Ana Quincoces

Ana wishes she hadn't attended the dinner at Thomas Kramer's.

on Nov 16, 2012

A popular Cuban “dicho” (saying) is dime con quien andas y te diré quien eres. Which means tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are. One would be hard pressed to find a situation where this is more poignant.

This season, there have been moments that have made me smile, others that have made me cringe, and even some that have made me more than a little proud. I will take permission to relish in that pride because I earned it.

I have never had anything handed to me. Everything I have, I earned as a result of my own hard work and perseverance. I am not criticizing those who have been handed silver platters galore, I am just pointing out that I’m not one of them. Hard work builds character, plain and simple. One of the reasons I enjoy Lisa so much is because she makes no qualms about her lifestyle and acknowledges that she lives a privileged life because she was lucky enough to fall in love with a gifted plastic surgeon. She told me the story of her grandmother’s premonition about her living a charmed life and how it turned out to be true. I am happy for Lisa and have always appreciated her honesty. But she knows who she is – she knows what her strengths are and uses them accordingly.

I have never judged a man by the size of his wallet. What’s more, there is rarely a correlation between one’s bank account and one’s contribution to this planet. I am afraid for those who believe there is. I am humored by those who claim to have standards and a code of behavior and then flounder all over the place seeking acceptance (and perhaps a potential defendant) by trying to provide the popular opinion. You’re not irreverent and clever by being loud and overbearing; you are just loud and overbearing.

Viewers are smarter than people give them credit for. They see through the false adulation, the contrived friendships, and the faux wisdom. People know the difference between those of us who have “done the work,” and those of us who are just pimping silly wares for the sake of vanity in an embarrassingly amateurish “Trumpesque” manner.