Lynda Erkiletian

Lynda talks about her crazy Fashion Week and gives her thoughts on the drinking age.

on Sep 21, 20100

Blessings for Our New Home 

First I'd like to apologize to anyone I offended when I said the space had been cleared but the bad decorating still remained. The truth is that the decor was very similar to my home in the 80's. My personal style has changed, however my philosophies of space remain the same. I believe before you move into a new home or office, you need to cleanse the space and remove previous energies. I was taken aback by Stacie's comment about it being a "psychic" thing. Psychics are people who read into the future. Hello?!! This is about blessings and space clearing. Priests and religious leaders from all denominations have been doing this for centuries. What do y'all think that smell of incense is when you walk into a church, and the Holy water in the vestibule to bless yourself upon entering and exiting some places of worship? Every religion has it's own rituals for blessings that are a beautiful tradition. I can feel an immediate change from the moment I do this. In addition, when I feel that people have come into my environment with negativity, I will light a vanilla candle because it will help remove their energy. I'd also like to bring a better understanding to the comment I made about my astrologer.  For the past 20 years, I have been blessed to have Sandra Mayo, a Minister, Astrologer, Angel on Earth, with me. Her advice and guidance has navigated me through many challenging times. 

As author Viktor Frankl wrote in his book Man's Search for Meaning, "Astrologers study the sky because it gives them an experience of universal order (not of the earth, but through the earth). We do not seek to detach ourselves from the universe and it's rhythms as say, a scientist does, but rather identify ourselves with these rhythms." 

78 comments
mmbug
mmbug

You are a lady, smart and a great mother.

Marsha S.
Marsha S.

Lynda, I have to make a confession. When I first saw you on this show, I made a judgement about you. I didn't like you. But, after hearing you on each episode, I have come to respect you on so many levels. Wow! You are woman, you are strong, and you aren't afraid to speak your mind. A very spiritually connected woman, one who thoughtfully and graciously tries to help others. Thank you for your words of wisdom!

milavle
milavle

Lynda,

You are such an awesome person and have the highest respect for you. Thanks for being such an wonderful individual.

tam. e.
tam. e.

I honestly like you but "Jealous much?" regarding Michaele...There's NO reason for it. There is enough love for EVERYONE, including Michaele.

Astonished
Astonished

I too was surprised you did not come to the defence of Mary....but I think it was because Mary was being teased, not attacked. I'm glad you were present to deflect the attack that Cat was receiving from Erica because it didn't seem like anyone else was going to. It almost seemed like they dare not get into a verbal spat with Erica for fear she'd turn on them too. Mary I was a little disappointed in because she didn't say a word and Stacie I think was taken off guard and embarrased by the whole event.

Thankfully you handled the situation well!

DEBREH
DEBREH

Linda I am a firm believer of human rigths but God intended for woman and men to get married not woman and woman or men to men. You talk about juging them no I love them as persons but don,t agree with their life style just like they may not i gree with my and that is ok too. There is much more to this but lets live it there .

ViewerChgo
ViewerChgo

Lynda is a Republican. Isn't that refreshing? She is also Jewish. I don't believe gay marriage is a big deal in that faith, but she could speak to that more than I. Clerics can't be forced externally to marry anybody. But people marry people. We don't marry animals in this country without being either arrested or declared incompetent.

DC Viewer
DC Viewer

Lynda,

Thank you for being the only intelligent voice in a debate otherwise devoid of any substance. How embarassing for our capitol city! People do need to "wake up" and have a meaningful dialogue about civil rights for ALL people. That debate should not only include morality, but a discussion of health and legal benefits, social structure, emotional feelings, commitment, lowering the divorce rate, benefits for parentless children needing loving, two-parent homes. You tell them, Lynda. Preach, girl!

eve4ever
eve4ever

Linda you are a trooper. I am not gay nor do I date out side my race. I am a firm believer in human rights. I feel that people should date, marry, love, and live with whom ever they wish. I do not sit in judgement, that is not my assignment.

VetDentalTech
VetDentalTech

Maggie's Mom: I couldn't agree with you more, in fact, you stole the words right out of my mouth. As much as I feel Cat can be rude yet oblivious, I still applaud Lynda for the way she handled the situation between Cat and Erika. There's obvious tension that may never be resolved. As for Gay marriage rights, I guess I feel as though everyone does have a right to their opinion but how can those who are against it be supporters of human rights but not approve of personal rights. If marriage between two men or two women has absolutely no personal affect on someone soley, why do they let it offend them so much? I can't believe people in our society are more concerned about who people love and sleep with at night more so than the polution in the air we breathe, our economy, and our soldiers still at war! All I have to say to those people is grow up, wake up, and appreciate YOUR life everyday!

Viewer-jdb
Viewer-jdb

As every person on the planet knows the Bible was rewritten by men, many, many times each one putting their own spin on things. How often do people use only the parts of the Bible that are convenient for them making them? The problem is that there are very few people who know the full context of the Bible and the meaning of those verses. I hope that as God made us all - Gay, straight or otherwise that ignorance does not prevail by those that fear the unknown.

Skittles
Skittles

Lynda did you not feel awkward when Stacy was ranting on about Mary letting Lolly move back home? You have adult children as well, who you not only let live with you but you bought a large home so they could. I expected you to be the first one to defend Mary's decision. A friend doesn't talk about their personal issues in front of friends to be bashed and criticized for basically helping their child out. I was surprised that you did not see fit to say something on Mary's behalf.

Felicia lewis
Felicia lewis

Hay, I just wanted to say that I really like the way you look at things. I loved the idea of smoking your house out. I have done that as well. You seem well rounded, experienced and like someone who could really give great advice. You seem like your at a point in your life where your just trying to simply enjoy your life and I think that is great. Good luck with everything and I look forward to watching the next episode.

Maggie's Mom
Maggie's Mom

I applaud you for the way in which you handled the situation when Erika kept attacking Cat. Erika has an obvious problem. Even with that poor excuse of an apology in the hallway she again attacked and you stepped in. Erika obviously has a problem with Cat - is she that perfect that she thinks she can sit in judgment against whomever is her flavor of the month. She needs a course on common courtesy. Regarding same sex marriage. People can live their lives as they wish and that's no problem for me. However, just as much as they want to live their lives and have their opinions I feel that those who oppose what they think have the same rights as they do of expressing their opinions. It doesn't mean those who disagree are wrong and for anyone to say they can't befriend someone because they don't agree with them is nothing short of ludicrous.

Kara H.
Kara H.

Absolutely loving the show (and you're definitely my favorite). Me and my girls watch the show every week here in nyc! Curious. You said that when you did work for the america's polo cup you didn't get paid. What did you do for them and how much do they owe you? - Kara

JSP46
JSP46

Well, You won me over during the Erika beat down of Cat. You were perfect, stepping in where Stacie should have been, she is a dismal failure as a hostess, and pointing out things that needed to be pointed out abd looking out for the kids too. You are my new fav.

RealHousewifeofSeattle
RealHousewifeofSeattle

I admire the way you choose which groups you will film with. You keep your life surrounded by people who you can be your best around and avoid the rest. That is very smart.

BeauJ
BeauJ

Lynda,

I just wanted to say thank you for sticking up for the gay community on last weeks episode. As a gay man, I feel very comfortable having strong, passionate people like you behind us on this sensitive issue of human rights. And as I follow the season, the more I fall for your charm. I would be honored to have you as a friend or mother. The people closest to you are very lucky to have you in their lives.

Here's to progression and love!

AndreaE
AndreaE

Lynda - Kudos to you, for sticking up for Cat when Erica decided to go off on her for no reason. You're genuine and classy... and it shows!

It must not be easy sharing your personal life with the rest of the world, but it's entertaining... Thank you!

France
France

Lynda, are you a Pisces? You're perceptive on so many levels.

BerryAries
BerryAries

Linda r u an Aries? Watching u reminds me alot of myself, and I can say the same about Cat. Cat is so misunderstood and u love family and life with lots of dazed and confused humor. LOL....

patricia r
patricia r

OMG! compare people with animals?? I'm catholic, and I like the new testament more than the old one... so yes I'm contradict myself as the bible does. If you can find one part on the gospels that said being homosexual is a sin you can throw the fist stone girl.

I'm curious... do you give 10% of your income to the church? bible ask for it Read the Eclesiastes in Latin and then we can have a talk.

Linda... thank you. We need more people like you, people who hide behind religion should remind "Love your brother the way I love you"

MicheleO
MicheleO

Lynda, I love all of you ladies on this show. This is the best housewives show EVER. All of you are such strong , smart and inspirational women. Keep up the good work and I'll be sad when this series ends. I will count down the days until you all are back.

ViewerDen
ViewerDen

Lynda, I don't always agree with your views but that doesn't stop me from admiring who you are as a person. You seem to be in such a good place in your life and content in your relationships with Ebong, with your friends, and with your kids. My opinion of you only grew when I saw you coming to Cat's defense. The way you did it was firm yet loving without escalating the situation. It was really Stacie's job as hostess to do that, but I think her own inability to confront Cat about things clouded her judgment that night and so she allowed Erika to do it for her. Which is why she still defends Erika in her blog without so much as an apology to Cat. Thank you for being the adult in that situation.

katalin
katalin

I admire you for sticking up for Cat and trying to diffuse the situation. Stacie's behavior was outrageous as a hostess and to allow Erika to follow Cat into the hallway and continue on in front of her children was downright mean. I lost respect for Stacie. I also believe gays have as much right as any other individual to marry.

Amy from Ohio
Amy from Ohio

I'm not as much of a fan of this Housewives series as the others. It seems like it's just one long liberal, democratic blog. I'm on the bubble with you. Some moments I like you such as when you stood up for Cat, love your interaction with your man friend but other times, I think you seem a bit out there. Being raised Baptist you should know that it clearly says in the Bible that being gay is a sin. There's no ifs ands or buts about it. You can't pick and choose parts out of the Bible that you like then trash the ones you don't like. You either believe it or you don't. However, hate the sin love the sinner. I don't believe in treating gay people any differently than anyone else as that would be judging which is up to God. I believe in civil unions not marriage. Marriage is more of a religious thing and pastors should not be forced to marry same sex couples. I mean where do you draw the line then? What about the guy who loves his horse? Why then can't he marry his horse? Wouldn't that be judgmental too? There has to be a line somewhere. I wish you would have portrayed Baptists a little bit more accurately.

hrguruchris
hrguruchris

Lynda, thank you so much for speaking your thoughts to Erika in last weeks episode. It was a disappointing start to the episode and I felt Erika's comments about Cat were actually a horrible reflection on herself as a woman. You grace, compassion, understanding is truly admired.

Tina Luceal
Tina Luceal

You are an intelligent & cultered LADY! I enjoy you on the show, your blogs, & the wonderful, uplifting poems & inspirational, thought-provoking messages. I an now going to buy Viktor Frankel's "Man's Search For Meaning". Thank you, you are an inspiration!

Egnalag
Egnalag

I found it interesting you pointed out to Erika that she was judging Cat and that it wasn't right or warranted, and yet you do the same thing about Mikaele. Hummmm, whats up with that? You seem to have it out for Mikaele and spare no expense at discrediting her or poking fun at her. Wheres the compassion?

Viewer, hw
Viewer, hw

'Just love you: smart, fair, straight shooter, successful business woman and mom to 4 and anchored in reality!!! Wow! Thank you for being so open about the evolution of religious views: very inspiring! Welcome to Mclean; I will keep my eyes open at the Safeway for you.

Ohio ordinary housewife
Ohio ordinary housewife

Lynda I am a 51 year old woman who just loves you on this show and the main reason is you stay out of all the bull and I did like and appreciated you coming to Cats defense when the (mean woman) Ericka was so rude to her and that fact that Stacie let it happen. I know that would not have happened in your home. If you are ever in S.W. Ohio come to may salon for a free mani and pedi. I also sage my home as well.

HELENB2194
HELENB2194

i've watched all the housewives..i really admired bethenny's wit..and i thought jeanne's loyalty and now you ..linda your spirituality and humanity make the list for "housewives of the world".......i truly enjoy your blogs..bravo has found a few winners and many many losers....thank you for the poems and the beautiful thoughts you leave on your blog.....god bless

MeriJ
MeriJ

Of all the housewives, you have surprised me the most. No offense, but based only on your photograph, I assumed you were going to be one the wives we love to hate.

Instead you’ve turned out to be this wonderful, soulful person.

You comments on gay rights were great. And I admired your leadership in calling Erika on her own negativity at Stacie’s house. Your tone was perfect. It seemed a little odd that Stacie didn’t play that role herself, being the hostess of the event. So maybe she shared more of Erika’s feelings about Cat than I realized. I was thinking she’d moved on.

Anyhow, thanks for sharing your good vibes with us. You rock, girl!

TNJenn
TNJenn

I was so glad to hear your views on the legal drinking age. I agree with you 100%. I was coming of age around the time that they began raising the legal age from 18 to 21. I lived in GA and as they slowly raised the legal age I would be able to drink legally for a month or so then the age would go up to the next step. I was allowed to drink at home at age 18 because my parents felt, as you do, that they would rather me be safe and responsible than to run off and do it on the sly and run a much greater risk of binge drinking. Today I am a 44 year old wife and mother who still enjoys a cocktail, but I know how to drink responsibly and hope that I have set the example for my girls should they decide to drink when they are older. Studies have shown that young adults are much more likely to die as a result of binge drinking or drinking and driving when the age is 21 rather than 18. College kids will find the alcohol, they shouldn't have to die for it. Thanks for being such a wonderful addition to the Housewives shows, you are a touch of class in a sometimes less than classy franchise.

BeltwayBlond
BeltwayBlond

It is so refreshing to read well written, thoughtful blog entries here. Dare I saw I feel like I'm on Team Lynda these days?

 rhiannon
rhiannon

Lynda, great job standing up to Erika on behalf of the very shaken up Cat. Cat desperately needed your intervention and it certainly showed strength of character on your part.

nicole-michigan
nicole-michigan

Linda, I love you, I love how you came to your friends defense. That's what a good friend does, Mary & Stacie. You got your point accross without being rude or confrontational. So proud of you

JSMH
JSMH

I totally agree with Classy. Bravo to Bravo on this new group of Housewives! They are cultured, classy, and real. In every episode they bring to light issues that affect people everywhere. Please get rid of the Salahis. Not that they are bad people, I'm sure they have good intentions, but they don't seem to fit in at all. They just give the other smart, classy women on the show an opportunity to appear foolish and immature by getting together and talking badly about them. The four against one bit is no fun to watch.

trixie 123
trixie 123

I agree. The only problem with the eighteen year olds being legal is they tend to buy alcohol for the 16 year olds. Other than that I believe if you want someone to act like an adult you should treat them like one.

trixie 123
trixie 123

The DC Wives is a breath of fresh air. I can relate to these women so much better than the classless groups from New Jersey and Atlanta. I just hope this tiff between Erika and Cat doesn't turn into a Teresa-Danielle deal.

viewer123456
viewer123456

You are so cool Lynda! I like watching you on the show!

Kally
Kally

Lynda, I think that it was wonderful how you came to Cat's defense at Stacie's! Kudo's to you!! You have such class and are a beautiful woman. Thank you for being part of the show!

Kally
Kally

Lynda, I think that it was wonderful how you came to Cat's defense at Stacie's! Kudo's to you!! You have such class and are a beautiful woman. Thank you for being part of the show!

Kevinsgranny
Kevinsgranny

Linda....I knew from the first show that you were gonna be my favorite housewife from this series and I was right. I just really like what you stand for. Your children are fortunate to have such a hip mom. You and Ebong are simply adorable together!

Vee Lu
Vee Lu

Lynda, you tickle me.

I felt you trying to step in and protect Cat but she's a grown woman and can hold her own. She has proven over the season that she can give a dig quite well but the question is can she take one. Let her fight her own battles. I understand your vulnerability of gay issues especially since your sister happens to be gay but I feel that you judged Stacie based upon her belief system. She simply stated her opinion like the rest of ladies but because it's not a popular opinion, her and Jason are on the hot box. I still think you're one of the coolest!

Michelle Tampa,fl
Michelle Tampa,fl

Lynda I adore you in every way,I strive to have that energy and class you just project right off the screen I cannot say enough great things about you. Many Blessing's my Buddhist and loving spirit Sister. xoxox

Team Lynda
Team Lynda

LYNDA - you are BEAUTIFUL inside and outside. I do not want to comment on that "other lady's blog... (whatever her name is?)

You are up there with Lady Gaga and Madonna with our gay love for you! xoxo Marriage and Happiness for all :)

dgirlinpink
dgirlinpink

Thanks for supporting gay marriage!!

Andria
Andria

It's nice to see how supportive you are of your friends, and I like that you are able to back up your views without breaking others down. I'm part way through watching my recording of this week's episode, and I had to pause to find your blog to comment. Thank you for your support of marriage equality. I was glad to see you representing that this is a human issue, not necessarily a gay issue. I have been lucky enough to find a wonderful partner in my life who I treasure each day. The fact that he happens to be a man and I happen to be a woman should make no difference - to me, to him, or to anyone. I don't think I deserve any special right to marriage because I fell in love with a man. It's sad to me that this has to be a point of discussion - for anyone. Thank you for representing a well thought, reasonable, educated view on the subject.