TOP 10 FAN COMMENTS OF THE SEASON
Blogging is one of the most amazing, yet unforeseen benefits of doing Real Housewives. It's so humbling that folks take time out to read about my personal take on the show, or my own beliefs, emotions, etc. And the comments! WOW. At first, I could kind of pretend that maybe people don't watch the show or read the blogs...until it goes up; then right in front of me are people's reactions to MY life! Me a Bravolebrity? I'll take that. A celebrity? Not in D.C. This is a town full of real celebrity divas -– it's called Congress.
More than anything, I want to thank all the fans of Real Housewives of D.C.! You stayed with us week after week and helped the DC show become one of the most watched first seasons in Bravo Housewives history! It's just baffling to think that millions of people are exposed to a seasonal slice of our lives and of our family's lives over only 10 hours of TV (more or less). And from this sliver of edited tape, there are individual perceptions of who I am, who my husband is, where we live, what we believe in. But that's the risk/reward that made this project truly extraordinary for us to do. Jason and I aren't going out scared. Not our style. This is REAL for us folks, as fake as it may seem at times on TV. We promised ourselves we were going keep it authentic. In retrospect, I can honestly say that I own 99% of what is seen on the screen, the good, bad, and the ugly. Whatever happens, or doesn't happen, it's all good!
I LOVE MY FANS!! Honestly -- to say "my fans" is so difficult for me to articulate aloud or to write. Truly, the opportunity to express one's self and share with millions of people was a crazy, scary, unforeseen leap of absolute faith. Reading your questions and comments on Bravotv.com forces me to honestly channel my inner Salahi (see "Salahi-ism") to a level that is, at times, uncomfortably delightful! Over the season, I took notes on some of the questions and comments that struck me most. For your information, I share my TOP 10 FAN COMMENTS OF THE SEASON with you today (in no particular order):
Stacie.. You are definitely one of my housewives! You and Jason are so down to earth and easygoing.... a nice change of pace from the high drama in other cities. Thank you for keeping it real!!!! I wish you and your family peace and renewal as you connect with your family in Nigeria.
I LOVE that you took the time to read the comments and provided responses..now that's class! LOL I am so glad that for the most part you ladies represented yourselves and your families very well. Way to go Mrs. Turner!
Seriously Stacie? Comparing the way that Erika attacked Cat to the way that Cat had her say with the Salahis are two different things..I am disappointed that you feel the need to make excuses for Erika once again..She was a bully to Cat and you still defend it...Such a shame
Stacie, I think you are a breath of fresh air to the Housewives and an intelligent woman at that-I did however expect a bit more of an answer when it comes to the Gay marriage situation-your answer seemed to go AROUND the question. Paul is your friend, can you not see that he deserves the same rights as a man and a woman? Also, you definitely should have stopped Erika from attacking Cat. I think the consensus is out and everyone saw that episode the same way-except you. It was wrong, Cat was hurt and showed emotion. I only wish you had showed more for her too...
That said, it will be nice to see you on another season because you have class.
Hi. I enjoy your show. Thanks for representing. I have a custom made jewelry business and would love to show it to you. From Baltimore.
That was a very classy way to acknowlege all these comments. Nicely and sincerely done!
And you found your dad!
Please don't let Cat, Lynda and Mary bring you to their level. They take away people's happy and have no right to do so! It's more becoming to be in the positive! I thought you and your hubby were all good until the haters got a hold of you. Remember birds of the same feather fly together! Those three are ones I would NEVER want to fly with! Be well~
Great way to wrap things up. I do want to add that on Comment #3, I really don't think it was your responsibility to mind your guests' manners. That type of behavior should not have happened, but it should have been on Erika and Cat's shoulders to behave as appropriate for being in someone else's home. I got the feeling that Erika was trying to be funny, but it backfired. Not defending Erika's behavior, but that is what it seemed like to me.
So glad you were able to find your birth father. I hope you and your family can now find peace in knowing who your family is and where you came from.
HAVE TO AGREE WITH SOME WHO THINK YOU STILL DO NOT GET THE ERIKA ATTACK IN YOUR HOME. WHY IS SHE AROUND YOU SO MUCH?.......THE OTHER HOUSEWIVES DO NOT CONSTANTLY HAVE THEIR FRIEND AROUND ALL THE TIME. IT BOTHERS HER THAT CAT GETS MORE ATTENTION THAN SHE....WELL, CAT IS ONE OF THE HOUSEWIVES AND SHE IS ONE OF THE HANGERS-ON. IRRITATES HER ONE CAN SEE THAT. YOU TOLERATED HER BEHAVIOR, STILL CONDONE IT BUT NOT AS FAR AS THE CHILDREN ARE CONCERNED??? YOU ARE WRONG, IF YOU GET ATTACKED AND SEE HOW IT FEELS, PROBABLY WON'T BE SO TOLERANT ABOUT THAT. THINK ABOUT IT.
You are my favorite hw. You are intelligent, kind, polite and judge others by your own experience with them, but you can also stand up for yourself when warranted or speak your POV even if you know it won't be popular. Just so you know I completely get your struggle with the whole "marriage is between a man and a woman". And to top it all off you have that beautiful face. How unfair! You are almost perfert!! lol Honestly the only "chink" I saw in your personality is that it felt like at times you went along with Erika's point of view just because she is the other African American woman on the show. A couple of times I wondered if it hadn't been a mixed race group, would that have happened? Besides that I think you and Jason are the best couple. You have a great family dynamic going on there. So happy to hear you finally were able to connect with your biological father. You and your family deserves good things--you are quality people.
Love the responses! I do have to say that I agree with poster "dk" on Comment #3. Your guests are adults and should have acted as such on both parts. However, when it because obvious that wasn't going to happen is when you should step in as a host. You could have simply asked they shelf the issue and changed the subject. And I have to disagree, I don't think Erika was trying to be funny. She spoke her mind with a backhanded comment, as does Cat, and it didn't get overlooked. In my opinion the two women are alot alike and they just don't like each other.
Stacie you are the only REAL Housewife.....I know you and Jason will take this time to show fans, people...the world what great human people you are....You are great examples of what believing in God, having faith and love for all is what life is about. I am not in love with the show but I do watch because of your family and standard of living is just one that has not been show on any other housewife show to date. I live in PG County and only watched because of what you and your husband and family bring to the show...the rest of the drama is all hype and no reality. Keep it real my sistah. When Jason spoke about marriage I said here is a married couple who stands for something and no matter what will not back down nor will they try to harm or become mean spirited toward others........I just love watching and being proud! I run a welfare-to-work program in the District and would love someone like you to speak with the ladies on how to succeed even when no one else thinks you will! Much success in really being R E AL-ITY
Great blog! You and Jason seem like such a great couple! I loved how Jason jumped to Mary's defense at the dinner when Tareq started in about Mary's daughter - what a gentleman! Both you and Jason have been the most fair-minded, logical, and compassionate of all the housewives/husbands. You are what my Southern roots family would call "good people." I'm so excited for you that you found your Dad and are going to visit. God bless both you and Jason and I really hope you two come back for a Season 2 - otherwise, I will have no reason to watch the show.
I disagree with you about Cat and Erika. Erika attacked Cat and called her a mean girl the second she walked in the door. You need to watch that episode again. It was pretty obvious she was out to get Cat and Erika would have criticized everything Cat said if she had stayed there. As far as Cat losing it in front of her girls, sometimes you just can't hold your emotions in, it's called being human. I really like you Stacie and think you're a great person but you shouldn't defend your friend when she's wrong just because she's your friend. She was totally the mean girl that day.
Stacie, I think you brought so much to the show with your amazing personality and your real issues! No one else has gone thru what you have and you did it with grace and style!! I love your voice, it's so soothing and easy to listen to. You are an amazing woman, wife and Mom, you should be very proud of the way you portrayed yourself!!! I wish you all the love you deserve and I hope there is a VERY happy ending to your journey!! xo
Thanks for allowing us to be part of your lives. I hope you will be back for season two. I am happy that everything worked out in that you found your birth father. I think now you feel at peace as now your questions are answered.
Erika attacked Cat and it is totally different then what Cat did in confronting the S's. Cat didn't do anything to effect Erika's life. Because of the actions of the S's, Cat was blackballed from the WH Christmas party and I think it was the straw that broke the camel's back in their marriage. Erika was being a bully and no matter what Cat said or did Erika was looking for a fight. While I understand you defending your friend Erika, what she did was wrong and I think you would serve her best by being honest and telling her she was wrong to do what she did. Cat and Erika will never be friends. Maybe they can find someway to be in the same room as it seems like Ericka is going to be part of the show.
Stacie, First off, I feel like you're the only housewife with your head on your shoulders; it's so great to see real people on a "Real Housewives" show. Secondly, who is the designer of your sunglasses that you wore to the "grape stomp" at Oasis? Where can I find them? I love them and they look so fantastic on you!
I agree with this viewer. Bad behavior is inexcusable. Erika exhibited bad behavior when she chose to pursue Cat with the name calling and rude remarks. I'm certain Cat said things that bothered Erika, but you NEVER let someone take you out of character and behave in that fashion in front of children no less. What Erika did is indicative of who she truly is. Which from what is shown is not much different from what she accuses Cat of being. When my friend's stumble I do not make excuses, I pick them up and brush them off.
Cat's "don't kiss me, you're gay and you're colored!" line to Paul was just the sort of edgy joke I would make to a friend. Intentionally inappropriate, experienced as funny by some but rude by others. I thought she pulled it off, but I'm a straight white guy, so what do I know...
Even if you didn't think it was funny, I'm surprised you thought it reflected her ignorance of the history of that word or the terrible history of U.S. race relations. She knew exactly why it was a dangerous thing to say.
But I also agree, you never said she was acting racist. Others may have, but you have been highly supportive of Cat here in your blog.
Race relations is such a tough issue to talk about honestly in America. The scars run so deep.
I'm a straight, black woman, and I thought that the comment was hilarious. It was said in response to Erica's characterization of Cat. I think that Erica was the rude one, not Cat.
I agree, Erica just doesn't like Cat and she attacked her. As a BLACK BRIT we are very upfront and real. Personally I cannot stomach fake people, you all just weren't ready for Cat. I think at your aunt's house she was out of her element and was uncomfortable. CAT ROCK!!
Stacie I do enjoy you on the show. The effort you put into appearing neutral but still be a catalyst for mischief is quite entertaining. But I have taken issue with you making reference to people being black when something negative is associated with them. I don't think if you were speaking to me, a 40yr old black woman, that this would have crossed your mind. So even though you get to take the scapegoat..."I never said racist"-its implied by your constant word association. There is NOTHING wrong with the word colored. Hec, my birth certificate said Negro. Colored is an old term...not an offensive one.
I want to add to a comment I recently made. Although there are things you did I am disappointed and somewhat offended by things you did and said, I think overall you are a great loyal person. You were a good friend to Mary and you stood for what you believe in when it comes to gay marriage. I am a full supporter of gay marriage, but I think everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I just think it is unfair to jump to the accussation that someone is racist based off the first 5 minutes of meeting them. While first impressions are the most important, I feel race is only an issue when it is made an issue. And maybe that is because race is not an issue to me I feel that way...
I think you are the one with the best head on their shoulder from that group. Which is why I am concerned about your trip yo nigeria. I know it is very exciting and emotional to "find" your birth father, but everything I see from the show tells me that you should be careful. Suddenly that lady from the nigerian embassy is also from the same state capital than you? Your marriage is not valid because your husband did not pay dowry and now your "father" wants it? Suddenly you have 10 siblings? it all sounds like a big email scam from nigeria.
This is so emotional, and I just don't want you to get hurt emotionally and be financially taken advantage of. I really hope everything is true, i really do. but it just seems like a con artist's dream opportunity.
can your birth mom verify that your father was from nigeria? can't your "father" come to the USA instead? does he speak good english, know the part of town where your mom dated him, or give you other clues to give you enough confidence that he would be the kind of man that your birth mom would have met your birth mom and had a relationship with? isn't there a genetic test you can take to broadly test what area of africa you come from, i,e, are your genes from nigeria, or from other part of africa? have you seen pictures of your "father" and "siblings"? do they resemble you? would your birth mom recognize his picture? etc.
like I said, I liked you best from the DC cast because you always had your head on your shoulders. I hope this emotional and truly magical possibility of finding your birth father does not leave you vulnerable to con artists. Go find out for sure, but do your homework ahead of time because emotions are too high to keep you from seeing fraud.
Stacie, do try to be very careful that your trip to Nigeria is not plastered all over the place. I just traveled home two weeks ago with my family and by God's grace we all made it back safely, which is a total blessing in and of itself. It sounds as though you may have some connection with the Nigerian embassy, just make sure you are made aware of safety precautions that are necessary to travel to Nigeria, because crazy things are happening in a city not far from where you have mentioned (on television) that you will be visiting your extended family. May God bless your family reunion and try to keep your travel plans among only those who absolutely need to know. Take good care, and you really do seem like a very kindhearted individual.
Stacie, I really gained a true respect for you while watching this season. With all of the drama going on, I really felt you were the only one that carried yourself respectfully. The rest of the women, especially in response to the Salahis, became very catty, gossipy and judgmental. You were upfront and direct with Michaele without appearing to demean her or belittle her. You have a humility about you that I found very inspiring. While I do believe that the Salahis have yet to face a certain reality, I can't say that I respected the way the other women treated them. You stood out above the rest. You are an incredibly classy lady and housewife. Best to you and your family. And my prayers go with you as you meet your extended family.
Stacie?? I'm Stacy! I have to say you are a classy lady! I believe that the people of the very best character give people the opportunity to be themselves and you appreciate them for who they are. Being adopted gives you the insight to know anyone out there can be like you, part of you and you may not even know it. i believe all live six degrees apart. Although I hate the amount of airtime given to the Salahi's, I am happy to have the opportunity to see the rest of you figure out why you are all there together and how to "live the show" into your lives. I hope t air time or press are spent on the rest of the CAST and not the other 2. Jason seems like a great man who is lucky to have you for a wife. Enjoy your family, all of your family, and I was so happy to hear that your connection will be made personally in Nigeria. Enjoy and embrace every moment of it! But come home the same wonderful lady you are!!!
Finally someone else see's this truth. Stacie you were the hostess of the first event with Erika and Cat. You clearly have gone after Cat again and again about being rude, when it was you who asked her over and over why she did not care for Tara B.. When Cat told you why, you and Erika freak-out. You asked her why! Not everyone sees from your view Stacie. I found you to be the "rude" hostess to your guest Cat. Erika has deep anger issues. Those issues need to surface for a healing. Stacie you have to be responsible for yourself. It is not another person who MAKES you feel bad about who or what you are in life or skin color. Stacie you are "the blame game". Find your own self-assuredness. Get off of your knees. Set yourself free. Love you. In Europe every race, white and blue or brown have been slaves. Read the history books. It was you Stacie, right at the beginning of the show that said D.C. was a chocolate town. Look out! If anyone dares to mention color it is emplied by you and Erika they are racist. Everyone has to tip-toe around what lives in your center. Yes it does come across this way. You do twist others words around always blaming others for what is inside you. Erika does the same, in a bigger way. I am so burned out on you making the show into a color issue. Stacie you have to heal your own undercurrents. No one else can set you free. You have to set your own self free. You are a lovely, lovely lady, love you.
Erika was wrong....stop defending her...everyone sees Erika for what she is...no matter what spin you put on it....sorry, truth be told!
Yes I agree, your husband, Jason is a true gentleman. I am a lovely white lady from the deep South. I believe Jason won many a heart that TV evening. Some mama raise her son right.
YOU were a real LADY on the reunion show. You are non-judgmental and show wisdom and grace. Wishing you all the best when meeting your birth father and extended family. PS I love your Aunt Francis!!!
I really appreciate your class and charisma. I think you took way too much off of catherine, she was totally disrespectful to you in your home and to your guest.
Thanks for being so positive and dignified! You are the most intellectual of all the DC house wives. Why is it that in DC African Americans are soooo under represented?
Just wondering, does Bravo dictate who you air with? I don't understand how you continue to ignore Cats uncouth behavoir and bigotry. What's the deal with that. Do you have to invite her in to your home to insult you and your family in your own home?
You were the lone voice of sanity tonight. Way to stand up for your friend, Erika. And good for you for resisting the temptation to join the crowd and pile up on Michael.
I actually liked that you and Jason gave the Salahi's a chance and didn't listen to what the 3 mean girls had to say. But they got you to their side anyway! Why do you care what they do? If they crashed the white house they would have been arrested or charge with something, I mean we are talking about the White House! If they don't want to talk about it that is their right! Why would you not be there for Michaele when she may have needed someone to lean on? That is what a true friend does or atleast a caring one! It was sad to see you turn into a mean girl. Don't you think if something happened to you Michaele would be there to listen or lean on? Werid how tv changes you!
You were way too defensive tonight at the reunion when they brought up Erika. I understand she's your friend, but it's okay to acknowledge that she was out of line. You can lose credibility with viewers when you look like you're being hypocritical, and standing up for your friend when you know she is wrong.
You are, by far, one of my favorite housewives! I'm so proud that you've been successful in finding your birth father and you have a wonderful support system in your husband, Jason. Hats off to you guys!
I do think you have a pretty good heart and a beautiful smile and I think you are a bit more grounded than some. I do however feel that small mountains are being made out of mole hills by many people. If you are truly kind hearted you would have at least pulled that woman aside and talked to her privately and maturely about what had been said and asked her of her intention and also to please not do that and give her a chance to try to do better or if not just ask her politely to please leave. It is the the guests job to try to be on their best behavior but it is also hosts job to keep the peace or find a way to remove the problem peacefully. Please hear me out? I was 18 years old and in the Army and met my first husband while I was stationed in Germany. Later we got married and I got pregnant and came home from Germany and he stayed. I was to get out of the military and he was supposed to stay in. Well he didnt stay in, but that is irrelevant. When Our little girl was three and a half months old she died. I was at work when they came for me and it was like a dream, it wasnt real and it wasnt happening to me and I was in disbelief but it was true. Ok during all this time I went through the prejudice hurtful comments and attitudes from both black and white people. Did I forget to mention my first husband was black? (Speaking of the word black, when I was around 14 years old I once called a black man a black man he got onto me and told me he was brown not black... I was confused after that so I never mentioned any reference to that again, I avoided it so as not to offend anyone until my first husband who wasnt hurtful about things of that nature and could explain to people if needed. I would never be racist (not any race), now ask me to trust people and you will find I dont trust anyone easily, but for me to hurt someones feelings in that way would make me feel two inches tall. There is such a thing as ignorance and I believe you know this... sad face how unkind to not use your heart instead and I detect a wee bit of pre-biased feelings againt her as well. Not against her race exactly although I think her being British is misunderstood and I have met a few British people and most of them are more brash, brave or forward; what ever people wish to call it. What I saw on Tv today made me back flash 21 years. I was never in my life prejudice or I wouldnt have married him now would I? but I got crap from white people about him and the black people well... they picked on my ignorance and hurt me with it and mocked me and if that isnt unkind I dont know what is. I wish people would have just understood and helped me instead of ridiculing me in front of my face, I let them hurt my feelings and I didnt argue or anything, but I didnt know what to do. It was unkind and mean and they seem to enjoy doing that too... why? I really do still like you and I am hoping that I see more depth and understanding from you because I feel so strongly that you are mentally capable to teach more than to condemn. I think it might be too late with those other ladies maybe in the future, it will be different next time who knows? Yes That woman is rude I agree but I really do feel she does not understand how to be out of her element. Reminds of my son putting his hands on Anthonys head(military and about age 34), my son was age 5, I was like omg I cant believe he just did that, I told my son right then and there you do not do not ever, and that it is very disrespectful. Anthony was very sweet about it and understood my son was ignorant. I have another example of unkindness... I used to let my son play with his friend Ricard from school. They were both in the same grade both same age my son is white and he is black. One day I go inside their house and wait to pick my son up and right in front of me his friends Aunt asks my 6 year old son if he was color blind, I was so mad and hurt and in shock and I could not understand why someone would ask such a small child that question. It took a lot of heart looking at the kids faces knowing my son didnt even know what she was asking him and for me to control myself and then Ricards Mom takes over with "are you crazy?" and she apologized to me. I asked to her to forgive me but my son was not going to be able to come over anymore because her sister lived there and I was afraid for my sons innocence. She was nice about it and told me she understood and apologized again. My son tried to get me to let him go back a few times and it made me feel so bad to take his friend from him like that, but he did play with him at recess in school. Changing subject: In my opinion that all those people saying you said the word prejudice are incorrect. Granted I do think that she was a bit far outside of her comfort zone but I believe that she could feel the dislike in the room. I think that she made mistakes out of nervousness and then lost her patience after feeling the discontent and went into a bit of a diva mode. Why are you having parties with the company of people you do not care for in the first place? Its almost like an ambush or a setup, you already know shes not the type to be hanging around most black people... cmon, even I can see that; then I hear the comment about mimicking black people lol that shows she was trying to fit in she just didnt know how, cant ya try to teach them instead of trying to make fools of them? this world is loosing its heart. What happened to teaching people that something is rude or hurtful and they should not say that and maybe even help with what they maybe could have said instead. I mentor young adults... this does work but you have to use your heart not your pride. I am a bit disappointed but I still have hopes because I am hoping that motherly tender side I feel you have in you just might understand where I am coming from. I hopes God Blesses all of you with love, understanding and kindness
Stacie, I've been watching the real housewives of....for a long time and I have to say you are by far THE CLASSIEST woman I think I've seen yet. You are an amazing role model not just for African-American women, but women in general.
Love my Atlanta gals but boy could you teach them some lesson. (Cynthia Bailey though seems a lot like you.)
God Bless to you and your family and really hope we get to see you again.
I want to say that when I watched the reunion show last night I left there feeling like i had watched a bunch of mean evil juvenile girls sitting in the principles office EXCEPT YOU. You were the ONLY one (Michaela somewhat too) who really acted and held herself like a truelady. I was really really impressed with you, more than Ihave in fact all season. You were able to remain calm and were articulate, mature and level headed. I realized that is why I liked you so much all season!! Good for you and thank you for being the only redeeming character on the entire show. You are a patient woman to deal with that bunch....seriously they are ridiculous. Good luck Stacy!! PS Finally saw your kids in an episode..too cute1
Want to compliment you on how you handled yourself last night. You are a true lady in every sense, one who expresses herself and her feelings so eloquently. I really enjoyed watching you and commend you for not succumbing to the trials and tribulations of the other ridiculously immature and catty wives. If it werent' for you I would most certainly not watch this again.
In the beginning you were special and cool ! But now too much bashing Michaele is going on.. I don't think She wanted to hurt Mary but just thought she should know there was a problem with her daughters friends. I would want to know if there was any problems so I could fix it .I am so glad that you have not joined Linda, Mary and Cat in being rude, insulting, bashing, obnoxious , critizing and hurtful. I can't believe how much Mary has changed. I thought you,Michaele and Mary were awesome, but you and Mary have allowed yourself to be somewhat influenced by those awful personalities Linda and CAT. I feel you have been fair to Michaele and I have been turnd off by their behavior, no one is perfect but noone deserves what Mary , Linda and Cat have put her through, she was crusified before anyone had the details or the truth.Only Michaele knows the truth. You are awesome and great it is so nice to see you being respectful. You are truly a beautiful person. You have given Michaele every chance.