Lynda Erkiletian

Lynda's focusing on forgiveness and moving forward.

on Oct 25, 20100

As many of you will have seen by now, Part Two of the Real Housewives of D.C. reunion was a long and emotionally exhausting ordeal, thankfully peppered with some much needed comic relief by my hilarious castmates. It was in some respects healing to have an opportunity to confront the many issues that arose throughout filming. However, with regard to the unresolved drama, I am no longer interested in participating in these perpetual spin cycles with the Salahis. Salahi-fever is contagious and detrimental to everyone who becomes infected. By now, they and you all know clearly where I stand. For the sake of moving forward, I would prefer to focus on "forgiveness." 

I believe in and therefore expect greatness from everybody. Of course, we all have room for improvement and should never stop seeking to better ourselves. Learning to forgive those who are unconscious incompetents is more fulfilling and personally rewarding than to expect your expressed disappointment or anger to be someone else's catalyst for change. I will continue to work on myself as that is all I have control over, and ultimately all I am responsible for. Even my secret thoughts (not that there are many I won't share) can effect change for better or worse, as eloquently described in the following poem by Ella Wheeler Wilcox:

Secret Thoughts

I hold it true that thoughts are things

Endowed with bodies, breath, and wings,

And that we send them forth to fill

The world with good results—or ill.

That which we call our secret thought

Speeds to the earth's remotest spot;

And leaves its blessings or its woes

Like tracks behind it as it goes.

It is God's law. Remember it

In your still chamber, as you sit

With thoughts you would not dare have known;

And yet make comrades when alone.

These thoughts have life; and they will fly,

And leave their impress by and by

Like some marsh breeze, whose poisoned breath

Breathes into homes its fevered death.

And after you have quite forgot

Or all outgrown some vanished thought,

Back to your mind to make its home,

A dove or raven, it will come.

Then let your secret thoughts be fair;

They have a vital part and share

In shaping worlds and moulding fate;

God's system is so intricate."

Now that we have reached the conclusion of the first season, I am feeling a mixed sentiment of relief, anticipation, and gratitude. I am relieved to have more time to focus on my busy life and its myriad demands. I am grateful to my family and friends, as well as the cast and crew for keeping this show "real." Thank you again to everyone at Half Yard Productions and Bravo whose patience and consideration, as well as creativity made this experience a pleasure and the show a success. Lastly, but far from least, I am thankful to you viewers for your continued support, candor, and encouragement. I look forward to sharing more with you and hope you will keep in touch via my Twitter @THERealLyndaDC, my website www.LyndaErkiletian.com, and eventually my yet unpublished blog, High Heel Fatigue.  I hope to hear from you soon and wish you a beautiful, blessed holiday season!

Peace, Blessings, and Love,

Lynda

 

37 comments
christianhill30022
christianhill30022

I just watched an episode, and I can say your remark about one of the housewives was very disturbing. To say "take off your make up, put on an apron and serve someone for tips." Is very belittling. I am a bartender, I MAKE TIPS, and I DONT wear an apron. I also make more money than nurses and dental hygienists. Think before you SPEAK, because you sound very ignorant.

BRAVO!
BRAVO!

GLAD TO HEAR YOU MARRIED AND NOT TO EBONG EITHER. HE WAS A BIT OF A BULLY AND GLAD HE IS OUT OF THE PICTURE.

Tweety475
Tweety475

i love lynda she speaks out her mind and lets nobody disrespect her in any way

racermom
racermom

It's a good thing the Salahi's did "high jack" the show, because this installment of the "Housewives" franchise was totally vanilla and BORING. The only thing I enjoyed was when Paul stood up to Lynda about Michale's job possibilities. "Girlfriend married well" LOL, classic.

Diana Diana
Diana Diana

Hi Lynda, You are such a joy. Beautiful, high spirited and SMART. Thanks for bringing some fun (yawn) to the show. Fabulous!

Doctorsmom
Doctorsmom

Your poems seriously have to go until you can practice what you preach! I am appalled at how you reacted at the reunions and cringed when I saw you trying to draw Cat and Mary into your hate filled rampage of the Salahis.

Don't know whats going on in your life, but for someone to have that much hate and disdain for another human being, a former friend, nonetheless, you obviously aren't a very happy camper.

jrod
jrod

Lynda, absolutely love you, love you, love you!! You and Mary are just darlings! I was very interested in the process of you smudging your new house. I am thinking of doing this for a dear friend who has been having a very hard time since the death of her husband of 34 years. I think it would help her move on with a more positive spirit. Hope to see you next season.

martie
martie

Okay maybe you are correct in saying that they have to film with them, but i for one can be nice and polite to people who are not truthful or in my mind i believe that they are not truthful. I just do not like it when all the housewives gang up on each other. No matter whether i like them or not, i think it is rude and they have all shown their true colors...to cheer because someone is in trouble? And yes i know it is the nature of the show but i guess i am like Kelly...lollipops and cartwheels!

Bailey62
Bailey62

Lynda....

I loved you from the first show...I loved your blogs with the beautiful poems at the end...I loved the way you spoke to everyone....I totally remembered when you said "a man is a man and a woman is a woman" that touched me deeply.

But watching you attack Michale really made me cringe...that was so hurtful to say to her M.S. are her initals and B.S is the rest was just horrible...how can you and your other castmates justify saying such mean things to her....No matter what she and her husband did during the show there is not a person in this world who has the right to question anyones medical conditions....

I hope next season we get to see more of the beautiful, successful, happy person I believe you are.

Viewerforty
Viewerforty

Lynda, you are a beautiful, strong and amazing woman! Thank you for staying true to your convictions and not standing for the lies and bs. You really were the only housewife that stayed true to your word and never played all sides. You are a true friend to those fortunate enough to know you. Also, thank you for sharing that you have dyslexia. My daughter has this and now you give me hope that she too can come into her own and show everyone her intelligence!

Gilla
Gilla

DITTO........ xoxo

shadowlady
shadowlady

Hi Lynda, I loved watching you this season. I think you are so wise, you don't put up with nonsense. When you reprimand someone, you are gentle, but yet strong, you have compassion, and dignity. And you get your point across very well. I could see the love you and Ebong have for one another, and it is beautiful. I just hope there is another season, but without the Salahi's. Good luck and God Bless you all.

DIGNIFIEDhousewife;)
DIGNIFIEDhousewife;)

Who are you forgiving? Too little, too late. Did you see yourself after the Reunion 2 and think a little forgiveness might go a long way since I appeared so relentless in my attack of the Salahis? I think the Salahis are reprehensible, but your actions were not very becoming, and certainly don't match up with the integrity of the poems you constantly post.

FNB2003
FNB2003

great season 1 good luck - i love first seasons they are the most raw...love your honesty but never forgot others are allowed to have a stand on things too.

jaysinger
jaysinger

Lynda: You're a born leader. You were never afraid to speak your mind and your words rang true. Thank you and Cat, Mary and Stacie (and Andy) for doing the final reunion show because we have felt so frustrated about the Salahis' B.S. for so long. The may have taken the Fifth before Congress but they had to face you four. Cat was totally upfront. And cheers to the men who told Tareq what they thought, Ebong for telling him "you'd have been asleep," which I don't think, through his thick skull, he understood, and Jason for his consistent questions. When Stacie, said, all that requires is a "Yes or a No," related to the invitation to the White House, I applauded. Lynda, we out here are all hoping that there's a next season of the Real Housewives of D.C. MINUS the distraction and idiot/sociopathic/lawless/shameless and unapologetic B.S. of the Salahis. They would stoop to saying that she has M.S. to promote their book (they don't get a penny from? More B.S.), just to promote the damn book. That tomb is rushing to the bottom of the list. But we thank you and Ebong and your family for putting yourself and them through this ordeal. But we loved it. You are sensational and THE AGENCY is a great company that will hopefully be the go-to agency for advertising in D.C. and around N.Y. You have all made Bravo proud and they received high praise for their support of you and it's well deserved. Can't wait for Season #2.

Jacquelyne
Jacquelyne

Beautiful poem and brilliant poem Lynda, I am hoping the Salahis fade into the sunset forever.

southern
southern

I enjoyed watching you the most. I found you refreshing and would have loved to see more of you and less of the Salahi mess.

VeryLinear
VeryLinear

I loved you and Cat and hope you'll be back; your honesty was wonderful. I hope the next season will focus on the housewives who live in reality: You, Cat, Mary, and Stacie. Happy Holidays to you, too!

soulasylum
soulasylum

*unconsious incompetants*..........how wonderful!! I have never heard it put more susinctly or accurately, perfect! BTW, goat rodeo, yes I agree, but down in this neck of the woods we call such behavior a *squirrel fight*.....round and round they go and where they stop nobody knows, right?? LOL I will miss you Lynda, you truly inspired me and made a huge differance in the show's quality. I think it's to your credit that you never dumb down, instead you patiently and with great dignity insist that everyone take one giant rational step higher in their own walk. God Bless.

pjs38
pjs38

I just enjoy you and let your words of wisdom teach me , If I do not do this I will grow old and have learned nothing from this big wonderful thing we call life!

dragonchaser
dragonchaser

@Martie, I believe unfortunately they actually had no choice. Part of the show is the interaction with all the participants. Bravo places them in situations where they do come in contact with each other.

Not Impressed
Not Impressed

You all really did gang up on Michaele. If she actually hijacked your show and turned it into a goat rodeo -- it was because of you and your castmates.

Kristylou
Kristylou

AMEN!! Should have thought about forgiveness along time ago....

Marge E.
Marge E.

Lynda, You are a fascinating individual. You and Ebong seem so grounded which must not have been easy this season with the Flying Wallendas. You are true blue and stand by your friends when those friends are worthy of your friendship. You are mystical and smart as a whip. What an interesting combo!! Would enjoy seeing more of you if a 2nd season is to be and one that is not co-opted by others. Like your relationship to Mary, Cat and Stacie. Hopefully next season you will each have more time to let us get to know you better. All the best.

baffled123
baffled123

really takenatoll!! but it was ok for Tareq to abuse these women but not ok for thier partners to defend them? get a grip

Wyndsor
Wyndsor

I agree. It's silly.

takenatoll
takenatoll

I would like for your ex husbands to blog and discuss their relationship with you. Now that would be interesting. Enough of the Salahi beatings and the man rules. I prefer men that do not get involved with womens catty tendences and fights. I agree, enough with filling the page with poems.

Irish Ellen=Boston, MA
Irish Ellen=Boston, MA

I believe you are honest and giving. You are a beautiful woman who seems to have a great life and a great man who loves you! I am grateful for your honesty and your strength, you don't back down and tell it like it is! Best of luck to you and your family!!

Angelanna
Angelanna

Then don't read it. I, for one, among many others, enjoy the poems.

martie
martie

and please stop with the poem stuff...it is boring

martie
martie

It is amazing how now you want to forgive and forget! i think you should have thought of that during the whole season of being ugly to the Salahis'. Who cares if they lie or whatever! You do not have to associate with people you do not like.

shamika
shamika

Lynda I enjoy watching you! I think you're very intelligent, wise, & seem to be so much fun to be around. During the reunion when Michaele told Cat that she'd been going to London for years & Cat responded "OH NO" you & Mary had me cracking up!! I'm still laughing right now! :) Can't wait for Season 2

VirginiaJoy
VirginiaJoy

Well done Lynda! Enjoy your holiday season as well!!

Clt
Clt

I'm glad you moved on. She is a perpetual victim and will never be anything else. When you try to reason with a crazy person, you end up looking crazy. I got a kick out of Ebong defending you. I hope you ladies can return next season minus the distractions and showcase more of your life and the charity work some of you did not get to showcase.