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What Drives the Richards Sisters?

Yolanda thinks jealousy and insecurity drive Kim and Kyle's behavior; plus she clarifies what happened with Joanna Krupa.

Hello Bravo lovers, I hope you enjoyed tonight's episode and thank you for taking the time to read my blog. . .

I wish you and your loved ones a wonderful Thanksgiving. Even though we don't celebrate this in Holland, I have grown to love it, and it is my favorite holiday. I enjoy the togetherness of the family in the kitchen, cooking, and then sitting around eating, drinking wine, and chatting until we roll in front of the TV and watch movies 'til late hours.

OK here we go. . .Trashy Lingerie is a landmark in LA and seeing Brandi and Carlton there makes me smile and makes me happy because it's a great example of what girlfriend time should be like -- fun, loving, and supportive of each other's beliefs and success without judging or jealousy, which seems to be rare these days, especially in Beverly Hills.

When I got the invite to go to the Cirque school, I thought it was a splendid idea. Even though I am in no physical shape to participate much, I was happy to get out of the house and looked forward to seeing everyone for the first time after the reunion in a light and playful setting. Obviously there are a lot of unresolved issues within this group.

I'm not very diplomatic and wear my heart on my sleeve. I cannot fake, make nice, or even pretend nothing ever happened between the Richards sisters and I. They insulted my integrity and they continue to do so. I always wonder, what drives women like that? I assume the sad answer is insecurity and jealousy.

As a woman, I am very proud of Kim's personal accomplishments and will always root for her sobriety. I don't particularly care for the way she spoke to me and repeatedly told us how to behave at an afternoon of adult women’s gymnastics. I just don't agree with her lack of wanting to resolve issues, but rather choosing to swipe them under the carpet and fake OK for the day! I certainly wasn't trying to be rude; I just have a strong need to communicate on a deeper level to get clarity. I had hoped to resolve some issues by the end of the afternoon so that we could finally move on but I guess we continue this superficial bulls--- for a little while longer.

I strongly believe that a lot of problems in this group would disappear if we started to talk to each other rather than about each other.

On a better note, I am so happy you are finally seeing my baby girl Bella (who usually runs when she sees the cameras), but we were lucky to catch her on this particular day when I am packing and her sister is leaving for London. These two rascals in my closet just crack me up. They always make me smile and are my absolute happiness. Raising them to be humble and without entitlement in their so very privileged life has always been my biggest challenge. I am proud to say that they grew up shopping at Target and Abercrombie rather than Gucci and Chanel. But now that they are finally taller than I am, I gladly let them borrow things for special occasions. I am happy they are starting to work and make their own money so that they can finally learn the true value of it.

Prom was so exciting for the girls. Seeing them and all their friends dressed up looking all grown up was pretty special and exciting. Having them taken in large limos to undisclosed locations for an all night Prom Party was a little scary but I guess that’s part of being in a graduating class. Extravagant? Yes. Obnoxious? No.

After our lunch at Carlton's house, Kyle, or someone in her camp, told the press that Brandi, Lisa and I bullied her. Really?!? The definition of bullying is: to use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants.

It's such a strong and serious allegation. None of us has any malicious intent when it comes to Kyle. I agree with Lisa, she could have easily retracted that statement and cleared up the situation by tweeting about it but she chose not to.

Brandi brought up Mauricio's situation at lunch because it was all over the press and everyone was talking about it -- except in front of Kyle. Mauricio seems like an honorable man to me, so the truth lies between him and God. Yes, I insinuated that where there is smoke there is fire, because I believe that to be true. As a woman who experienced infidelity firsthand, I will always advise my girlfriends to only trust their husbands 95 percent and leave 5 percent for human error.

Anyway, the conversation was never meant to hurt Kyle in anyway, but rather to show her support, share experiences, and give her an opening to talk about it. Isn't that what these girlfriend lunches are for?

The statistics that I have read show that 70 perecent of married men admit to cheating. So let’s not sit here and pretend everything is so perfect because life just isn't!

No matter what my issues are with Kyle, I feel for her and I truly wished the Umansky family was spared this public embarrassment, as their children did not ask to be in the public eye and I can only imagine how much pain this caused their beautiful girls. My heart goes out to them and I only wish them love while they continue to recover from this low blow.

The tabloids so easily throw people under the bus for a one-day sensation on the newsstand but sadly don't care about the long-term damage it does to those involved.

Which leads me to clarify that Joanna Krupa did not cause Mohamed and I's divorce. Unfortunately infidelity did, but at this point, 12 years later, we have left that negative chapter behind and have moved on to be friends and are united parents to our children.

I always like to remind myself that the most honorable people of all are not those who never make mistakes, but those who admit to them when they do and then move on and do their best to right the wrongs they have made.

Since I was not able to join the girls for lunch due to my daughter's prom, I am going to refrain from commenting on all the bickering. I just wonder when this is ever going to stop? It just all sounds so insignificant and such a waste of precious time. There are so many causes and charities we as a group could focus this energy on and try to make a difference in this world.

I am often reminded (by a pink sticky note on my computer) of Eleanor Roosevelt's brilliant quote: "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people."

I think I am going to leave it at that. Thank you so much for checking in, please continue to watch the show as this story will unfold.

Much love to you,

xo
Yo

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Lisa R.: I Am Done With Kim Richards

Lisa Rinna discusses her confrontation with Kim and dispenses some advice from her experiences this season.

We did it. We managed to get through Season 5 of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills without anyone going to prison! It got close at times, but thankfully, we did it. I went into this promising myself I would tell the truth, own my sh--, and always, ALWAYS come from a place of authenticity. Much like everyone else, I am human, and I make mistakes. Sometimes, I act on emotion before really allowing myself time to process, and that can lead me to say or do things that I’m not always proud of. But I make sure to own what I say and do, learn from the mistake, and hopefully grow into a better person because of it.

So, we start off with an emotional glimpse into my family life. It’s time to take down the beloved swingset we have loved and heavily used for nearly 13 years. There were so many wonderful memories attached to that swingset that we will cherish forever and how what a poignant representation of the end of our girls’ childhood as we know it. I wish we could have given it to another family to use and love as much as we did, but unfortunately it was made of wood and had become a hazard by this point. It was just too dangerous to pass along to another family, or else that’s exactly what we would have done. Watching my family during this transitional phase only reiterates just how important each of them is to me. I am fiercely protective of my husband and girls and will not tolerate anyone trying to falsely tarnish the love we all have for one another. The fact that this was even attempted that first night in Amsterdam was both an injustice and violation to my family and me. As a matter of fact, it’s such an injustice, that as we all saw, my inner Dalai Lama moved aside to let my inner gangster take over!

“Don’t let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” -Dalai Lama

On to Adrienne’s party…I feel like I need to remind you that I was done, done, DONE with Kim Richards at this point. I went to this party with zero intentions of talking TO Kim, ABOUT Kim, and definitely nothing around Kim’s forbidden topic of sobriety. I have been scolded, yelled at, and thrown really f---ing hard into the lion’s den about it, so for my own sanity and peace of mind I. Had. To. Be. Done.

Rather quickly, it became quite evident that Kim was out to hurt Kyle.

Lisa Rinna

Now keep this in mind as I see Kim Richards walking toward me with a certain look of misguided determination in her eyes. When she sits down and asks me to talk about her sobriety, I honestly think I died a little inside. Was this for real? Was I being set up? What kind of warped reality did I find myself in at that moment when Kim was in front of me demanding I talk about "the situation" yet again?! Oh yeah, no way was I going to become a pawn in her weird little mind game. Rather quickly, it became quite evident that Kim was out to hurt Kyle. Kim was making it very clear that she chose not to believe what Kyle had told her, and she was trying to drag me in to help take down her sister. Let’s be real here for just a moment: We all know Kim doesn’t like, trust, or want to be around me at all, so why does she need my confirmation or validation of the conversation? Kim was going to hear exactly what she wanted to hear, regardless of anything I said, because that’s exactly what she does with everything anyway.

Nope. Not gonna play into Kim’s games for a second. I needed to stay honest to myself by not discussing Kim’s sobriety, and unfortunately that resulted in agitating and pissing everyone else off. Listen, I completely understood that both Kyle and Eileen had their opinions and strong need for me to justify Kim’s questions, but the “she said this and she said that” back and forth was just too much. Like I mentioned in last week’s blog, I did what Brandi asked by going to Kyle with this information, and it was now up to the Richards sisters to figure out.

Until I felt an overwhelming feeling that I wasn’t taking Kyle and Eileen’s side. I wanted to support them, so I confirmed the conversation only because Kyle needed me to. Not because Kim wanted me to. Big difference. So, I put aside my own opinion and point of view to support Kyle, since she felt so strongly about it. Walking over to Kim, only to have her shush me and snap at me and speak to me as if I were a child, was only allowing for more red flags to fly. As you saw, I took it in stride and temporarily buried it, but I really don’t do well with people talking to me in such a disrespectful way.

The two different times I spoke to Kim about it that evening, once with Brandi and once without, I felt the need to remind everyone around me that the conversations we’ve all had about Kim were always from a good place, a place of concern and worry, much like what Brandi and Kim apparently only reserve for their own friendship. I never had any intentions of making Brandi look bad during our lunch conversation, because I really felt she was speaking from the heart about her friend, Kim. It’s just a shame that she didn’t feel the same about my role in the conversation, and, yet again, she denies what was actually said. But I guess you live and you learn, and you slowly start to identify a person’s true colors, which is all just a part of this process.

It’s important to mention that I was also concerned for Brandi and her father. I had reached out to her about her father at that time, because I know how hard it is to have a parent with ailing health, and I was sympathetic to the obvious pain she was in. Though much like I remind my daughters as they navigate their young social lives, it’s important to treat others as you would like to be treated. Speak to others as you would like to be spoken to, and never allow your pain and unhappiness to be an avenue to lash out and hurt others.

I am still left bewildered and baffled with absolutely no closure from that party. I was just kind of left sitting there at the party dumbfounded by the turn of events and also by the way I was treated by Kim Richards. It’s so not OK to speak to people the way she does. That said, I do think Monty is a very sweet man, and I absolutely wish him the best.

So, off we go into a three-part reunion beginning next week. You’ve seen the previews by now, and it’s every bit as crazy as you’re thinking it will be. Lots of tears and screaming and F-bombs, and that’s just from Andy! Just kidding. But seriously, it was a nightmare of epic proportions, like a roller coaster you were trapped on for 10 hours. I’ve never experienced anything like it...

Thank you for reading my blog this season and really making me feel welcomed to the show. I had no idea that I would be embraced by such a great community of fans, so for that, I am forever grateful! Keep tweeting me so I don’t miss you all too much!

“Say how you feel, find your passion, love with every ounce of your bones, stand up for things that matter, don’t settle, don’t apologize for who you are... Be f---ing brave”

Until next time…

XO,

LR

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