Just Say ... Yes?

Lynda shares her thoughts on certain medicinal herbs.

What a long, emotional, and revealing day! I appreciate that the reunion provided a forum in which to openly discuss our questions and opinions, as well as yours, about all that has transpired on this inaugural season of the Real Housewives of DC. Of course, some comments raise more questions than they answer, so I'd love to address those points here.

The Woman Who Cried Wolf

Firstly, while I am very critical of the Salahis and their spin-factory assembly line of contradictions, I need to reiterate that I sincerely miss the Michaele I once knew. If she does in fact have Multiple Sclerosis, I will of course support her in any way and wish her a long, healthy life full of blessings. I hope that she will use this opportunity to set a good example for other people struggling with this difficult and potentially debilitating disease. However, my previously expressed doubts are best represented by the familiar parable, "The boy who cried wolf." When people lie continually, misrepresent themselves, and even manipulate the truth to satisfy their agendas, it becomes impossible to discern when they are sincerely suffering. Michaele is indisputably guilty of all of the above; therefore my first and honest response was "BS." I hated to see her cry or feel bullied by us "mean girls," but her attack on Cat regarding her dissolved marriage with Charles was more mean-spirited and misguided than anything anyone said on that couch. I would like to believe that she truly "is from a different make" as she later asserts to Mary, that she doesn't know "how someone can feel good about hurting somebody." But this seems like yet another contradiction given her insensitivity and even cruelty towards Cat. I say she needs a therapist because: A) We all do! B) She appears out of touch with reality, as Stacie mentions, she lives "in a delusional world." I truly hope she gets the help she needs and deserves. 

Love ... and Marriage?

As you know by now, I have been more than forthcoming about almost any topic and do not often shy away from your questions. However, I was uncomfortable addressing the viewer's question regarding marrying Ebong because that is a bridge he and I will cross privately before ever discussing it publicly. We have loved and supported each other for the past year and a half and will continue to do so regardless of our legal status. Thanks a lot, Gary from DC! You'll have to watch what happens...


For the last time, Cat is NOT a racist! Any insensitive statements she made in jest were a result of her often-misunderstood sense of humor, not a single racist bone in her body. I understand her comments can be offensive, but I know firsthand that Cat does not discriminate on the basis of race, religion, gender, sexual preference, or economic position. I believe Stacie when she says she never intended to imply Cat was racist, however I think she needs to take responsibility for how her racially charged observations would be perceived by our viewers (IE: Her noting Tyra and Obama "just happened to be black" would easily be interpreted as an accusation of racial discrimination). While I also understand Stacie defending her long-time, cherished friend Erika with regard to her attack on Cat, I disagree completely with her position. I concede that they are two grown women, however, as I have previously blogged, Erika's conduct was entirely inappropriate and unwarranted, especially at a children's ice cream social.

Newfound Family

Stacie is a beautiful and brilliant woman whose strength throughout her difficult emotional journey to find her blood relatives has been remarkable. We, like you, heard for the first time at the reunion that Stacy had been in contact with her birth father, stepmothers, and half siblings. I fought back tears of happiness as my heart welled for her incredible triumph, having finally received the love and support she sought and so fully deserves from her biological family. I am thrilled for Stacy, her wonderful husband and beautiful children. I wish them blessings and luck as they round the next bend of this journey -- to explore and nurture their bond with their newfound family in Nigeria!

Just Say ... Yes?

The Bravo audience once again learned that Mary just says "no" to drugs (besides wine, of course). I, on the other hand, require more assistance these days to keep up with my ever-evolving list of medical obstacles brought about by "the change." While, I was born with dyslexia and ADHD, I had previously chosen to cope without allopathic medicines. I was unprepared, however for how menopause (which I now refer to as mental-pause) would exacerbate these conditions. I found myself busier than ever, with my multiple children, households and businesses to attend to, yet I was just plain incapable of keeping up with my increasingly hectic schedule. With the help of a talented and knowledgeable psychiatrist who patiently led me through days of testing, specialists, and drug trials, I was able to find a medication schedule that made me feel like my normally productive self (Almost. The hot flashes, more like flares, are still a struggle; but I am continuing to explore homeopathic treatments and natural hormone therapies.). Unfortunately, an unwanted side effect of one drug is that it makes me hyper and irritable, for which yet another drug is a much needed counter balance (just ask my family and friends). And, yes, as I mentioned, I smoked marijuana -- and inhaled! I learned firsthand about marijuana's powerful medicinal properties, which were more effective for my particular ailments than legally condoned medications. I encourage the U.S. to continue paving a legislative path to permit all sick and suffering people access to beneficial medicines without fear of legal penalty or social stigma. Would I use it recreationally, if it were legal? Probably. I still think it's better than alcohol...

And that's just the beginning; Part Two gets even better if you can believe it! Thank you to Andy for hanging in there with us and to all of our fans for tuning in. To be continued ... As we are all still a work in progress, I leave you with an inspirational poem by Lord Byron that I hope you will enjoy.

"Ye, stars! which are the poetry of heaven,

If in your bright leaves we would read the fate

Of men and empires – 'tis to be forgiven

That in our aspirations to be great

Our destinies o'er leap their mortal state,

And claim a kindred with you; for ye are

A beauty and a mystery, and create

In us such love and reverence from afar,

That fortune, fame, power, life, have

named themselves a star. 

-"Stars" by Lord Byron

Peace, Blessings & Love


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A Rewarding Experience

Despite her cringe-worthy moments, Mary's had a blast.



1. Words or signs having no intelligible meaning

2. Subject matter, behavior, or language that is foolish or absurd.

3. Extravagant foolishness or frivolity

4. Matter of little or no importance or usefulness

5. Insolent talk or behavior; impudence

One thing that no one can ever take from you is your word. I was raised with the motto say what you mean and mean what you say. The reunion was extremely difficult for me. All of the nonsensical behavior that we have been subject to this season from Boris and Natasha came to a head that long September day. It was difficult to watch myself become so exacerbated by the lies and false accusations, and to see myself visibly display the emotions I was experiencing: anger, hurt, and frustration. Even when confronted with solid proof these people still arrogantly sat there denying all. It was unreal. After a season of fabulous fun with my family and friends it made me sick to see it all end this way.

As parents, one of the primary values we teach our children is the importance of being honest. As I sat on the sofa during 10 tedious hours of filming, listening to lie after lie coming from a couple who are masterful storytellers, I wondered how we got to this point. I have never in my life been put in such a confrontational and frustrating situation nor watched two grown adults be so blatantly dishonest. My family, close friends, and my charity have all been negatively affected by these individuals. At the end of the day I know what I signed up for, and in the reality TV world the name of the game is drama. What I was experiencing was not drama. This was about two delusional individuals who still can not answer a "yes" or "no" question. Ultimately for me they stooped to the lowest of lows by falsely accusing our daughter of a serious crime that she had no involvement in whatsoever. I can easily say that I am relieved that we can all move on from spending precious time and energy talking about these people. I'm sure I'm not alone in saying I'm ready to move on!

In some ways this reality TV experience was like being pregnant for the first time; many people offered sound advice but nothing can really prepare a person for such a surreal experience. As a family, we have had a blast on this roller coaster ride and have enjoyed watching snapshots of our "functionally dysfunctional" family relate to each other through the challenges of being a large family. The love of a family is the greatest blessing, and I am overwhelmingly blessed with a large loving family. I want to thank them all for taking this great risk and jumping on this ride with me.

The cross! I have had an overwhelming number of inquiries about how to find the cross that I wear regularly. I purchased my cross a number of years ago on a trip to the Carribbean. Unfortunately, the cross is no longer available, but I am working closely with the company that produced it and will be launching a new version soon! Additionally, I am excited to share that I am currently designing an entire cross collection. Look for more information coming soon on my future website www.maryamons.com!

If in the DC area on November 4th, please join me as Labels for Love hosts a spectacular event called the Modus Union Salon Party. This evening will feature the incredible works of 75 juried artists, live painting, musical performances, trapeze artists, vendors, nibbles from local restaurants, and of course cocktails! All artwork will be for sale and the proceeds will benefit Fran Drescher's organization, Cancer Schmancer (www.cancerschmancer). For more information, go to www.labelsforlove.org. I hope to see you there!

From the bottom of my heart, I want to thank all that helped make this year incredibly enriching and rewarding. This entire experience has been a very humbling and rewarding one. I learned a tremendous amount about myself and witnessed many cringe-worthy moments to learn from ... and avoid! One of the best aspects of making the choice to do the show was the beautiful friendships that developed and strengthened over the last with Lynda, Cat, and Stacie and our incredible crew. We shared many laughs and had a ton of fun! Although a friendship with Michaele didn't develop, I wish her and each of my cast mates only the best for the future. Thank you all for the support and encouragement over the our first season! 

Peace and Blessings!




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