"I did not like being pregnant," Stephanie admitted. "But with [my younger son] Cruz, my water broke and then contractions were like really fast; and I was 9 centimeters dilated before I got an epidural. So I was cursing, and it was like I was possessed by the pregnancy demon. It was horrible."
But, she adds, there was one upside: "Take advantage of people offering to let you cut them in the bathroom line, because people are so nice to you when you're pregnant."
Women usually either really love or pretend to love pregnancy. They're glowing, happy, etc. But the reality is, not everyone loves it. You may love it after the baby is here, but for many women, pregnancy can be uncomfortable and even painful.
Andrea Syrtash, founder of Pregnantish, the first online magazine that helps people navigate infertility and fertility treatments, thinks the experience of infertility makes this an interesting topic.
“Some women have harder pregnancies than others. There are so many things that can make a pregnancy tough — hormonal changes, nausea, weight gain, and general body discomfort are a few," Syrtash tells Personal Space. "But other women really enjoy the experience of their babies growing inside of them and even find that the hormonal fluctuations makes them feel good (especially in the second trimester). For people who have experienced infertility, getting and staying pregnant is generally not something that is taken for granted, even when it’s difficult."
The Bump explains some reasons why pregnancy can be a not-so-pleasant experience for some women.
"If you're experiencing dramatic emotional outbursts, and fits of crying and anger, you can blame it on one main culprit: Yup, your hormones. Your progesterone and estrogen levels are changing drastically right now, as are other hormones, like relaxin (which helps to soften pelvic ligaments for delivery). It’ll all level out a bit during your second trimester, but the extreme moodiness could return with a vengeance toward the end of your third trimester," it reports.
"But it's not all hormones. Women who say they hate being pregnant may attribute their general misery to psychological factors too...Moms-to-be often have tons of new (and not always so positive) thoughts floating through their heads during pregnancy, and all can play key roles in affecting their happiness. For one, there's the notion that pregnancy is supposed to equal voluptuous beauty — and if you’re not feeling so beautiful, well, the whole idea of the “glow” seems like a farce, and that's enough to piss anyone off. There’s also the pressure some women feel to live up to this mythical 'perfect mom' standard, perfect not just in actual parenting but in losing the baby weight ASAP too," The Bump notes.
So if you're not loving the pregnancy experience, don't feel discouraged — you're not alone.
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