Cast Blog: #RHOM

Alexia's Greatest Joy and Sadness

Alexia opens up about the difficult year she's had.

I am beyond excited for 2013! Happy New Year! May 2013 be filled with lots of peace, joy, and love and may all your wishes come true! Besides the hardships and trials and tribulations in 2012, I am grateful for all the blessings I have received. I rejoice in the miracle of Frankie's recovery and progress and thank God for this every minute of my day.

As you saw, I did not participate in the first part of the reunion, and I'm not going to lie, one part of me was very glad and the other part of me wished I would have. I don't know... I don't even know how I would have reacted or what I would have said. You know, I watch it now and say I would have done this and said that, but you really don't know until you are actually sitting there on that couch how you will react to someone else's comments. It was very difficult for me to watch from the dressing room where I was getting my hair and makeup done. “Wow” is all I can say and will say. Why speak about it now? Some things will never change and some people will never change!

As far as part two of the reunion goes, I will say that as usual when speaking about my children, I get emotional and cry, especially having to relive Frankie's accident on August 14, 2012 the worst day of my life! My children have always made me cry, out sadness and from happiness. My children have given me the biggest joys in my life and at the same time have brought me the most sadness. Those of you who are mothers can probably understand me. Fortunately, one year later Frankie, Peter, Herman (who by the way was one of the reasons I was able to get through all of this), and I are all in a better place. That is the beauty of life and of my life in particular. I didn't know how strong I really was or am for that matter until being strong was the only choice I had. My children are my life, and I will never give up on them; that is the message I want to send. Even though you didn't get to see this part of my life on the show this season, I promise you that that's what I have been doing all of my life. My children have always come first before my career, before my relationship, and I have to thank Herman for being so understanding and supporting me on this and our boys. I say "our boys" because he has raised them with me and I couldn't have asked for a better husband and father to Peter and Frankie. In regards to Joanna and Karent's distasteful and ridiculous comment about Herman, I can only say that I don't need to defend myself with ugly words and violence, because it didn't hurt me as there is no truth to it. On the other hand, THEIR truth hurts. Their lives are empty and miserable, because they have not found the happiness that every woman longs for --to have a great man/husband by their side and children, to have a family. I have been in a solid relationship for almost 14 years with a man that respects and loves me and my children unconditionally. Even though Joanna is so beautiful in the outside, she is very ugly on the inside. Even though she and Karent are always bragging about how beautiful and successful they are in their careers and with their "boyfriends," they really are not and you saw that. What woman like them envy the most is other women's happiness. I actually feel sorry for them and hope that one day they will be as fortunate as me and meet their better half and fulfill every woman's dream of being a mother and a wife. I feel that will help them grow as individuals and feel better about themselves. So don't hate on me, honey, I’ve been through my fair share in life!

I really don't feel I have to clarify anything else about Karent. It's funny how Lisa and Karent didn’t say much about anything the first part of the reunion and when I got on for 2 minutes they wouldn’t let me talk. All the evidence shows Karent was not in a real relationship with Rodolfo, and that is why I went there in the first place. If her relationship was real, I would have never done that. She clearly knew what she was doing and was in it with him. That is the truth, and I am entitled to my opinion and thoughts on the matter. I know she was with Rodolfo because she thought she would have a great chance to be selected for the show with a telenovela star actor boyfriend. I get it. It would also help his career in the American market. It was all poor acting, and you can see it. Seriously, who can be so naive? She just never thought we would discover it. By the way, ALL of the girls think like I do and supported me, including Lea. I give her credit for going that far and smiling it off the entire time, but at the end truth prevails.

Well, it's time to say goodbye for now. Thank you for watching and for your love and support. I truly have appreciated all the beautiful comments. I am thankful for the opportunity that I've had to share just a little bit of me with you!

Like always I want to leave you with something to think about. I encourage you to read the beautiful poem written by Maya Angelou, A Woman Should Have ...,  which I dedicate it to all of the women who shared this journey with me.

God Bless!
Besos (Kisses),

Alexia

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Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!


It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.
 


I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for theworldofleablack.com. However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!
 


I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.
 


Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.
 


Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.
 


I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
 
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.
 


Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
 
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.


And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.
 


My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.
 


So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.
 


I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.
 


Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

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