Mary Schmidt Amons

Mary talks about her favorite moment from the show which you didn't see. 

on Oct 14, 20100

The day of the reunion show was one of the longest, fun, full of laughs, yet exhausting days I've had in years.  Stacie, Cat, Lynda and myself had a great time getting dressed and made up for the day. I am a bit horrified about how I looked that day (tranny alert!), as I had not slept one wink the night before, feeling terribly anxious about how the day would transpire! Oh well! We shared many laughs and made that 18 hour day one I will always remember regardless of what happens going forward. Having the opportunity to finally sit and speak out about the past year and all of the ups and downs of filming a reality show definitely was a bonding experience for the four of us riding this reality show roller coaster!

I can't begin to describe what an incredibly surreal and humbling experience it is to witness yourself living on TV over the course of five months, interacting with family and friends on a daily basis, to then have it all edited into 9 hours. I learned a tremendous amount about myself in how I behave, communicate, and interact with others and took copious mental notes on how to improve myself in areas that definitely need work. There were more than a few cringe-worthy moments including lugging around my bottle of wine like it was my security blanket (I promise I'm not an alcoholic, and I don't use drugs!), establishing a mission to "integrate salons" as well as many other "What was I thinking?" moments! There were some beautiful shining moments for me as well, particularly when I was interacting with my family. I'm so proud of my precious family for taking this great risk with me and for us. There were times when I questioned how I could ever consider putting myself and my family out for the world to see, running the risk of ridicule and judgments, but I knew in my heart that our incredible love, fun, laughs and struggles (warts and all!) would hopefully be easy to relate to and potentially helpful to those interested enough to watch.  

In closing, I'm thrilled to announce an event called Modus Union Parisian Salon Party to take place on November 4th, featuring over 75 juried artist's works for sale to benefit charity, performers, trapeze artists, with cocktails, nibbles and more, all to help support Cancer Schmancer (www.cancerschmancer.org). It truly will be a one of a kind event for DC! It's my honor to partner with Fran Drescher in her efforts to educate all about the importance of early detection and prevention of female cancers. Fran herself is a 10 year uterine cancer survivor whose experience inspired her to make it her mission to see to it that we all educate ourselves on the warning signs, causes, and necessary treatments in order to find a cure! 

Please see my website for more information: www.labelsforlove.org

See you next week for a farewell blog where I will address many of the inquiries received during Season 1...hard to believe it's already behind us....time sure flies when you're having fun! oxox

104 comments
EDIEBS
EDIEBS

I miss Housewives of DC very much. Bring back this series minus Salahis.

Viewerbetty
Viewerbetty

well... u did look funny but i knew u knew what was going on so if u were sleep deprived i bellleve u

scvhenectadysis
scvhenectadysis

I just love this show. I think the housewives are wonderful, and the Salahi's certainly add serious drama to it!

donna gottsacker
donna gottsacker

would love to know the above if so i had a crush on your dad when i was 16 . he had come to visit his cousin,lucille stuteville in evanstone il.i think he was still in college thanks donna

donna gottsacker
donna gottsacker

loved the show . are you going to do it again next year? so your dad was bob schmidt, grandmother name muppy greatgrandmother ciecly maiden name engels please let me know i think we are shirt tail realtives thanks donna gottsacker

msilverstein
msilverstein

Mary had the most intellegent comment on the show. On the reunion she voiced the opinion that Machelle and Tareq had hijacked the show. That is exactly what they did. At the party for Paul it was all about them; then the grape stomp'; the house tour with Staci; the trip to Paris; anytime the group got together first and foremost were those two. I think it was their plan to hijack the show from the beginning and it ended with the White House crashing. If Michelle was NeNe than maybe it would have been entertaining but she is not and was not.

shadowlady
shadowlady

Hi Mary, I so enjoyed watching you and your castmates this season. and I hope there is a season two, but without the Salahi's, and I also agree that the Salahi's "hijacked" the show. You have a wonderful family, and a very handsome husband, and oyur very beautiful yourself. You both seem to love each other very much. Rich seems to be a very wise man, and love his man rules. Mary you have a wonderful charity going on and I commend you for all of your work. Good luck and god bless.

be lady like
be lady like

Mary. i really did enjoy you on the show .. i just wish you linda and Cat would have been a little more lady like on the reunion. i understand that you are upset with them for what they did to your daughter! i don't have kids but i can only imagine. but in then end of the day your only letting them win when you act like that. i am 18 years old and i know how to compose myself and you are a mother in her 40?s and you acted like a immature 5 year old. please learn to act your own age.

Kristine B.
Kristine B.

Hmmm - perhaps the anger is coming from the fact that the sahalis accused Mary's daughter of stealing their car and then didnt have the decency to apologize for being wrong.

What show were YOU watching?

brokergurl
brokergurl

Mary, I totally agree with you on your comment that the Sahali's "hi-jacked" the show. I was disappointed that we didn't get the chance to know the other castmates. I couldn't stomach watching the Sahali's. I could tell from the beginning what kind of people they were and loved Cat for not putting up with it. I sure hope that if there is a season 2 the Sahali's are no where near it.

p.s. I like your darker hair color :)

santacruz, california
santacruz, california

I love you Mary! Your character is the coolest and funniest on the show. I love your naturally laid back style and class.

twinsplus1
twinsplus1

I'm sorry, but your season would have been a snooze fest if it wasn't for Michaele. And probably wouldn't have been as viewed by as many. Think about that.

houstongal
houstongal

Mary oh Mary. I just read your hubby's blog and all I can say is good for you that you got him. Not only is he very easy on the eyes, he is humorous and kind. May I suggest you install a gps chip in him when he asleep, because you have shown all those women in dc what a catch he is. lol Just kidding. Love your family! Hope you are back next year without you know who.

Jess4Uand ME
Jess4Uand ME

I agree. It was jealousy. They all wanted to be on the show to promote their charities(wink-wink) but the show's primary focus was the Salahis....but the three of them added to that...when the Salahis weren't in the episode the three of them were talking about the Salahi's.

Trish Powell
Trish Powell

Mary, I like you & I love your personality. I came across a article I know you will be interested in reading. I immedietly thought this is where the Salahis MS story originated. Please locate a copy of Maryland Women's Journal, carroll county. The issue is October/November 2010. Read page 27, and meet Debbie McGrann, she is a REALTOR. Stacie should call Debbie and ask if she ever showed The Salahis houses ? I believe the Salahis read the story and became the storyline. I hope to see you on a new season of DC Housewives. I think you are down to earth, funny, cute, sincere, with a fabulous personality. Please continue being who you are. I too mimic and don't let anyone stop you from your fun side. You are CLASS. My best to you always. Trish

laustone
laustone

For someone above it all, you took an awful lot of glee in sticking it to Michaele at those reunion shows. Watch yourself. Its not pretty or flattering.

You three reminded me of Moe, Larry, and Curly sitting on that sofa. Yes the Sahahi's are strange, odd people, but I don't understand the level of hatred levelled against them. Michaele treated everyone with kindness throughout the series and yet you turned against her with such vindictiveness. It almost looks like jealousy. Usually that's behind such poisonous behaviour.

really.surprised
really.surprised

I could not agree with you more. The reunion episodes really brought out the worst in everyone -- except the Salahis!! I never thought I would feel sympathetic towards them. Michaele really got slammed by everyone -- bullied is the perfect term. It was surprising -- and maddening. I was most surprised by Mary's behaviour this season. Wow.

Stephanie420
Stephanie420

Dear Mary, i love you girl, you are definitely my favorite housewife of all time! You're so calm, cool, collected, AND classy (even with the bottle of wine) I just wanted to let you know that i hope i'm as awesome as you when i grow up. Michaele is obviously crazy so don't let her bring you down, girl. I've really enjoyed watching you and i wish the show hadn't been hijacked by the crazies because i would of loved to see more of you and the other girls. Keep doin you.

Gabba
Gabba

The main reason I originally began watching the show was to learn more about what really happened with the Salahis. Mary, the silver lining for you is that people got to know and like you, and hopefully in season 2 you can get the coverage you want for your charity.

Chicago Fan
Chicago Fan

Mary- Finally a cast of "Real Housewives" that have class, intellect, and sophistication (excluding one individual). You lead the pack. Way to go! Please convince the show to do a second season and get rid of the overwhelming drama with the "Real Liars of DC".

ViewerDL
ViewerDL

Well, i guess Mary can no longer say that she doesn't say bad things about people.

I think it is odd that both Lynda and Mary think Tareq is bad for Michaele because they think he is bad for her…but then they verbally abuse her over and over. At least he treats her nicely.

Mary's behavior on both reunion shows was kind of childish. It was almost like those women on the sofa were in junior high the way the ganged up on Michaele.

WISLaur
WISLaur

Run from this show and save yourself - NOW!

Steve Bond
Steve Bond

Mary, great fund raiser. Next time opt for risers for the catwalk. We've done it both ways and the drama and accessibility to the styles is well worth the money. You can usually get a party rental company to supply the risers for free. Nice job.

janb55
janb55

I'm sad your charity event was left on the cutting room floor-- i would have rather seen that then soem of the Salahi circus.

Tracy Crocker
Tracy Crocker

Mary love you and your family. But like all families you have your ups and downs and I feel that is what you showed. I know I am repeating myself in all my blogs but you, Lynda, Cat, and Stacie were great. I felt so bad for you when Tareq accused your daughter of theft. You held it together and Stacie and Jason were great jumping to your rescue. I hope you all come back next year. As for Michaele and Tareq I hope they do not as I can not watch the show if they come back. I have never seen two people not own what they say or do, lie like they do, and talk in circles so bad it makes me extremely dizzy. Keep up the great work and be yourself.

Sandy Lone
Sandy Lone

Mary, you seem like a good person, get out of this show ASAP, sorry.. It suckeddo something better with your life; don't go down with the sinking ship

princess_workstoomuch
princess_workstoomuch

Mary I loved watching you on the show. You are indeed a timeless beauty and a classy woman. I had to drool over your home since it was exactly the type of designs I love in every single room. You're dining room would have looked amazing in black by the way against all the beautiful white woodwork! Some people are just behind the times. Go with your instincts, they are impeccable! I hope you are returning next season, everyone sounds as if this is the very end. :( Everyone seems abuzz about the cross you wear which reminds me of so many of my own of which Robert Lee Morris made for me out of soho in NYC. God bless and wish you everything happy!

Sugarcoated
Sugarcoated

You are an alrite gal hope you come back. Not Cat or Lynda

Lisa Plummer
Lisa Plummer

The bonus clip gives us all an idea of what an uplifting and wonderful experience RHDC could have been without Michaele and Tareq. I am so sorry that this footage was sacrificed. It's beautiful and I'm so happy that I read your blog today and got to see it. The REAL housewives are amazing women with so much to offer. You were glowing and looked incredible!! Lolly's art is phenomenal. I love it! Congrats to you all on your success and the success of your respective charities. ♥

Gigi Roger
Gigi Roger

Wouldn't if be great if Bravo gave Mary's charity event air time. To be honest, I don't think watching two criminals lie for an hour is more entertaining than watching people throw a fantastic benefit. Call me crazy, but I like the more positive side of life.

Gigi Roger
Gigi Roger

I just think Mary and the others are so hurt by what Michaele and her dreadful husband have put them through during the course of this show, that mentioning her past occupation, pales in the face of the damage and hurt the Salahis (sp) dished out to tons of people on the show. I am a blue collar worker and yet understand that when we are hurt and our children are attack, we will lash back. Not saying, it's the best approach, but it is human and in this case certainly forgivable.

esvahummingbird
esvahummingbird

Mary, I think you are a wonderful mother from what they showed of you and your family. I myself have two girls in their early twenties and are struggling to find themselves. As a mother I know how hard this is watching them trying to make their way in life. Yes it is hard to watch them make their mistakes, You just want to grab them and make things better for them. My girls are my life as your children are yours.

svetlana
svetlana

hoooooooowwww???????????

Vincula
Vincula

Mary, I am glad that you survived the show with your integrity intact. Thanks for telling Michalea and Mr. Salami on the finale that they had hijacked the whole episode. Sad, but that was the truth and any person could find that out in ten minutes by following the chronology of the charades that the guilty pair has committed. It is also Bravo's fault for allowing this crap to be focused on the bad pair, I cant' understand poor marketing on tv. If there is a season2, please get the other 3 ,, that means a foursome and come back and do the show right.

lisa jane isham
lisa jane isham

Your still my Fav: I love your personality,gracefulness and class.Your family is beautiful as well.Love you Cat,and Mary even Stacy has grown on me.Would love for Bravo to kick the "CRASHERS" to the curb I think The DC Wife's would be fabulous with another housewife with her own agenda!!!!!!! Cannot wait till next season..............

Jilbait
Jilbait

Mary -didnt you say in an episode that you dont get involved in grown women fights (cat and erica) but tonight during the reunion show, I saw the complete opposite. The Salehi's are what they are. Why do you care so much too shove it down their and everyone else throats. Take the higher road.

sandralee
sandralee

What a wonderful , wholesome person you are. And you children all seem as perfect as you. And you are an angel to charity. Wonderful!

ColtsNeck
ColtsNeck

Oh, I see. The rules changed. As I see it, they were BOTH self-serving actions. So, you're saying that it's ok to break rules if you have a better excuse? Not.

TinafromTexas
TinafromTexas

Mary you seem like a true sweetie pie! Hope you enjoy the time off the show and hope Lolly finds her way. You seem to be a good friend to those you care about but I challenge you to treat EVERYONE the way you want to be treated (yes the Salahis included) You seem like the kind of person who can easily take the high road and set an example for the others. You are easy going, kind, fun and spirited. I really enjoyed watching you and think you have a cool, fun adorable style.

nicole in oc
nicole in oc

MARY YOU ARE A TRUE AND REAL FRIEND. I DONT UNDERSTAND HOW THESE PEOPLE POST SUCH NEGATIVE COMMENTS AND YET MICAHELE'S BLOG HAS NOTHING BUT POSTS PRAISING HER!! BRAVO IS A BIT BIASED! KEEP YOUR HEAD UP

SO TRUE
SO TRUE

I completely agree with you well said!!!

syb
syb

Love you Mary,

I love your mellow demeanor and great family. You have wonderful style and are great to watch! Cat and Lynda rock too. May the Salamis pay for their multiple transgressions. I also hope people stop associating the three of you with them.

I really love how supportive you and Lynda have been of Cat during what was clearly a stressful time.

Best

growingonme
growingonme

You are a sweetheart but I think when you are around Linda and Cat it brings out the bad girl in you..you suddenly become more like them, mean and vindictive. Its not attractive on someone who we all like so much. Stay away from them and be true to yourself. Set the example for them and take the high road. You have so much going for you and they don;t, jealousy is a very powerful emotion and they (mostly Lynda) cannot help herself. Stay away at all costs!

Mommy of 2 angels
Mommy of 2 angels

If I have to hear you say again how Michaele did your make-up in the 90s, I think I will pull my hair out. While you may not intend it to be a slam, it sounds as though you believe that she was beneath you. There are millions of people in this country that go to work everyday at blue collar jobs to support their families. We can't all be privileged like you are. Not everyone has the money to put a fingerprint lock on their closet door. Most people are just grateful to have a job and earn an honest days wage. I am not a fan of Michaele's by any means; however, I think that you have a tendancy to look down your nose at people who are not affluent like you are. If you don't really feel that way, then perhaps you should go back and rewatch the season because that's the way you come across.

Deon McGrath
Deon McGrath

Chick,I could not have said it better. Thank you. I have joined YOUR fan club

kathglass
kathglass

Yeah, they jump all over Michaele and Tareq but Stacie laughs off her husband sneaking into the Nigerian Embassy with pizza "cuz you just don't walk into the embassy"!