A quick google search of our illustrious dinner host will reveal all the reasons why no one should willingly socialize with him. I only wish I had done the research sooner. A quick perusal of a self-created and self-promoted pilot shows Mr. Kramer proudly stating “Marriage is for people who can’t afford a housekeeper or a prostitute” and his daughter Joya sharing that her father is “attention-seeking, pathetic, and embarrassing” and “hosts pimp and swinger parties”. Did someone call this man “gracious”?
I don’t believe there was a choice involved in my decision to leave that dinner party. It was the ONLY decision and the only choice for a mother whose daughters deem her a role model.
Thanks for watching and for the hundreds of supportive tweets and emails. I will always strive to handle the situations with which I am faced with grace and dignity. I may not always succeed, but I will never stop trying.
And because I had to leave the “dinner party from hell” before dessert, here’s the link to my black and white fondue: deliciously decadent without the drama.
Till next time,
Kudos to you for standing up for yourself and every other woman there who was too cowardly to do so. I find it so ridiculous that some of your costars talk about what strong, tough, no nonsense women they are but they sat silent as Thomas Kramer degraded and verbally assaulted countless women. Shame on Lenny Hochstein for not standing up for his wife as Thomas sexually harassed her. Thank you for recognizing it is not OK for a man to show a woman her only conversational value is how long it took to stuff her boobs into her dress, I wanted to stuff his head up his behind. And to the other Miami ladies how dare you be so afraid of silly social ramifications that you would sit idly by and watch Thomas verbally assault Elsa and invade her personal space. Do you care more about being liked by a womanizing perverted sexist troglodyte or living with your self respect in tact. I have to agree with mrLeBeef, that man is a pig.
Very proud of you not being silent, standing up to him even if you had to get thrown out. Made me proud as a Cuban women myself. I think Lea is over looking that it was not a matter of you disrespecting your host by just not wanting to be quite. It was how he told you in which I still saw you try and be patient and sit there and be quite but then the following comments were so offensive in general. I know they keep saying that's just how he is but does that make it right? So does that mean we are supposed to ignore obscene behavior because that's how a person is. I'm very annoyed that the excuse continues to be that it's his home and you were the guest. So, that puts out the message that you can invite anyone to your home and berate them and say anything to them? Bottom line is he was so offensive to a woman and the to a elderly woman. I can't respect that or anyone trying to come up with any lame excuse that defends that.
Basically you can interpret all these series of events and interactions with these different characters any which way you perceive. However, being a smart woman, you should know that there are more than your viewpoints about the truth of any encounter. I wish you recounted the stories to your daughters in a more sophisticated manner. One of your daughters was totally swayed by your point of view. Luckily the other one seems more insightful and said something like things would pass over and let bygone be bygone. You should learn from her. Also I see why your ex husband can't wait to be away from you. It's no fun chatting with you. You made him stumble in his normal talk with you i.d. questioning why he called you honey etc. It's no fun talking to someone you have to explain even a most irrelevant word.
tjjpt Seems like you haven't been through a divorce: after that, old terms of endearment feel REALLY different. Also talking to children in a family, they are not an impartial judge and jury, one has earned the right to be brief and informal about things that have hurt us. Also, they aren't little kids.
Insults? Can't help thinking you only reacted to him because he shamed you. You have a mouth and you are combative. Exemplary? Role model? I think not. You left out of shame and then got all righteous out there on the curb.
So many are fixated on Ana up and leaving when the truth is he embarassed her. Secondly, it doesn't seem like they're reading her blog. She's insulting us and the women on the show. She's just a misery.
I am proud of you as a women, as a Hispanic person and as a professional who has the same believe as you, I am pretty sure that you were there invited for somebody "who: Guess ?? the perfect smile" if not why you were there but that doesn't mean that you had to be treated with so much disrespect , personally I am very disappointed of the gentleman in the room who preferred to stay quiet and allow so much disrespect to the ladies for one men this is inexcusable, i do not want to talk about the hoster because is wasting my time, I just want to tell you, that I admire your actions!!
Overall you were right..BUT lets be honest.. Lisa's "jugs" are put out for attention..If she needed defending thats up to her husband not you. Some men are pigs and will never change..but you gotta lighten up a bit. I think you were embarrassed for being called out on the gossiping. But you have standards you live by so BRAVO to you!
Good for you Ana, can't help but wonder if Marisol wouldn't have gone back in to sit at that table had it not been for Elsa getting kicked out? i think so,you're a loyal honest person and unfortunately most don't appreciate that ! All of t hem kissed his you know what because he has money Not you ! even Joanna after what he said went back in to say " I adore you"? unbelieveable, and he ridiculed and offended her again !
Ana, it’s awesome to have a lady like you on RHOM or any show for that matter. It makes me proud to see a woman stick up for what she believes in. I appreciate you speaking out to the sonso’s or sonsa’s that don’t respect other’s, and try and gain friends or brownie points by ignoring inappropriate comments against woman. Thank you! You’re a beautiful intelligent and wise lady. You make many of us Latina’s proud. I’m sure many of your true friends are proud to walk by your side, and value your genuine friendship. You go girl! P.S. love your relationship with your girls. You should have a Ana 101 class: I’m sure Karent will be found sitting in the back as she wouldn’t produce any intelligent answers or proper behavior.
you are the most inspirational woman on any housewives franchise. . . and I watch them all. I will continue watching Miami because of your intelligence and class. As a female college student I can only hope to be like you. I hope you get this message because the message you sent with your incredible behvior during that episode sent many women the right message as well.
Thank you thank you , Ana. Your exit from that dinner was superb in every way. Vote with your feet! Not to mention clear naming of hostile behavior "Can anyone spell misogynist?" Thomas is a sociopath, and it is heart-breaking to witness intelligent women confusedly transfixed into being slapped into being good little girls/ guests/ continuing the party. You suffered the double wound of not being backed up by the friend you were supporting, and the host's toxicity (where was the other host, his new good buddy, in the midst of this abuse??? Clueless.) You defended a friend with a few well- timed words like a maturely caring person should and "no good deed goes unpunished". Sad to say. I really learned something from the seasoned truth of your comment that Marysol needs to learn to defend herself, and grow a pair, having seen this sort of thing before. And she didn't even acknowledge your gesture. Otherwise I love her and you especially, and Adriana. Genuinely gracious women making the world a better with your intelligence and abilities.
Well thank God there are finally some women on RHO?? shows with some brains and some beauty. I can completely relate to your leaving TK's party. He was an absolute ass and a waste of time. I would be equally offended, with or without daughters--he pretty much put down the entire female population. You showed class to leave and I appreciate that you're willing to say whatever you need to people's faces, not just behind their backs. Bravo Ana!
Why did you even attend? All you did was gossip sotto voce as if no one would notice. Then to criticize the host. Now you're casting aspersions on the other women without specifying who. Underhanded and self righteous at the same time. Face it, you were shamed when he called you out! That's what your puffed up sense of indignation is coming from. You are hardly the leader of women-kind, the mentor, the example any there at least would strive to emulate.
That's it! That's exactly how I see it. She is angry in every show. She's no mentor in my world.
You seem to be very genuine, and clearly a good mom looking out for your daughters best interests as a role model. As a mother of two sons, I know we set examples for them. I must say, you could have just left without letting the situation escalate. I speak my mind as well as the best, but, know when to stop and depart with grace, for myself, not to prove a point. I know when to exit without throwing in the last jab. Your blog was very one-sided on some level, due to your feelings being dismissed. The 'host' was rude and very chauvinistic. As an attorney, you at times, seem to let that side of you come across as intimidating, with your 'verbage' like courtroom banter. While others try to over compensate with looks, or wealth, you may not realize, but that is your 'way' of doing just the same. Just be yourself, and tone down the blogs as if you were speaking to family or friends, not in a corporate/courtroom setting, to impress or gain viewership. Perhaps, all types of people could relate to you better.
I personally thought everyone behaved horribly. If you didn't have positive feelings towards the man you shouldn't have gone to his home in the first place. That is the message you should have shown your daughter instead of going to someone's home and insult him. He is a misogynist pig, but you and the other ladies knowingly entered that situation. If you know ahead of time that someone is a vile human being, then it is your fault for entering the situation.
I want to add something else to my original post. I want to say THANK YOU for not underestimating intelligent viewers. I think you said it best on WWHL with Camille Paglia, that even smart & educated people watch these shows. You never dumb your blogs down, and we notice that - again, I stand behind your decision to leave Thomas' house. No person should be treated like that. Ringing a bell like you were a farm animal and yelling at Mama Elsa like a dog. Absolutely despicable and repulsive.
she underestimates everyone including the women on the show with her veiled insults.
Lea's entire blog was dedicated to bashing you. She has received so much negativity. She goes around saying Bravo is afraid of her husband- but her husband is a has been and has not won a case in a long time.
@mlbluv212 You are wrong about her husband not winning a case! Don't know where you get your info. He is noted to be one of the top attorney's in this country. Somtimes winning a case is keeping someone off death row or life in prison. Study up on the law.
I don't know about his succes as a lawyer but as a man to sit there with a grin on his face while these ladies are being insulted especially Elsa? spoke volumes about him! he is no gentleman!
I am 21 years old and attend the University of Chicago. I enjoyed watching you on WWHL with Camille Paglia (one of my heroes). I especially loved the aftershow. It was very telling that Andy chose you to appear with Dr. Paglia.
I am the father of 3 girls. What an example you are. I don't love that they watch these shows, but haveing someone like you on it makes me feel a lot better. Keep up the good work!
I do not like you that much because you get in other people's business. But at least you are a better person than fake Karent. She is pathetic and no one's friend on that show.
I say Bravo for you Anna! Girl you rocked it this week!
It was great to see you stand up for your principles and tell that pig off.
I wish you had told off the other two classless idiots kissing his butt Lea & Karent while you were at it. I can't stand them. They are so phony.
You are smart, sexy and show the most class in the group.
I have been a fan of yours since the beginning but this blog post and episode did me in. You are the epitome of a real housewife: you encompass the hard earned and well deserved career, a loving family, and above all have a sense of reality. The world--and reality TV--could use more women like you!
Good for yeou! You did the right thing and you had the courage to do it when no one else seemed to be on you side. Your daughters should be very proud of you. Too bad we couldn't have sent the RHONJ to that party - those ladies would have taken Thomas down in no time! LOL
Very pleased to see an intelligent woman not willing to sacrifice her dignity to be linked to someone with a thick wallet. That man is indeed a misogynist.
I'm going to say this: Ana, you are hands down the best housewife. Know why? Because you keep it real yet are interesting and still give your twist to the show. There should be more housewives like you on every one of these shows.
Thomas Kramer is SCUM. And EVERY woman at that table, including the very "classy" Lea Black should have been offended by his actions. How can a host speak to his guests that way and then for Karent to say she felt bad for him, seriously? She is an embarassment. I really wanted to give her a chance, but she is a SOCIAL CLIMBER. And NO amount of money is worth being degraded. And as for Lisa, who I thought was actually really great, came off in such a weird way by getting on the pole. In front of her husband, Adrianna's bf, and Lea's husband. REALLY?!
You did the RIGHT thing. Any self-respecting woman would have done what you did. When you don't like something, don't stick around, get up and leave.
MONEY CAN'T BUY YOU CLASS.
Congratulations on having the integrity to get up and leave. You set a wonderful example. I truly cannot imagine why anyone would want to have dinner with that man, at his house or anywhere else. It looks like some of the women will do anything to climb a social ladder. I know he has been generous to Lea's fundraising efforts, but there are many generous people in Miami. No one should subject themselves to that circus-like behavior.
Ok woman; clearly the TK affaire has nothing to do with women. Be real here, your feelings were already sensitive and hurt when he asked you not to discuss your drama at his party. I am a woman and I don't think he disrespected women. His acts was disrespectful to any human being, whether men or women.If I was a man, I would have still been offended if someone had spoken to me that way. Also, Thomas was right about you guys cutting your drama out, he did not invite you for that, it's not about being rich or poor, I would have felt the same way if my guests will drag their drama to my event. I just think, his expressions to this was over the top. Elsa walked out of there with nothing on her mind and like a person full of wisdom and she was the one that was even more disrespected than you all. You need to learn from her cuz I surely did!!
LE884 You make a point that TK's acts were disrespectful to any human, both men & women. But as a woman, I was offended by his statement that Joanna "must be on her period". What type of person says those things?
His expressions were not just "over the top" they were abusive and vulgar.
I agree but im so mad at Joanna for coming back and saying ' Roman loves you and i ADORE you" ? are you kidding me" ? she deserved for him to ridicule her again!
LE884 If that was the case, then why didn't Thomas get his shorts in a wad when Lea went after Marysol? Hmmm. Sorry, that argument doesn't work.
I would have done the same thing. The other women have no self respect and I have no respect for LEa defending tht pig
Love u Anna.....I feel every show needs a voice of reason/ commen sense....and u are it for Miami.
It's grate that you took a stand and are quick to defend your friends
You KNEW Marysol is not a confrontational person.
To put her down for NOT confronting is asinine.
Seriously, if Bravo is calling this a Reality Show, I expect the participants to be themselves and BE REAL. After following the show from the start, there are only a few ladies that are showing their true selves behind all these cameras and lights... and that's where it counts. I really give you Ana all my credit and respect. You always speak your mind in a classy way (as the classy lady that you are), never raising your voice or overreacting under any circumstance. With full respect and immense dignity you always LET THEM HAVE IT when needed and say the truth. I admire you greatly. You are and always will be a true REAL HOUSEWIFE of Miami. Wally (Jessie)