Cast Blog: #DCHOUSEWIVES

High Heel Fatigue

Secret Thoughts

A Rewarding Experience

Man Rule Refresher

Wine Woes

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Bullying Tactics

Something for the Grandchildren

Man Rules

McGyver, Jack Bauer, ... Jason Turner?

Just Say ... Yes?

Love, Communication, and Mutual Respect

Mary's Best Moment

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No More Drama

Edge of Your Seat Drama

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Q and A With Stacie

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Shining Just Where We Are

Time to Press Delete

Mary's Worst Moment

Be Careful Who You Trust

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Gracious Offerings from Burkina Faso

No Stones Left Unturned

The White House Cirque Begins

Miss Understood

There's Nothing Pretty About Being a Mean Girl

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"Some People are Not Destined to Be Friends"

Ask, and I May Tell!

I Live for "Today!"

The Many Faces of Mary

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Let's Hear it for the Boys

This Oasis is Not a Mirage

What is Salahi-ism?

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Time Is a Healer

Vineyard Vindication

Breaking the Man Rules

Who wants to Shoot Tareq?

Making Wine, Housewives Style

Reality Check

Grape Expectations

I Laughed, I Cried, I Cringed

'Tis Better to Give Love Than to Receive Meanness

High Heel Fatigue

Lynda talks about her crazy Fashion Week and gives her thoughts on the drinking age.

 

The fall social scene in Washington is in full swing with galas, balls, and benefits galore! Recently, when I have been out at events, I hear my name being called and turn around expecting to see someone I know only to find out I have no idea who the person is! As it turns out, they are fans who are excited to let me how much they are enjoying the show and usually ask to have a picture taken with me. The outpouring of love and support is such a humbling experience. As y'all know, I was apprehensive at first to open my life up to a world that was unknown to me. My interaction with fans has confirmed that I made the right decision. I am so thankful to be a part of The Real Housewives of DC which has given me a platform to talk about my business and the issues that are so important to me. 

A week's worth of High Heel Fatigue (the name of my personal blog…that I will launch someday when I'm not so high heel fatigued! As you see in tonight's episode, I need assistance getting ready and out the door.)  

*Fashion's Night Out

This is my industry's busiest time of year, so I have to be very selective in the events I choose to support. I was proud to be on the host committee of Fashion's Night Out for the Georgetown BID. FNO jump starts fashion week and the businesses that participate agree to give a percentage of their night's proceeds to charity. That's what I call a win-win. 

*Innocents at Risk 

Next, Ebong and I were invited by my friend Deborah Sigmund to attend an awards ceremony for Innocents at Risk at the Canadian Embassy. Deborah is the Founder of Innocents at Risk, a non-profit organization that raises awareness of human trafficking; a social issue that deserves my time and attention. Worldwide, more than 2 million children are sold into the sex trade each year. The modeling and casting industry is often used by predators throughout the internet to lure their prey. What I want to develop is an icon that would be used by modeling and casting agencies throughout the world on their websites for people searching agents to click-on. This link would inform new talent what not to do and how to navigate the modeling industry safely. We all need to work together to help educate people and our government officials about the steps that must be taken to protect the innocent, including stronger regulation of the internet. For more information, visit www.innocentsatrisk.org. 

*32nd Annual Ambassador Ball 

We also attended the Ambassadors Ball as a guest of Washington Life Magazine. It was a privilage to be in the same room as Washington's Diplomatic Corps and Congressional leaders including the Speaker of the House, Nancy Pelosi. Paul Pelosi and Joyce Bennett, wife of Sen. Bob Bennett, were the 2010 co-chairs who helped raise over $1 million for the National Multiple Sclerosis Society. 

*9th Annual Soirée Suisse 

Heather Halsey, T·H·E's Marketing Director, and I were excited to attend this event at the Embassy of Switzerland, annually celebrating Swiss-American friendship. We wanted to check out the festivities, including a fashion presentation with designs by Isabel Toledo, who requested our models for this event. The collection was incredible and it was so exciting to meet Isabel and her husband, Ruben Toledo, a visionary artist as well. It was an honor to be a guest at the residence of Ambassador Urs Ziswiler and his wife Mrs. Ronit Ziswiler. 

And Now Back to the Show! 

In my first scene I'm with dog trainers Dawn and William, who just so happened to have trained Bo, the Obama's dog. Since I was moving out of an apartment setting with high security to a private home, I needed some advice on a good guard dog. I had a brilliant and beautiful German Shepherd when I was young and knew that the breed made wonderful pets and would provide great security. Dawn and William brought over a 4-month old Shepard they were training just to observe whether little Ichiban would get along with a larger dog. As you see in the end, Ichiban and the Shepherd saw eye-to-eye. 

Blessings for Our New Home 

First I'd like to apologize to anyone I offended when I said the space had been cleared but the bad decorating still remained. The truth is that the decor was very similar to my home in the 80's. My personal style has changed, however my philosophies of space remain the same. I believe before you move into a new home or office, you need to cleanse the space and remove previous energies. I was taken aback by Stacie's comment about it being a "psychic" thing. Psychics are people who read into the future. Hello?!! This is about blessings and space clearing. Priests and religious leaders from all denominations have been doing this for centuries. What do y'all think that smell of incense is when you walk into a church, and the Holy water in the vestibule to bless yourself upon entering and exiting some places of worship? Every religion has it's own rituals for blessings that are a beautiful tradition. I can feel an immediate change from the moment I do this. In addition, when I feel that people have come into my environment with negativity, I will light a vanilla candle because it will help remove their energy. I'd also like to bring a better understanding to the comment I made about my astrologer.  For the past 20 years, I have been blessed to have Sandra Mayo, a Minister, Astrologer, Angel on Earth, with me. Her advice and guidance has navigated me through many challenging times. 

As author Viktor Frankl wrote in his book Man's Search for Meaning, "Astrologers study the sky because it gives them an experience of universal order (not of the earth, but through the earth). We do not seek to detach ourselves from the universe and it's rhythms as say, a scientist does, but rather identify ourselves with these rhythms." 

Lowering the Drinking Age 

My thoughts about allowing young adults ages 18 to 21 to drink beer and wine comes from my own personal experiences as a teenager. Growing up in a small town that was a "dry" county, I witnessed young people driving over the county line to buy and drink alcohol, which only increased drunk driving and fatalities. Is anyone paying attention here?? If you are responsible enough to vote and serve in the military, you should certainly be mature enough to drink alcohol. The burden and liability that is put upon parents of young adults has become a huge political issue. I would rather have my children drink in a controlled environment where adults are present than doing it on the sly, because that's much more dangerous for all of us. My comment about marijuana is this...I just can't understand why it isn't legalized??! BTW, you can tax the hell out of that! 

Men Against Breast Cancer 

I often lend my name and support to charities, but there are few that I am able to committ so much of my personal time to. Mark Heyison's Men Against Breast Cancer is one of them. The non-profit's goal is to educate and empower men to be effective caregivers to the women they love battling the disease. In addition to the male models you see from T.H.E., you see local celebrities volunteer to close the final portion of the fashion show. Once again, MABC and Saks Fifth Avenue have partnered for the next fashion show benefit taking place November 3, 2010 at Mazza Gallerie. Get your tickets now, there's only 250 seats available. That means you ladies, cause you seem to enjoy the mens fashion shows the most!:D  For more information visit www.menagainstbreastcancer.org.  

On a side note, my heart went out to Cat when I introduced her to my former boyfriend, Christopher, who reminded her of her best friend Phil who had recently passed. It was heartwrenching to see her break down, but I loved the way Christopher consoled her and reminded her that life continues on. 

Celebrating Life

And now I'll leave you on the weekend of my birthday with an excerpt taken once again from Viktor Frankl's 1946 book, Man's Search for Meaning, which chronicles his experiences as a concentration camp inmate and his psychotherapeutic method of finding a reason to live. 

"As each situation in life represents a challenge to man and presents a problem for him to solve, the question of the meaning of life may actually be reversed. Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; to life he can only respond by being responsible… responsibleness is the very essence of human existence (you either have the ability-to-respond or must be forgiven). So one should not search for an abstract meaning of life. Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life; everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that demands fulfillment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated. Thus, everyone's task is as unique as is his specific opportunity to implement it." 

Peace & Blessings, 

Lynda 

Follow me on Twitter @THERealLyndaDC and check out my personal website, www.LyndaErkiletian.com

 

A Rewarding Experience

Despite her cringe-worthy moments, Mary's had a blast.

Nonsense

n.

1. Words or signs having no intelligible meaning

2. Subject matter, behavior, or language that is foolish or absurd.

3. Extravagant foolishness or frivolity

4. Matter of little or no importance or usefulness

5. Insolent talk or behavior; impudence

One thing that no one can ever take from you is your word. I was raised with the motto say what you mean and mean what you say. The reunion was extremely difficult for me. All of the nonsensical behavior that we have been subject to this season from Boris and Natasha came to a head that long September day. It was difficult to watch myself become so exacerbated by the lies and false accusations, and to see myself visibly display the emotions I was experiencing: anger, hurt, and frustration. Even when confronted with solid proof these people still arrogantly sat there denying all. It was unreal. After a season of fabulous fun with my family and friends it made me sick to see it all end this way.

As parents, one of the primary values we teach our children is the importance of being honest. As I sat on the sofa during 10 tedious hours of filming, listening to lie after lie coming from a couple who are masterful storytellers, I wondered how we got to this point. I have never in my life been put in such a confrontational and frustrating situation nor watched two grown adults be so blatantly dishonest. My family, close friends, and my charity have all been negatively affected by these individuals. At the end of the day I know what I signed up for, and in the reality TV world the name of the game is drama. What I was experiencing was not drama. This was about two delusional individuals who still can not answer a "yes" or "no" question. Ultimately for me they stooped to the lowest of lows by falsely accusing our daughter of a serious crime that she had no involvement in whatsoever. I can easily say that I am relieved that we can all move on from spending precious time and energy talking about these people. I'm sure I'm not alone in saying I'm ready to move on!

In some ways this reality TV experience was like being pregnant for the first time; many people offered sound advice but nothing can really prepare a person for such a surreal experience. As a family, we have had a blast on this roller coaster ride and have enjoyed watching snapshots of our "functionally dysfunctional" family relate to each other through the challenges of being a large family. The love of a family is the greatest blessing, and I am overwhelmingly blessed with a large loving family. I want to thank them all for taking this great risk and jumping on this ride with me.

The cross! I have had an overwhelming number of inquiries about how to find the cross that I wear regularly. I purchased my cross a number of years ago on a trip to the Carribbean. Unfortunately, the cross is no longer available, but I am working closely with the company that produced it and will be launching a new version soon! Additionally, I am excited to share that I am currently designing an entire cross collection. Look for more information coming soon on my future website www.maryamons.com!

If in the DC area on November 4th, please join me as Labels for Love hosts a spectacular event called the Modus Union Salon Party. This evening will feature the incredible works of 75 juried artists, live painting, musical performances, trapeze artists, vendors, nibbles from local restaurants, and of course cocktails! All artwork will be for sale and the proceeds will benefit Fran Drescher's organization, Cancer Schmancer (www.cancerschmancer). For more information, go to www.labelsforlove.org. I hope to see you there!

From the bottom of my heart, I want to thank all that helped make this year incredibly enriching and rewarding. This entire experience has been a very humbling and rewarding one. I learned a tremendous amount about myself and witnessed many cringe-worthy moments to learn from ... and avoid! One of the best aspects of making the choice to do the show was the beautiful friendships that developed and strengthened over the last with Lynda, Cat, and Stacie and our incredible crew. We shared many laughs and had a ton of fun! Although a friendship with Michaele didn't develop, I wish her and each of my cast mates only the best for the future. Thank you all for the support and encouragement over the our first season! 

Peace and Blessings!

ox,

Mary

 

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