Cast Blog: #RHOM

Alexia's Awe-Inspiring Miracle

Ana applauds Alexia's commitment and determination during Frankie's struggles.

"Your mission, Jim, should you choose to accept it [is to play the role of Housewife even though you are no longer one, and do so in an engaging manner while at all times remaining "relevant"]. As always should any member of your IMF force be caught or killed, the secretary will disavow all knowledge of your actions. This tape will self-destruct in five seconds. Good luck, Jim." –Mission Impossible

A friend posted a funny comment on my Facebook wall recently. He said that his favorite part of the show was my non-verbal language, particularly that recurrent look on my face which says, “What the hell am I doing here?” I was a little taken aback. It’s not that I didn’t feel that way; I just didn’t realize it was that obvious!  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: the camera does not lie. You cannot rationalize behavior that you witness unfolding before your very eyes week after week.  I am not calling out anyone in particular.  This truth applies across the board to everyone, including me.  So if you see me behaving like an insufferable bitch week after week, guess what? Mind you, I’d like to think that I am not “insufferable.”

And since we are on the topic of insufferable, I can’t help but wonder what Lea was thinking when she said, “This is Miami, everybody needs a green card.” Was that yet another poorly timed “joke” courtesy of The Green Card Comic? For someone that touts her charitable nature and reminds you so much about her concern for the plight of others, to make such a blanket statement about the state of immigration in this city says that she is clearly not as sensitive as she professes. Her comment discounts the feelings of people like my parents, who were forced to flee their beloved country to avoid political oppression. More than 50 years later it is still no laughing matter, I suspect it never will be. Bite your tongue, Lea.  Perhaps we’ll get lucky and you’ll bite it off. It would certainly spare a lot of feelings.

As you have seen, it can get ugly and even the most restrained person is forced to deploy some fighting words now and again. But the truth is that I accepted this “mission” willingly, with a few caveats: that I would remain true to myself, that I would keep an open mind, that I would try to enjoy the process, and most importantly, that I would not make an ass of myself. Well, 3 out of 4 ain’t bad. (For the spell check police out there, I meant to say “ain’t.”)All kidding aside, I knew that a lot of what we would face each week was standard fare on the Housewife menu.  Pretty dresses and pretty shoes worn to pretty parties where pretty people congregate to congratulate each other on being…well, pretty. I told myself I could handle it.  Hell, it might even be fun.  I was determined to go outside of my comfort zone and just go with it. And so I did.  But then, something interesting happened.  It turns out this reality thing is pretty damned REAL. Imagine that.

One of the most real moments for me this season was visiting Frankie six months after his accident. I was at the hospital on the night of August 14th, 2011.  It was without a doubt the worst day of Alexia’s life.  What I saw at that hospital on the night of the accident was a mother, not the beautiful “Cuban Barbie” we all know and love, but rather a mom in such pain that it was palpable. But just as evident was the determination in her eyes and the commitment to seeing her son through what seemed like a hopeless situation. Week after week, and month after month Alexia remained by her son’s side encouraging each step of his rehabilitation and celebrating every small victory like it was a huge milestone. It was awe-inspiring.

Seeing Frankie that afternoon, six long months later, filled me with emotion. I felt gratitude, I felt hope, but I also felt sadness, because as far as he had come, there was a long road ahead. While Alexia had never once faltered, she looked weary. Today I can say I was wrong.  Not about it being a long road, but about Alexia’s weariness. She has forged ahead at that same intense pace, day after day, week after week, and what mother and son have managed to accomplish together, a little more than a year later, is nothing short of a miracle. 

While the scene at my office with Robert may seem odd to some, to us it’s just par for the course.  Robert and I have a unique way of relating to each other after our separation. We made a commitment to stay married for over two decades, but perhaps more importantly, we made a commitment to separate in a positive and dignified manner -- in a manner that would not hurt innocent bystanders; all while managing the loss we were feeling with a healthy dose of laughter. What you witnessed was just that, a real concern being addressed with a little humor. Didn’t Mary Poppins say that “a spoonful of sugar makes the medicine go down”? Someone please call Dixie Crystals!

I enjoyed food shopping with Joanna. It was surprising to see such a beautiful woman with a seemingly perfect life fighting for her relationship.  Don’t beautiful people live charmed lives where no one argues or cheats or breaks out or gains five pounds? Apparently not. Joanna was struggling with the possibility that she was losing Romain while facing the realization that she might be responsible for triggering the chain of events that led to this moment. Can a risotto (no matter how perfectly delicious and reminiscent of “ambrosia”) mend a broken heart?  Does a home-cooked meal come with a GPS directed at a man’s heart? Maybe not, but the effort Joanna made is a great start, the perfect appetizer if you will, to a successful relationship. I for one believe in them as a couple. Romain and Joanna possess all the attributes necessary to build and maintain a successful relationship. But what lies beneath a perfect exterior may show cracks not visible to the naked eye. Trust me, I know.

Until next time my friends (I will try not to self-destruct),

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Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!

It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.

I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!

I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.

Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.

Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.

I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.

Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.

And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.

My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.

So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.

I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.

Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

Please comment below, it would mean a lot to me to hear your final thoughts.


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