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The Lea Black Guide to Life

Thanks to Lea Black's inspirational words,'s Associate Editor and the RHMIA wives are living life right.

Hello my Miamians,

Did you feel that stirring in your soul? Do you feel like you can do anything? Conquer the world? Soar to heights greater than you've ever imagined? I do, and the reason is Lea Black.

Before you say, "Duh, when is it not," I direct you specifically to her empowering words to the youth of Miami, and her equally empowering trench coat. After her blue-leopard cloaked speech, I felt as though I could for sure live my dreams. And in their own ways, didn't all of the ladies channel their own Lea Black this week? Even those that stood against her used her own "Secret"-like philosophies. Let's examine.

Marysol's wisdom: "I have acne. I'm overweight. I don't have any friends."

OK, OK. Hang on. We're not saying that Miss Marysol had anything on her face at her wedding day (or that the reason her and Philippe tied the knot solo is because they're friendless. Puh-lease. People with wine fridges/humidors like Philippe's have plenty of friends). We're saying it was the artist formerly known as Ms. Patton's ability to believe that the gondola would get the to-be-weds up the mountain that made Lea Black proud. Despite the her fear, she used Lea's "you put it out, there you get it back" thoughts to get up that mountain without incident -- which is impressive because I just saw that movie Frozen and I will never ride a ski lift again.

Marysol was moved, Lea, but self-admittedly you might not be able to tell because of the Botox (her words!).

Alexia: "It's everybody's responsibility in the world to contribute something."

And for this episode, Alexia's contribution was William Levy. And for that we are immensely grateful. Alexia, if you can pass along his contact information so I can book him for a similar, personal, James Deen photoshoot, that'd be fab.Adriana: "I'm not Tinkerbell, you're all going to wake up with a great life tomorrow."

Let's all allow Lea's words about not being able to provide a perfect life hover over us again. Imagine it as a tiny Disney-like echo, reminding the story's protagonist of his hero's words of wisdom. Lea Black can't provide a perfect life for anyone, even her fairy god subject Adriana. So when faced with baby-daddy drama and accusations that she sucks up to Lea so she'll play matchmaker, Adriana can simply retort with the above truism. Problem solved.

Cristy: "To speak to whatever it was that they would be open to and that they would want to hear." and "It could always be something, you get to choose."

Oh dear Cristy. It seems while Lea was working to woo her audience with the prose they were primed to hear, your dinner party compatriots did not feel the same way. You had just barely gotten a bite in before Adriana began her talk of birds, and disgruntled check writing. I suppose in actuality these two quotes not only don't apply to you, they are the opposite of applicable. Irony, or just proof that Lea Black really does run Miami?

Larsa: "The only person in the world that doesn't have a problem is a dead person."

Larsa darling, if only we could rewrite this pearl as: "The only person in the world that has a calm dinner party is a dead person." It's impossible to do that sort of thing really. At least now all the ladies know how to form mozzarella, and your chef friend Steve knows how to say balls in Italian.

Next week is the finale babies, and then the live reunion on Watch What Happens Live. I can hardly wait to see what that will bring. Until then I will be watching Elsa's greatest hits from WWHL to get me primed for more Clubhouse action.

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Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!

It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.

I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!

I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.

Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.

Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.

I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.

Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.

And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.

My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.

So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.

I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.

Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

Please comment below, it would mean a lot to me to hear your final thoughts.


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