Yolanda H. Foster

Yolanda disagrees with Joyce's labels of Brandi and wants Joyce's husband to remember that it's not "Househusbands."

on Dec 30, 20130

Hello Bravo Lovers! I hope you are well and enjoying these last days of 2013. I wish you and your loved ones a very happy New Year. I pray that each day love, health, and happiness will come your way.

So let's chat about this last episode of the year. . . 

I thought Carlton at the Hustler Store with David and his mom was just adorable. Gloria was such a good sport. How hip of her to be open minded enough to share an afternoon with her son and daughter-in-law that way. Even though they are very different women, you can tell that Gloria loves Carlton for the authentic woman that she is and values the happiness of her son.

I am happy you got to see a little more of my beautiful baby girl Bella, who's extraordinary spirit has guided and uplifted me through these difficult past 18 months. You don't really know what your children are made of until the mommy engine of the family shuts down and they are forced to step up and become the care-takers.

The truth is that a middle-aged woman like me shouldn't be having acne, but, of course, with my luck this year I celebrated my seven-year anniversary with some major imperfections on my face. I already lost my mojo, so these ugly zits are definitely not making me feel any better. But it's the reality and I guess my love has seen the worst of me by now. 

455 comments
janiceh3
janiceh3

I love watching Yolanda and her husband.  Yolanda, seems to do all the right things, sitting outside with her husband, she says, "I love you."  Heart warming. 

Deb1958
Deb1958

You are a very blessed woman. What a beautiful family and a great husband to boot. ...Go with your heart.

deborah.kanic
deborah.kanic

Yolanda, loved it when you had the diner and The Dream Team was formed. Too funny. I'm glad to see you have Brandi's back. I do not care for Joyce.  I think, she is trouble coming and going. Brandi is Brandi and that's who Brandi is, a wild flower. You never know what will pop out of her mouth from one minute to the next. Brandi does bring excitement and laughter to the show. I get a kick out of watching her. I do believe Brandi is honest and is a good person. She cracks me up.  

AddictedToBravo25
AddictedToBravo25

Wonderful to see your empathy for Brandi. She is a lost soul and yes as you said, in a dark place. She is obviously in so much emotional pain. About time one of her" friends "reached out to her, and brought her behavior issues to the table. Kudos to you and Lisa for recognizing Brandi's pain and where it is taking her.

Artemisa
Artemisa

Yolanda you are a sweetheart and not only beautiful inside but outside like your husband told you.

I can see a lot of paid workers in the blogs.   You can spot them right on.   We know this happens.  People paid others  to defend them . Joyce is the typica lady with a chip on her shoulders and does not have the sophistication to let go of thing, they keep it sooo  personally.  What did Brandi said that it is soooo offensive to keep harping on that  ALL THE TIME,  hope the woman get life and learn that is she want to be consider a lady, she has to act like one.  Yukkkk her husband fighting with a woman on a dinner party? nou nou nou

Love you and David and his music  and your beautiful home.

 

Jas03
Jas03

If you were attending a dinner party with David and someone came after you like Brandi did with Joyce, cussing and yelling, David would intervene...as he should. Do you really think he would sit there and watch someone treat you that way? If you do, then he's not the gentleman you say he is.

karenmom
karenmom

Who ARE you? Calling the trip to the sex shop with Carlton's mother-in-law "adorable"? This just fits in with your pattern of making excuses for "friends" even when there is no plausible defense. Carlton is flat out creepy and as much as you want to believe you are the epitome of class, you must have a big old screw loose.

Spot2
Spot2

Yolanda, do yourself a favour and dump Brandi.  She is an unintelligent, insecure person who when she can't think of anything intelligent or even nice to say tells people to F off and worse.  Really?  You lay down with dogs you get fleas Yolanda, cut the cord with Brandi and save your self resepct.

BJA
BJA

Yolanda-

 

I was glad to see you try to talk to Brandi about her yet again disgusting behavior.  I give you credit for being able to continue to be her friend.  I only wish you guys (the dream team) would stop supporting her "woe is me" attitude.  She needs to start acting like the grown woman she is and not be coddled by her friends.  She needs an intervention about getting her act together and stop using any little thing in her life as an excuse for acting the way she does.

balharbour
balharbour

You should have stood up for Brandi more Yolanda!  Defenseless, sweet, innocent single Mom like Brandi being attacked the way she was and not doing anything about it makes you look bad. And that German attacking her the way he did?  Surely you know enough history to have put him in his place - if his wife is too dumb to defend herself at a Housewives dinner she does not belong on the show and you know this.  Shame on you Yolanda for not calling out Lisa for being the hostess fom hell and for not defending our Brandi and kicking Yoyce and the German out.  Lots of viewers grew up with single mothers being attacked by 'good' married women and their husbands until our mothers cried and watching 'good people' like yourself and Lisa stand by and do nothing about it - for shame Yolanda! Our Brandi may not be perfect -but she is no racist or bully or drunkard - she just needs someone to love her and hold her and keep her safe and that could have been you this week before she broke down instead of after. This viewer really expects more from you and Lisa than from the other Housewives and you let me down this week.

seamus
seamus

Give it up Yolanda, if someone was sitting across from  you calling you names and cursing you, David would most certainly come to your aid. My husband would never tolerate anyone treating me that way, and I would expect him to speak up! I can only presume that Brandi's behavior is approved by you and that you find it acceptable, which makes you look pretty bad, too. At least she's drunk and can try to use that as an excuse...what's yours?

 

lheikell@charter.net
lheikell@charter.net

Wow Yolanda are you serious maybe you should have a intervention and stop feeding her booze

JoannMCostaCord
JoannMCostaCord

Love you! So natural,truly and friendly. Theres no fake on you. And so happy that you helped Brandi on these.

seberela
seberela

you are so full of it!!no class

MissMarie88
MissMarie88

Honestly...of all the trivial things that have been argued about on the show, I find arguing about hearts on a name card one of the worst, and while I can see where it may be irritating for some, I can't fathom finding such a severe issue with it. Kyle bringing it up the way she did to the whole table, to me, seemed just as uncalled for as everyone finds the hearts. What was the term she used? "Tits on an ant?" She says she wants to start over, yet she can't find it in herself to let little things like that go.  How does she expect to move forward if she can't learn to overlook petty BS. Honestly. I find the "Dream Team" comments to be more of a  "enough already" joke than anything else as the entire issue has been beaten to death already. Either way, regardless of all this, I don't think I can handle another "Drunk Brandi" night. 

NOTRASH
NOTRASH

Please evaluate this friendship!

Are you investing in what is consistently robbing you of one of your most treasured commodities—your time?

Brandi is a Train wreck! and a genuine authentic mean person 

 

She should  write a  book about her  best skills

1. plan a vicious attack ( Joyce, Mohammed,Joanna Krupa, Kim, Lisa, Leann,  you..................)

2. lack of vocabulary and basic manners

3. sad victim routine

 

ALLABOUTHOUSEWIVES
ALLABOUTHOUSEWIVES

Last season you were my favorite but now Im seeing a different side to you that is not cool. The dinner party with the hearts by the name..why did you invite the other ladies if you had to define an exclusive dream team at your table. I mean you should had just had your dream team. If you have a group of people, you should welcome everyone equally or not invite them. And then the whole Brandi thing...OMG. I cannot believe you even associate with her. She is a butt kisser to rich folk until she gets in a circle, meet enough of your friends and gets a lot of free stuff and lemons and she will be stabbing you in the back next season. Just you wait and see.

Lady33
Lady33

Oh Yolanda, the most perfect one. The one with alllllllll the answers. You are so self righteous it makes me sick. You only say that about Joyce's husband because it wasn't you being attacked. If it were you I'm sure you would've been extremely disappointed if David did not come to your defense. So stop being a hypocrite, it's very unattractive.

msroncon
msroncon

Yolanda,  you are embarrassing yourself.  Yes, it's not "Househusbands", so why is your husband on so much?  I think he is fun to see play and interact.  I wonder how your actual friends feel about you this season.  I'm sure not one of them think Brandi is great.  She is rude and needs a filter.  We all have filters, yet she's acting like a bratty child.  I used to like you.  If you can't see how ignorant Brandi is and how jealous of Joyce she is, then you are the type of person she needs as a friend.  She is embarrassing.

JRZEGIRL
JRZEGIRL

Yolanda when you first came on the show, you acted like you would not put up with bull....what happened? You not only put up with it (most times) , you make excuses for Brandi's trashy behavior. Can't you see she needs help, real help and not coddling? Please wise up and do what you claimed you would do....not put up with it. Be a real friend...HELP HER!!

Macbethr
Macbethr

Brandi keeps saying she's not going to change; she needs to! And you' re a fool to keep supporting her.

Gigi7665
Gigi7665

Yolanda, Even Brandi's African-American friend told her it was inappropriate. Brandi said that is the thing I can't take things back that I say. But she isn't a teenager.  Time for her to get therapy. I am glad you finally talked to her about how she is projecting. Sadly, I don't think that it will it make a difference. She is going to hit rock bottom before she gets better. It is not fun to watch.

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

That is easy for you to say...that it is not house husbands...your husband has not been in any scene where an argument has ensued where he is directly across the table from it...he must refuse to be a part of it...and you have pretty much gone solo into this endeavor...

 

But lets put your spouse where  Joyces was at....what would he have done?   Started playng a piano medley?  Or tried to come to your defense?   You are wrong to want only love letters...give me a spouse who shows loyalty...and does not care who sees him do it...

beckycd
beckycd

Yolanda, I'm sorry, but the whole heart thing on the place cards was awful.  If I had gone to a dinner party and the host had done something as immature as that, I would be totally offended, and rightfully so.  If you are trying to mend fences with Kyle, it sure doesn't show.  You were one of my favorite housewives, but you're quickly losing ground.  And please stop defending Brandi's disrespectful behavior.  There is no excuse.

NRo226
NRo226

You Backing Brandi is only making you look bad. I used to respect you till you became the bully towards kyle and Joyce. Take a step back and rethink. I know you can be better then that. You of all people should know that. 

joycemarie
joycemarie

Yolanda, I don't get why Joyce needs to be so understanding of where Brandi is coming from or try to understand her..understand what???...Brandi is a total train wreck this season and has the foulest mouth going..and whose husband is going to sit there, and let a trash-talking twit down his wife like that? huh??  and bet me, I am still pissed at Brandi for her  "Joyce is a big, fat woman". comment...excuse me trashy,  but I am a Joyce and I not big nor fat..

housewifefan2012
housewifefan2012

Break away from Brandy while you can...LOL Her behavior is out of control and it is not fun to watch her.

avalis
avalis

If it isn't "Househusbands," then why was David telling all the dinner guests when they could or could not sing, or even speak???

DaniO
DaniO

Hi,

 

Sorry ,but I do not see anything adorable about Carlton and her MIL's  shopping. Carlton tries to present herself as a " cool eccentric" , but the truth is tjat pretend lap-dancing on MIL isn't proper nor tasteful at all  , I am very surprised that  " proper Dutch girl" finds it adorable.  I am not a prude, but there is a limit.

 

I agree that Michael didn't know how to handle the situation in the best way, ( but on the other hand WHO can argue with stupidness that comes out from Brendi's mouth) and also who would defend Joyce that evening? The "make up" dinner looked more like "set up" dinner - you guys were ready to crucify her rather than make things up with her.

Honestly, you didn't act as someone who stepped aside from the ugly situation, you were clearly getting yourself in ,  taking sides,  interfering with Joyce's husband, which was completely unnecessary and  judgmental.

 

The truth is also that Joyce was far from graciousness that evening, and many ugly words came out from her mouth as well. But the difference is that by now, Joyce took so many s... from Brendi and Brendi's "laughing  supporters" that I do have some sort of understanding for her loosing her cool and etiquette that night. Especially since Brendi rudely started that fight - again.  

 

Unfortunately I do not see your involvement and  Brendi's  behavior  excusable. And yes dinner- hears were very rude but you already know that. 

loveallRHW
loveallRHW

So glad to see that you are feeling better and that you have recovered from Lyme disease. I like watching your segments, you have a beautiful family and home..but i wish you stop telling people how to behave...it makes you like arrogant and a know-it-all..

Joyce's husband had every right to defend his wife. 

Diane69802
Diane69802

Yolanda, I am all about your Dream Team and totally agree that they are the favorites.  I also agree with you that friendship are earned and Joyce cannot stand not being the popular girl....ugh she is soooo annoying!  If she flips her hair one more time I might have to turn the station.  Whenever she hears anything negative she over reacts and is sooo defensive, complete Drama Queen!  Kyle and Kim well, they have not been good friends to you so they should  have expected to be kept at arms length.  I love your honest common sense attitude and some people think you are being controlling and they think they Lisa is as well, but I thinking a mature person attempting to keep their friends from making a fool out of themselves or expressing your opinion of someone as you did to Joyce's husband and he was rude back to you is not controlling, it is simply stating your view.  I don't see you ever being friends with that crazy Joyce, she is so full of herself there is no room for anyone else.  Love you Yolanda!

critic
critic

 @karenmom She's not classy at all........and who would want to be someone's 4th wife?  She came onto the show and couldn't stand the way the ladies argued and now she sits back and just loves it....

Robyen
Robyen

 @balharbour

 Are you kidding me?  Why would Yolanda call Lisa out at her dinner party.  Did you see her dinner party?  The dream team... hearts on placecards, etc. 

charnorm
charnorm

 @balharbour There is something wrong with your televsion set. The rest of the viewing audience must be watching a different program, because Lisa and Yolanda are always defending Brandi. I guess someone cussing to your face, telling you to f-yourself is a defenseless woman. Lisa inviting guest to a dinner and allowing those guest to be attacked by her friend is also okay. I hope you are joking, if not then there is something wrong with your television set. Get a new one. You do not understand the definition of rude, classless.

 

adc111213
adc111213

 @seamus Thank YOU Seamus for calling out her hypocrisy. In NO way would Yolanda's husband put up with his precious wife being treated like garbage the way Brandi was attempting to do to Joyce. 

IsabelaGonsales
IsabelaGonsales

 @Gigi7665 Actually I just watched the episode and that girl is not African American, she's from Panama.  People really need to stop judging peoples skin color.  Not everyone w/ a darker tone is African American. 

dreamteam07
dreamteam07

 @FlutterBy Yolanda is a classy lady who doesn't get into bad arguments so her husband would never need to defend her...Joyce is nothing like Yolanda......

dreamteam07
dreamteam07

 @joycemarie If you go into a new group of women you don't go around trying to change people's opinion when they already have a history with them. Joyce does not...she is way out of line.

tjjpt
tjjpt

 @joycemarie Brandi said worse than that. Actually she said " Joyce reminds me of a big, fat, pig.". People who are hurt don't necessarily have to bite other people. Only mean people do. And that is Brandi. So I am like you.  I am Joyce's camp.

milano
milano

 @avalis

 gee, maybe being n his own house and entertaining people gives him a right...........

 

karenmom
karenmom

 @avalis Yo's husband is full of himself. Joyce's husband defended his wife, as he should. Brandi is jealous of a happy marriage. No way would David have just sat there. Yo defends her "friends" when there is really no defense.

Picket@fence
Picket@fence

@DaniO Ha, ha, ha, ha, I love all the 'Brendi's you wrote, hilarious!

sandi2
sandi2

 @loveallRHW Agree that he had a right to defend his wife; but he crushed that right when he began to act like a spoiled little girl himslef and started hurling insults.   What a tacky idgit he is.

charnorm
charnorm

 @Diane69802 I believe you are wrong. Yolanda and Lisa are courting Joyce to be on their team. Joyce has not made any attempt to be besties with these elitist. Lisa and Yolanda use Brandi to say and do the things they feel they are too good to say or do. Brandi is their court jester. It is fine to invite your favorite friends or guest; however, it is classless and rude to invite other guest you do not care for. Yolanda should not have invited Kyle, Kim and Joyce to her event if she felt the need to snub them, which she did. No class at all. There is no way I would invite people into my home at the same time and treat them the way she did. She can do her dream team separately, but she wanted to let these women in no uncertain terms she did not care for them. Snobs.

charnorm
charnorm

 @Diane69802 Yolanda was completly rude to her other dinner guest. Yes, we all have our favorites, but if you are inviting other people to your home you do not make them feel like they are at the bottom. If you have to treat guest in your home that way, then do not invite them. I am sure Kyle, Kim and Joyce had other things to do. They do have other lives and sitting at the dinner table of someone who has made it clear that you are a token guest is tasteless.

charnorm
charnorm

 @dreamteam07  @joycemarie A social event where a guest is being cursed at and every other word is the f-word is good friends with history. These women are not real friends, This is just a show. There is no way two European women would allow in real life a guest to act the way Brandi does. Can you imagine Brandi acting like that at Yolanda's house with David's friends. No way. As you can see Brandi does not act that way around Yolanda. Yolanda needs to put on this facade with David that she is the perfect wife. Yeah Right!

milano
milano

 @charnorm  

Where else would Kyle, Kim and Joyce go when they are paid to be at this party?