Love, Communication, and Mutual Respect

Ebong Eka tells us why his relationship with Lynda is so strong. 


The men/househusbands finally have a chance to share their thoughts about the show. Don't get me wrong, I realize the men/househusbands haven't normally played a role on the reunion shows from other cities, but we appreciate this opportunity to contribute. On the other hand, this particular season has been an absolute anomaly filled with copious amounts of delusion from one of our cast members. I'm pretty sure many of you know who I'm referring to. We've all experienced some of their craziness and therefore have been directly affected in the process. So it's only fitting for the men/househusbands to respond to their nonsense in kind (well verbally of course).

I have to say that the Real Housewives of DC has been both an enlightening and interesting experience for obvious reasons. The experience was enlightening, because I learned so much about the world of reality television and nuances of producing a show. This experience was interesting, because the different personalities of the cast members led to internal conflicts during the show. 

There has been a tremendous outpouring of support towards Lynda and I from fans everywhere. We hope our lives and relationship have been positive experiences for everyone watching. As for marriage, we'll cross that bridge when we get to it ... privately. I think it's more important to continue to build a solid foundation and enjoy life together first. People who stop me in the street usually say the following: 

1. I love you and Lynda on the show. Your love for each other is inspiring/encouraging!

2. We love you guys because you keep it real!

We are happy and want to continue to stay true to ourselves, our family, our friends and those who watch the show. I'm sure I can speak for Lynda when I say, "We continue to remain humbled by this experience as it been truly surreal." With us, what you see is what you get!

As many of you know, Lynda and I are together and have been for over a year and a half. More importantly we have an amazingly loving relationship that's built on love, communication, and mutual respect. As a result of that foundation, we've never really noticed or even considered the various physical differences that many may immediately think of. We've never really thought about these differences because we believe, "Love is the Answer." Before filming for the season started, we always made sure we were on the same page. As a result we became a much stronger couple and a closer family as the season progressed. 

The Reunion Show

The Reunion Show was also an interesting experience, and I appreciated inclusion in the process. The men were in a separate green room where we watched part of the show. Like many of you, I was surprised at some of what was coming out of the show. More specifically, the delusional reality of the Salahis.

What people do on their own time is their own business, but when your behavior crosses the line, it becomes a much bigger problem. When your behavior becomes physical and threatening, it becomes an even bigger problem. As a CPA, I thoroughly understand bankruptcies and difficult economic times, but before the "Wine" incident with Lynda, I never had a direct problem with the Salahis. I'll explain the "wine" incident with Lynda in my next post -– so stay tuned. However, after the incident, I had a HUGE problem with Tareq Salahi. Tareq's actions were reprehensible, indicative of a pattern of poor behavior and disturbing lack of judgment. More importantly, his behavior violated Rich Amons' Man Rules. 

The Salahis believe that people will accept their delusional reality "Lock, Stock and Barrel" but in this case Salahi's barrel has no more wine and credibility is running on empty. 

About Me

As I mentioned earlier, I've received a strong out pouring of tweets and twitter followers interested in what I'm up to besides being in a relationship with Lynda. I am a Certified Public Accountant (CPA) in the state of Virginia and an entrepreneur. I continue to build Ericorp Consulting, Inc., which is a tax, accounting and consulting practice for individuals and small businesses. The goal is to encourage the growth of financial acuity and empowerment through blog posts, videos and financial insights at I am currently working on a project that would help empower people's financial toolkit and encourage money/financial awareness. So be sure to look for that! To satisfy my creative side, I also co-host an online lifestyle talk show in Washington, DC called The District Dish. 

When I'm asked, "Is it possible to use both the left and right sides of your brain?" I always answer, "Yes it is! I'm living proof." But more importantly, I'm happy, humble and thankful to have been part of this experience. Next week's episode will come to an explosive conclusion and a lot of previously unanswered questions will FINALLY be answered. 

Thanks again and please comment early and comment often! And follow me on twitter: @ebongeka

Readers, digital friends and fans, Are you Right or Left Brain and why? If you had both sides, how do you balance the internal "tug-o-war?" I'd love to get your thoughts!

Peace, love and happiness!



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A Rewarding Experience

Despite her cringe-worthy moments, Mary's had a blast.



1. Words or signs having no intelligible meaning

2. Subject matter, behavior, or language that is foolish or absurd.

3. Extravagant foolishness or frivolity

4. Matter of little or no importance or usefulness

5. Insolent talk or behavior; impudence

One thing that no one can ever take from you is your word. I was raised with the motto say what you mean and mean what you say. The reunion was extremely difficult for me. All of the nonsensical behavior that we have been subject to this season from Boris and Natasha came to a head that long September day. It was difficult to watch myself become so exacerbated by the lies and false accusations, and to see myself visibly display the emotions I was experiencing: anger, hurt, and frustration. Even when confronted with solid proof these people still arrogantly sat there denying all. It was unreal. After a season of fabulous fun with my family and friends it made me sick to see it all end this way.

As parents, one of the primary values we teach our children is the importance of being honest. As I sat on the sofa during 10 tedious hours of filming, listening to lie after lie coming from a couple who are masterful storytellers, I wondered how we got to this point. I have never in my life been put in such a confrontational and frustrating situation nor watched two grown adults be so blatantly dishonest. My family, close friends, and my charity have all been negatively affected by these individuals. At the end of the day I know what I signed up for, and in the reality TV world the name of the game is drama. What I was experiencing was not drama. This was about two delusional individuals who still can not answer a "yes" or "no" question. Ultimately for me they stooped to the lowest of lows by falsely accusing our daughter of a serious crime that she had no involvement in whatsoever. I can easily say that I am relieved that we can all move on from spending precious time and energy talking about these people. I'm sure I'm not alone in saying I'm ready to move on!

In some ways this reality TV experience was like being pregnant for the first time; many people offered sound advice but nothing can really prepare a person for such a surreal experience. As a family, we have had a blast on this roller coaster ride and have enjoyed watching snapshots of our "functionally dysfunctional" family relate to each other through the challenges of being a large family. The love of a family is the greatest blessing, and I am overwhelmingly blessed with a large loving family. I want to thank them all for taking this great risk and jumping on this ride with me.

The cross! I have had an overwhelming number of inquiries about how to find the cross that I wear regularly. I purchased my cross a number of years ago on a trip to the Carribbean. Unfortunately, the cross is no longer available, but I am working closely with the company that produced it and will be launching a new version soon! Additionally, I am excited to share that I am currently designing an entire cross collection. Look for more information coming soon on my future website!

If in the DC area on November 4th, please join me as Labels for Love hosts a spectacular event called the Modus Union Salon Party. This evening will feature the incredible works of 75 juried artists, live painting, musical performances, trapeze artists, vendors, nibbles from local restaurants, and of course cocktails! All artwork will be for sale and the proceeds will benefit Fran Drescher's organization, Cancer Schmancer (www.cancerschmancer). For more information, go to I hope to see you there!

From the bottom of my heart, I want to thank all that helped make this year incredibly enriching and rewarding. This entire experience has been a very humbling and rewarding one. I learned a tremendous amount about myself and witnessed many cringe-worthy moments to learn from ... and avoid! One of the best aspects of making the choice to do the show was the beautiful friendships that developed and strengthened over the last with Lynda, Cat, and Stacie and our incredible crew. We shared many laughs and had a ton of fun! Although a friendship with Michaele didn't develop, I wish her and each of my cast mates only the best for the future. Thank you all for the support and encouragement over the our first season! 

Peace and Blessings!




Follow me on twitter at @maryamons (coming soon!)



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