Before Real Housewives of D.C., (unlike the other ladies and Paul), Jason and I had never met the Salahis or had any interaction with them personally or professionally. We knew nothing about them: their finances, their history, how they roll, none of that. I suppose we could have "researched" them, but who does that? We don't.
You can probably tell by now, we love wine. So at Mary's birthday dinner, when I discovered that the Salahis said that they owned a winery (Oasis) and that Tareq said he was an "Ambassador" for the Virginia Wine Association, I invited them to visit Sugarleaf Vineyards, owned by our good friends Lauren and Jerry Bias. Every fall, they host friends and family for a harvest party on their 130-acre vineyard outside Charlottesville, Virginia. We take the kids down for tractor rides, great food, and for the adults -- wine sippin' all day (no driving). Make no mistake: Sugarleaf Vineyards is LEGIT. Their wine was served by the White House at the 2010 Governor's Ball!
In retrospect, I wonder if the Salahis were expecting a red carpet affair at Sugarleaf, because they rolled up in a big white stretch limo, dressed to the nines. We, on the other hand, were chilling in jeans -- after all, we're in a vineyard in the mountains tossing balls around with the kids and making sure they stay out of the lake. Besides looking like they were at a movie premiere, Tareq and Michaele were gracious to our friends. They brought a bottle of Oasis wine to share and really seemed to enjoy both the visit and the Sugarleaf wines.
While strolling among the vines, I mentioned that we were going to Paris in a few days and flippantly said, "you should go" (Big Ballers). Jason's brother Adam, a.k.a. Beat Assailant (B.A.), has lived in France over 10 years where he is a hip-hop sensation (who knew the French loved rap music? It's the biggest market after the U.S.). He was dropping his third album, celebrating a hit single called "Spy" and headlining a sold-out concert at the historic Elysee Montmartre! Truth be told, I seriously didn't think that anyone would book a trip to Paris with 72 hours notice for a concert (except maybe to see Prince or Bono). Jason and I actually work everyday, so we have to plan these things far in advance! Apparently, a quick jaunt to France was no biggie to the Salahis!
We did not talk to the Salahis after the vineyard visit, so imagine my surprise when we received a 7 a.m. call at our hotel in Paris from Michaele -- "Hi Love, we're here." WHAT? WOW. So I can vouch for the fact that the Salahis are spontaneous and will "jet set" for fun. And, they didn't crash Paris. While I certainly don't agree with their decisions (and behavior) of late, I can say that they have been nothing but nice towards Jason and me from the outset. We drank Dom Perignon on the balcony of their lavish suite (overlooking Place Vendome) and danced like fools at the concert to five encores!
Personally, I SO admire people like Jerry, Lauren and Adam who follow their passions, conquer their fears and go for it! Jerry Bias wanted to create great wine so he bought land and a grape vine and started his vineyard from scratch. Do you know how hard that is to do?!?! Adam/Beat Assailant moved to Paris to pursue his music career not knowing a soul in the business or a lick of French. Ten years later, he is a recognized name there, is fluent in French, and has produced three popular albums! What was also cool (that you didn't see on TV) was our family dinner in Paris at Jason's cousin Charmaine's flat. We had a big contingent of family and friends join us to celebrate. It was so nice to gather with my other family, even a million miles away from home.
Perhaps the atmosphere of family on that trip compelled me to share with Michaele a journey I've been on for the past nine years. It wasn't until my parents were deceased and I had a medical need to know my birth history while pregnant that I became curious about finding my birth parents. This led me to discover that I am bi-racial with a Nigerian father! Imagine my surprise to find out that I am AFRICAN American with a nuclear family connection to Africa -- but it also opened a door and a deep desire to know my roots and heritage, not just for me but also for my children.
In sharing this story, for the first time, I saw a "different side" to Michaele -- a calmer, more engaged, more down to earth side. The only catalyst I can point out to explain the difference is that she was alone (no Tareq, for the first time ever!). So I saw a glimpse of "that girl," originally known as "Missy" -- the girl that Lynda and Mary remember (and liked) from "back in the day." We will find out together who the real Salahis are as the show progresses and the events continue to unfold. Earth to Missy?...
So far, you are my favorite of the DC housewives. You seem to possess common sense, you're not pretentious, and you seem very kind.
Stacie...You are a breath of fresh air. You seem ready to offer people the benefit-of-the-doubt - and you approach each relationship with an open heart (not cynical or looking for the negatives). I will be paying attention to your 'take' on events as they unfold this season - I have a feeling that your perspective will be the one that is the most thoughtful and insightful. All the best to you and your family, Stacie! XOXO
A nice blog with no cat claws ripping into your co-wives. You are the most real of all the ladies and the one I would most enjoy meeting for lunch (so to speak). Seriously, why hang out with these folks if you don't enjoy their company as some of your co-stars seem to embrace. Good on you!
You are so elegant and beautiful. So far you are the realist housewife yet. I am so glad that you dont act ignorant when the other housewives get under your skin.
I love the fact that you are educated and a hard worker. I think your family is great! I want to support you on finding out who your birth father is.( everyone needs to know where they come from) I'm really happy that Bravo brought us such a wonder black woman as a great role model! So to you I say " Hey sister,Go sister,Soul sister!"
Ditto on "so far you are my favorite". My birth daughter and I searched and found each and her dad about 25 years ago; she's 42 now. You're still looking for your dad? Did you obtain your original birth certificate from the court and the hospital and was your dad's name on there? Hoping this will help if you haven't already gone that route.
The first housewife ever with some common sense and integrity. I like your kind words about the Salahi's even though there is obviously some trouble brewing. You don't change your opinion on the situation just to contribute to drama!!!!!
You are awesome, and your husband is HILARIOUS!!!! Hope they show a lot of you guys conversing. So cute!
You have so much class, it's so refreshing to see a woman with money that actually has class and seems down to earth at the same time, also glad to see that you don't engage in cattiness. I just hope that your position on the show will not be short lived b/c you are so drama free. please don't change!!
Thanks for being so down to earth Stacie. I too am searching for my birth family because I desire to know my roots and history. Good luck to you and everyone else who is searching.
It has been really fun watching you & your family. So it may seem stupid of me, but your husband's invention WHAAATTTTTT!!!! Is this for real? If so, when would the device be needed.
P.S. Aunt Francis is making me crave fried chicken..
though i live on the other side of the country now, i grew up in the 'burbs of D.C., so i HAD to watch this RHO. :) my DVR unfortunately failed on the soul food dinner episode but i did just catch up with your trip to Paris. to echo some of the other posters' comments: LOVE watching you and your family on the show. you and your husband seem to have such a great relationship--the playfulness & affection is so sweet to watch. it's also nice to see how low-drama, reasonable and fair you are with the other ladies. even when Cat was rubbing you the wrong way, you continued to be gracious towards her and give the benefit of the doubt. brava for being so centered and able to keep things in perspective!
Stacie, You are definitely my favorite DC housewife. I may be a little prejudiced, as I am also a Howard U graduate! It's great to see you "handling your business" as a mom, wife and businesswoman with such poise and humor. Watching the "Aunt Frances" episode made me want a piece of fried chicken and some peach cobbler! :) I'm so glad that you're NOT following some of these folks' advice and acting like NeNe from the Housewives of Atlanta. Take care!
Although I believe you jumped the gun when it came to your concerns of racism in Cat......which leads me to believe you might do the same with innocent others.....I still do like you and your family.
As far as the Sahilis (sp?), I'm reserving judgement. What one reads in the news is not necessarily true.....Ever! And, if there is some truth in the news about this one or that one, doesn't mean it wasn't spun in a negative direction for sinister reasons......been exposed to that personally and know better now to never EVER judge anyone with what is said in the so called news. So, there is no way I'll judge the Sahilis based on anything that has been said about them on the show or in the news. I will watch and listen to what they say and do knowing also that editing on these shows can also be cruel.
So far, I like the Sahilis as much as I do you......just watch yourself when throwing the race card at another soul, Stacie, please please please.....it's a horrible horrible thing to be called and too many want to believe it much too quickly......which is so so harmful and crushing to the innocent.
Stacie, You are truly a classy, well-spoken lady with a great head on her shoulders...and you're beautiful! Wow :) Being an avid NY, NJ and occasionally, an OC watcher, I'm beginning to really enjoy all the DC ladies as well. Love and light on your 'journey'.
Stacie, from the time I read your bio to the time I finally saw you on the show I felt I have known you for quite some time!!! You are a beautiful, grounded, smart, chic breath of fresh air!! Your family is absolutely wonderful & oh how I wish I was there to have a piece of Aunt Frances' fried chicken!! PLEASE stay the way you are, I am really looking forward to watching more of the DC housewives. God's love & peace be with you & your family!
Hey Stacie! My boyfriend and I love you and your hubby! You're a great couple and it's refreshing to see a great, functional pair. We live in Napa and you should come and wine taste! I will hook you up with some free tastings and you can see how we do it in the valley!
SO NICE WHATYA DOIN' THERE? Stacie you seem so nice & down to earth & all that....so what are you doing with this bunch of boring gabfest gals that seem lost in this housewife show? I'm not watching nor is anyone I know and the reviews are terrible how do you manage to hang in there? I'm sure therewill be something interesting come along but so far I can't even watch five min & thats too long! I just can't! I wish y ou well, you seem like the nicest lady on the show, keep doing what your'e doing but I doubt one person can carry that boring nonsequetial show for long.......
Stacie: Your trip to Paris made me nostalgic! I wish I could have been at the concert for Beat Assailant! You guys had me rocking at home. Will you show more of the concert? Can BravoTV put the concert on line?
Stacie, you have have the right amount of everything, btw, you are right balance of toughness, class and civility.
Stacie, Wow!! Your story is very inspiring. As an adopted child myself I cannot imagine how much guts it took to share that in National TV. When I saw you disclose all this it inspired me to be more open about sharing my story. I can literally count in one hand how many people I have told my story too. I am all grown up now. I personally want to thank you for sharing your story and being so open about it. I have always been ashamed of being adopted and having that feeling of not feeling good enough. I am so glad that your story was real because like you, once you find your birth mother the stories don't always have happy endings rather real life is more complicated than that. My real mother was more interested in receiving money from me and putting me down for all that I have accomplished than to just love me. She too with holds information that really matters to me and hurts me like the identity of my father and birthday, etc.Thus, I have decided to close that door maybe forever I know understand that what I was searching for all these years has been right in front of me the whole time I have an unbelievable family that has always made me feel loved, given me a good foundation and education. Any one can give birth but it takes a real woman to raise a child. Stacie your my favorite housewife because you are very real & relatable and that is so rare on these TV shows. Also, because you don't let these ladies push your buttons you let things just roll of your back. Your down to earth and I hope to see a spin off of your family get a TV show.
I agree with you, Ms. Reyes-Moore. I have tried to watch this show and it is not as good as the other housewives shows. Now that I know that the couple that was not invited to the White House is on here, I definitely will not be watching anymore!!! Sorry, Stacie, but wish only the best for you and your family and wish that you would leave DC and find better company to associate yourself with.
Stacie, so far you are my favorite. You are so classy and well spoken. You carry yourself in a "down to earth" manner and I loved LOVED when you visited your family. You really struck a chord with me. You and Lynda seem to have a higher respect for people and have MANNERS ;-)
So far, from the shows Ive seen, you and your husband rock. I have to say, if I ever get married, I want a marriage like yours. Love and happiness!
very cool that you're part Nigerian... there's so much about Nigeria to learn and appreciate... and I say that as a proud Nigerian American... maybe you can make a trip there next year.. looking forward to future episodes!
yep, you are definitely going to be the one that makes this show bearable to normal people, like Alex McCord on NY. Thanks so much for sharing about the vineyards, your brother in law the rapper whom i will add on myspace if he has a page (I love the music of MC Solaar, a popular French rapper, and I know there is alot of Muslim influenced rap in French as well as the mainstream stuff). I appreciate your 'trust your gut' writing about Michaele as well, and your ability and insistence on thinking for yourself and not being swayed by group opinion. And I love your husband, he is definitely my favorite housewives hubby, I hope he continues to be featured on the episodes. :)
You, your friends and family (especially your marriage with jason) are an excellent example and a great representation. So tired of black women being type-casted as buffoons and hoodrats.
You are the best! I like Lynda, Mary and you so far. Not so sure about Kat, and Michaele doesn't have a chance since she's married to her obnoxious husband! I'm glad you're keeping it real!
Wow, I live just outside D.C., but am new to the area. I had no idea how tough a town it is and you ladies aren't even politicians!
You are definitely "the" class act on the show. I loved the episode with Aunt Francis, she must be a really specially lady to welcome strangers and camera's into her home, I am just sorry that Cat had to be so rude. No matter how uncomfortable she may have felt, how hard is it to just smile and be polite? And I bet Aunt Francis cooked all day for that spread. You are blessed to have such a special lady in your life, you don't need a frenemie like Cat.
Good luck with the show, I think you will be the favorite of the fans!
Hello Stacie, I am enjoying the HWDC so far, it is very interesting. I live in MD, but work in DC, my social life in DC based as well. I get a tickle out of watching you and your husband.....you guys are great! I wish you and your family nothing but the best! AND....thank you for sharing Sugarleaf Vineyards....WHO KNEW??? Cause I sure didn't.....but my friends and I are hoping to make arrangements for our own wine tasting and over-night stay. Thank you again for sharing and being a part of this show. Best of luck to you!
This show is tredding on dangerous territory. This show, like all the other real housewives, is not a realisitc view of all housewives. Bravo should add some other income level women to the picture.
Watch out Stacie, if you create too little drama, Bravo may cancel you like they did DeShawn Snow on Atlanta. You seem really nice and I hope you enjoy doing this show. Good luck to you.
I have to say Stacie, that you are AWESOME! I just love the fact that everyone claims to be "REAl" and " I just tell it like it is", but you have yet once to claim those titles, but that's you! I LOVE IT! I fee l that a person does not have to walk around caliming and saying what type of person they are. If that is a true quality of yours, then you won't have to advertise it, people will be able to see it. I think you do a great job at that. Also, I really admire that you like to share your heritgae and traditions with others. To be quite honest, a lot of black women might have been kind of uncomfortable inviting a group of high class white women to a traditional down south, soul food dinner at Aunt Frances' house. But not you, you took the idea and ran with it and I loved it ! And look, everybody had a ball, with th exception of Cat. After reading her blog though, I think she might have been a bit missed understood. That was my favorite scene so far. I love familyand friends coming together and Ilove your confidence!
I've been watching DC Housewives....New Jersey and New York are my favorites but I have to agree with the above comment. Why doesn't bravo do a show about real woman?? I live in eastern Ky. ..work every day, husband is a coal miner....2 sons who both work! Why not show the world what real woman do that actually have to cut coupons, watch for sales and skimp on their wardrobe??
Stacie...I have to say, you are my favorite on the show...you are a little more down to earth the than rest....but still not in my zone.
Good luck to you and the show
Stacie, You are my favorite of all housewives I saw on TV so far. not only because you are beautiful and down-to-earth girl, but because you have a beautiful soul. I can see it in your eyes. The way you talk to people, I see how much you like them and respect them and how much your heart is open to them. thank you to aunty Francis - she is as wonderful as you. God bless her! Aunt Francis reminds me of my mom who always welcome people to the table and shares last peice of bread with one who is in need. Aunt Francis- you are a real housewive and love you!!! Stacie, good luck with finding your real mom and dad. I wish to have a friend like you!
I have to agree with you, but I think DC housewives are different too then they are showing. The housewives I know are type A personalities on the volunteering and their children. They will spend all night making specific types of cupcakes for a room of 6 year olds. They will discuss their kids' sports, grades and musical ability They will rate those who should be in GT and those who should not. They discuss each other's weight. I would love to see that side.
I think that would be a great thing that they should do and many more moms can relate to.Love that idea you should bring it to bravo
Stacie! Love you girl! My fav from day one! my fav line of yours was in the interview when you were talking about Cat and her London brashness/rudeness lol, and you said " I am not a fan", i have been using that ever since!
You are a very classy lady and you are representin'!!! Wish you the best!
Stacie, you are my favorite. Every show should have a woman of class that does not have to be in the middle of or creating the madness. Shame on Bravo for canning DeShawn Snow from Atlanta Housewives, but that just goes to show that they like drama. I enjoy watching the D.C. Housewives because I get to see women of common sense (a couple of you) and I enjoy seeing how those with money act for real (learning what to do and not do when I receive my fortune). Be you and stay true to yourself. Wish you much success and many more blessings. You have a wonderful husband I enjoy seeing a fluential African American couple doing the right thing and not feeding into stereotypes. Keep on doing what you do.
Stacie, I respect you because you and your husband are legitimately successful in D.C. Too many housewives/couples in this franchise like to live a lavish lifestyle, but have nothing (or very little) to back it up. I am not making light of anyone's financial burdens, as this economy has been devastating and I have been affected as well. I just cringe for the people that live so highly above their means all to appear a certain way. Not only do you have a beautiful home and nice material things, but you have earned them through a strong work ethic and seem to be respected in your line of work. (I'm no real estate agent, but I find it very interesting!) I appreciate your candor but have also found your manners to be impressive. You are honest without being hurtful. You can express something that is perhaps negative about someone without getting too catty or hitting below the belt. This is especially evident in your most recent blog when you speak of the Salahis. While you and I can agree that what they did at the White House was basically appalling, you are able to express yourself and your opinions without getting nasty. That is a truly underrated quality (and one quality that is not found in very many Real Housewives). It was cool to see your brother-in-law as a successful French rapper. I have actually heard some French rap before; and after hearing B.A., I may just have to check more of it out! P.S. I would like to mention that some of these posters are way out of place when claiming you played the "race card" when speaking of Cat's behavior at your aunt's home. I am white but find the term "race card" to be pretty offensive. Unfortunately, race is still an issue in our country and communities. I didn't think you were wrong at all for expressing the theory that perhaps Cat was uncomfortable with mostly black people. I don't think that was it (rather, I think she was just rude), but I respect your decision to express your feelings freely and intelligently.
I know that you know and appreciate this already but you are very Blessed to have your Aunt Frances in your life. She is such a lovely, wonderful, caring and special woman, a woman who knows what's really most important----FAMILY! And family is anyone who sits at her table! Family meals, breakfast, lunch or dinner is the best time for families. It's a shame that people are too busy to remember that these days but it's the time when thoughts and feelings and memories of the day are shared. I would love to see more of her on the show. A woman after my own heart!
So Stacie, was it the 1st US President George Washington, or the 2nd US President John Adams, who was actually the first to live in the White House that dubbed Washington, Chocolate City? Just sayin
I LOVE D.C. HOUSEWIVES A LOT. I AM VERY IMPRESSED BY STACY,YOU ARE VERY CLASSY. I LOVE THE FACT THAT YOU ARE A GREAT SUCCESS,BUT HAVE NOT FORGOTTEN OR DENIED WHERE YOU COME FROM. I LOVE THE FACT THAT YOU SEEM DOWN TO EARTH AND REAL. KEEP UP BEING A CLASSY WOMAN,YOU OUTSHINE THEM ALL. GOD BLESS YOU IN FINDING YOUR BIOLOGICAL BIRTH FATHER.
i have to say to the above comment about why bravo doesn't do a show about "real women"... i don't think that would be as entertaining or as popular as the housewives shows for several reasons. i like the housewives because: 1. they expose me to a culture and society that i would otherwise not be a part of 2. they embody the american dream, a success that we all aspire towards, we may not like them all, but we all want to be like them, beautiful, rich, and loved by all. 3. They are real people, with real problems, and real feeling and emotions, however their lifestyles are an escape from the majority of our realities. As a middle to lower economic class stay at home mom myself with three kids i have enough of the pay check to pay check drama, i don't want to watch "real life". I love the real housewives because i love the escape from my real life that allows me to for a moment pretend that we have money, can travel, and live out the desires in my heart, even if vicariously. They are real people who live a life that for most of us is a fantasy. it's like having an in depth view into a fairytale that we can't otherwise live ourselves.