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Jason Turner swears that he did not use McGyver tactics to get into the Nigerian embassy. And no, Cat is not a racist.

Oct 15, 20100

Off to Nigeria!

One of my greatest joys in the 20 years Stacie and I have been together, has been leading the effort to find her birth parents. Funny story, I told her years ago that I was going to find them. She laughed back then. Now look where we are baby! We are off to Nigeria in November. With the trips we made to South Africa this year for Stacie's charity, this trip will be our third to the African continent in 7 months! Real talk: This is scary for Stacie. It's crazy seeing the back and forth between excitement and fear that Stacie goes through with this real-life reunion on the horizon. A point I must clear up from the show: I did not "sneak" into the Nigerian Embassy with the pizza man! I didn't know anyone, and truly did NOT have an invitation! There are huge security gates around the entire perimeter of the building, and as Stacie said, the pizza man was coming out at the same time. But for all of my MacGyver/Jack Bauer tactics, I was instructed, on my way out, that the gate door was open anyway -– it was during office hours! My unending gratitude to Stella, my sister from a different mister, without whose help and personal involvement this story, still unfolding, might still be untold. 

One last thing: Reality costs. I have been advised that I may need to bring my checkbook to meet Stacie's father in Nigeria. She is the eldest of his 11 children, total. I wonder, "Is Stacie worth three cows or four?" 

"Got To Be Real" 

A little piece of trivia: this is Stacie's FAVORITE song by Cheryl Lynn from back in the day. Guess what? This show stuff, at least what we shot, ain't fake. Planned out and scheduled, yes, but not fake. I've had so many of my friends and family say, "Do they give you lines, or tell you when to laugh, feed you jokes, etc.?" I read a show recap article in the Post after using the words "racially agnostic" during the Facebook email convo Stacie and I were writing -- which truly came out of my mouth from nowhere, but made perfect since to me at the time -– where the columnist says, "They really do give the husbands the best lines." What? That's crazy. I was offended more than when Andy called me Ebong!

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View PRINCES EMILLIA IBBE
View PRINCES EMILLIA IBBE

I HAVE WATCHED REAL HOUSEWIFE OF DC, I DID NOT KNOW I HAVE ONE OF OUR OWN, CONGRATULATIONS, I AM FROM AMAOCHA AFARA, SAME PLACE AS YOUR FATHER, MY DAUTHER SYLVIA SENDS HER REGARDS, SHE IS WITH TYLER PERRY.

EMILLIA IBBE

DCfriend
DCfriend

JASON you are a great guy and I agree that you and Stacie are blessed to have each other. I think it is wonderful that you always support and defend Stacie. However, I think it is more important for Stacie to step up and apologize to Cat for the "racial" issues danced around on this show. Stacie has been very cleaver is structuring her comments that makes her appear to retract her negative comments about Cat but falls short of a heart felt apology. As Cat said on the show, Stacie had an opportunity to clear up any confusion or misjudgments regarding Cat and Stacie "danced" around the issue and ultimately said nothing. Always defending Erika!..Disappointing!!!!!

Good luck in Nigeria, safe travels.

ViewerV
ViewerV

All this talk of cows and chickens! :) I second McleanView's piece on dowries. kind of. A "dowry" goes with the bride to her new family.. as a sort of seed money for the new couple to set up shop, paid to the groom by the woman's family. A "bride price" or "bride wealth" is property paid by the groom to the parents of the woman. In my family's mother country, traditionally, a bride price is also given to the family in exchange for a bride. It is understood that the bride price is a thanks for the raising, educating, and efforts of her family to bring her from an infant to the woman she is today.. so in yours and Stacie's example, to practice bride price... the 4 cows would go to Aunt Francis. nothing would go to her biological father, as he and his family did not raise Stacie. It is strange that this would come up at all because if I had learned that I had a long lost daughter, I'd be jumping for joy to get to know her and see how she's grown, curious to how she might resemble me, not asking for a bride price to validate her marriage to her husband. That's just really strange!

Congrats on finding Stacie's birth parents. Enjoy Nigeria in November!

princess_workstoomuch
princess_workstoomuch

Sometimes actions speak even louder than words. Not only does Staci have a hottie for a husband, but someone who will do anything he has to to make her happy and complete that emptiness than remained in her life being denied the name of her father. What a blessing you are to be in her life and visa versa. What you did might probably go down in history as the most romantic thing you have ever done for her. Big love Big guy! Bless you and your lovely family!

Clt
Clt

I loved watching you and Stacie together. Thank you for being a "normal" couple. I don't know when I've seen this on tv, even in a reality show. I wouldn't pay the dowry. Sounds like a scam. If the show is renewed, I'll watch to see what you two are up to. The "cry face" came without tears. What a surprise!

An American in Europe
An American in Europe

What a fun blog; it's funny how the Husbands are just as important to following the whole DC franchise as the wives, we viewers like having you dudes around and hope they keep up all of your camera time with your families next season. Congrats on finding Stacie's dad!!! Wow, what a journey...I would say Divinely Designed! BTW, you have a really special lady as a wife who would make any family proud: go ahead and kick in for 4 cows instead of 3, lol!

Debbie Ann
Debbie Ann

Best of luck to you and Stacie and I pray that you have a safe trip to Nigeria. I know she's anxious to finally meet her blood relatives. I would love to hear about the trip and see pictures posted once you all return. Word of advise, stay in the city and don't venture too far into the villages. Don't open your wallet too much. Keep your passports and picture IDs close on your person. Try the foofoo and stew --it's delicious!

Viewer88
Viewer88

I love you and Stacie both. You guys are my favorite Housewives people and I am glad that they have included the husbands so much in this storyline. I really enjoyed seeing 'real' people for a change, I'm so glad Bravo decided to showcase some down home folks who have it together and aren't 'a little teched' as we say in the south. I am so glad Stacie has found her birth father and that they are going to finally meet, and she is so lucky to have such a supportive mate. Hugs to both of you.

McleanView
McleanView

Not for nothing but a dowry is a payment for child development investment to date in education, upbrining, etc., SInce there was no risk or investment on his part and Stacie's foster parents did all the work, maybe Jason needs to clean all the dishes all the time at Aunt Francis's home every Sunday?

Chris F
Chris F

All women like to have a rock to lean on in a husband and you seem like you are just that so I love watching you. I do need to say though that you mentioned Cat said colored, Stacie also mentioned this to Cat during the reunion part 1 and Cat said, it's a joke. I am wondering if you both understood her joke or where taken aback by her saying colored. To the viewer we saw that Cat was uncomfortable at that party because she felt Stacie and her friends thought she had an issue with race. While being comforted and being told by a gay black man that she has been nothing but nice and accepting of him and he knew there was no issue of race, she just didn't like Tyra (which I understand because Tyra talks about herself way too much for my taste as well). Her joke was "get away from me you are a homosexual and colored". She was joking and being sarcastic because Stacie and her friends were going on about how uncomfortable Cat is with African Americans so she said her joke in an elevated level of what they were saying to bring the point home in a sarcastic way.

ViewerCarrie
ViewerCarrie

Jason...you and Stacie turned me off big time when you ambushed the Salahi's at your house. That is just weird how you "now" wish then the best...really? wow!! Don't believe it and never will that you wish them well of anything. Hope your glass house has no stones around it.

Gabrielle Maggy
Gabrielle Maggy

Jason, you are one class act. Stacie and your children are extremely lucky to have you in their lives. Health and happiness to you always.

SiobhanD
SiobhanD

That`s wonderful. But, are you sure he his her father? To be on the safe side, make sure you bring back his DNA. Stacie must be so happy.

By the way, don`t ever say one is not a racist....you are unaware of the British mentality towards Black people.

Anyway, good luck to you and Stacie.

Amber...RealHousewife
Amber...RealHousewife

You are a lucky man and it's wonderful that you and Stacie found each other! Best of luck to the Turners and hope Stacie finds the additional love she is looking for in Africa! :)

MadgePadge
MadgePadge

You are the only husband that truly has a sense of humor ~ Good looks as well. You are the best husband on the series. Hope you come back for Season Two.

Stacie is a lucky woman ~ I know I would be happy with a husband like you...

Cheryl A. Moore
Cheryl A. Moore

Jason, You and Stacie are the most real people on the show. You tell it like it is, but with class and grace. Stacie is priceless, but I'm sure you and her DAD can work out an agreement. Have an awesome trip , and I truly hope it's everything Stacie dreamed about and more. God Bless you, Stacie, and your children.

Viewer12
Viewer12

You seem like a real and strong family.

naijagal
naijagal

i loved you and stacie on the show, for the most part, wont go into when i didnt. am a nigerian and i want to say its probably not a good idea to advertise your trip, the american embassy in nigeria will fill you in on how to go on. lmao, cows, really. them critters are expensive so you hope its only one thats reqiured which they may ask for for a traditional wedding lmao. boy i would love to see that. you guys are in for a treat barring any misfortune. really happy stacie found her birth father. you realize ebong is nigerian as well?

NYvNJ
NYvNJ

I have never been jealous of another woman because of her man but I am 100% jealous of Stacie! You two are a breath of fresh air. Stacie is the first of the "Housewives" that I sincerely like and you represent the husband I hope to one day have. Thanks for agreeing to be on this show and providing the much needed relief in between Salahi-ism scenes.

I say that you kick in for 3 cows and a chicken, just to be sure.

 Kimberly in Alexandria VA
Kimberly in Alexandria VA

I love your entire family. Talk about keeping it real. I watch all the housewives shows and you and Stacie are my favorite couple..... Bless you for being such a love for Stacie as she manages the pain of the situation and the JOY of finally meeting her DAD...... Be safe in your travels and enjoy the experience.

Sue H
Sue H

You are a true man. Honest and forthright and all that goes with that. You stood up for Mary and Rich while they were under attack and you let Tareq know that he was 100% out of line. I noticed there's not been an apology from the Oasis Nut jobs despite the fact that it's been proven to be an outright lie. No matter. You made it known at that moment that their comments and accusations were unacceptable in any situation other than a private one. You are a credit to "real" men and we need more men like you. God Bless you Jason-you and your beautiful family.

50's Girl
50's Girl

Your Stacie is worth at least 4 cows! And you, young man, are priceless. Thanks for being a real man and gentleman. Class act.

Dana C NYC
Dana C NYC

Nice blog, Jason. You took the high road.

Ms. Diva2U
Ms. Diva2U

Jason, I just love you and Stacie. And yes, Stacie is worth 200 cows and then some. Have fun and enjoy your trip to Nigeria. May God continue to bless you both and your children.