Stacie Scott Turner

Stacie responds to the top 10 comments and questions on her blogs.

on Oct 12, 20100

 

TOP 10 FAN COMMENTS OF THE SEASON

Blogging is one of the most amazing, yet unforeseen benefits of doing Real Housewives. It's so humbling that folks take time out to read about my personal take on the show, or my own beliefs, emotions, etc. And the comments! WOW. At first, I could kind of pretend that maybe people don't watch the show or read the blogs...until it goes up; then right in front of me are people's reactions to MY life! Me a Bravolebrity? I'll take that. A celebrity? Not in D.C. This is a town full of real celebrity divas -– it's called Congress.  

More than anything, I want to thank all the fans of Real Housewives of D.C.! You stayed with us week after week and helped the DC show become one of the most watched first seasons in Bravo Housewives history! It's just baffling to think that millions of people are exposed to a seasonal slice of our lives and of our family's lives over only 10 hours of TV (more or less). And from this sliver of edited tape, there are individual perceptions of who I am, who my husband is, where we live, what we believe in. But that's the risk/reward that made this project truly extraordinary for us to do. Jason and I aren't going out scared. Not our style. This is REAL for us folks, as fake as it may seem at times on TV. We promised ourselves we were going keep it authentic. In retrospect, I can honestly say that I own 99% of what is seen on the screen, the good, bad, and the ugly. Whatever happens, or doesn't happen, it's all good!

I LOVE MY FANS!! Honestly -- to say "my fans" is so difficult for me to articulate aloud or to write. Truly, the opportunity to express one's self and share with millions of people was a crazy, scary, unforeseen leap of absolute faith. Reading your questions and comments on Bravotv.com forces me to honestly channel my inner Salahi (see "Salahi-ism") to a level that is, at times, uncomfortably delightful! Over the season, I took notes on some of the questions and comments that struck me most. For your information, I share my TOP 10 FAN COMMENTS OF THE SEASON with you today (in no particular order):

157 comments
Viewerbrenda
Viewerbrenda

Is there going to be anothe season for D.C. wife's.

charbel
charbel

in the reunion episode of season 1 what type of jacket was your husband wearing it is very nice

Bekka
Bekka

Hi Stacie! I have to say of all the housewives in all the shows, you totally blew me away. I'm a black Canadian and watching american reality tv shows I found myself many times disappointed at the antics of many African-american females. The put-on/fakeness, immature 'show-offness', baby mamas, children from different fathers, constant bickering,spitefulness,jealousy etc was often a source of discomfort and great disappointment to me. BUT YOU (and your husband) HAVE TOTALLY REDEEMED THAT AND RESTORED MY FAITH. Your poise, grace, cool and calmness, lack of complex, achievements and education, respectable and admired education-marriage-children cycle, logical thinking, classiness, lack of spite, being happy for others, speaking cordially and calmly, being the bigger person etc is so refreshing! Of all the ladies, you were the one that (despite their spungilism-whatever that coined word is lol) said something cordial/nice to Michaele at the end of the reunion. That depicts a muturity, humility and graciousness I haven't seen in most of all the housewives. Your husband is the same, including being funny and loving. You're officially my favorite. I deeply respect you and your husband. I really hope we see a lot of you because I'll always watch you. Good luck with your family plans and trip: "Niaga Town da First Lady and da fam be dey coming o !!" *nigerian accent* :D

Shannon Burbank
Shannon Burbank

I really enjoyed the first season. Now I'd like to know when, if ever, the second season is going to start? I really miss the show. Thank you.

Get Real
Get Real

Hello Stacie,

I know that the DC wives are not up to bat yet. I think out of all of the housewives on all of the shows you are the most normal and reasonable person.

I am curious on your thoughts about how Kim treats Sweetie on the housewives of Atlanta. Do you mind giving us your take?

Thanks

Sherry
Sherry

Stacie, you are such a refreshment to the entire BRAVO Housewives show all together. You added so much Class as well as Flavor to the Show!!! I admire the closeness of you and your husband. The openness in your Relationship/Marriage is what so many of us crave for. I enjoyed watching your show overall. I live in Atlanta and was excited to watch the Housewives of Atlanta when it first aired but now they have become so Hooded and Ghetto that it's become embarrassing to watch. I am looking forward to another season and more there on. So how can I find out when you guys are airing again?...

Best Luck! a loyal fan in Atlanta

Sherry

Kikeisha
Kikeisha

You are amazing! your strong and have dealt with so much! i admire you soo much! Keep up the good work!

nadine mackey
nadine mackey

Stacie I love you and how you represent the African American race very well. I love you and your husband with all the class and honesty you bring to the show. You are a strong indiviual with you being the only African American on the show you still shows grace and poise. I admired you so much, you a husband could act like the Jones's because you guys are financially stable to be the Jones's but you stable humble and true. Keep the Salahi's humble and true also they are liars and fakes make me sick.

nadine mackey
nadine mackey

I agree with you, I have been a housewives fan from the beginning. Stacie is very classy.

mads_mum
mads_mum

stacie, you are great, and ohmygoodness, you and Jason make the show great, i would watch a show of just you two! i love it. Jason is such a funny man, love love love it! you guys rock it!

Vegasrie
Vegasrie

Hi Stacie, I lived in DC for 5 years and miss it all the time. I understand your comment about the use of the word colored and I feel the same, so how do you feel about the word since it is now being advertised about Tyler Perry's movie?

BTRU
BTRU

Stacie, I was completely surprised by your about-face and judgement against Michaele and her husband on issues that concerns and affects only them (waisting time finding them a home is an entirely different and justifiable matter). You of all were able to exercise restraint and allow each of the others to do and make their own mistakes, and like the underdog you might have been a time or two in your lifetime, not putting them down or jumping on their butts about it. You and your husband attacked Michaele and her husband as if they did something directly and immediately to or against you both.

Was it because everyone else made issues with them (for no real justifiable reason)? Are the Salahi's in some social club that has rules of conduct that must be followed to be like by you ladies? Did you not really see the Salahi's true nature with you and your husband when they supported your brother-in-law concert all the way in France (surely it was a wonderful trip to take and could have been taken on their own, but they went on your invite? Would any of the other girls/guys had done so?

You guys came down hard on them for the FBI conversation at dinner, and frankly, you should have just kept your mouth's clothes, thus allowing the other woman to speak (or not speak) for herself.

smartgirl
smartgirl

You are such a wonderful, sweet, classy and dignified lady...enjoyed watching you. Even in heated situations you were always able to remain calm and ladylike, I really respected that. You did get a little hot under the collar at the reunion show but given the toxicity in the air, I cannot blame you..you were surrounded by total witches who behaved so badly. I wish you luck in whatever you do...you have a wonderful family and hope you achieve all your dreams!

G'Marie
G'Marie

You have done an excellent job of demonstratining class, etiquette, poise and positive energy. Keep up the good work. You and your husband should get and award for reality show couple of the year. Keep up the good work. Oh, I am not a fan either. It has been a pleasure watching the show.

Bi-racial Nigerian Girl
Bi-racial Nigerian Girl

Stacie, I'm happy you've found your Dad. Please embrace both your caucasian and African sides like I have. In Nigeria, polygamy is only legal if you do not make your vows in court. It is not the norm. Even so, many women will live in it even though they can fight against it, because it doesn't bother them. It only means that you have another adult woman to do the babysitting (of children and hubby), cooking and housework.

The Dowry, in most cultures in Nigeria is only a sign that the man loves you so much that he will get as many of his relatives together to go and beg for your hand in marriage. Usually, you give symbolic gifts. Some Ibos will ask for rediculous gifts but these days, most don't. I don't know the family your Dad is from, but please, don't let your husband give them large sums of money or anything exhorbitant. On the screen you guys look rich so, if the family is of ill repute, they want to milk him for all he is worth. If they are nice, they want you to have a nice celebration of your marriage, have him ask for you nicely. This means he will give you some expensive Nigerian clothes, shoes etc. Give the inlaws some wine for libation, some large yams to help offset the caterer's cost, some cola for peace and some fruits. Don't let anyone tell you that a man must take cola before a woman. Africans respect age more than gender. I'm half yoruba and our elders get the cola first, male or female.

Nigeria is as safe as DC. If you can survive DC, girl, you can survive Nigeria. Also, it's not as hot in Nigeria as it gets in the DC area in the summer. So, when the power is off and there is no airconditioning, you can take the heat! Just make sure you don't visit in the winter because your body will have a harder time adjusting to temps of 85 to 90.

Much love and luck dear sister.

CarrieNMIC
CarrieNMIC

The Turner's are a breath of fresh air. Regardless of the situation, you two demonstrated grace and dignity. AMEN! Thank you for a model to aspire to.

Doctorsmom
Doctorsmom

95% of the season you were an absolute delight! I have to assume the temporary mean streak you had at the reunion was only feeding off Lyndas energy, being in the same room with her. I can't blame you as I am sure it was a very toxic atmosphere. I hope you will always follow your heart and behave like the classy lady that everyone thinks you are. You are a special and kindred spririt..take good care!

housewives fan
housewives fan

I agree with the others you handled yourself with class and grace on the show,you are truly a ladie!I also liked how you handle michaele with a few kind words at the end that cinched it for me you are a kind person,you didn't get caught up in the drama and held yourself with poise,your Aunt should be very proud:)

RichGal
RichGal

I love the way you handle yourself with such grace and class. You are the Mrs. Cosby of the new generation. God bless!

islandmom
islandmom

Stacie...loved watching you on the show. We totally agree with your family and "gay marriage" act. I think people should be able to express their views and not be attacked. Because you were so graceful they couldn't even tough you though they disagreed. Keep being real.

moblack
moblack

i really liked the way you handled yourself on the show you didn't seem to be star struck by the cameras and caught up in the moment like the rest of the cast was they all seemed to want to out do each other and when the Salahi,s became the air apparent stars of the show it didn't seem to affect you and what you were doing unlike the other women who i though wanted as much of the spotlight as they could get and were willing to be as negative as possible in doing so it became clear very early on there was somewhat or an alliance between the other three women and you just continued to stay grounded and shine through all of the drama and negativity that surrounded most of the show you were the main reason i watched the show and it was very refreshing to see you handle yourself with style and grace and dignegity

Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia
Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia

Hi Stacey,

Agree 100%. You are the best. So graceful and calm.

God Bless you and your family,

Yolanda Garcia Berdecia San Juan, Puerto Rico

meredithfromFLA
meredithfromFLA

Kind of gave up on this show, won't be back if it comes back. Hope you will not return either, you are too good and classy for this group. I have never seen such a negative group in all my time watching the Housewives shows. It was very off putting and really upsetting to see so much drama and hate all the time. Most towards michaela and though i think she has a lot of problems to deal with, do not at all approve of the way the others treated her. I admired you for staying above the fray and acting like a true lady at all times. I think you are too good for this show. Best of luck.

SF Viewer
SF Viewer

Stacie, you are a class act. You were the only one cast member to conduct yourself with grace, poise and tact. I am so glad that you were able to find your father. You deserve much happiness!

U entertain me
U entertain me

Bravo Stacie!! I admire your grace, class and integrity!! Please do a second season, if offered, if only to show how true housewives should conduct themselves.

Zina A
Zina A

You handled yourself with grace and class. I could find no redeeming qualities in any of the other "ladies." Good luck with your family situation and I hope you move on and leave the others behind.

Ms. Tee
Ms. Tee

Stacie, I really enjoyed you on RHODC. As a soror (Oo-oop) I was very proud of you behavior this season. Also your husband Jason is a hoot as well. If you decide to return next season that is if Bravo doesn’t axe the RHODC please continue to stay the classy and above the drama individual that you are. Many Blessings to you and your family.

annaso
annaso

loved Stacie's sunglasses on the grape crushing episode, what were the name of them? Thank you.

Donna Cherry
Donna Cherry

Hi Stacie, I admire you in this program. I swear if it wasn't for Multiple Sclerosis I would have a professional life similar to yours. My career was just taking off as a software analyst / Software Test and writing test scripts and I loved if. I was finally happy with a job. I was able to move my family from the ghetto of Newark, NJ to Bethlehem, PA rented an apartment then purchased a home a year later. Finally settled. The american dream I thought. 3 yrs later I couldn't walk the same and the pain throughout my body practically drove me insane.

As I lye in the bed watching my favorite TV show on Bravo. You and your cast members. I notice how you communicate with your husband and children brings me joy. I would have loved to be married, some to come home to and discuss your day, because I use to love cooking, I would prepare a full course meal and just enjoy watching my family grow. Right now I have 3 wonderful adult children and 2 grandchildren which I love. I wish I could do more in my life. You inspire me and I am reminded to have faith that things will get better.

Vince Brown
Vince Brown

Stacie of all the housewives I was most disapointed in you

Shelly Z.
Shelly Z.

Stacy; I really enjoyed watching you and your hubby during your journey of discovery. You showed me more about Washington DC. You are very classy and have a good heart! You and your husband approach things with dignity and compassion. I hope you continue with your approach to life, and bringing your castmates along.

DisappoijntedInDC
DisappoijntedInDC

Completely agree! Stacie had a chance to stand out amongst a very unlikeable cast, but for the reasons stated above came off as somewhat underhanded & wanting to join in w/the cool girls

Really like Erika!
Really like Erika!

I thought Erika was great. She understood right away what type of a person Cat was and didn't stand for it!

brtndre
brtndre

I have one word that describes Stacie. GRACIOUS! I watched most of the series albeit through re runs but Stacie, you are so gracious as well as your husband. Good for you guys. I'm sure you are welcome in any circle. Wow! We need more people like you! Thank you! Very refreshing!

F. Souza
F. Souza

I totally agree, I can't believe it was #1 but I will not watch next year.

Tara Oathout
Tara Oathout

Stacie,

I'm not sure if you actually read these comments or have time to. However I just finished up watching the Reunion Part 2. I'm sick with several autoimmune issues and spend hours in bed. The Real Housewives is my guilty pleasure. I've watched every episode of every season of every city. I have never left a comment on a blog but after tonight's episode I just had to. You are BY FAR my favorite. Your morals, your character, your attitude...I absolutely loved you! Watching you tonight was amazing. I can't imagine how you sat on the couch next to the those two! Anyhow, that is all! I really hope they come back for round two of D.C. with you in it! :o) -Tara

thebrute
thebrute

Stacie,

I am such a fan right now. I will admit, in the beginning of the show, I think they edited you badly. It was black, black, black... all about black this, and black that... After watching the later episodes, you come through as the true classy woman that you are! I am so impressed with you, as you had to share the stage with some real characters...

With that said, I think those in question forgot they are dealing with a strong woman that actually has a MBA from Harvard. I really love the fact that you do not wear that on your sleeve, and I TRULY love how you represent yourself as a educated woman without pulling your sheep-skin off the wall. Lesser people on the show would have done that in a heartbeat, but you maintained class at all times.

As for Erica, I completely understand how she reacted... I lived in England for 4 years, which doesn't make me an expert on the "not-so-nice-cream social" but do have a bit of a inside scoop....

When Cat came to your aunt's house, she was rude. At the same point, she had no experience at all with black american culture. It really seems like a simple concept, but most americans have trouble with black american culture (at least the uneducated ones do), but that was very foreign to her. I know it sounds odd, but when I was in England, I was surprised how many times that I felt the same way. It is like being on Mars, where everything looks the same, but you have no clue what in the h*ll is going on. Now her comments on the wine; was really rude, and unnecessary , and you should not say that as a guest, but it is Cat.

So back to Erica, I fell into the same trap she did many times in England. They can be very snippy, and arrogant, as Cat is at times. Then they can be very kind as well. Basically they know where the fine line falls between polite/aka rude.

I actually give Erica Kudos, as you have to let them know they have gone to far. Which you are made the villain, as you are being too aggressive!

It made me laugh so hard when Cat said the English are more out spoken. She was totally protecting her own interest. The English are very, very, very passive aggressive, and do not like to be called out. So Erica, I applaud you, as I do with Stacie and Jason. You are the heart of the show, and set a great example for people to be responsible adults.

I hope all the best for you and your family. I am so glad that you have found your father!

Cheers,

Marty

fabia
fabia

stacey!! Good for you, keeping it real. You are authentic and it shows!!

Glad you found your dad. Keep the faith sista.

Hector
Hector

Stacy, You handle yourself and your answers like a perfect lady.

DC tourist
DC tourist

Stacie, I really like you, but wish you didn't join in on the Salahi wrecking ball during the reunion. Wasn't making the world news, a congressional hearing, bankruptcy, family drama, and public humiliation enough for this couple? Was it really necessary for them to be further scrutinized, insulted and ridiculed by all of you? Personal finances are just that...personal. I will say that until you aligned yourself w/the mean housewives, I was a big fan.

S from ATL
S from ATL

Hi Stacie,

I enjoyed you on the show. You and your husband are so real and it is so refreshing to see.

I just wanted to let you know that I know a little bit about how you must feel that your birth mother does not want to acknowledge your existence to her family, but from the other point of view. I gave a son up for adoption twenty years ago, and although it was a sad time in my life, I did not regret it because I knew it was the best thing for my situation at that time in my life.

I have always known the name and location of my son's adoptive parents, but I never tried to contact them, until about three years ago. It was a closed adoption and I did not want to intrude in their lives. When I contacted the adoptive mother, all I wanted to know was that my son was alive and well. Thank God, he was/is. The adoptive mother asked that I never contact them again. My world was shattered because I was secretly hoping that they were the type of people who would be understanding and invite me into my son's life. Although I understood, that did not make it any less hurtful.

When my son graduated from high school, I thought it was the right time to contact him directly, so I sent him a graduation gift. His adoptive mother called me and left a disturbing message on my answering machine stating that they do not need anything from me, I didn't think about him when he was born, so why am I thinking about him now.

My son has never tried to contact me nor has he responded to any messages that I have sent him on facebook. As hard as it is to let it go, I guess I will have to and just pray that one day he will want to contact me.

With all that being said, I am happy for you that you will get a chance to meet your father.

janb55
janb55

Congrats on locating your birth father. Hope your upcoming trip to Nigeria is a sucess.

NowImaBigG
NowImaBigG

The point is that Stacie finds the word "colored" offensive, she is not as old as you and did not grew up in your time. It is not unreasonable for Stacie to expect her friend Cat not to use a word to describe her and people who look like her that she personally finds offensive.

Tracy Crocker
Tracy Crocker

Stacie I felt so happy for you finding your birth father. Your husband is an incredible man for even thinking of the embassy to help you. Hope you and your family have a wonderful and safe trip to Nigeria to meet your family and extended relatives. I love how you have become great friends with Mary, Lynda, and Cat. You have your doubts about Michaele and Tareq but I think you are way to patient. I have never seen a couple not own what they say or do, lie like they do, talk in circles, and don't really seem to care who they hurt along the way. I really hope you are back next year and that maybe we can see some of your trip to Nigeria. Also hope Cat, Lynda, and Mary are back. If the other two are asked back I don't think I can watch the show next year as I just can't stomach them. Good luck on your trip and may all your dreams come true.

TAMMY britton
TAMMY britton

No you are wrong, its a play that was written years ago. It has nothing to do with Tyler Perry. Do your homework. being called color is not correct.

Pooka
Pooka

Good job trying to get a straight answer from the Salahis. Of course, no straight answers are forthcoming.

Your continuing support of your friend over Cat is disturbing. She attacked Cat, completely unprovoked, while Cat was a guest at your home, and you not only didn't stop the cruelty, you continue to stick up for your friend, who appears very angry and jealous. And your "just happened to be black" statements are simply implications that Cat is racist. One might infer that your irrational protection of your friend, who happens to be black, over Cat, who happens to be white, is racist. I know it isn't -- but -- too late! Implication already made.

Loved Jason's jacket at the reunion.

princess_workstoomuch
princess_workstoomuch

Stacie, You are by far my favorite of the DC show and it brought a tear to my eye that you were successful in your endeavor of finding your father! It also made me a bit sad with the realization I will never find my own siblings since we share the same kind of birth mother you describe. You are so down to earth it would be an honor for anyone to be able to say you are their friend. Your husband is so in love with you its precious as can be. Love Love your house! Please come back and share your family reunion with us or at least take some videos? Bless you and your beautiful family honey. Its so great you found your happy ending!