Ebong discusses the infamous wine throwing incident.
Thanks again everyone for watching the first season of The Real Housewives of D.C. It's been an amazing experience in so many ways. The show was a great opportunity because although Washington, D.C. is the most powerful city in the world, it's not just known for politics. Washington, D.C. is also known for its philanthropic events combined with large social components. The show also focused on people from different backgrounds/experiences and their interactions with one another.
I am still amazed at the people who recognize us. We are so humbled by this and hope we've helped to show the positive qualities of the Washington, D.C. area.
In last week's episode and blog post, I briefly addressed the unfortunate incident between Lynda and Tareq. I wanted to wait until everyone (as in the cast and audience) saw the final cut of the reunion show before going into this mess.
As part of the promotional tour for the premiere of The Real Housewives of D.C. in late July 2010, the cast (women and for some strange reason Tareq) went to Los Angeles for a press junket. The press tour was over several days ending with a group dinner at Trader Vic's in Beverly Hills. As Lynda explained, towards the end of dinner Tareq was screaming and being verbally abusive to women. Lynda had asked Tareq settle down as they all have had an enjoyable evening, and it would be better for everyone to calm down. Tareq cursed at Lynda by saying "Shut the EFF up." Lynda replied in kind by saying, "You shut the EFF up," after which Tareq threw a glass of red wine in Lynda's face. Bear in mind that this exchange was witnessed by many people including press who were at an adjacent table. A few of the press members were also doused by the wine that had been thrown at Lynda.
I pause because I want you to picture this exchange and experience. Men, imagine if your girlfriend was cursed at by the same miscreant who then threw a glass of wine in her face! Regardless of the reason, that behavior is not acceptable. Even wild animals show more decency to one another. Many of you would have violently escalated your response to your woman being attacked. I would have acted similarly had I been there! Either way, it wouldn't have been a pretty picture.
On the reunion show, my comments were truncated as my anger was a lot more verbally manifested than was shown. Many would agree that I tend to be more reserved at times and the fact that I said, "I would have put him to sleep had I been there," only further expresses the rage I felt.
During that exchange, I mentioned his behavior was reprehensible and unacceptable, and I don't care if he had consumed copious amounts of cabernet, merlot, or crack! I don’t care what you're drinking, you never lay hands on a woman, nor throw ANYTHING at a woman. It shows a lot about the character of a man who feels that getting drunk absolves you from common social decency. As many of you noticed, even after this was discussed, Tareq and his wife still felt it necessary to give conditions for the apology. One event had nothing to do with the other, yet "The Spin Doctors" (not the band) found a way to link two unrelated events together.
Their use of spin, double speak, and rhetoric could rival the most seasoned politician. In other words, the Salahis answer questions with non-sequiturs and other unrelated examples. I learned at a young age that bad behavior is not absolved or defended by worse behavior. We all have a responsibility to be accountable for our actions, words, and behaviors, regardless of who you are, what disease you have, or what you may have "allegedly" done.
There are some who may disagree with my thoughts about the Salahis. That's okay, we don't have to agree on everything or anything. One of my goals in life is not to convince people of my views or opinions, but just to share them.
The Merriam-Webster's definition of delusion is as follows:
"A persistent false psychotic belief regarding the self or persons or objects outside the self that is maintained despite indisputable evidence to the contrary; also: the abnormal state marked by such beliefs."
You don't have to be a genius to understand that definition. I'm certainly smart enough to know that I have no interest in being a part of that world.
Now that this season is completed, I'll take the first rocket ship back to Earth please! Who's coming with me?
Thank you again for watching, following, and witnessing the experiences in our lives. We've learned a lot about people we've met and each other. I've built new friendships and professional relationships during this process. I'm trying to learn and grow just like many of you. I also look forward to hearing more from you all with your questions, comments, and thoughts!
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