Yolanda H. Foster

Yolanda dishes on how she really feels about Mauricio, Kyle, and Carlton and what she's learned through Lyme Disease.

on Nov 11, 20130

Hi everyone. I hope you had a great week and enjoyed tonight's episode.

Please remember, the purpose of this blog is not to rag on anyone but rather to give you an individual's perspective on her journey in a group of seven strong independent women whose opinions are all equally as important.

Today's episode starts you off one-and-a-half years into my battle with chronic neurological Lyme disease. It's been a challenge to show this very vulnerable not so pretty side of myself. I find it almost embarrassing to watch my paralyzed brain struggle with word retrieval as I try to participate in conversations. Lyme has brought me to my knees; this disease is a silent killer and does not have a face. Words about the way I look used to flatter my ego -- but have now become a sound of discredit to my disease. Because of this, millions of people go undiagnosed and therefore not treated. Without treatment people become disabled, crippled, bedridden, and many die.

When struggling to get out of bed in the morning due to pain and exhaustion, the last thing on the priority list is going to get a blow dry. I choose to use the little energy that I have to make breakfast for my children and bring my husband a cup of coffee. I say this because it's funny to see how many people comment on my s---ty, thinned-out, lifeless hair. Obviously I am trying to share the truth of my reality here, not qualify for a beauty pageant.

I am the shell of the woman I used to be so the hardest thing for me is to accept my limitations and deal with the feeling of inadequacy due to not being able to do all that I used to. I truly miss me being me!

171 comments
Sully10
Sully10

Why isn't Bravo replaying the scene in Paris when Yolanda did say Lisa was full of $h!t and not Kim's friend....?  We all saw it!  Kyle isn't lying.  Yolanda is! 

Tracalli
Tracalli

Yolanda, I have one question for you , do you think that your husband that you love so much is proud of your behavior?

JockoFrobisher
JockoFrobisher

Yolanda, if all I did was read this one blog entry, I'd think you're a very sweet, sincere lady.  However, since I've watched every episode since you joined the cast, I know you're anything but sweet and sincere.  When are you going to admit that you told a big, fat, stinking lie about your comments regarding Lisa in  Paris?  Any chance you'll stop harassing Kyle and Joyce anytime soon.  You adore Mauricio, you claim.  Yet in a subsequent episode you agree with Lisa that where there is smoke, there is fire - in reference to the rumors that Mauricio cheats on Kyle by sleeping with transgendered prostitutes.  Yeah, it's a shame that you're sick, but just because you're ill doesn't mean you're not a vile person.  Have a nice day!

The3rdM
The3rdM

Yolanda,

I have to 1st tell you that ever since I found out about you getting sick I have been praying for you and your beautiful family. Having taken quite a few A&P classes I know a little bit about your illness. As for not always looking your best- you are always beautiful because it isn't what someone looks like that matters- it is their heart that make a person beautiful and you have a beautiful heart. I love watching you on the show as you tell it like it is, you are not a pot stirrer but rather someone who is honest, upfront and protective of your friends. I admire you for your many wonderful qualitities, I will continue to pray for your recovered health... Stay strong and keep fighting- you are a great face for your illness- keep bring awareness to it.

mt-310
mt-310

Yolanda, 

 

I agree with the writer below who posted that you and Lisa are absolutely stunning; more importantly, I find it disturbing that people are commenting on your hair style as you're filmed with family about to go to major surgery or discussing your debilitating illness. I'm sure you do, but please continue to ignore the BS opinions of apathetic twits. 

 

Stay strong and beautiful!

HiD
HiD

Yolanda, please keep trying to educate people about the Lyme epidemic. Forgive the ladies...their ignorance makes them unaware of what you and thousands of men, women and children are suffering through. It's time the HWBOH took a field trip with National Geographic or Discovery Magazine through the fields of Lyme.

Nancee1234
Nancee1234

Yolanda, the more I see of you the more I admire you. You remain classy throughout, no matter the circumstance. Hope your health continues to improve.

Bigwednesday
Bigwednesday

Are you still 'friends' with Brandi? If so, it says a lot about you.

498827
498827

Yolanda, you are my favorite.  So refreshing to see you keeping out of the bs.  Very nice post.  Too many high school like characters in the show -- it's nice to have you as a grounded adult.  I hope you are felling better.

niyofu
niyofu

Yolanda,  beware of Brandy!  She used Lisa and she will use u too.  U seem like a nice person and look like u can handle yourself but she is putting the same moves on you like she did with Lisa.  She is an user and an opportunist.

Calendargirl@20
Calendargirl@20

You mentioned in your blog that you receive negative comments on your appearance and your hair?  No way, Yolanda!  Are you kidding me?  You and Lisa are the most beautiful women that I have ever seen in the whole Bravo franchise.  You look great with, or without make-up.

Calendargirl@20
Calendargirl@20

You mentioned in your blog that you receive negative comments on your appearance and your hair?  No way, Yolanda!  Are you kidding me?  You and Lisa are the most beautiful women that I have ever seen in the whole Bravo franchise.  You look spectacular with, or without make-up.

lhe004
lhe004

Yolanda i think you should take a long look in the MIRROR DARLING you are just as back stabbing, stuck up, trash talking woman as some of the rest of the women on this show. You should really look at some of your own actions before throwing stones at others..

AudreyEH
AudreyEH

ohhhh Yolanda!!!

You are blessed with true beauty in your heart and your stunning physical beauty matches that. 

Thanks for welcoming the viewers into your life and sharing your struggle with this debilitating condition of Lyme disease..

You're one amazing, extraordinary being. 

Brava! Be well, Stay strong. the Earth loves you :O)

alfkanoodle
alfkanoodle

You are gorgeous inside and out.  I wish you the best of health.  I am a Yolanda fan!

cindinj
cindinj

I just wanted to thank Yolanda for being so public about the devastating effects of Lyme Disease.  No one can fully appreciate how awful this illness is until enduring it.  Like her, I had a severe case that included several rounds of IV antibiotics and a 5-year long battle...including the awful port in my chest.  Yolanda, you WILL be very close to 100% again.  You are a healthy woman who takes awesome care of yourself.  You go girl!  I also enjoyed seeing your lovely girl modeling.  We have just begun this with our 12-year old and it's been super fun. 

penny2
penny2

If I were you, I would step away from Brandi. 

Mj@Florida
Mj@Florida

Hi Yolanda - I think that you are great and I hope that your recovery is almost complete. I am curious about the cleanse that you were talking to your housekeeper about. Will you share the ingredients? I have had several surgeries on my back and feel like I am very toxic from the drugs. Please share.

dijoy
dijoy

Yolanda, darling, you really do need to stop playing the holier than thou type person.  You are by far the worst hypocrite on the show, and as Kyle said a big fat lier, even though she didn't say it quite that way. 

karatelady
karatelady

You are a classy and sincere lady . Stay strong and i wish you recover soon . So happy you are part of this group, I so enjoy your comments and your fridge!

RHJunkie417
RHJunkie417

I do not like you and hope that YOUR friend Brandi turns on you as quickly as she did Lisa. I don't know what you expect out of a "friend" however, IMO I wouldn't think a "friend" should discuss what caused the downfall of your marriage with people from another show. Buckle up Yolanda, she has made you look like a fool,as well as brought embarressment to your childen, even though you only act like you have one(Gigi). You know what they say about surrounding yourself with trash.....you start to stink (no pun intended, I like Joanna).....

mmartin579
mmartin579

Yolanda, I'm so sorry to hear you have Lyme.  I've had it since 2008, wasn't correctly treated until 2011. Lost the hearing in my left ear, along with 4 years of malarial like sweats, brain fog (I don't think I'll recover from memory loss), joint swelling, chronic fatigue, etc…you know the drill. I found an expert in Leesburg, VA (Loudoun County, Va is the epicenter of Lyme in the NE).  33 months cycling in and out of multiple antibiotics and was one step away in July, 2013 was I was bitten again.   Don't doubt you are as sick as you are.  Don't wonder if those words/names/memories don't come back to you.  You're not going crazy…you are sick.   I hope you stand up for this disease…CDC elevated cases for 30,000 to 300,000 and it's been found in the blood supply.  We all have to step up and have a voice.  Hang in there, this is a tough disease. 

MomLeader
MomLeader

Best of luck to you Yolanda. When Kyle said "whenever Yolanda shows up with a sense of humor I'll tell her" I wanted to flick her on the head. God I'd love to just flick her on her smug head. Just once, ya know? Just a quick "flick." Bucket list I suppose. She's so mean and bitter, and ugly inside. Stay away from The Richard Sisters. That's the best advice I can give. Good luck getting back to 100%. We need you and Lisa!

ecs25
ecs25

I am sorry about all that is being said about your first marriage and hope that you don't let it bother you. It isn't my business and I hope you don't let it ruin your day and that you can keep focusing on your health. I really like you on the show. You have so much class, in addition to your great personality. It is so hard to find a nice and decent person on TV anymore and you exhibit all those wonderful characteristics. I know that if I was on the show, I would want to be your friend. I also LOVE your Youtube channel! I have watched your Christmas decorating episode a million times! My favourite holiday is Thanksgiving and I was wondering if you could do a Thanksgiving episode for your Youtube account. I hope you have a wonderful weekend and cannot wait to see in next weeks episode.

 

Your Southern Friend.

 

P.S. I believe you in the war of the words with Kyle.

kiki13
kiki13

Yo- There are many of us here who support you and wish you all the strength in the world to help you get well soon!! Never mind those who will make unkind comments- they must not have had the experience of facing illness and hardships.  You are beautiful and you always will be!!

 

You are so lucky to have your wonderful family and especially your sweet hubby.  David is a dear one- it's so apparent how much he loves and treasures you.  Let that be your source of strength during the difficult times.  It's endearing to see how he takes care of you.  As someone said, it's inspiring to see the love you two have.t

 

Please take it easy on the cleanses during this time- don't zap your energy.  I think of you every morning when I drink my lemon juice- I really like it.. I still eat normally but just add the juice prior to anything else in my morning and it makes me feel pretty good.  I have lemon trees so am able to get fresh lemons most of the time.

 

I'm praying for you to get well very soon!  Stay strong! Take care. xx

bzegirl
bzegirl

Prayers for you as you continue to battle this debilitating illness.  Unfortunately, being on a show that is about material things and physical beauty you will be judged by your appearance.  That's the negative side of reality television.

 

My question though is why you allowed Brandi to say such negative things about your ex-husband?  He is the father of your children and they are the innocents who will be victimized by her filth.  How can you have her in your home around your kids and family?  You've been divorced for over 10 years, you've shown that you and your ex are friends and have moved past whatever happened in your prior life. 

 

Shame on you for allowing Brandi to continue to spew such vile accusations in the name of loyalty.  In your condition you should surround yourself with positive energy and true friends.  Brandi is not a true friend - the minute you've served her purpose she will turn on you the same way she turned on Lisa.  There's a saying "we are known by the friends we keep", well YO you seem to be a strong classy woman, associating yourself with Brandi will only leave a stink that may take longer to wash off than you bargained for.

 

Brandi is a flame that is burning out of control and her smoke is unhealthy. 

p-note
p-note

Brandi disrespected your children and their father!! I would be furious!! But I'm sure since it was Brandi who said it and not Lisa its okay!!?? Typical.......

jedantony
jedantony

Hi Yolanda! I've never commented on the blogs but I wanted to wish you all the best in your battle against Lyme disease.  Stay strong and stay fighting! Don't let it bring you down.

 

The love that you and David share is beautiful to see, and it inspires me to keep on looking for love and not shut it out of my life. 

 

I look forward to seeing more of you and your family on the show and I'm sending positive thoughts out to you!

 

Get well soon. Xx

debinmt
debinmt

I don't want to sound insensitive I know this will but I think you whine too much, poor me i have it so rough with the Lyme disease everyone kiss my butt, I have to get my port taken out. Boo hoo! Had one myself no big deal also had cancer, surgery, chemo, just recently a lung transplant and believe me its not poor me it's thank you lord for letting me be alive, maybe Yolanda you need to look at what you have, (which is more than stuff I hope you at least know that) and be very very grateful and thank The Lord that your alive and safe!

bchie
bchie

Sooooooooo,

How's the FRIDGE??

zocola
zocola

My heart goes out to you with your struggles with Lyme disease. You are so beautiful inside and out. Beautiful with such a horrible sickness. Beautiful trying to remember words. Beautiful with bad hair days! lol  I never had any idea that disease could be so terrible. Have you tried hormone therapy at all? I know that some women regain the strength of their teens when they take hormones. Maybe it could help? Stay strong and God bless your health. Thank you for taking the time and using your energy on writing a blog for us!

thechrisblake84
thechrisblake84

Yolanda, while I sympathize with you on your struggle and recovery with Lyme Disease, I really got a bitter taste in my mouth watching you with Lisa & Brandi talking such nasty things about Kyle. For someone who prides herself on being real and not a backstabber or gossiper, you really REALLY made yourself look like a hypocrite. 

I guess those Bravo paychecks just go straight to you, huh? Shady...As my girl NeNe Leakes says "You cant win, when you're playing dirty". I challenge you to PLEASE not become a bigoted bitch like some of those women.  

carries123
carries123

I love having you on the show. I am glad you are friends with Brandi. I am sorry you have to battle this disease and cant wait until you are on the other side. I love your home and I love watching you decorate!

McGuiganz
McGuiganz

Yolanda - I have been following you on Twitter, I hope and pray that you get back to 80 percent, 85 percent, 90 percent and more!  I love your style, your attitude and you make perfect sense. You really do make the best out of every drop of life. Looking forward to seeing more of you, truly beautiful inside and out. I would love to hear and see where you were born, if you have family overseas. etc.  Can that be one of the RHOBH trips?  Yeah!  ;)

mojosm
mojosm

Yolanda, why do you only feature Gigi? You make it appear as though you only have 1 child, where in fact you have 3. Your younger daughter is also a model (1 year younger than Gigi) but not a word about her. I can't help but believe that you are causing a riff or bad feelings between your children (especially your other daughter) by showing off and bragging about Gigi (all the time) and not saying a peep about your other two children.

anna78
anna78

You are both Beautiful and strong! I admire that. Also you seem very positive. Take care!

Kate123
Kate123

Yolanda, so glad you are on the show. You are a breath of fresh air among a lot of superficial people and surroundings. I'm sorry to hear about your health and glad to hear you are recovering. I thought you and your hair  still looked stunning and beautiful despite your illness.  As far as Kyle goes, she protests way too much and keeps trying to keep up the drama by constantly talking about it and getting people to side with her. Anyone that is so over the top makes me think the opposite is true. We all knows Kyle's personality and traits which lacks a lot of credibility. So glad you have so much integrity and class. You keep the show real and a fan favorite. Get well and keep your family close and surroundings positive.  Stay away from negative people, they just drain your energy and are a waste of valuable time.

 

libra4
libra4

Finally, a blog where you not trashing everyone. Maybe there's hope for you after all. I wish you well in your fight against this disease. Team Kyle!

bella0605
bella0605

 @Calendargirl@20 I agree completely! Yolanda is beautiful! I've had way worse hair days and I am not dealing with a chronic illness. 

sunshinelong
sunshinelong

 @penny2

 Yes!!!  You need to watch your back with Brandi and stop it with Kyle.......Yolanda, I like you but when you can tend to be (2) face also not lady like at all what will David said about your behavior????

sunshinelong
sunshinelong

 olanda, stay "STRONG" your health is much more important..............Yolanda, I have to say this I don't understand why it's acceptable from Lisa & Brandi------------but you dog out Kyle isn't that "DOUBLE STANDARD" you need to explain yourself............

sunshinelong
sunshinelong

 @thechrisblake84

 CORRECT!!!! It's funny everyone seems to be out for "KYLE" this season and it's so wrong............Is KEN or DAVID been seen around town with another woman but Lisa allowed (Brandi) to flirt with her husband (WOW) what did I missed....Ladies be careful in what you are saying about someone else "HUSBAND"  Ken & David are they faithful???????????????????? For Lisa, & Yolanda to be so classy whatever......

shegraves
shegraves

Maybe they dont want to be on the show.

lynnwhitlock
lynnwhitlock

 @mojosm Possibly Yo's other children do not relish the spotlight.  My sister loved the spotlight.  I never did.  I never had bad feelings about her getting attention because I did not want it.

CaliTina
CaliTina

 @mojosm

 Perhaps her other two children prefer to keep out of sight from the cameras.  And really, who could blame them...  Yolanda seems like the kind of mom who would give them the choice and respect their decision on how much they want to be filmed.  She is very protective and adores all of her children.        

jelliebean
jelliebean

 @mojosm Yolanda isn't in charge of editing this show. There was a lovely scene last year when her son got a haircut and she rubbed his head and kissed him..that is something I would do with my son. You should be asking Bravo why they are only featuring Gigi.

 

 

terry244
terry244

 @libra4 u are rite she does bash everyone... Behind their backs never to their face! It depends on who is there at the time shel either trash Kyle when Lisa and Brandy are around or shel blast brandy when lisa and kyle are around! Its just a big circle!       TEAM KYLE!!!!

randrew
randrew

 @libra4

 Huh?? I think you have the wrong person about trashing everyone. That sounds like... well I won't name names...

anna78
anna78

 @libra4

 What do you mean, she never trashed anybody?