Stacie Scott Turner

Stacie Turner talks about the difficult process of finding her birth father.

on Oct 1, 20100

First of all, I feel blessed to have had the full love and devotion of my REAL mom and dad, Thomas and Catherine Scott, who gave me all the love they had and laid my foundational values. Losing my mom at 13 was really tough, and my dad and I got even tighter as we had to find a way to take care of each other now.  For perspective, when I was at Howard, my dad picked up, washed, and delivered my clean clothes every week!! He just enjoyed seeing me weekly and taking me and my girlfriends out to dinner when he brought my clothes. So when he died unexpectedly in 1999, the empty space was huge. That’s the first time period of my life that I remember wanting … feeling … the need to connect with my birth parents.
 
Desperation is what I’m feeling in this episode. I’m pressed to find a man somewhere in Nigeria, the most populace of all African nations. Statistically, one in four Africans are Nigerian! Of course, I don’t even know for sure that my birth father is even in Nigeria. He could literally be anywhere in the world as Nigerians often leave to live in Europe, as well as the U.S. So there’s a lot working against me, but what I do have are pictures –- sent from my birth mother shortly after we made contact. For the first time in my life, I was able to see pictures of myself as a newborn: pictures of my birth mother at the time of my birth, and of her wedding day, the black and white photo encasing the face of a pretty young woman. 
 
Equally intriguing were the color email photos (clues) of a man my birth mother describes as my paternal grandparents. Not so fast though … my husband Jason, the resident car expert (Jason knows and loves EVERYTHING related to cars) was quick to note that a car in the background is an '80s period Acura Legend … a classic in its day he tells me! Quick math tells me this CAN’T be my father’s father in this picture, so the plot thickens … as well as my distrust of my birth mom.  he pictures are an incredible start. Clearly she thought this would pacify me, that it should be enough for me to see pictures. Instead I only got more determined.  And HOW does she have fairly recent pictures of him? A date stamp says 2001!! Is she still in contact with him after 40 years?? It appears so -- and now I am pissed. For sharing invaluable photos, I am forever indebted to my birth mother. This is why I felt so conflicted going against her wishes and deciding to find my birth father despite her unwillingness to assist and pleas to abandon the search. But it is what it is … no turning back now.
 
The feeling of being at a forced “dead-end,” and Jason’s ability to understand that pain, drove us to that Facebook contact. Thankfully, as you saw, nothing ever came of it. Knowing what I know in the present, I cringe to think about that action I took those months ago!! Thank goodness we live in D.C. where nearly every country in the world has an Embassy. And because the Nigerian Embassy is less than 10 minutes from my house, one road came to an end,  while a three-lane highway opened up for me. It was Jason’s idea to reach out to the Embassy (which by the way, I thought was a crazy idea at the time)… and one day without an appointment or any relationships, he walked in (with the pizza man) and met my angel Stella. At the time, Stella ran a program within the Embassy to “claim” Americans of Nigerian decent, and in some cases like mine, re-introduce us to the culture, traditions and family legacy of Nigeria. As you saw, not only did Stella meet with us, but she is Igbo, from the same area of the country, as my birth father! I can’t begin to describe how much of a 180 my heart and mind did in two seconds!! I went from doubt and despai ... to hope and faith that my journey would have a happy ending, and that despite time, distance, and circumstance, I WILL find my birth father –- wherever he is. 
 
Jason is my rock –- he is ALWAYS so positive and encouraging. He never gave up the faith and kept me believing even when it seemed all was lost. He always seems to make a way out of no way. I love that man!

Burkina Faso
On another note, I was bummed to miss the fashion show sponsored by Burkina Faso and managed by Lynda’s agency. It looked like an incredible event with beautiful clothes and culture. Lynda’s dress was hot!  Bad timing on our social schedules that night though -- it just so happened that we had committed to attend a function hosted that same evening by the South African Embassy. As some of you may know, my charity, Extra-Ordinary Life, was preparing to take a group of foster teens to South Africa in just a few months, so it was important to be there. Again, one of the truly unique aspects of the city is its access to embassies from literally every country in the world. I love that viewers are getting a sense of new cultures—and how our lives can be enriched by opening ourselves to different cultural experiences!
 
Where’s that invite?
Oh wait,Tareq says you don’t need one! Hold on folks — the ride begins. Watching it, I am tripping that they are seeming 100% confident that they are invited and should be at the White House that fateful evening. You can’t sneak in wearing a bright red sari! What you didn’t hear in my phone call to Michaele (as she and Tareq were riding to the big house) was, “How did YOU get invited?” After all, it’s arguably the 300 most important people in the world, and (no offense, but just keeping it real) I was shocked that the Salahis were in that group. I would continue to be shocked in coming days. More on this next week….
 
Our hearts our heavy
It has been an emotional 48 hours for the Turner family. We discovered this past Tuesday that our 14-year-old lab Cairo (aka my first “child”) had a huge tumor in his spleen, and we had to make the difficult decision to put him to sleep on Friday. I’m sooo sad—I know most dog lovers can relate.  Jason and I drove from Kansas City, where we lived in 1996-7, to the middle of Iowa to get Cairo as a puppy when we got engaged. He was the best dog ever and we miss him terribly. Our house has a terrible emptiness without him ... rest in peace good boy!!

138 comments
Connieviewsu
Connieviewsu

Stacie:

I think one of the most moving episodes of the season was when you meet with the Nigerian woman from the embassy. However, I was surprised that you had an African name. Please share with us how you came about your African name? Thank you

Guilderland
Guilderland

Dear Stacie, I am like you in many ways; I was adopted when I was 2 and always knew it! My Real Family took me in, loved me unconditionally, and loved their children. I have three amazing brothers, 2 sister-in-laws,nieces, nephews, besides great nephews and nieces. I was stationed at Pearl Harbor in the USN when my now ex-husband found out who my real mother was or is due to a Top Security Clearance. I chose not to find out! She is my birth mother but she is not the one who loved me so much! I have lost both parents; my dad 25 years ago and mom 8 years ago. All in my family tells me that I have the spirit of mom in me when I do cards or make calls or bake that certain something special that she used to make. I'm glad you found your dad and have a wonderful time in Nigeria and don't forget to call your mom all the time to let her know how you and your family is doing!

Tieia Middleton
Tieia Middleton

I also think that it's so great that you found your father. I grew up without a mother and it sounds like your adoptive parents were wonderful. I have one think that I'd like you address. You talk about a 'black environment' when Cat was in your home. You are 1/2 white, as you found out in your seach for your biological parents. Why weren't you excited to know you are also white? It seems like you are embracing the Nigerian part of you without doing some leg work on where your white decendents came from. Perhaps the British Isles? France, Germany? Please, please, show your excitement for being 1/2 white. It seemed like when you announced it to your friends that you are 1/2 white, you could have heard a pin drop in the room - like you had just told them that you were dying of cancer. Please use the platform that you have been given to show pride in you entire heritage, not just the Nigerian side. Can't wait to see your reunion with your Daddy, it's going to be great. Good luck, health and cheers! Salud!

Jemima
Jemima

Dont any stupid dowry! I am so pleased you found your daddy. However, you dont have to pay any dowry to him or anyone. That used to be the tradition however as a sign of goodwill and to show Nigerians dont sell their daughters, the father immediately gives the dowry (in cash or kind, what ever form it is paid) back to the husband as a gift. The tradition of milking the groom for all he is worth is so last season. Dont be "419ed". Right now they should be giving you stuff for coming back into their lives!

Biola
Biola

I am so happy you found your birth dad. I got more interested in your show when you mentioned Nigeria. (I am from Nigeria too). Love your classy and composed attitude. Be blesssed inthe Lord

Quanda Hayes
Quanda Hayes

Hi Stacie,

Do you remember me? It's Quanda...I used to come to your house in Virginia with Stephanie when we were teenagers, and we used to have a ball just hanging out. I hardly ever watch T.V. because of my hectic schedule, but last night I was flipping through the channels and saw you on the screen. Seeing you kept my attention because I had no idea you were even on this show, so naturally I continued watching until the end. I always knew you and Stephanie were adopted, so I was so excited to learn that you have found your birth father...GOOD FOR YOU!!! I remember Mr.Scott when I used to come to your house...he was such a kind man and he loved you very much. Stacie, it's good to see you again, and girl, you look FABULOUS! Congratulations to you and your family on all your successes! God bless you, Quanda.

Precious Jewel
Precious Jewel

I think that as christians they did the right thing b/c if you are really friends with someone, you should be able to go to that person and talk with them and I believe that is what they were doing. I do not see anything wrong with how they handled that issue, these are supposed to be Stacie and Jasons friends as well and they were deceiving people when they told Stacie on that phone what she was getting ready to do and where she was going, why couldn't Stacie and Jason question them about what was going on with them. How can you fault them for wanting to know what is up with these people. How can they begin to support them when they do not know the truth about who they really are. Bottom line is Stacie and Jason did what they felt and believed was best for them. Be blessed and don't JUDGE!

Pleasepost
Pleasepost

Hi Stacie, thank you so much for bringing reality to Reality TV. As New Yorkers, we loved the intelligent talk and nuance that we saw between you, Cat, Mary, Lynda and Erica. You're all REAL women in the real world who can agree or disagree with each other without resorting to violent screaming or assault.

Because we're street savvy, we don't buy into the Michaele and Tareq show. Their stunt-queening and duplicity are obvious. And, as ambitious Washingtonians, they KNOW protocol, but blatantly and arrogantly defy it. We're sad that they treated the Office of the President with such contempt.

Best wishes to you and Jason, and your family. What a pleasure to see decent people behaving decently on a reality show... we applaud you and will continue to watch Housewives DC only if you, Cat, Lynda and Mary return for season 2. Frankly, we're getting a little sick of the ever lowering Bravo standards.

Emperess Ni Ni
Emperess Ni Ni

For all those that think the Salahis owe Stacie an explanation for what happened: she was doing business with them. At least she asked them over to her home privately!

In high end real estate, the realtor has to be able to vouch for the buyers they represent. This means the clients have the money or financing to purchase the home & they clients aren't just "pretending" to buy just to look at houses they will never be able to afford. In the real estate game, your reputation is every thing, & you can't be associated with unscrupulous people. As the gentleman stated in an earlier episode, "In this town,your creditibility is everything. If you don't have that you don't have nothing."

karentc
karentc

STILL WAITING FOR YOUR BLOG FROM LAST WEEKS EPISODE?

Rowan
Rowan

Stacie, You and Jason are my favorites on this show (with Mary as a close second!). You have such a great marriage and are so supportive of each other. I don't always agree with you (gay marriage, for example), but I respect your beliefs and tend to have such a good head on your shoulders. Thanks for letting us into your world (even though a fair amount was set up by the producers) and seeing your point of view. I hope your relationship with your father continues to grow and that you learn more about your birth family. I think your real parents (the ones who raised you) would be so proud of how wonderful a person you have become.

Viewer Annie in MD
Viewer Annie in MD

Stacie - it's me again. I just read about your dog Cairo. How heartbreaking. My heart goes out to you and your family. I have had several dogs and of course, it breaks my heart whenever "that time comes". Fourteen years is a long time to have the same pet and the pain is just as bad as losing a human family member. Stay strong and yes, get another pet. I alway said, i'm never doing it again, it's too painful, but the love a dog gives you for the time you have with it, is immeasurable. You will find love again. Stay strong.

Viewer Annie in MD
Viewer Annie in MD

Stacie - You and Jason are a good couple and great parents - good for you two for not including your son in your adult conversation - unlike a RHONJ did. I'm glad to hear that you found your birth father and hope that you can form some kind of relationship with him. When the RHODC first started, i wasn't sure i was going to like you - i didn't like the way that you were talking about Cat behind her back with your family members. You definitely redeemed yourself with me. I think you are one of the most kind and the nicest housewives - along with Caroline in NJ. You two are truly mothers at heart and treat people the way you want to be treated. Hope to see you again next season.

Mrs. Blackwell
Mrs. Blackwell

Stacie you and your husband are the best. I must admit, I didn't care for your behavior on the season finale, but it is what it is. Most people call their selves true friends, but we all have once or twice mentioned something about one of our friends when they weren't around. Wether good or bad, don't talk about your friends when they aren't in your presence. You do it just as much as the other ladies. Don't portray "us" like that on T.V., we already have it bad enough in the worlds eyes today. Stay true to yourself and your friends. Love you and Jason both, and wish you the best of blessings now and in the future.

Viewer from Finland
Viewer from Finland

Stacie, I wish you would have time and energy to visit Finland some day, and to explore your Caucasian/European roots. Finland is known for its strong and independent women and gender equality, maybe that is where you get your wonderful presence and determination. I wish you all the best!

Mandi Daugherty
Mandi Daugherty

Stacie, Thank you so much for the class to go directly to The Salahis for answers. I don't agree with most of the comments on your blog. You and Jason handled yourselves with class and integrity. You went to the source for the information you seek. You were not being catty or two faced in any way. You tried to get the answers that you seek. When they acted the way they did you simply reacted.

It is really inspiring to watch you and Jason together and how you are with each other and the situations you find yourselves in. I would be honored to call you friend.

As for how the other housewives reacted I can completely understand why they reacted the way they did. The Salahis completely alienated themselves with Mary by the accusations they made towards her daughter and Cat being uninvited to the White House dinner party broke my heart. You could also see a definite change in the dynamics between her and her husband, you could almost see the divorce coming and that is very upsetting. Especially since the Salahis feel like they did nothing wrong and it has effected so many lives.

Again Thank you for being an outstanding human being and I would be very honored to call you and Jason friends.

PS congrats on finding your dad, hope you can form a good relationship with him. And very sorry to hear about your dog.

Fan of Housewives
Fan of Housewives

Stacie - I have to admit at first, I wasn't sure if I really cared for you. But I have to say you are my favorite housewife. You are so down to earth with your marriage, career and family. You are not over the top at all. I absolutely love the fact that you try and give everyone a chance to be your friend and try to see the positive in everyone that is around you! You are the breath of fresh air to the housewives of dc!

martha phillips
martha phillips

Oh Stacie I am so glad you found your real Dad. When i watched the last epesode and saw that you found him thru the Embassy i shout yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. I have enjoyed watching Housewives of DC. I liked the way you and your husband handled the situation concerning Michale and her husband. I loved when Cat stood up to them. I think she had every right. She lost her chance to meet Obama and was un invited due to those idiots. You are a classy lady as is the rest of the ladies except Michale. She is a nut case. Good luch in all you and your family does. Hope to see all of you next season. Love Marty

bren
bren

wow...wow...wow is all I have to say. Out of all the housewives shows I have watched this one takes the cake!! You are the most two-faced person I have seen on TV!! I am glad I don't have friends like you and Mary!! Thank goodness Bravo has many housewives shows that I will continue to watch except YOURS!!

yahoo user
yahoo user

I thought out of all the girls you seemed to be the one with class untill the episode where you feel you are owed a explanation I never thought you would be two faced. They did not owe you anything. if you realy think about it there is no way you can crash the white house through 5 security checks come on!!! you jumped on the band wagon with cat. just rember if you lay down with dogs you will get fleas!!!! dont get dragged down to the other girls level you are better than that.

looks like
looks like

What goes around comes around Stacie, Cat, Lynda and Mary!!!!!!!!!

sushimushi
sushimushi

You are probably my favorite but I do want to say one thing. If you are truly Michaelas friend, then do not talk about her EVER. do not discuss them in your blogs, on TV or anywhere becuase real friends don't do that period! If you are not her friend, don't pretned to be and play both sides. That means don't invite her over, dont' accept her invitations and don't act like you are friends when you are together period! I saw a lot of backstabbing this whole season and I had to stop and remember I was watching 40 year olds not teenagers. It was not pretty. i think you are a classy, intelligent, level headed and sensible person and I respect you...just didn't like the few scenes where I felt the toxicity of the others had rubbed off. Hope you will stay true to who you are, Stacy!

Kate1230
Kate1230

Stacie,

I almost cried when you were at the embassy and were told you would most likely be able to find your birth father, then to see the news at the end of the show last Thursday was wonderful. Congratulations on finding him and I hope you two will be able to have a warm, loving relationship with each other. Nobody can have too many members of a loving family. I've been searching for my brother for years so I know what it's like to wonder where and who they are, do they know about me, are they looking for me, etc. I couldn't be happier that your prayers were answered.

msmsm
msmsm

You have been my favourite during the season until the last eipsode. You gave the benefit of the doubt and remain neutral until you find the facts. Last episode, however, shows both you and your husband in the mud with the rest of the cast. I don't see any reason why all you ladies took so much pleasure in the situation the Salahi find themselves in! The Salahis may very well be crazy but your acts tells us more about who you are.. and none of you ladies came out as anyone nice on last episode...what a pity.

Viewer from Washington
Viewer from Washington

Stacie, First let me say I am glad you found your birth farther and have kept in touch and that is a good thing. I discovered 10 years ago about a brother I never knew existed who went on a search for his birth mother, my mother who passed away in 1971. We have kept in contact and when I did meet him the resemblance between was uncanny. We both look like our mother and had the same humor. So it was a good thing. As for your lab passing and the decison you had to make, I am sorry. I know that pain more than you know. I rescue kittens that are leukemia positive and know they don't have a long life span but saved them from being put down and now own 4 and trust me each time a cat passes away I grieve so hard so I know your pain. Keep up your positive attiude. I just love you and your family.

yoganut
yoganut

I have been a very loyal fan. But was really disappointed in how you treated the Salahis in your home. First I thought it was a very sweet thing to do, and i was impressed but then you did your own version of interrogation and that was downright inappropriate. Your husband also came across very catty, not becoming for a man who should stand strong and stay neutral. You made them feel very uncomfortable and one of the first times I totally identified with them. Then when they left and you invited Kat back in and started a gossipfest about telling her everything they said and did had our mouths hanging! It was so unlike you to engage in that...I was really shocked. If you dont' approve of them and don't want to be friends, then don't invite them and don't accept their invitations, smile and be cordial when you see them and keep it at small talk..period, end of story. No need for all the drama that you are creating. Seems like they have enough, it will be ironic if they end up being proven to have been invited, you will all look like nothing short of catty, gossipy juvenile girls. (you less so than Lynda and Mary) That whole thing just showed a very ugly side to many personalities. The fact that there were no charges pressed leads many to believe that somehow they were inadvertently invited through another means and it was a white house faux paus. Lack of action speaks volumes about the fact that they legit may have had a reason to be there. I guess the mind your business law applies here, Stacy and if you don't have something nice to say, then don't say it. You never know when you might be at the brunt of peoples ridicule and lashing out and its not a great feeling to be the victim. Try to put yourself in her shoes for a few minutes. You have all brutalized her the entire season. It has been horrible. I dont' blame you, in fact you were the least involved in all that, with Lynda being the queen of that parade, but just surprised you got involved in it at all, you are above that. You are kind, sweet, low key, reasonable and credible. Good luck in the off season......

smart girl
smart girl

Stacie, I had thought you were a nice lady until last night's episode. This seems to be a common thought by many in reading other comments. What were you thinking? They had refused to answer officials' questions on advice from their attorney. Did you think they would then discuss it with you on national tv? Hello? Obviously, I think this was a set-up by you, Jason and the other women to further embarress the Salahi's. Then, to go on about "running out the back door". Who cares what door they exited. There was a reason by the way. I am so disappointed that you chose to sit in judgement of the Salahi's like your castmates. Also your catty phone calls were pathetic. I hope you will rethink your behavior, so it is not repeated in the future. Do not be persuaded by others. It may not be worth it in the long run!

DC Girl
DC Girl

I'm so sad we didn't see more about your search for your father. I thought I read somewhere that Bravo did tape more of your story. Did we miss out on it because some of your castmates had such a big story themselves? If so, that's too bad. We all know what happened at the White House, but we didn't get to see your journey. I'm sorry for that. It seems the other couple ended up getting most of the attention. I regret we didn't get to really know you or the other ladies as much as in the other cities where Real Housewives is filmed. I just want to say that I really adored you and your husband, Jason. The two of you really did keep it real!!

Mrs. Jilly
Mrs. Jilly

Why would you invite the Salahis to your home if you were going to bad mouth them before they were even out of your driveway? If you couldn't say those negative comments to their face why would you say them at all? Of course they certainly have a lot of nerve to behave the way they do but why be two faced about it? If you don't like them stay away from them. I used to think that you & your husband were the most genuine of the cast. Not anymore! You hang out with the Salahis & turn around & bad mouth them to other people when they LEAVE the room. I'm not condoning their behavior but you two are caddy with a capitol "C". If you can't say something nice.... you should know the rest.

DIGNIFIEDaddict;)
DIGNIFIEDaddict;)

You were so NAIEVE to have invited the Salahis to your home after they testified and to have tried to plan a staged, timed confrontation. When dealing with bona fide nuts, there is no room for reason. CAT was right. Tell them off and exit. I don't blame her for her no-holds-barred approach.

ChasRunnerGirl
ChasRunnerGirl

This is a first... I have never really read blogs much less posted on them but I cannot stop thinking about your family! You and Jason have been such an inspiration to me...such a classy and devoted couple. I admire the relationship you two seem to have and from the little that I have seen of your "everyday" lives, you seem to have gotten it right! You are very lucky!

Your search for your birthday father has touched my heart. I cannot imagine going through something like that. I hope you will find peace in some way, that answers all of your questions, you deserve nothing less than that.

I also feel your pain on losing your dog. My 14 year old dog has a tumor and it is just a matter of time. We came close to putting her down but she still has so much life in her and is not in pain right now...but I still feel like it is selfish of us some times! I have faith she will let us know when she is ready to go.

I will be in DC 3 weeks from tomorrow for the Marine Corps Marathon (my first full one ever!!), and you and your family will definitely be on my mind! Thank you for allowing us to see in to your life!

SheilaB723
SheilaB723

Stacie: Sincere condolences on the loss of Cairo. I have had pets all my life and have had to say goodbye to so many. It is heartbreaking to lose any member of your family. I must say that I am greatly disappointed that you have not been assertive in the poor treatment of guests in your home. Your rude and obnoxious friend Erika should have been confronted by you before Cat was driven away in tears. Although the Salahis may be ethically challenged, but to invite them to your home and then confront them with Cat was inexcusable and very poor judgment. Please consider this in the future.

Lisa Moon
Lisa Moon

It's both poignant and hilarious to me that you and your husband mentioned "The Scarlet Letter" in the finale episode. That novel is not just about the shame of the woman who wears the red "A." It's also about the community that ridicules and judges her based on their own fears and prejudices. Appropriate here, but not in the way you intended! You and your husband came off as catty, two-faced and absolutely judgmental. Maybe you should go back and read that book again.

Jen from NJ
Jen from NJ

I have really enjoyed you this season and congrats on finding your father. We may disagree about gay marriage, but I think you are a bright woman with a great relationship with your husband. Because of this, I was really disappointed in your reaction to the Salahis not wanting to discuss their situation at your house. Of course we were all curious to hear what they had to say, but it should not have been a surprise that they said they could not talk about until the legalities were finalized, particularly on camera. If you and Jason were told not to discuss something, you would expect to be able to socialize with folks and have them respect that. Regardless of how full of it they may be, I feel you are above trying to force someone to give you the gossip, particularly someone you weren't that close with prior to shooting. It seemed all the ladies felt they were entitled to an explanation - why? Everyone accused them of being selfish for not discussing it, I felt all the ladies were selfish for expecting an explanation. You're too classy for that!

klj
klj

Stacie, I have never, ever posted a comment on this or any other site with my thoughts or opinions....BUT...I felt compelled to tell you that I think you are the epitomy of class and grace. So glad that you and Jason didn't allow the crazies to bring you down to their level..quite a feat considering the circumstances!

ladyinred
ladyinred

Good luck in your search for your biological father, its an emotional journey. My best friend is in the process of writing a book on just that, her own pesonal journey in finding her birth parents. It has a happy ending but she surely went through a lot of trails and tribulations....hope you too will find a happy ending. I always liked you, you were by far the most sensible, kindest, sweetest and smartest on the show. Out of all the girls, you would be the one I would most want to be friends with. I apprecaited how you refrained from attacking and judging when all of you were watching the Salahis being interrogated on TV, you watched and observed as any lady would have instead of acting like a vulture as Lynda did, wanting them nailed to the cross then and there. I really wish you all the happiness there is to have, you are a good person and that is obvious......your husband also seems like a really nice person. Thanks for keeping the show real and hope to see you next season!

DeeKee
DeeKee

God Bless you and your family.

BAToni
BAToni

I have 18 years of experience with African men. Your bio mom isn't giving you information because she doesn't have any accurate information herself. A lot of African men have two sets of names. The tribal name and the name given for the public when they enter school. She may have tried to contact him and the family she contacted sent her a picture....any picture. When I met my husband all of his ID's were incorrect his family name was his first name and his given name was his last name. I had him correct it before we got married. His brother came here and married a California girl. Who didn't bother to check things out and now her and her children has his given name as their last name and his family name is "his" first name. Now if someone wanted to contact him or trace ancestry for his line he would be lost because his family name is wrong....

Tangerines
Tangerines

I love how Jason is becoming the Voice Of Reason! Why isn't he blogging. He is the most fun Housewife Husband.

sunniebabie
sunniebabie

You are by far my most favorite housewife out of the WHOLE housewife franchise. your hubby too. You two seem like a NORMAL couple and do normal things. You do exactly what normal people do in situations. I LOVE the fact you dont jump to comclusions and let your own experiences make your decisions on people so its YOUR decision on if you liek someone or not and not based on what other people have told you. I hope you two stay on here. for a long time i wish nothing but the best. Stay like that in the future episodes too. Ive seen other couples act normal one season and off the wall the next.

cassiViewer
cassiViewer

Greetings to, Stacie. The best moment in this whole series is when the lady from the Nigerian embassy calls you "sister" and embraces you. I happen to know that in Africa, calling someone "sister" conveys so much - probably much more than we in America can understand. I saw that you were moved by her calling you that and embracing you. It was a truly beautiful moment. I hope you do find your birth father and I hope you are not disappointed. I hope what she has said about men from her area "not walking away from their children." will prove to the case and that as you and your husband hope, your children will meet their African relatives. Best to you.

karentc
karentc

Just wondering if Bravo was pushing the issue of inviting the Salahi's to your home?

Lisa in Delaware
Lisa in Delaware

Stacie You are my fav housewive. You are so pretty and strong. I'm glad you were able to find your birth father. I was hoping that would be in the show. Shame on your birth mother for not sharing information that you deserve or for being embrassed. What the hell is wrong with people? Anywho love the show and it looks like you and Jason are very much in love and a nice couple.

LoveItA
LoveItA

I really liked you when the show started. I was sad to see how awful you behaved toward Michaele last night. It was the most high school behavior imaginable. You set her up and laughed at her behind her back to fit in with the “mean girls.” That phone call you made in front of the other girls was immature and the whole act unnecessary. You are the one that should be embarrassed. Yes, of yourself this time.

Dr.BarB
Dr.BarB

Stacie, I adore you! You and Jason are such a BEAUTIFUL couple! I know that you had only the best of intentions when you invited the Salahi's to your home. They only ran because that's what rats do when the light comes on- they scatter. Blow it off! You both are so much better off without them in your life. Now if we're lucky, they go away and STAY gone. Like I asked Mary, do you think we could get Paul as the 5th housewife??? Best wishes for your reunion with your father and continued success with your business. If you ever want another mother, I'LL adopt you! I'd be proud to be your mother and I am so sorry your biological mother didn't realize what a beautiful daughter she gave birth to!

MyMidge
MyMidge

Stacie, I really enjoy watching you and your husband on the show. I hope that everything works out for you with your birth father. I can only imagine how you felt, knowing that he was out there somewhere and the one person who we should be able to turn to for help wouldnt help you. Although, I dont see you talking very much about your adoptive parents, please keep them close to your heart. Anyone can make a baby, but its someone special to be a Daddy and Mommy. Keep up the good work.

Nita Best
Nita Best

Stacy congrats on finding your birth father. Hopefully this is a beginning to a wonderful relationship. I applaud your determination. Your husband is a wonderful man to have your back and stand by you through the whole thing. God Bless!

Ames99
Ames99

Stacie, you are my favorite DC housewife. I think you are the most balanced and positive one on the show. You are a beautiful strong woman. I love watching you and Jason. I wish the best for you and your family! : )

VintageViewer
VintageViewer

I used to like you but now you are starting to act a little bit like CAT!!! Don't be a mean girl please!!!!