I realized today that it's time I explained myself a little more and rather than writing my blog when I’m rushing in a cab or walking down the street or whilst on the phone, I am actually going to spend the time to write and express myself properly and address some major issues I have not yet relayed!
FYI, Charles and I were on the rocks and on the point of no return, probably even prior to filming this first season. But I’m not a quitter and kept trying to hold our new family together. It is unbelievably surreal watching my life last year in one of the saddest times in my life -- full stop.
I sit there and think -- is that my life??!! The pained expressions on my face -- I was absolutely miserable.
Lets get back to Aunt Francis Fiasco to begin with: I arrived on time nearly two hours before some of the other gals and their guys rocked up (heavy traffic? My ass!!) Charles was the only one not invited and when I left he was furious. I didn’t realize the other men were coming and I knew that when he asked me when I got home, who was there, he was going to go nuts! I had that in my mind the entire time. I had long chats with Aunt Francis that were not shown as well as offering to do all the cleaning up before an hours drive home again -- Aunt F told me the wine was off! Saw her too for a nice chat at the premiere party. Wish I had an aunty like her to go and see on Sundays!
Stacie was not around to be able to say goodbye to. The end.
As far as Tyra Banks crap -- REALLY??????? OMG if I ever wish I'd not opened my big mouth on that opinion!!!????? Talk about flogging that one to death!
All the other stuff I own. Good, bad, and the ugly.
Erika bollocks - oh dear -- Stacie’s single girlfriend that happens to be attached to the hip of Stacie for most "occasions." Every single time we met I would always make sure she never felt left out -- I knew firsthand about sometimes as a single mother turning up without a partner can be a little lonely at times. I made sure she always got a drink and brought her into conversations when she was standing alone. I stood out in the pouring rain one night just to walk in with her, so she didn't feel awkward when Stacie was busy etc. I NEVER gave her any cause to want to rip my head off. By the way obviously there aren't enough minutes in an episode, but that whole barrage lasted half an hour at least before I bowed out unable emotionally and unwilling to extend energy I didn't have, fighting her battle. BS. Very well-balanced. She has a chip on both shoulders.
Thank god for Lynda shutting her down and sticking up for me -- as a host of what was supposed to be an ice cream social, with our kids there listening next door, I was really disappointed Stacie let it go and also my dear friend Mary was mute. Who said she was in shock? Well sit in my chair then! That’s shock.
We are all different, thank god. That's what makes life interesting and the way we handle situations. Anyway Lynda and Mary left, came back to mine that night and loved me back to life -- mwa. God, they were hard days and hard nights! I put on a very brave face. But I'm a Leo through and through, but on the rare occasions my girls see me cry, I get so upset with myself for letting them see, but then we are all human, and it's OK to not be able to carry the burdens 24/7 sometimes. I can’t beat myself up about it.
The reason I didn’t engage with Erika at the gay marriage event was because every single time I saw her she would accost me (whatever the occasion!) and bang on and on about our differences! I didn’t want any distractions from what we were there to talk and educate ourselves on gay marriage. Enough Erika! Some people are destined not to be friends. It's fine.
Got to love Jason. He makes me laugh so much and really he gets me. He has been an awesome friend from the moment we met!
Finally I don't like to repeat myself normally but I am - THANK YOU so much for all your comments. I actually read every single one now as they give me hope, encouragement, and some criticisms I need.
My daughters are at school back in the UK, as that was always the agreement with their daddy back home. I miss them sooooo much, and seeing them every week on the show fills me with so many emotions. We have never been apart. Can’t wait until they come back to see me in D.C. very soon!! My unconditional love for them grows stronger every day. I’m so proud of them. The three of us were going through such serious turmoil back then, but I hope I have taught them some good lessons in life. They will never be victims and there will always be the mountains they too will have to climb. I hope I have equipped them well in lessons of life, if nothing else!
Funny old life isn't it? Only two more episodes, and I have a feeling they are going to be nuts!! Enjoy ... X
(P.S. my dress on WWHL was by Alice and Olivia for all those that asked!)
Cat, I love the Housewives and I LOVE the pink sweater you had on in the last episode!!!!!! Please tell me where it came from, I live in Canada so I promise we won't show up at the same function wearing it!!!! tee hee xo barbi
I love that someone finaly treated you the way you treat everyone else. Whatever the conversation you find away to put someone down. I was so glad to see you get what was coming to you. Hopefully next time linda wont be there to protect you or if we are lucky there will be someone to keep linda busy with a few choice comments for her.
Cat you are amazing! But I seriously have to have that pink crown sweater. Where o where did you find it??!!??
Sorry to hear about you and Charles, I hope you stay on the show. You are a fantastic and brilliant person, a truely charming Brit. Keep your chin up.
Cat, you are absolutely wonderful to watch. You are a REAL woman, a ROLEMODEL for all strong women, and a LOVING Mom. I will admit it's my guilty pleasure to watch the show -- and the only show I Tivo on a weekly basis. We love having you from across the pond, stay here!
I agree, Cat you are amazing~~I don't know if this is a good thing, but you look like in your younger photos forsure~~Nicole Simpson!! Uncanny! If i hung out with you i would laugh my ass off all the time!! Never had any girl friends, Do not find them that interesting! Mostly hang with guys! You would be the first! I always told my husband that i could never be a guy because i could never put up with a women!! Keep up the good work!! And can someone please shut up that baby talking fake transexual!!
I totally agree I love the pink crown sweater and would love to know where I can find one. I love wataching you Cat. I think you are awesome. You speak your mind and tell it how it is. YOu go girl. I enjoy watching you. I still want your pink sweater!!!!!
Cat, I just love watching you. I am so sorry to hear about you and your husband. Keep your chin help high and keep the comments coming, they are hilarious and usually true.
Well, Well, A Real Person & Housewife! I must admit, I was excited to see a new perspective on the housewives instead of the usual recipe of, "talk behind the back, I'm better than you, back-stabber, I'm richer than you, I got more than you, I will get the spin-off - not you," type. lol. I have to give you much credit on your realistic view of things and voicing your opinion, whether good or bad, at the time of the event. Many people are not privy to that experience because it is better to talk ABOUT them BEHIND their back. I love your tact and realistic opinions of those you do or do not accept. Not all you say is in the negative. Your two young ladies are very smart and very well behaved. They are an example of proper behavior. I must see you next season so please be there!
I was very sad to here about your divorce. Take care of you and the girls. I hope you stay with the women in DC they seem to have your back. Well some of them anyway.
Cat - You made the show what it was. I sincerely hope you stick around for women to be able to watch someone who is both opinionated, strong and a survivor through the rollar coaster of life. You are an insporation to your own daughters. And of course, you are the best dressed "housewife" and can teach everyonea little about style.
Cat, I have never, ever written on a blog or have understood someone on T.V. the way I have you. I am one of those people that people always look at and assume what a bitch I am. The people that actually take the time to know me realize that is far from the truth. I appreciate your blunt truths and you are not afraid to show it. Always keep your head up high. Although I think our kind is few - there are people who appreciate it. :)
I would like to know about the pink turtleneck sweater you wore on the finale. I love, love, love it. Where can I find one? By the way, you are the most fun to watch on that show.
Hello Cat, i was very heart when i saw that you are getting a divorce. I wish you the very best you and the girls, and i know that you are very strong so it will all work out. Please don't leave the US because you're not with Charles anymore, i think Stacy and her family and the rest of the gang, other than Michaele and her husband will stand by you and give you some support, or just e-mail me, i am a little Jamaican so we could be friends too. LOL. Hang in there you will find someone else not right now but later. I love to watch you, just don't be so tough all the while. Take care of you and the girls.
Cat, I have been rooting for you all season. You are a beautiful, hilarious, strong woman and wow do you speak your mind. I know you are being true to yourself. I can see on the show how you were having a tough year and now that I read your blog it is showing even more. Maybe your tough time has has influenced some of the things you said this season. Everyone needs a little bit of a filter... some things are just not meant to be said. I am sorry to hear about you and Charles. I wish you and the girls the best.
Cat-PLEASE divulge where one of your sweaters is from! You wore it on the season finale. It is gray and appeared to have little nubbies on it. It stretched across the front of you-very non-traditional..I MUST have one...PLEASE!!!! Let us know!
You are amazing!! I love how you speak your mind and are always true to yourself, don't change! You say what other people are too scared to say, way to go girl!!!
I read on usmagazine.com were you and your husband were divorcing, if this is true I am very sorry to hear of this news! I absolutely love on the show how you speak your mind and don't hide what your thinking. I heard one time on the show that one of the women said you can't say what your thinking to someone's face (along those lines). I really hope to see you stay on for another season! I love seeing a strong woman on this show such as yourself (not saying others aren't). I'll keep you and your family in my prayers! Keep on being yourself!:) I love ya!
Great fianal episode. I can not wait for the reunion!!! Many blessings to you about your daughters. I was divorced and remember the feeling of being with out my daughter during Dad visitations. It was the most difficult time for me. I hope you will be reunited soon. On the fly....just throughing this out since you read all the posts. I loved your charcole sleeved shawl you wore to Mary's house in the final episode. I am looking every where for this shawl. Help!!! Looking forward to the book and another season. Keep telling it like it is and being you.
Cat, I have grown to really like you. I was so upset watching that episode when Erica ripped into you and I was even more bothered that Stacie didn't handle the situation since it was at her house. But good ole Lynda stepped up as usual and I'm glad she was there for you. I really enjoy your point of view, I get your humor, and I think you are really fun and caring person. I hope you stay around, I'd like to see more of you on the show. Be blessed!
Jess: If you grew up in England as I did before being transferred from London to New York you would really get a dose of reality.......... Pakistanis, Indians, West Indians, Afrikaans and Muslims in every large city and town. Cat came well prepared of skin color other than white........... London is called Londonstan, Birmingham is Birmingstan.......... need I say more. Rascist - definitely not.
I just want you to know that I adore you. I certainly didn't at first, you were initially packaged (on the show) as sort of a snide, bit*h but as the season has gone on, I really have come to admire you. I love your honesty, your humor, and your authenticity. Being a mom to a very little girl myself, I also think you seem to have great relationships with your daughters.
As far as the Tyra Banks thing goes, I don't think it's you disliking her that bothered Erika and Stacy, but the way you said it. I think it offended them because it almost seemed as if you were mocking African-American culture. But, hey, you're BRITISH...I just don't think you could possibly know the best route to conversational racial-sensitivity unless you've lived here for quite some time.
I can't stand Tyra Banks. I think she's extremely narcissistic and obnoxious, it has nothing to do with her race. I do think it's rather funny that those comments are really what set Erika against you. It's pretty obvious and quite silly.
Anyhow, you're not the big bad wolf to me. Stay strong!
Refreshing is the word I would use for you. I am sorry for the obvious pain you were in because of your marriage. Your love for Charles was evident but who could live like that? Not I. And who am I to offer advice about your life? I'm no one....just a viewer who has grown to really like and respect you. Thank you for your honesty and for putting it out there. That's the way I like my friends.
PS, I don't like Tyra either. Sorry
Cat, I'm sooo sorry for your recent troubles with Charles. It's always sad to hear when things like that happens. You are by far my favorite on the show. I won't be watching without you on it. I think you are too funny. EVERY one can be mean, dry, happy, emotional. The way I see it... Every one has their days as you said "the good, the bad, and the ugly". It's life. Why people are so judging is beyond me. I'd like to see them "try" and be real as their life is taped. My comment would be ... "it is what it is". There are people who are open minded other then the few "DC" crowd. So... no worries. I hope to see you back for a second season.
You are true to yourself - what you see is what you get. Full stop. And that is what is refreshing, whether or not viewers - and others - like the way you go about it. I believe part of what can put people off, at the beginning, is that as an "outsider" - a non-American recently arrived on our shores - you were very opinionated about US politics, politicians and other related subjects. It does grate.
If I were one of the people in your circle of acquaintances, then I certainly would love and appreciate to hear those opinions and insights ... however, I believe it would be more appropriate, and feel more comfortable, after we became friends and had established some commonalities and after I had a better "read" on how well you knew your subject matter. But that is secondary to the fact that you are yourself on-air ... kudos for holding your own.
I found it paranoid that your compliment of George Bush's manners and your dislike of Tyra Banks put you on Stacie and Erika's "possibly racist" list.
I was accused of the same back when I campaigned for Hillary Clinton, merely because I was campaigning for Hillary and not Obama. So now I feel ill when Dems throw this word at Republicans as a rule and at fellow Democrats who profess a minor disagreement with our President.
Regardless, please keep being candid. I enjoy you.
I enjoy watching you on the show. Best wishes to you and your girls.
I also do not like Tyra. What's the big deal??!!
Cat I think you are misunderstood. At first I did worry that you were a bit harsh, but I see that your consistent. You never waiver in your opinion and you treat everyone with the same respect across the board. I will agree that Erica's timing was off (completely off) but I also agree that she needed to be honest about the way she feels. It's better to hear it directly to your face and not behind your back. Now you have to make the decision if you are going to use what she said as a platflorm to develope "whatever" type of relationship the two of you can have. You are a great women and mother and I would encourage you to contine to press forward.
I'm completely confused here. I don't remember seeing a picture of Erica during the opening of show. Someone said she's a Stacy tagalong and I agree. She's attached to Stacies hip and needs t get a life. I'll assume she's allowed to be involved because she brings in ratings with jealous attitude and wouldn't be surprised if she either received her own show or became an official DC housewife. But wait, how can a SINGLE woman become a DC Housewife.
Now, she was totally rude and comes off as being jealous of you. She only came to make amends once it was realized the other HOUSEWIVES were behing you and called her out on it. And even then, she was still acting arguementive. The fact she did this in front of your kids speaks volumes for her character. I officially don't like her. But the worst part is people like "her" bringing ratings, so she and her nasty, jealous heart are probably here to stay. In the meantime, keep your head up and continue take care of your children and yourself.
Cat, wouldn't you rather have someone say their truth to your face rather than speaking it behind your back? Maybe her timing was off (not the appropriate time with the kids next door), but Erica is entitled to say what she feels just like YOU!! I also agree with some of the other comments that if you can't take it, don't dish it out. We all have problems at some time, but that doesn't give us the "right" to be mean or rude, and then become the "victim" when others treat us the same. So happy to hear that you're making adjustments without losing your true self. I wish you and your lovely girls the best. Be happy.
You rock, my little British friend. I have been in the "Valley of Despair" as well, believe me it's going to get better for you. You are teaching your girls to be strong and independent women just like you and you are staying true to who you are... therein lies your reward. I know you will find happiness beyond your wildest dreams because you deserve that. Sometimes we find bliss later in life- I like it better that way because I think we're wiser and more equipped to handle it! Stay true to your honest heart and all will be well. Maybe they'll put Erika on the next cycle of "America's Next Top Model Goes Mature".... then she can take lessons from the Master Mean Girl.... Tyra!
Hello Cat! Totally get your frustration at DC's insularity! I'm British and live in Chevy Chase - LMAO at your comment about the spandex housewives picking up dogs**t! When I first moved here I had to keep apologizing everyday dozens of times a day! You should be able say whatever you want to your friends! Just ignore Erika - she is such b to go after you infront of your kids! She needs to get over the bloody Tyra remark! It's not like you said you didn't like Michelle Obama, for God's sake!
Ditto to all pts here but will add that you have been shown making really rude comments more than once. You also seem to get really upset when called on this fact, which has happened on camera at least twice.
My Goodness! Cat, you are the Cat's Meooow! I love you! Your honesty, straight-forward attitude, no matter what the issue is, is soooo refreshing! THIS is a grand quality of the British...if something has to be said, asked, or addressed, it will be done directly to the person, not behind their back, not to other friends, not to the "people who know," it is directed TO/AT the source. This is the weakest point of Americans. We are the culture that cannot be directly approachable with issues, we bypass the direct source....we have to ask friends, talk to sources whom probably don't even care, hound miscellaneous sources of no concern, work-up gossip, feed the frenzy and before you know it, it is a pond full of killer piranha in Chanel lipstick ripping you apart like a fresh, bleeding t-bone steak.
We are a phony culture that cannot survive without having something to say about someone/something, however, not directly at the subject, but avoiding it at all costs until the sh-- hits the fan. What a waste of energy, right?
Don't let anyone or anything bother you in D.C. especially. The place is a breeding ground for professional bullsh---rs! Ironically, it is our nation's capital and the oversized petri dish of sex, lies, scandal, jail, etc. But to let judgmental, opinionated individuals bother you?? Please, you are above that. Keep doing what you do and keep it real...much love and success to you and yours...
I believe, like so many that Erika was way out of line. It appears that Erika is jealous of your friendship with Stacie. I worked for an auction house out of London and LOVE your honesty, and 'tell it like it is' attitude which is so refreshing. Keep your chin up and your true friends will be there no matter what may come along, the rest are merely aquaintances. Erika really isn't worth the time or effort of attempting to work on a relationship that would only be one-sided. You are better off without that one in your circle of friends.
Luv from the start. I think they leave out all but your honesty and make it look bad. I'm with you Erika has a tree on both shoulders not just a chip. It was a simple difference of opinion, she needs to get over it. I'm not all that fond of Tyra myself. Now I luv Sarah Palin and I was not the least bit offended when you dressed up like her. Great fun!
CAT LUV LUV LUV YOU. DON'T CHANGE WHO YOU ARE KEEP SPEAKING YOUR MIND THAT'S WHAT MAKE'S YOU SO BEAUTIFUL.( DARLING)
Shortstopper...Right on! How sad...Cat is fabulous, Erika acts disgustin, Lynda is great for putting Erika in her place! #1 Nana fm MD
I understand and agree with Constance. Erika is nasty to Cat because she is very jealous of Cat. Therefore, Cat must stand up to Erika or she will continue to victimize you. Did anyone happen to notice Erika's face when she brought Cat to tears....to me....sadly, it seemed to empower Erika....Cat...NEVER let your enemies know they have hurt you...they will taste blood and get nastier. By the way, I love your husband and you together!!! I am a romantic dreamer who hopes that somehow you and your husband will meet together again & reunite...you are so good together!!! Hugs, Nana
Hey Cat! You're alright with me. I understand your disposition and demeanor. I think you are a beautiful woman. Everyone can not take your bluntness and that is something mature individuals need to "choose their battles" when it comes to that. Giving respect and knowing when to make a statement as oppose to just keeping your mouth shut takes practice and empathy.
Grace, remember Cat was going thru marriage troubles and facing her girls going back to school abroad, so she didn't have her game face on. As Stacie said she was surprised Cat took it. Linda was lectur-ee I agree. Erica dug herself a whole, but she'll probably never do that again. :)