now.

Now this is the hard part...Kim and I had not spoken since Nov 1st. We both knew the situation with my daughter, Alexia, and Kim's dog, Kingsley, was bound to come up at the reunion. We don't get to pick and choose what we want to talk about.
Alexia had spent the night at Kim's house on Halloween. The next morning, Kingsley bit her. While scary, at first it didn't seem that serious. However, what the first doctor failed to notice was that the tooth had pierced the bone and also broken it. Five days later, we found out that her bone was infected and she needed surgery to clean out the bone. Kim was upset, because I had posted pictures from the hospital. Like I said at the reunion, I NEVER said her dog bit Alexia. Never mentioned her OR her dog. TMZ ended up finding out that it was Kim's dog, and she blamed me, because I posted the pictures from the hospital. I did not do that to hurt my sister in any way or to "get Instagram followers," like she suggested. With all of my family coming and going at the hospital, people were bound to find out and talk.


We were all with Alexia at the hospital trying to distract her and have fun. As any mother would do. We were all trying to make the best out of a bad situation. We invited family and friends to visit and tried to keep her spirits up. In hindsight, I wish I hadn't posted that picture, but I certainly didn't mean to hurt Kim. She posted a picture when she was in the hospital this year. Yolanda and Camille have done so regularly. And where is her responsibility in all of this? However, I do feel bad about what it has led to. And I've told her that. I also felt terrible because I know she loves Kingsley, but I also love my child. It was a difficult time for all involved. I didn't blame Kim personally regarding the dog and was willing to drop it and move forward, yet she was too angry with me regarding the Instagram post to be able to do that.
I wish that since I was willing to let go of my anger regarding my daughter being bit and what she had to go through that she could have let go of being upset about the Instagram post. I HAVE to believe she knows I did NOT do that to hurt her.
For Kim to throw out that she would say something about Alexia ( like she did to Lisa R. regarding Harry ) nearly took my breath away. But her dog is off limits?
So there you have it.
I don't even know what to say or do anymore. Clearly, we will never agree on this matter. And now we have more issues to work through, like my hurt and anger over Kim threatening to say something about my child. I know she loves Alexia, and it was just her being angry and "in the moment," but it's going to take me some time to get past that. All I know is I am glad I don't have to relive all of this again on TV. Now I need to take a step back .
Hopefully, time will heal my relationship with Kim. Time and having an open and honest relationship.
It's been a very difficult season. That's for sure. Thank you all for watching.
XO,
Kyle

P.S
Some things I would like to clear up:

A) I NEVER asked for Kingsley to be put down. I love all animals and know how much Kim loves Kingsley. That was never part of our argument.

B) Brooke's wedding : Brooke did a small ceremony at my sister Kathy's house (part of it aired this season), so that Monty would be well enough to walk her down the aisle. The wedding we were referring to at the reunion is her actual "big wedding " coming up. And NO, I did not do anything "unspeakable" or "unforgivable" at the wedding at Kathy's house like Brandi has (once again) put out there. It was a beautiful, perfect day that Brandi Glanville is now trying to throw negativity on. She was NOT EVEN THERE. On top of everything else Brandi has done, she now wants to turn that beautiful day that my family celebrated into something to lie and gossip about. Shame on her.

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