"In Washington D.C. you got to watch what you say, and watch what you do." Oh really??? I got that part majorly wrong then!! Whoops.
I’m not really someone who edits myself and yes we "all" agree I do sometimes need to. This whole experience has taught me many things about myself, the way I can come across unintentionally, and the way people perceive me. I am pretty misunderstood, and I am always learning in the hope of improving whilst keeping true to myself. (I definitely laugh masses when no one else is so it must just be me!)
“If you cant take it, don’t dish it” True. I agree. The difference is that other than the Salahis (and their sidekicks) I have not intentionally been rude to anyone over the past seven episodes. I really haven’t. I tease people, Mary over the Lolly issue etc. but we (cast) all know it’s in jest and in no way malicious. The fact that I’ve appeared to be, is what it is, and since I genuinely really adore all my other fellow cast members, even when we clash on opinions, I would never set out to try to upset them. Honesty over bitchiness any day. Even with Edwina (Republican lobbyist) we actually got on very well and shared many laughs. It’s good to debate! I saw her again for dinner too, and even though we are very different I found her good company and a good sport!
Lunch scene with Lynda and Mary: I am ALWAYS eating. Have you noticed? Any scene where there is food I’m all over it.
I truly believed and still do to this day, that if the Salahis were honest people they would have better karma with their business affairs. Better luck. More friends and be respected. Dream on?...
So when I talk about their "winery," and I’m asking the ladies, “Why weren’t they straight up and say that they are in trouble?” I meant it when I said we could have all supported their efforts to "rebuild" rather than to "rebullshit." I was still deeply confused by them and their "extraordinary" spin on everything?
Great fun fashion show and "naughty lovely Paul" was making me giggle the entire show across the room (especially when he managed to get himself a sneaky cosmo and dab it like perfume on his neck). David Catania (who I adore too) who was sitting next to him, was close to wetting himself with Paul as always, hugely entertaining charades that night and very red cheeked!! It was a beautiful event.
I was always incredibly proud of Charles and his work, hence that scene with giving that award-winning picture to Mr. President. It’s a great shame that it was never to materialize -- stay tuned. Hope that is the last time I have to see us together -- now we are on the home stretch with the finale episode next week.
Cat I am very curious....where were you brought up in England ? You seem awfully posh and no offence just wanted to know more about you ....
I must be like you, because I think you're great! I think you're funny and irreverent and most of all, HONEST! I wish you the best and hope you stay in the US.
Cat, aside your political views, I like you. I think your witty and loook forward to seeing more of you. I'm sure all the Libs love you too. I like the way you wore your hair on last night's episode.
love you Cat. You can hold your head up and be proud of yourself. Love that you say exactly what the rest of us are thinking.
You have officially WON me over - never thought I'd say those words! I am finally getting you and I love that. I feel your pain with your divorce and being a single Mom, my heart aches for you. I'm sure it's been difficult for you coming to a new country and understanding our ways while being judged for everything you say. I definitely have a new found respect and love for you. I hope you find your real prince charming oneday and live happily ever after, you deserve it!! All the best from Boston! Ellen
Love Love Love Cat....You say it like it is...You are spot on with your assesment of the Salahis.(Even though I prefer the Salamis) LOL.. Erica needs to be gone..How inappropiate was she at the ice cream party..As a parent I would be appalled if that happened to me when my child was there..
I felt sad watching your scene with Charles; you obviously looked very proud of him. But as the saying goes, when one door closes, another one opens. Also, I've never had a problem with your honesty on this show; I find it quite refreshing and hilarious and it's nice of you to keep explaining yourself on your blog. Maybe I get it because I completely relate to your frankness. End of day, true friends will always know your heart and when you mean things in jest; others will take offense, but you can't please everybody all the time...so don't sweat it. Looking forward to the release of your book and oh, thanks for confirming your twitter account on here. :)
You are certainly taking the high road by continuing to befriend Stacie and Mary, neither of whom had your back at Icecreamgate. They have both gone down in my estimation.
There's something about those who want to be loved so badly that they never take a stand (Mary). Not a good trait in a good friend. And Stacie, astonishingly, continued to take the angry jealous girl's side! Then, in last night's episode, Mary made sure that she could never be accused of coming down on one side or the other. Who needs friends like that? You would have had their backs had the angry jealous girl unleashed her invective on them.
Thank goodness for Lynda, who was your only friend at that party.
Yes, how hysterical is it that Michaele thinks the lovely, successful, spiritual and warm Lynda is JEALOUS OF HER! There are no words.
I hope you are doing well and that you are beginning to see the light.
Catherine! You are so witty, fun and intelligent, not to mention sexy beautiful inside and out! You are my favorite!
Personally I think you are very real and very honest. I have a hard time editing myself sometimes too, so I get it. This does not mean that we are heartless....as I always say, "I will never blow smoke up your butt!"
I am sorry to see that your marriage with Charles ended.....however you seem strong and self-sufficient and I know whatever you do you will do it well!
for those who don't like you.......meh....so be it....we can't be liked by everyone! ;-)
"Thank god, when I went to spell check this blog, the only flag was the word "Salahis." That still comes up as "salami." There is justice after all."
HILARIOUS!! Cat, I love you and will miss you. I just read a comment somewhere from someone saying Lynda was jealous of Michaele, and I too LMAO.
xoxo from San Francisco
I enjoyed you the most on DC Housewives this season. You stir trouble everywhere whether its injest or not. I'm sorry for the end of your marriage, thats always really hard, but I must admit there was a scene in the beginning where you were scolding Charles for working and not helping you with YOUR kids enough. I saw the look on his face and knew things had to be going down hill. I wish you well with your book and all your future endeavors.
Leave Michaele and her husband alone. If you don't have anything good to say about people, don't say anything. Don't be a mean spirit person.
I have to admit, when I first watched you, I thought you were a little rude. However, as the show has continued, I have become a big fan of yours! I believe you are truly misunderstood. I would rather people tell me the truth than not and I love that quality about you, plus you have a good sense of humor. Who couldn't use that these days? I also want to say I felt really bad for you when you lost your dear friend over in England. I wanted to give you a big hug. It must be incredibly hard to be in America away from your friends and family. With all that has gone on in your personal life, remember to keep your head held high and never lose your sense of humor!
You are my favorite. Have been from the beginning. I get your humor and love that fact that you are not "taken in" by BS. Well done. Only good things for the future.
I really LOVE you and every time they show a scene with you I feel that you have an INTERESTING story to share with us. Much love to you and your girls Cat :)
I have a dearly close friend is quite charming,witty,funny,and beautiful you so greatly remind me of her and i love to watch you on the show along with Lynda.
The friend i spoke of is from manchester and some times can rub people as rude but i think it's more due to their own insecurities and lack of understanding another's approach to thing's. I can only hope your back for the secound season as you and Lynda are the only reason i tune in. Warm wish's and Love to you and your beautiful girls.
In the last episode, I felt you were totally antagonized by Maria (is that her name?). You kept your grace and your cool and left the house. She kept baiting you, Cat! It was appalling. Everyone in that situation showed her true colors and YOU are the only one who came out on top with absolute class. I would keep my far distance from that woman if I were you. She is either 1) very mean and/or 2) looking to be on top with ratings and a regular fixture of Bravo TV. She was beneath you. In reality, you definitely could be my friend -- you have integrity and values. She, on the other hand, is someone I would treat as invisible (just as you did later on in the episode). When I first started watching the show, I thought you were a little abrupt with people, but it is so refreshing and honest! You are not a superficial housewife! You need your own Bravo show.
Cat- I love watching you and I love love love your voice and accent. I have never perceived you as rude- you are to the point and do not mince words- an admirable quality- most times I recognize that you are simply teasing.
By the way- when you mentioned the spellcheck and Salahi coming up as salami I nearly fell off my chair- ROFL!!! They are a couple of salamis!!! Dearest regards- Jmendez
Cat, you are a beautiful woman with a fun, light hearted personality. Erika attacked you unfairly. The other women should have stuck up for you. I agree, you SHOULD have your OWN show! You and Lynda are my favourites BY FAR!!!
Cat, Love you lots, I thought Erica was mean spirited, I noticed she didn't say anything to Stacie when she was talking about Marys daughter had it sooooo easy. She wanted to attack you and was waiting for the moment. Stacie should have stopped her on the spot and Mary should have spoke up also. As someone else said, thank goodness for Lynda. Love you, stay strong hold your head up, America loves Cat
Cat, we'll miss seeing you every week once the series is over. I truly hope that your life "off camera" is one that brings you lots of joy.
I hope that you've found some good, true friends here, and that you'll learn to love America, as I did after living here for ten years. I came from Canada, so it wasn't too difficult a transition, but alas, I am staying in this beautiful country.
Somehow, I still feel sad for the end of your marriage, but with each week's episode, I see the sadness in your eyes too. It's a pity that you both couldn't work it out, but of course, it's time to move on. Remember, what we see was taped long ago, so it's still new to us.
I hope your girls are happy at school, and sending you lots of texts. I'm sure they are. I hope you will stay strong for their sake, and do something positive with this new-found fame. I think that there are now great opportunities for you, and hopefully you'll do what you love.
Have a lovely Christmas, and may you and your girls have health and happiness in the New Year. Oh, and don't date any jerks - there are plenty milling about around here.
You are my favorite Cat! Just love your honesty and bravery. I think you tell it as you see it and there's nothing wrong with that. I really hope to see you next season!!! The press is right - you are the break-out star from this show. All the best for you and your girls.
I must say I LOVE everything about you. Love your style love your personality and overall love you with your girls. You were dead on with the people on the show that are fake and we all know who they are......: * ) Hope you will be back for another season. Can't wait to get to know you more. : )
You have defintely won me over as well, I think that people were taken aback by your abruptness, but once you get used to it, it is easy to see where you stand with you...a bonus, and your are funny. I am so sad about your divorce, I wish you and your whole family all the happiness in the world, whatever my come.
Cat, I love how honest you are and how true you remain to yourself! I admire how you don't let anyone try to change you and that you respect people who don't necessarily agree with your opinions (like Edwina).
I'm sorry your marriage with Charles came to an end. It must of been hard for both of you (and your girls) to have spent so much time a part, but I'm glad that things did not end bitterly (at least from what I've gathered from the media). I must say that your girls are awesome and I love how honest and open you are with them. They seem so grounded and mature. You must be so proud!
I hope you return for the next season and that all is well!
You are obviously a great mom and compassionate human being who speaks her mind. We need more blatant honesty in this world.. kudos.
Cat, the more I watch you, the more I absolutely LOVE you! You're so real, honest.. a little brutal at times, but hey, the truth can be brutal. I just wanted to say you're great on the RHONJ. By the way, I about peed myself over this:
"Thank god, when I went to spell check this blog, the only flag was the word "Salahis." That still comes up as "salami." There is justice after all."
bahahaha! The best.
Housewives of DC is the best of them all! You're the breakout star of this show, and like many others who've posted here, I like and respect your honesty. You have some good friends in Lynda and Mary, and I think Stacie's a first class lady too. I really enjoy watching you four DC ladies...you're all women of substance and prove that manners and class is not boring.
Michaele is another story of course. I don't like her narcissistic kind of artificial love and light. Although you were brash in your disapproval and criticism of Tareq and her during the vineyard visit, you were being honest and not being taken in by them. Good call!
Good wishes to you in during these emotionally tough times, Cat!
Kat, you are hands down my favorite houswife. I admit that it took me some time to get used to you and some of your comments made me cringe but now I get it. Your honesty and outspokenness is refreshing even if I totally disagree with you. BTW- I'm a Republican! HAHA Wishing you much happier roads ahead, B. Witch
You are just the best..I have not enjoyed someone on these shows as much as you...really...I think Stacy is boring. I am glad that you had these friends to lean on. You are a great mother, and you will find love again..I am sure Charles loves you still, but you need someone who has the time to make you and your girls a priority...u and your girls deserve nothing less....
Cat, I simply adore you! You are fabulous, your honesty refreshing. Watching the Real Housewives shows is my guilty pleasure. I have not often read the blogs. This evening I decided to take a look. My finger accidentally hit yours first, I'm not sure which I was going for, I would have read yours too :-) Then I began reading your unedited self and I just loved you more. I was a single mom after my husband past away when I was 30 and my children were 9 and 10. I know the pain of being alone, and the joy of friends that get you through. I also believe that along with peace and love you must always have honesty. When you said that these comments meant a lot to you, I just thought I would tell you what I thought. Good luck to you. You have a wonderful spirit and there is something special about you. Take Care. Choose happy. Peace, Gretchen
Oye Cat (hehe),
Hey I get you, I understand English humor/sarcasm some of my fellow brethren may not.....BUT (big BUT) try and understand it gets old when we hear "oh you Americans". Yes some of us are obnoxious and oblivious to our surroundings but you find that every where. Even in my old English hood of Prim Rose Hill...Anyhoot this probably will not make the bravo blog....BUT I like you, please continue being you!.....go IRONS!
After reading your blog and watching the past few episodes, you have quickly become my favorite DC housewife. (it's always a toss-up between you, Mary and Lynda) You are so fun to watch and everything you say about the Salahis (if that is even their real name) is exactly what everyone else is thinking but just doesn't have the you-know-what to say... i love you for that. I also love the relationship you have with your daughters- Very much like me and my mother. Plus, I love your style! Keep rockin' the pink- it looks great on you!... can't wait for future episodes.
I have to ask-- What is your workout regimen? Your body is great! I know you like to eat unlike one of your fellow cast-mates but what does your diet consist of?
You are my favorite! I was appauled to see how Erika treated you that evening at Stacey's house.. and when she ever said "Dont give me that body vibe" or something along those lines, I couldnt believe how well you held yourself together. But, you came out on top and showed class, something that Erika does not have! She is waaaay to full of herself. You were right when you said he has anger, she sure does! You are one classy lady!
Cat, been reading all the comments, agree with most of them. please dont give in to the common crap. tears come very easy when the heart is heavy, so i pray that your heart heals and we get to enjoy your own personal and enjoyable way of expressing YOUR view, and we all know that Erica is just jealous.
Wow...I felt like I was watching the RHONY instead of DC!?! You, Mary,and Lynda are just like Jill, Kelly and Louanne! Can't you three just play nice in the sand box with everyone? Pick people up, don't tear them down. Especially women to women!
Cat, I'll preface this long message w/ 'all due respect". When I first watched "The Real Housewives of DC", I found you to be rude & abbrasive. As I continue to watch, I find you to basically conduct yourself in the same manner.I say "basically" because in the last episode I saw you mourning the loss of a close friend,& perhaps that of your marriage.I've only just recently read that you are no longer w/your husband.For me, this showed that you do have a heart & that it can be hurt.I'm TRULY & SINCERELY sorry for your losses.I can relate to what may feel to be an insermountable, all encompassing amount of pain.My father passed away in April of this year, & not even 48 hours later, my mother also passed! Neither were expected. However, this does not justify being mean to others.What other watchers call "humor, witt or you not "taking any bs" from anyone is not so. It's more of a way for you to keep people out. Out of your life, out of your heart, etc. This way you can't be hurt by them, right? Because how can someone on the "outside" hurt you? They can't. On the flip side of the same coin, how can you be liked, cared for or loved? How can you be UNDERSTOOD if you don't allow anyone,(or few) "in? You can't! Your "witt", in large part is a defense mechanism to keep people away. At least the way, for the most part, you're shown on the show. You've spoken negatively of the Salahis marriage many times. Now you are going through your own personal loss. You spoke of "Karma", any thoughts? Please understand, I see that there's something not right w/them as well. She to me, seems lost. I feel she has a good heart but naively allows herself to be led by him. I think you also have a good heart. It's just that you don't allow it to be seen. Not USED, but SEEN. Letting people see & feel your soft, sensitive,& caring side isn't to be "Vulnerable", but to be COURAGEOUS!. If you can't control yourself when someone upsets you & you "React" to them, do like my Mom, GOD Bless her soul, would tell me to do.."Oh, just slap them with a Hallmark Card", be kind. Walk away if you must. To lash out @someone is easy. It takes someone of strong moral character to hold their tongue & or walk away. Words & their tone can hurt. They're powerful! If they weren't it wouldn't feel so good when we're told, especially by those that we love, that they too love us!. If words weren't powerful, it wouldn't hurt so much when those we love tell us that they No Longer love Us & that they are leaving. The words to your favorite love song wouldn't move you to tears. Whether those tears are happy or sad. It's the fact that the words moved us @ all. So w/my closing words I Choose to say that I again am sorry for your loss(es) & will pray that your pain dissipates each & everyday.That you will soon again know & feel love & happiness, and that your girls will spared the pain of their Mother. Respectfully, D
Cat, I thought you were going to end up being my least favorite (I don't even count Michaele and Tareq anymore as they are (and will always be) irrelevant) but you have really pleasantly surprised me. I like that you're ballsy and true to yourself but at the same time very honest, caring, and open-minded. You and your "scandalous wedding dress" are the type of person I wish I could be friends with, someone who is certainly more adventurous than me! You come off as uptight. stiff, and defensive sometimes, but we can probably blame that on your more Victorian upbringing?
My only question is...where can I buy your book, Inbox Full? I can't seem to find it online at Amazon or elsewhere. You come across as a very interesting person and I'd love to know more
Kat, I am a news and media girl but have surprised myelf at how your show and some of the other housewives shows have become my secret guilty pleasure!! (Except for NJ, to me that is beneath me and I boycotted that show long ago, pure trash especially that Teresa) Anyway when I first started watching, like so many...didn't like you at all! You were abrasvie, condescending, outright rude and almost went out of your way to see how far you could take it. There is still a lot i think you were wrong for and that was inexcusable BUT I think we all need to see it for what it is! You were suffering miserably, your marriage was crumbling, you were adjusting to a country that you didn't yet feel comfortable in and you were at a very low point in your life....I get that. I am sorry for all your woes. So,now that that is on the table.....i am hoping we are going to see that sweeter, kinder and softer Kat that I suspect is in there, just wanting to come out.........I hope so because in some odd way you are starting to grow on me...go figure! In reading your blog above, I hope I am mistaken but it sounds like you are almost apologizing for your rude behavior to everyone but the Salahis, i hope not. They have been very gracious in inviting you to their home and winery, and most importantly you accepted. If you accept then you are their guest and must behave accordingly. I was stunned at how rude you were. There is no need to bash them on your messgae boards on in person, if you don't like them....be polite but PLEASE take the high road and be a lady and try to set an example, and say hello, how are you and keep it short. You will gain sooooo many more fans that way and walk away with your head held high and feeling good about yourself. I always say don't judge anyone until you have walked in their shoes...you have no idea whats going on in their life, and there may be things they dont' want to share with all of America and thats fine! Just the way you had a lot going on and we were judging you and lo and behold there was a real reason for it..so please cut them some slack and be kind. It never ever hurts. Best of luck!
Cat, I think you are just brilliant! My Mum is English, and I love your sense of humor and your refreshing honesty! I have never thought you were being mean spirited or the other things you have been accused of! I was very sad to hear about the end of your marriage, I hope you and your lovely girls continue to find much happiness! Thank-you for bringing your wit and misunderstood charms to the show!
Cant quite claim to be a fan so fast but will say I have come a loooong way from how I originally felt about you. Between losing your husband and your dear friend, that could make anyone unstoppably grouchy and edgy so for that, you are forgiven in my book. Had no idea so much was going on. Don't agree at all with you on your political views, but hey thats why they made vanilla and chocolate,right? Anyway, best of luck to you in the future, may you find love, lots of happiness and good times ahead....cheers!
Well, since you are so honest, I'll be honest as well. You have to be true to who YOU are, not who others think you should be. I have the same "frankness" about me as you do, but I've had to really tone it down because I teach elementary school and that's just not cool! BUT, I really enjoy watching you on the show. While I admire those who don't speak negatively about others, it bugged me that Mary just sat and let those two people attack her daughter. They crossed the line (again) and she let them attack her child's good name on national tv. Not cool. As for the woman who kept on and on and on at you, she didn't look very good on national tv either. I thought you handled that well! Anyway, I just adore you. I like all the others too, and love the show. I will be in DC next week and I find myself wishing I'd run into one of the cast members, but I'm not holding my breath!
I have never commented because The Real Housewives is my very guilty pleasure. But I just have to tell you that I think you're wonderful. I think you're very real and honest and loving. Your sense of humor makes me happy. Then again, I too am one who laughs when no one else is laughing.
Best of luck to you!