Cast Blog: #DCHOUSEWIVES

Mary's Best Moment

Secret Thoughts

A Rewarding Experience

Man Rule Refresher

Wine Woes

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Bullying Tactics

Something for the Grandchildren

Man Rules

McGyver, Jack Bauer, ... Jason Turner?

Just Say ... Yes?

Love, Communication, and Mutual Respect

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No More Drama

Edge of Your Seat Drama

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Q and A With Stacie

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Shining Just Where We Are

Time to Press Delete

Mary's Worst Moment

Be Careful Who You Trust

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Gracious Offerings from Burkina Faso

No Stones Left Unturned

The White House Cirque Begins

Miss Understood

There's Nothing Pretty About Being a Mean Girl

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"Some People are Not Destined to Be Friends"

Ask, and I May Tell!

I Live for "Today!"

High Heel Fatigue

The Many Faces of Mary

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Let's Hear it for the Boys

This Oasis is Not a Mirage

What is Salahi-ism?

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Time Is a Healer

Vineyard Vindication

Breaking the Man Rules

Who wants to Shoot Tareq?

Making Wine, Housewives Style

Reality Check

Grape Expectations

I Laughed, I Cried, I Cringed

'Tis Better to Give Love Than to Receive Meanness

Mary's Best Moment

Mary talks about her favorite moment from the show which you didn't see. 

One of the primary reasons I chose to take the leap into the reality TV world and become a Real Housewife of DC was to showcase my charity, Labels for Love (www.labelsforlove.org). And yes, I did always want to follow my in Grandfather's footsteps and "perform" on TV! I believed that the national exposure it would receive from being covered on the show would help spearhead my efforts to raise awareness for our DC area women's and children's organizations. 

Sadly, the sweet story of the fashion/art event that we as a family produced, was completely edited out of the show due to the need to cover other events, including the story of the White House State Dinner Debacle to close out the "Story That Rocked the World." This embarrassing incident was in fact covered worldwide on a very slow media day and took off virally even faster than the Double Rainbow Video! The incident offended a great many Americans, including the White House, Congress, Secret Service and others, and for it to happen on the very first State Dinner of the new administration was just too much! The fall out from what many continue to treat as "alleged" was a thoughtless, delusional, and selfish act on the part of Michaele and Tareq. There was nothing good that came from it, only harm caused to many, including the loss of employment in a few cases. I guess unless charges are ever pressed, we will never really know what happened that night after they were waived down to the next check point upon arrival at the White House despite being clearly told on camera they were not on "the list." The fall out from all of this had an enormously negative impact on myself and my events. There were many charitable supporters as well as political figures on board with my cause until that fateful November night. My "Real Housewives of DC" affiliation with the infamous couple being politically untouchable and "radioactive" caused 'me to suffer greatly. All of us affiliated with the show are impacted from the association that somehow we were a part of this "goat rodeo" fiasco! The rest of my cast mates are similarly now tarnished by the stigma of association with this couple on our show, as it continues to work itself out and the dust continues to settle. Our White House, the media, and our show were genuinely hijacked by this selfish act! 

I was extremely disappointed the day that I received the call from the producers to inform me that my charity event that raised funds for Children's National Medical Center had been completely cut from the show. For me it was a dream come true to experience what felt like a princess-like wedding day that I always had wished for, which included prepping in the suite with my sweet mother and sister Emily. The entire day was flawless, I still have a big smile thinking about it! Throughout the show, we filmed the beginning concepts of the event, my children working tirelessly to help with its organization, to the delivering of the check to Children's National Medical Center. Along the way, there were long hours, stress, and late night family dinners, but all well worth it. At the end of the evening, that's me in the pink Lela Rose dress jumping for joy with pride and excitement! I could not have organized this event without the amazing support of many. I want to take the opportunity to thank all the sponsors especially our hosts, volunteers, people behind the scenes, and my family and friends for truly believing in me! I once again thank you all from the bottom of my heart as we truly did make a difference that night and showed DC a one-of-a-kind fashion and art extravaganza! 

Please take a moment to watch this special day for me featured as a bonus clip.

The day of the reunion show was one of the longest, fun, full of laughs, yet exhausting days I've had in years.  Stacie, Cat, Lynda and myself had a great time getting dressed and made up for the day. I am a bit horrified about how I looked that day (tranny alert!), as I had not slept one wink the night before, feeling terribly anxious about how the day would transpire! Oh well! We shared many laughs and made that 18 hour day one I will always remember regardless of what happens going forward. Having the opportunity to finally sit and speak out about the past year and all of the ups and downs of filming a reality show definitely was a bonding experience for the four of us riding this reality show roller coaster!

I can't begin to describe what an incredibly surreal and humbling experience it is to witness yourself living on TV over the course of five months, interacting with family and friends on a daily basis, to then have it all edited into 9 hours. I learned a tremendous amount about myself in how I behave, communicate, and interact with others and took copious mental notes on how to improve myself in areas that definitely need work. There were more than a few cringe-worthy moments including lugging around my bottle of wine like it was my security blanket (I promise I'm not an alcoholic, and I don't use drugs!), establishing a mission to "integrate salons" as well as many other "What was I thinking?" moments! There were some beautiful shining moments for me as well, particularly when I was interacting with my family. I'm so proud of my precious family for taking this great risk with me and for us. There were times when I questioned how I could ever consider putting myself and my family out for the world to see, running the risk of ridicule and judgments, but I knew in my heart that our incredible love, fun, laughs and struggles (warts and all!) would hopefully be easy to relate to and potentially helpful to those interested enough to watch.  

In closing, I'm thrilled to announce an event called Modus Union Parisian Salon Party to take place on November 4th, featuring over 75 juried artist's works for sale to benefit charity, performers, trapeze artists, with cocktails, nibbles and more, all to help support Cancer Schmancer (www.cancerschmancer.org). It truly will be a one of a kind event for DC! It's my honor to partner with Fran Drescher in her efforts to educate all about the importance of early detection and prevention of female cancers. Fran herself is a 10 year uterine cancer survivor whose experience inspired her to make it her mission to see to it that we all educate ourselves on the warning signs, causes, and necessary treatments in order to find a cure! 

Please see my website for more information: www.labelsforlove.org

See you next week for a farewell blog where I will address many of the inquiries received during Season 1...hard to believe it's already behind us....time sure flies when you're having fun! oxox

A Rewarding Experience

Despite her cringe-worthy moments, Mary's had a blast.

Nonsense

n.

1. Words or signs having no intelligible meaning

2. Subject matter, behavior, or language that is foolish or absurd.

3. Extravagant foolishness or frivolity

4. Matter of little or no importance or usefulness

5. Insolent talk or behavior; impudence

One thing that no one can ever take from you is your word. I was raised with the motto say what you mean and mean what you say. The reunion was extremely difficult for me. All of the nonsensical behavior that we have been subject to this season from Boris and Natasha came to a head that long September day. It was difficult to watch myself become so exacerbated by the lies and false accusations, and to see myself visibly display the emotions I was experiencing: anger, hurt, and frustration. Even when confronted with solid proof these people still arrogantly sat there denying all. It was unreal. After a season of fabulous fun with my family and friends it made me sick to see it all end this way.

As parents, one of the primary values we teach our children is the importance of being honest. As I sat on the sofa during 10 tedious hours of filming, listening to lie after lie coming from a couple who are masterful storytellers, I wondered how we got to this point. I have never in my life been put in such a confrontational and frustrating situation nor watched two grown adults be so blatantly dishonest. My family, close friends, and my charity have all been negatively affected by these individuals. At the end of the day I know what I signed up for, and in the reality TV world the name of the game is drama. What I was experiencing was not drama. This was about two delusional individuals who still can not answer a "yes" or "no" question. Ultimately for me they stooped to the lowest of lows by falsely accusing our daughter of a serious crime that she had no involvement in whatsoever. I can easily say that I am relieved that we can all move on from spending precious time and energy talking about these people. I'm sure I'm not alone in saying I'm ready to move on!

In some ways this reality TV experience was like being pregnant for the first time; many people offered sound advice but nothing can really prepare a person for such a surreal experience. As a family, we have had a blast on this roller coaster ride and have enjoyed watching snapshots of our "functionally dysfunctional" family relate to each other through the challenges of being a large family. The love of a family is the greatest blessing, and I am overwhelmingly blessed with a large loving family. I want to thank them all for taking this great risk and jumping on this ride with me.

The cross! I have had an overwhelming number of inquiries about how to find the cross that I wear regularly. I purchased my cross a number of years ago on a trip to the Carribbean. Unfortunately, the cross is no longer available, but I am working closely with the company that produced it and will be launching a new version soon! Additionally, I am excited to share that I am currently designing an entire cross collection. Look for more information coming soon on my future website www.maryamons.com!

If in the DC area on November 4th, please join me as Labels for Love hosts a spectacular event called the Modus Union Salon Party. This evening will feature the incredible works of 75 juried artists, live painting, musical performances, trapeze artists, vendors, nibbles from local restaurants, and of course cocktails! All artwork will be for sale and the proceeds will benefit Fran Drescher's organization, Cancer Schmancer (www.cancerschmancer). For more information, go to www.labelsforlove.org. I hope to see you there!

From the bottom of my heart, I want to thank all that helped make this year incredibly enriching and rewarding. This entire experience has been a very humbling and rewarding one. I learned a tremendous amount about myself and witnessed many cringe-worthy moments to learn from ... and avoid! One of the best aspects of making the choice to do the show was the beautiful friendships that developed and strengthened over the last with Lynda, Cat, and Stacie and our incredible crew. We shared many laughs and had a ton of fun! Although a friendship with Michaele didn't develop, I wish her and each of my cast mates only the best for the future. Thank you all for the support and encouragement over the our first season! 

Peace and Blessings!

ox,

Mary

 

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