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Paul Wharton talks about his blowout birthday bash and his relationship with Michaele Salahi.

Aug 25, 20100

Like most people, I love a great party! Good friends often throw each other parties, and in my circle, we have been doing it for each other for years. When Lynda graciously threw me the birthday party two years ago, it was intimate and wonderful and we all had a great time. I even hosted Michaele’s birthday in my own home. Any guest of honor would want their party to be memorable. On the night of my birthday party at The Park, it certainly was! All I could do was thank God for surrounding me with loving family and honorable friends. Now, I’d like to clear the air.

I have known Michaele Salahi for several years, and we’ve been really close. But recently, it’s all changed. On her recent blog, she raises several points that need to be addressed. Here’s what really happened that night: Marc and Anne Barnes, the owners of The Park at Fourteenth, were the true gracious hosts. They offered, and took care of everything, from the fabulous venue, to the excellent meal, wine pairings, and Champagne toast. Another dear friend and co-host gifted the exquisite cake. And about the generous gift of Oasis Wine they supposedly provided for the 100 dinner guests? It was also tardy for the party, because we never saw it. We did enjoy what was left of that single bottle of Champagne Tareq sabraged. As to Michaele never having planned to meet me beforehand, that’s just not true. Just hours before the party, their lawyer called my publicist repeatedly, demanding that she sign a document saying that they would not be held financially responsible for anything related to my birthday — and if she did not, they would refuse to appear at all! Is this is why Michaele couldn’t answer my calls from the hotel in town where we were supposed to meet? I would happily have gotten ready at my own home in DC, but we planned to meet at the hotel, to make it easier for them. After trying for hours, I got hold of her, and we agreed to meet a block away from the venue. As I sat in the car for another hour waiting, they never showed, nor did they call or respond to my calls. Finally, one of my friends texted me from the party, to report that the Salahis had already arrived. I chose not to bring any of this up once I arrived, opting instead to celebrate with all of my guests. So one has to wonder: what kind of a friend stands you up while their lawyer stands off with the friend’s publicist, and threatens not to show up, only to create a scene — on your birthday?

Make no mistake; I will always cherish the friendship I shared with Michaele. She was once very loyal.

Moving right along, Ted Gibson is not only an awesome guy, but also a talented hair stylist. I was thrilled to attend a dinner in his honor. It was a bit awkward, though, as Lynda and Michaele hadn’t spoken since my party and I hadn’t had a chance to have a private moment with Michaele about my feelings on the stand-off between her lawyer and my team. I thought I was uncomfortable, until I sensed even more weird energy coming from Cat’s direction. Erika made a comment that seemed to only perpetuate the tension in the already strained relationship between Stacie and Cat. I have to say, I like Cat! She is one of the most wonderful and honest people you’ll meet, and I don’t believe she has a racist bone in her body. And as for my dear Aunt Frances, I went over last weekend to see her, and we feasted on ribs, crabs and EVERYTHING in between. I love all of Stacie’s family and they love mine. We still have a great time together!

This show has been such an adventure for me, because I had an opportunity to see us from all angles. The public only gets a small glimpse of who we are, and sometimes, the parts that we love so much about each other don’t come across so clearly. We are blessed to live in Washington, DC, our nation’s capital, at an amazing moment in history. Some of my greatest accomplishments are being realized here. My family and friends are here. As Lynda said, "This is just the beginning." I say, cheers to all five ladies on this show — they have fearlessly opened the doors and windows to their lives and allowed us to take a very entertaining journey with them. I am proud to be a part of this ride!

Love to you all.

Paul

Find me at twitter.com/paulwharton and hit me up on Facebook.

80 comments
HGH Supplement
HGH Supplement

It really interests me when I read your blog. I really admire your character in the show. I'm just so excited to see you every time.Keep it up!

Crofton Fan
Crofton Fan

Hey Paul,

Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts here! I enjoyed watching you on the show, and it's great to get to know the person behind the name. I'm sorry to hear your birthday party experienced, shall we say, a hiccup *grin* ... I understand your initial hurt, but you're a true gentleman to take it all in stride, with such grace and charm. As you get older *cough* you tend to experience more proverbial hiccups when birthdays come around .... hiccups and meltdowns. Oh well, I look forward to Season 2, take care!

Eve4ever
Eve4ever

Paul, I am glad you blogged, I wanted you to know that I love your hair. Now Mary's is my favorite but you are fabulous. You are a class act. The Salahi's are a very strange pair. You will go well to keep your distance. Love her from a far. There is something wrong with them. Do not get caught in the web the have spun. Paul you are genuine and very sweet. Anyone should be honored to have you as a friend.

Lisa M.
Lisa M.

Paul, love you on the show.. I noticed your last name is Wharton. Are you related to Edity Wharton, the author. If so, then we are related. My g.grandmother's last name was Wharton. Edith married a Wharton. They were cousins...Just wondering. I love family history. Good luck with the show!

naijagal
naijagal

you really were, are a class act on the show, always gracious and kind. kudos

PANTHER
PANTHER

love you dude! keep up the fabulosity!

Lilu816
Lilu816

You have it all wrong. Read Mary's Blog how the WH Event and the Salahis on-going scandels cast shadows on the show and how it affected the Cast members in their personal lives. Many people were caused harm by their selfish actions. The Salahis's insulted their cast members when they were invited guest at the winery, thinking only of themselves. They both ganged up Mary claiming her daughter stole their equipment, not one concern for Lolly. Their employee insulted Cat who was an invited guest to their winery gathering. Cat left the party after the insult. Michaele laughted about this insult making fun of Cat with their rude employee. The Salahis's clearly use people. They had a public flogging. Mary wrote a wonderful Blog on the outcome of the Salahis Circus. Look through the big hole in the fence, there is more than meets the eye.

Katherine2
Katherine2

AGREED! Paul is the most sensative and smartest ones on that show...more like him needs to be there...remove those who cause a "Jerry Springer" reaction and Andy, you know who I'm talking about, and then replace them full time with Paul and anyone else who doesn't stoop to slamming those who are seemingly lost. Here's the kicker, believe me, what goes around, comes around and when it does come back around it's so sad and horrible that you can't and best not look upon it as it could very well be you! Thank you Paul for speaking out for the truth.

Tracy R
Tracy R

Think you are a very nice and cool person. You seemed upset when the women took pleasure in watching the session on television. I think it a natural human reaction they felt - not the joy of people being ruined but the joy that Michaele and her husband have finally been revealed and truth coming to light.

Don't waste to much of your thoughts on Michaele. Whatever the reasons she makes the choices in her life and I do not believe she is the victim.

Annette Wooten
Annette Wooten

I think for the exception of Paul they need to re cast the entire houswives of DC they are boring and have absolutly NO STYLE I live in the DMV and I know for a fact we have alot of fashion forward well known wealthy socialites these woomen are not only old fashion they are very boring If you look at the houswives of Jersy and Atlanta they are very fashion forward and exciting shoot one of the reasons we like watch them is for the fashion I can't wait till RHWO Beverly Hills comes on they are already fabulouse in the commercials.

ADDICTEDhousewife:)
ADDICTEDhousewife:)

By all accounts, you come across on TV as one of life's good souls. Watching the Salahis testify before Congress at Lynda's apartment was like watching a train wreck...the gals were all cheering for their old friend's demise, while you were the only one who indeed was not pleased with what they did, but also showed some sense of pain over seeing how the new, destructive side of Michaele had changed her and taken its toll. I was waiting with bated breath all season to see how this State Dinner escapade would be handled on the show. I don't know what was more riveting to witness on the finale....the Salahis taking the 5th over and over, or watching the other Housewives of DC cheer, sneer and snicker at their old friends' new found fate.

suggahb
suggahb

Paul , i am a huge fan, you are so graceful and might i add your coif chile is to ddie for.. I need more of you.. we need more paul andy ... seriously.. jump on it..your laff is rich and full of vigor.. i adore u.. you are my best friend in head lol... the way you handle scandal is epic.. keep it going, stay flawless and gdammit doll , u have the best skin on the show.. serve them with face dahling.. i love u more than any straight sista should lol.. toodles..

PinkFizzies
PinkFizzies

Paul I agree with your take on friendship with people who can be so close minded about gay marriage. It is beyond me how in this century we are still worried about the goins on of what others do in their private lives. I suppose it is acceptable for a man to patent a machine that measures a sex organ with useless knowledge just because he is heterosexual, but if a gay guy did it what kind of backlash would the he get for it? What if tomorrow there was a proclamation from the black community that said "no one who is bi-racial is allowed to marry a non bi-racial person of color"...to me, it is the same kind of issue....I am a straight person who has to my knowledge straight relatives, but it does not allow me to sit on a throne and judge others or tell them what to do. A gay marriage would not hurt me in the least, would not take from my bank account or table, and I feel that happiness no matter how people get it is a precious commodity in this world and everyone should know it. I can't imagine how a couple who is gay and spent a lifetime together can deal with the fact that one of them would not be eligible for thier partners retirement or social security in the event that person passed away. It is time for this world to stop talking about stuff from last century and get on board with the reality of what life is all about....I think you are a breath of fresh air on that show and would love to see you continue on as a strong person who speaks your mind about your beliefs....

DIGNIFIEDaddict;
DIGNIFIEDaddict;

You added great depth in the gay marriage scene. I agree you should reconsider friendship with anyone who does not share the viewpoint of inclusion of all people in marriage. For Stacie not to support gay marriage, she does not support your right to exist on this earth on the same level she and her husband do. It is unfair, unjust, un-American.

FL_Viewer
FL_Viewer

Paul, you represent the gay community brilliantly. I love your passion, honestly and loyalty! Wow, the women are so lucky to have you as their friend.

tpoulos
tpoulos

You are the best!!! Nuff said!!! You belong in New York!!!!

WhereRU?
WhereRU?

Paul where on earth are you? I had hoped to see more of you on the episodes of the DC show...maybe you will make some cameo appearances, but we would like it if you were in all of the episodes...I think there is plenty of room for you on the show...come on Bravo, what gives?

d1962
d1962

Paul, I totally agree with the others. You deserve a picture and a permanent place on this show. You are a sweetheart through and through, a loyal and supportive friend and it saddens me that anyone in the past has treated you so badly. My own handsome son is gay and one of the best people I know. I would adopt you in a heartbeat honey! What happened the night of your party had to be hurtful, but my instincts tell me that her husband may just be the puppeteer of all the drama and she felt too controled or scared to call and tell you the truth behind it all as it was happening. I hope she gets away from this man because it would be a shame for her to lose the only true friend she has on this show. You. I wish you every love and happiness honey. You are a doll! xxoo

Nicole Marie
Nicole Marie

Paul I love you baby you are fabulous!! Can I just say HELLO ANDY we need "The Real Gay Husbands Of" Series!! Get on it!!

NYC Girl
NYC Girl

I LOVE U PAUL, I HAVE BEEN WATCHING YOU SINCE "MAKEOVER MANOR", i still watch the reruns. Love u

Dr. BarB
Dr. BarB

You are my new favorite stylist!!! I just ADORE you! I'm so glad your publicist didn't say anything to you until later.

I am so sorry this happened to you on your special day. We all celebrated your birthday, albeit a bit later. Just keep being you Paul- you're SO adorable!

cali patti
cali patti

wow, wow, wow, points and events stated so well

Just MI
Just MI

Love Love YOU..............

TonyainVA
TonyainVA

Paul,

I really enjoy watching you on the show. You bring a lot of positive and upbeat energy to the show! You're always respectful with the ladies and fun to watch!! Too bad Michaele wasn't a good friend in return but now you know. Maya Angelou once wrote "when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time". It took me a while to get into the DC series. I only wish that Bravo would show more of you and also Ted. You both make the show more enjoyable for me!! Peace and blessings.

Michele F
Michele F

Pau, you truly are a very sincere and classy person. I enjoy watching the segments in which you appear. I applaud you for taking the high road during your party by focusing on what was important and not the Salahi-induced drama.

Lets Get Real
Lets Get Real

Paul, I just don't know why Bravo doesn't get it and add you and some of the other leading men who are always around to the casts! I want to see your picture up there with the rest of the women in the intro. We all want to know about your life too!!! So far you seem to be the most warm and genuine person on the show. Love ya!!!

sdcyn
sdcyn

I hope that you are much more aware of Michaele and her husband in the future. What they did was use you and then hang you out to dry. I felt terrible about what they did to you after pretending to throwing a party for you and then handing you the bill. Once burned shame on them twice burned shame on you! You appear to be a decent person with much to bring to a friendship why throw it away on someone undeserving and there to get there 15 minutes at any cost or should I say anyone. You and Lolly and it is only the begining. Cat may have her problems but at least she speaks her truth!

STAMFORDCT
STAMFORDCT

WTF Paul you are totally fabulous and GEORGEOUS why is there not a pic of you up. I love how you dish to - can not wait to read your blog again :-)

Much Love

Linda

Go Housewives! GO!
Go Housewives! GO!

PAUL...You make the show worthwile watching.....blog more...pleeeeeeze

Kathi441
Kathi441

Love you Paul. Please blog more!

DAi
DAi

I'm new to the blogging scene but I had to comment on Paul's b'day bash. I'm bi-costal and have been all of my life. My family was politcally connected with DC so I'm very familar with DC culture and polictics. With that said, I commend Paul's behavior and rising above the fray. Ms M and hubby are complete fakes, very reminiscent of DC and keeping up with the jones. Mark Barnes is another story all together... Glad to see he's changing his wicked ways.

t.b.
t.b.

BLOG MORE, like after each show, let us know what real deal is with the ladies......

t.b.
t.b.

Paul I love, love you on the show, i hope they show more of you, One word of advice for you don't trust micaela or mary, they are not your friends, keep them close:)...

Fauquier County Viewer
Fauquier County Viewer

You are a class act, Paul! Thank you for stating what actually happened with your birthday party.

glorius2u
glorius2u

Paul your blog is exactly what I would expect from a free spirited and kind person such as yourself. I still question your "friend" Cat's attitude. I do am an outspoken person and do get my point across without being rude or insulting, and I am always invited back. If Cat is your friend maybe you should try to school her on the "colored person" thing. What is that about? As a person of color that is very insulting. Talk to your girl before she gets put on blast for real?

DC gal
DC gal

Paul, you are the real star of this show! Great to see you blogging here. I read an interview with you that made me much more of a fan. I'm sure you're fabulous and all that, but I'm more moved by your openness, sincerity, and commitment to helping young people. I hope Bravo keeps you around long after the five housewives' season ends.

Keeley in Michigan
Keeley in Michigan

Paul,

I absolutely love your personality. I always look forward to your appearances on the show and you def keep it real. Love watching you!!

Curious Fan
Curious Fan

Am I mistaken . . . or did we see Omarosa standing at the bar at your party during Tareq's champagne sabrage? Amazing!

An American in Europe
An American in Europe

You are a darling, Paul Wharton, and the viewing public appreciates your charm and subtlety. You have a sweet spirit and are also humorous, an those qualities are not lost on us! We hope you had a great season taking part in this project and that it wasn't too traumatizing,you genuinely seem like a good sport and a good soul!

Teachntexas
Teachntexas

I agree with cyndylou. I would add: Please be very careful with Michaele and Cat. Of course, I do not personally know them, but I think they are NOT trustworthy, caring of others, or genuine. You deserve the best! P.S. I think that you are so cute!

little countess
little countess

Love you Paul,

Love your different hairstyles. Which designer is mostly worn in D.C.?

Sue H
Sue H

Paul,

Thank you for clearing things up. With all that is going on in the press with the Salahi's, one never knows what or whom to believe. Michaele talks about keeping it "real". Maybe she should...

Duchess of Durham
Duchess of Durham

Paul, will you please help me understand something? Did you ask Michaele to co-host a birthday party for you?

jlrh123
jlrh123

Love you Paul! To another poster: I would comment on someone's articulation no matter what their race and I believe 'we' should be meant as the human race and not in the color of anyone's skin. Paul I think you are awesome and love watching you!!

Chane'
Chane'

A very powerful and straight forward rendition of how things work in any relationship. I was, however, very surprised that you were able to make it through the entire dinner without calling Tareq on the carpet. I definitely would have advised, after the party of course, that their behavior was totally inappropriate. Your persona on the show is admirable! Keep it classy!