Cast Blog: #RHOM

Questions Answered

A Therapeutic Season for Alexia

Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea's Double Standards

Hoping to Move Forward with Lea

An X-Rated Reunion

Lisa's Vegas Regret

Joanna's Perfect Day

Lea and the Beefy Bus Boy Duo

Lea's Lip Service

Lisa's "Peacemaker" Problems

Alexia's Not Sweating the Small Stuff

Real Friends Don't Hold Grudges

A Fun Party, Minus the Distractions

Apologizing to Lea

Alexia's Anniversary Celebration

Lisa Loves Texas

Meet Joanna's New Puppy!

Lea's Walk Down Memory Lane

Adriana's Wedding Full of Waiting

Adriana's Two Loves

May Adriana Live Happily Ever After

Romain's Troubled Past

Alexia's Birthday Drama

Meet Dr. Sex Therapist Lisa

The Wedding Evite Explained

Targeted by the Hate Club

Lisa's Button-Pushing Behavior

Peter's Healing Process

Lenny's Lipo

Lea's Over the Haters

Adriana's Difficult Past

Joanna Talks Role Playing

Update on Elsa

Recovering Frankie and Peter

Lisa's Bridesmaid Ultimatum

Joanna's Outright Insult

The Birkin Bag Bonanza

Adriana's Glamorous 'Great Gatsby' Wedding

Lisa's In-Law Issues

Shocked by Lea's Secrets

Questions Answered

Cristy address the gala-drama once again, and comments on this week's episode.

Hi Guys,

I am finally back in the United States. My trips to the Bahamas, and then to Paris with my family were so amazing! Family time is so special, as I believe that every day is a gift to us, and we must never take anything for granted!

I just decided to reconnect and read your comments, and I can't believe we are still talking about the same thing. . .

But because all of you who have written into our blogs are all avid fans of our show, I want to take the time and try to answer some of the questions I read. . .

AAAAAAHHHHHHHH.... am I really going here again??? Yes, Lil' Miss Cristy you are!!!! LOL. . .OK, so here goes.

1. First and foremost I NEVER planned on attending the gala because I was NOT supposed to be in Miami. (This answers the question as to why I did not purchase a ticket beforehand.)

2. The night before the gala my baby got sick, and I was contemplating canceling my trip! While I was at the salon that night I saw Marysol, and we talked about the excitement of the gala. She suggested I come for the "cocktail hour" only. (This answers the question as to why I ended up going.)

3. My friend Luqui mentioned to me that she would like to come with me, and she did. Unfortunately, s--t happens and on the way there we got a flat tire. Needless to say we missed the cocktail hour. Upon arrival, I thought it was only right to go in and say hi and show Lea support as she was so excited about her event.

On our way we ran into a friend of which had plans for dinner at Liv (a nightclub in the same hotel) and asked us to join her after. We told her we were on our way to say hi and apologize and clearly not stay because we NEVER had planned on attending anything other than the "cocktail hour," and at this point we had missed it. She then walked in and accompanied us, and really had no idea as to what was going on, being that she was visiting from South America, does not speak English, and was innocently just tagging along. (This answers the question as to who that third person is.)

4. I have NEVER had a problem donating to any charity, as I did not with this one. I knew that I would be at Lea's later that week and just planned on handing the check to her myself. In my mind it was NOT an issue at all. It never crossed my mind that someone like Lea would make such a big gossip-fest about something like this, until I quickly received that mail and started hearing all the comments she had made. Regardless, I handed her the check and called it a day. . .BUT she did not and neither did Adriana and Co. As we can see by the interviews they made it this HUGE ordeal, which I could not believe. Certainly, if I had planned on going and attending from Day 1 I would have had a table and sent in my check previously. (Answers the questions about paying Lea).

5. Do I like Lea? YES!!! I had never had a problem with her before. I considered her to be a smart woman, which is why I was surprised by the extent of her actions. . .After a million questions about the same gala topic and the "Lea said this and that about you" I responded to yet another question with "I am so tired of hearing all this s--t Lea says about me and the gala, that at this point she should pay me for coming to this gala." It was said in a SARCASTIC voice.

The episode shows that I am not the one to sit around and talk about my looks or my money or toot my own horn. I do however, not care to indulge in all that gossip between the girls and in NOT reacting or giving it importance. I am sorry if it comes across as stuck up. I promise it's simply one thing: not giving in to all that negative energy and rising above it the best way I can. I just don't understand why she created so much animosity between us. I have never understood it. It was always my intention to pay her, and if she had a doubt, the Blackberry she lives on has my number in it.

I will never understand how something that is a charity, not an obligation, got turned into something so ugly. At the end of the day I gave the money for the kids and that is what was important. (Answers the questions: Am I self centered and do I like lea?)

OK. So I hope I touched on most of the questions you guys had for me.

Moving on to the fashion show!!! I thought it was fun, and funny the way they showed me in those hair rollers.

Hmmm. . .All I can remember saying once again about Alexia is POSITIVE. . .Looks like her blog once again attacks me. Never knew saying an obvious fact like "She is bigger than me" was a problem. I wish I had those extra inches she was blessed with. But then again being self-secure is a blessing we all don't have apparently!

Apart from that I was happy to see how nice Gabriella Arango's designs looked on the runway!

Larsa's Lunch: I love Martorano's. It is always a great place to dine because the food is delicious and the atmosphere is fun. Thank you Steve for having us!!!

Larsa, sorry that this lunch got bummed out by Adriana. I had seen all of them a lot of times since the gala (especially Lea), and it was never discussed. All of a sudden Adriana (as always looking for attention at anyone’s expense) decides to attack me for her master (Miss Lea). I really don't care for people who are always talking about others and stirring up gossip for no reason. I don't care to entertain those kind of people -- they are going talk anyway. What really bothers me is that everything is "I heard you said this or I heard that," but when its time to own up to your words all of a sudden they are at a loss of them. I prefer to be straight up, as I am real. I would have never disrespected any host at her luncheon with such catty behavior, and unfortunately by this time I had had enough of their hypocrisy so it was time to stand up for myself.

And last but definitely NOT least: PUBLIC SCHOOLS ARE A GREAT OPTION!!! Who organizes fundraisers to raise money so their best friend could try to "keep up with the Jones" and keep her kid in a private school she clearly says she can't afford? And then the words "nobody needs to know -- we will come up with a strategy..." or something of that sort, that's NOT NICE!!!

Sadly, our season is a short one, and we are down to just one more episode, but I am happy to see that we have a great fan base. I hope you enjoy the season finale and the WWHL reunion.

Stay tuned.

I am often on Twitter so follow me for updates on @cubanrice.

HAVE A BEAUTIFUL WEEKEND AND GOD BLESS!

XOXO,

CRISTY

PS: The weather in Miami is beautiful now and its a great time to visit. Ultra for the music lovers and the Sony Ericsson for the Tennis lovers.... and of course the RHMIA!!!

Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!


It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.
 


I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for theworldofleablack.com. However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!
 


I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.
 


Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.
 


Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.
 


I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
 
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.
 


Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
 
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.


And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.
 


My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.
 


So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.
 


I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.
 


Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

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