Hey, y’all! At this point, the bull has reached a whole new level. But you know what? I’m still standing, so let’s ride it out.
First, let’s start with my constant Stephanie confusion. Is anyone else often confused by her use of adjectives and her inability to understand the most basic jokes? I mean, even childish jokes, and yet, she finds attacking my character completely hilarious. This is a woman who was a “social worker” and yet, she throws around the word “crazy” and other offensive terms making fun of others. THAT is her form of entertainment. I doubt this will be the last time Steph confuses or offends me, but I had to point it out. Moving on.
Alright, so Cary and Steph’s sit-down. Prior to this meeting, Cary said, "I feel like I am so alone and everybody hates me." Cut to Steph, misquoting what Cary said as she left the white party: “I feel like you left feeling very defeated and that you had no friends. When you got up you said something like, 'Not knowing if anyone at the table was your friend.'" What Cary ACTUALLY said: "I just don’t know if I can get along with everybody here." Like a pro, Steph word-smithed and said what she wanted to say, because those are two very different statements.
I felt so much warmth when Brandi stopped by with that enormous floral arrangement. It was so unexpected and sweet, especially to hear her speak with concern over my illness. I was so tired and weak at her party, and she really showed me that she knew that. Did I expect to smash the only glass in the building? Of course not. I was ailing and had zero patience, so I knew it would halt everything long enough to regain a singular direction since things were spinning out of control. But that’s where my instincts went. This is an old pattern that I know must be stopped — trust me.
Listening to how hurt Brandi was by Cary was hard. You see, I did whatever I could to make it to the white party and try to resolve the conflict — not create more. The whole purpose of bringing the notecards was to get answers and stay on track, not because I have dementia as Steph the Social Worker so ignorantly suggested. Going into all of this, I could have sworn that Cary was the puppeteer of Stephanie and sometimes Brandi, but now I am starting to question that completely.
Is there a grand puppet master? Or do all three of them just have severe cracks in their friendship with one another? We have seen Brandi cut off Steph. We have seen Steph replace Brandi with Cary. Then we saw them all "make up" at my expense, and now Cary is turning on both Steph and Brandi? Goodness, I can’t keep up. Who is trustworthy? Thank goodness for Kameron and D’Andra — loyal and honest women.
Back to the Cary-Steph sit-down, when Cary said, “I’m not going to let someone throw a glass at me.” Okay. Did we all watch the same episode? I never threw the glass at her. It went behind me, blatantly and on purpose. This manipulation of the truth makes my stomach turn, especially the fact that she does it so easily. Oh, and quick flashback to what WAS said about Brandi’s doctor, and Cary DENYING it. Something that really disturbed me watching Cary and Steph was the complete disregard for Brandi and how Cary lied to her face in front of everyone. Cary did a great job of turning herself into the victim when she said, “Brandi ATTACKED me.” These volatile words, skirting off the truth, and inaccurate descriptions of what actually happened must stop.
Another example of Cary’s word/situation manipulation is when Brandi said, "I know you were the f---ing nanny," and Cary twisted that and replied, "Wow! Going with the kids." WHAT? Cary, are you becoming just as confusing as Steph? That is not going for the kids. You don’t like it, so you threw something nonsensical out there to get you by.
Now, when Cary said, “Brandi has a spell on Steph,” I guess she just thinks Steph is stupid? It didn’t stop there; it got a little intrusive when she said, "Steph needs to be conscious of SEPARATING herself from Brandi.” Say, what? Cary just told Steph NOT to be friends with Brandi because it will leave her out. Plain as day. Y’all, please remember this. The scene goes on with Cary continuing to try and separate Steph and Brandi.
When I told Brandi that I feared Steph was being manipulated by Cary, it was because I was a concerned friend. No, I do not like Steph, but I like Brandi, and Brandi loves Steph. So duh, when I see something’s not right, I’m going to say it. I never once told her to separate herself from anyone. I never intruded in that way. I simply told her to be honest with Steph and clear the air the way it should be. That is the difference between my conversation with Brandi and Cary’s conversation with Steph.
I really felt for D’Andra on the L22 thing! She works so hard, is so smart and such a great businesswoman. I hated that the lack of L22 came up as a major issue. She will pull through this. She always does!
I do want to take one second to point out something positive about Steph. Her compassion for Travis’ past and his dyslexia was warming and seeing that made me really wish she would extend a bit of that my way.
Watching D’Andra show her vulnerable side with the pet psychic made me tear up, and I’m sure it did for viewers too. While I have seen her cry and be upset many times, for her to be doing this in public just goes to show the incredible amount of stress she is under from her launch. It kills me that there is nothing I can do but be there for her. As she describes her relationship with Dee, I am reminded of why we are so close. We both have very strained relationships with our mothers, and we both have relied only on ourselves for so long. It’s why when we are truly lost, we know we can rely on each other.
Finally, we come to the end of the party and my chance to invite the Deubers to our engagement party arises. The past has taught me that, with Cary, our conversations are very "tit for tat," and I want to try and find a new approach with her. Maybe Mark will have insight into that, and I can invite them at the same time.
Cut to Cary exhibiting her word-twisting and denial again, when she asked Brandi why she made the nanny comment. I don’t think she really wanted an answer because she wouldn’t give Brandi the time of day to respond! Cary easily started deflecting the conversation from “nanny” to “watching kids,” and the whole “I watched your kids, but I’m not f---ing you” comment to Brandi REALLY confused me. Like, what?! That comparison makes zero sense. Twist it like a washing machine, girl.
Now back to the conversation with Mark; he asked and I owned it. It may be virtually impossible for Cary to change the way she speaks to me, so now I have to change how I react to her. Finally, I have a direction to go in. And while the conversation with Mark didn’t go terribly, it still showed that it was a conversation he wouldn’t manipulate or “win,” as he eventually just walked away. At least I can say I stood there and tried in a mature and calm way. I am proud of that.
Back to Brandi apologizing to Cary but Cary NOT apologizing to Brandi. Like I said, somehow she expertly deflected that, continuing her victimhood. It confuses the hell out of me! I guess if you just keep talking long enough, you can "control" the conversation, and the other person gives up. I think that’s a bit messier than broken glass on the floor; at least you clean glass up. You can’t clean up Cary’s woven lies and manipulative wording. And then where does it all come back to? ME. Oh, and the comment to Brandi in the next episode teaser was a JOKE. Please do not be fooled. I honestly cannot wait for next week! I am sure everyone will blame me for THEIR behavior, and life will go back to normal! I mean season one “normal.”
Until next time, y’all.
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